Peaking and Stress: Ask The Experts

Peaking and Stress: Ask The Experts

Big Al, of MaleEnhancementCoach.com, answers questions about peaking during a training cycle and emotional stress.

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Q. I’ve often read you referring to peaking at the end of a cycle. What exactly does this mean?

Al: The peak of your training is when you’re both at your highest level of conditioning AND training your hardest. You’ll want this to happen towards the end of your training cycle. Continuing past this point often leads to a plateau or even overtraining.
 

Q. My biggest challenge is setting the mood. This applies to training and sex. I don’t see myself as inadequate, but I’ve found as I got older that stress (especially from work) leaves me feeling like not training or having sex. Is there a way around this?

Al: Stress is THE #1 cause of ED, and it’s also the biggest killer (when used in comorbidities).

Emotional stress management should be a daily part of your life- not just for male enhancement, but to maintain optimal physical and emotional health. Practicing your Emotional Visualizations and regular meditative rest is something you should make a part of your lifestyle.

There’s also diet, regular exercise and good sleep. If any one of these is lacking, you’re going to feel it.

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Hemorrhoids, Edema, and Emotional Visualizations: Ask The Experts

Hemorrhoids, Edema, and Emotional Visualizations: Ask The Experts

Big Al, of MaleEnhancementCoach.com, answers questions about training with hemorrhoids, preventing/dealing with edema, and Emotional Visualizations.

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Q. I’ve got hemorrhoids and it’s been bugging me to get a good workout in. Are there any exercises I can do that won’t make the problem worse?

Al: Hemorrhoids can wreak havoc on male enhancement training- mainly due to the proximity of the pelvic floor to the anus (and resultant fissures).

It may be a good idea to engage only in activities which DO NOT stress the pelvic floor- like more intense stretches and Kegels– at least until your situation improves. So light edging may be OK, but if even this causes discomfort then you’re better off taking a break until your situation improves.

 

Q. I sometimes get edema swelling after my pumping, but not at other times. What can I do to prevent this or how can I get it to go away?

Al: Edema is caused by a build up of fluid under the skin. For advanced pumping, a slight bit of edema is to be expected, and it should dissipate in 1 hour or less.

Observing the penis while training to ensure edema doesn’t get out of hand is the first preventative step. If you consume salty foods this can exacerbate edema, so cutting back on this can be helpful.

Warm compresses along with a light wrap should help to speed dissipation.

 

Q. What are the Emotional Visualizations good for besides getting you more emotionally comfortable with your training?

Al: The Emotional Visualizations exercise improve many aspects- including the kinesthetic sense (the sense of “feel”), this- in addition to teaching yourself to create an optimal emotional backdrop for your erections is what’s going to allow you to extract maximum benefit from your training.

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Emotional Visualizations and Workout Schedule Challenges: Ask The Experts

Emotional Visualizations and Workout Schedule Challenges: Ask The Experts

Big Al, of MaleEnhancementCoach.com, answers questions about dealing with Emotional Visualization difficulties and busy schedule training.

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Q. I’ve been having trouble with the Emotional Visualizations exercises for training.

They’re hard to do and I get frustrated doing it. What do you recommend?

Al: The Emotional Visualization exercises are for developing emotional mastery and a better kinesthetic sense. To summarize, BEFORE the session you should find a place to relax and to empty your mind of any thoughts. Optimally, your emotional state should be neutral, but if you could recall a positive emotional experience during sexual contact and can transfer some of that emotion into the session that would be optimal.

The difficulty comes from fighting the mind. The fighting in and of itself taps into “survival” emotions, which counters the process. A good analogy is to visualize your mind like a fist grasping at thoughts and mental dialog. When attempting the EVs picture yourself relaxing the fist- letting all of the thoughts dissipate. When the thoughts intrude (and they will) recenter yourself by focusing on your breathing, then picture yourself releasing again.

Go into it with acceptance- understanding that you’re going to be challenged. It may take 2-3 weeks of practice, but once you reach a threshold of viability you’ll find the process much easier and more rewarding.

 

Q. My schedule is very busy and I don’t always have time to do a full workout.

What are some ways someone in my situation can train?

Al: For best results, the exercises should be performed in one sitting. This is because the regimen is structured in a way where each exercise cascades into the next one.

As I see it, there are two possible solutions for getting in a full workout. The first would be to train first thing in the morning. The benefits are you’ll be taking advantage of high hormone levels upon awakening, and the motivation of having finished your session first thing in the day can carry over to the rest of the day. I recommend this option even if you have to wake up earlier.

If you don’t even have time for the above, maintenance exercises like JAI Stretches or light jelqs performed throughout the day can help to maintain conditioning. You might also consider a covert device like the Stealth or Phallosan.

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The Most Foundational Aspect For Maximum Male Enhancement Results: Ask The Experts

The Most Foundational Aspect For Maximum Male Enhancement Results: Ask The Experts

Big Al, of MaleEnhancementCoach.com, answers questions about developing the foundation for maximizing male enhancement training.

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Q. My biggest challenge has been to be able to relax when I’m ready to have sex. Sometimes it goes ok but there are time when I get anxious and it becomes hard to maintain an erection. This even happens during the training sometimes when I have to measure that day. Is there something wrong with me? By the way I do still get rock hard morning woods every morning.

Al: It’s very likely there’s no physical component to your erection concerns.

The emotional state for training and even sexual activity must be considered foundational. While it’s desirable to be unencumbered and to allow instinct and sensation to manifest itself, distractions or being entangled in the lower emotions can interfere in the process. If excessive, it creates negative conditioning.

In the absence of naturally feeling unencumbered, inducing at least a neutral mind state via Emotional Visualizations should be seen as a requirement for training. If you haven’t been using Emotional Visualizations during and even before training, you should get started.

If this doesn’t help to resolve your issues, you may wish to speak with a therapist to go deeper into why you feel anxious during the prospect of sexual activity.

Q. I want to get started with training male enhancement the right way.  What would you consider to be the most important thing to do for getting the most our of male enhancement workouts?

Al: If you were to picture a hierarchy for male enhancement as a pyramid, the foundation below the surface would be emotional stability. Some attempt to use male enhancement training to address perceived inadequacies while under severe emotional strain. This is NOT recommended, and the reason for this is attempting to train while under unmanageable stress can lead to negative results.

Just above the ground but still attached to the foundation would be emotional mastery (learning how to get to the level of emotional neutrality- and preferably enjoyment) and adequate EQ. Above this would be enlargement and maximization of EQ. Yet above this would be more complex/esoteric goals like MMO (male multiple orgasm).

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Basic Supplements, Problems With measuring, and Adding Reps: Ask The Experts

Basic Supplements, Problems With measuring, and Adding Reps: Ask The Experts

Big Al, of MaleEnhancementCoach.com, answers questions about basic supplements, problems with measuring and adding reps.

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Q. I would like to ask your opinion on sunflower lecithin.

It can increase cum? Also any supporting supplements need to go with it?

Al: Sunflower based lecithin should work well. Go for the granules over the capsules as it’s better economically. Take 1 tbsp each day until you achieve a good consistency- then you can maintain on 3-4 tbsp per week.

Make sure you’re well hydrated to maximize the effect.

Also make sure that you’re getting in adequate levels of zinc. If you take a daily zinc tab, take it with protein of some sort.

If you’re following a healthy diet then the above would be sufficient for maintaining optimal function.

Q. I have a problem. When I want to get an erection for my workouts or sex there’s no challenge but when I want to measure my penis doesn’t get a full hard up because I get nervous.

What can I do to fix this?

Al: Learning to relax by using Emotional Visualizations will help you to train your mind to encourage the desired emotional backdrop for your measures.

You might consider “surprise” measuring when it’s time. To do this, make sure you have your measuring implements available within easy reach. When you’re training or otherwise involved in activities where you have a maximum erection- stoop- then immediately measure before you have a chance to think much. This should allow you to bypass any associated anxiety.

An alternative is to measure BPFSL (Bone Pressed Flaccid Stretched Length). This measure is usually within 1/2 inch +/- BPEL (Bone Pressed Erect Length), and is considered a good predictor of immediate future length gains.

Q. What’s a good rate of increase for reps on my exercises?

Al: The amount of reps you add for an exercise with depend on a couple of factors: the amount of reps you’re currently performing and the exercise itself.

For most movements, you’ll start off at a relatively low rep count. For example, the Squeeze: 5 reps as per the Jelq Free Routine instructions. From there, you’d add 1 rep per session. You can keep this pace up until you hit the 20 rep mark, and from there you may begin to add 2 reps per session. This is because the rate of increase reflects a proportion of the whole.

Some exercises like jelqs and Side to Side stretches lend themselves to somewhat greater increases per session due to their ease of adaptability, but you’ll need to use indicators like how you feel after a session as well as your EQ to ensure you’re not adding too much (or too little).

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Epiphany Moments, Targeting/Maintaining Erection Levels, and Adjusting The Jelq For Length or Girth: Ask The Experts

Epiphany Moments, Targeting/Maintaining Erection Levels, and Adjusting The Jelq For Length or Girth: Ask The Experts

Big Al, of MaleEnhancementCoach.com, answers questions about epiphany moments, targeting and maintaining specific erection levels, and adjusting the jelq.

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Q. I was wondering if any other members have experienced emotional breakthroughs with their training. Not so much about size but about confidence. Maybe it’s because I’m older, but I recently have hit a place in my life where I’m beyond caring about whether or not I’m good enough for someone. I’m doing this for ME, and if someone likes it then great! If not, the loss is theirs. It’s funny but when I embraced this viewpoint I feel like a weight has been lifted, and sex is actually fun again!

Al: Few things are as satisfying as observing someone having an epiphany moment! A person can come to the realization that the thing they feared was a creation of their own minds. It can be a step closer to learning how to put the ego in its place.

Emotional Visualizations are good for this, but true self-examination is necessary for this to be effective.

Q. I’m having a hard time keeping a 70% erection as instructed for my Squeezes. As soon as I start, my erection slowly declines after several reps and I need to stop to get the erection back. How do I counter this?

Al: Let’s say you’re targeting 70% average for Squeezes. You’ll induce an 80% erection then start the exercise- and continue it until you’re erection drops to 60%. This will give you a good range to work through and that 70% average.

Q. You mention altering the jelq exercise to target more length or more girth. So if I use a lower erection and less lube, it targets length, and more lube and erection targets girth? Is this so?

Al: Regarding the jelq: Correct on both counts. With less lube and erection, the exercise becomes more of a sliding stretch/length movement; whereas with more of an erection and lube it becomes more of a compression/girth movement.

With the higher erection/more lube variant, you’ll also want to slow donw the cadence for each rep slightly.

 

 

Weight hanging and Stamina Exercise Challenges: Ask The Experts

Weight hanging and Stamina Exercise Challenges: Ask The Experts

Big Al, of MaleEnhancementCoach.com, answers questions about weight hanging and stamina exercise challenges.

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Q. I’m been hanging with the BIB Hanger but am honestly just concerned about the blood pooling in the glans at heavier weight at longer periods…

because regardless of the wrapping the device is very “clunky” and pulls the skin down no matter what. But… I’m finally feeling the stretch in the ligs so I’ll just keep working on the placement over the next few sessions. 🙂

Al: Are you making sure to retract the skin away from the glans before securing the wrap?

If necessary, use an extra layer of padding- but it’s important you take measures to not strangulate your penis. Even in the best of cases, with a BIB style hanger one must regularly remove it to allow for full restoration of circulation. You might try more padding to see if this helps, but if not- look into the vacuum type hangers- like the LG Hanger.

That’s why performing Erect Kegels in between hanging sets is helpful. Not only does it restore full circulation, but it also allows one to make what would ordinarily be a mere rest period into time-saving, productive training.

Q. I started to do Erect Kegels and I have to say that I was not able to make 5 clean erect kegels…

only 1 barely making the 2nd. It did not feel great and I was only able to get 65%-75% erect, as in barely enough to penetrate, with a curve downwards.

The Start & Stop was a disaster as well as I could only do 100 secs of stimulation on the 1st start & stop and past that my balls shriveled up so bad that I became too tense to even feel a sensation and became flaccid quite quickly after that. When it became flaccid it was so hard to get erect again that I thought that there’s not really a point of forcing this as I think it should be enjoyable and not forced at all.

Al: I can understand your frustration with the difficulty of the exercises, but it’s important to understand that training is merely a tool towards your goals. If you’re not proficient at t performing the exercises you will be, given time. It’s VITAL you do what you can to accept this so as to not allow emotions like frustration or anger affect your performance.

Keep attempting the Erect Kegels- even if you can only hold each rep for 1-2 seconds. We’ll stay at the 5 or less reps count until you can perform all 5 reps with at least a 90% erection. Important! Only contract as hard as you need to to accomplish the rep- and no more!

You may have induced more blood into the genital area via your activities which is why you may have noted more fullness. This could be the case especially if arousal is involved.

The same goes for Stop and Starts. With this exercise, you can take up to 10 “stops” if you need to, but try to hit the 5 minute mark in your next session.

Be sure to practice your Emotional Visualizations exercises BEFORE you even get started with your training! This will encourage the best possible emotional backdrop for your training and will maximize the ease of the process.

For more details on stamina training, please see: The “Stamina Only” Routine for Reversing the Effects of Detraining

The Context of Stamina Exercises for Training Male Enhancement: Ask The Experts

The Context of Stamina Exercises for Training Male Enhancement: Ask The Experts

Big Al, of MaleEnhancementCoach.com, answers questions about exercises.

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Q. In your 3×20 routine you mention doing Kegels during the breaks in between sets.

What’s the advantage of this over doing them after the hanging?

Al: The Kegels in between sets are meant to act as an antagonist to the stretching- creating a “push/pull” effect*. There’s also the efficiency factor. It’s recommended you take a break in between hanging sets to restore full circulation, so if you can that and take care of other aspects of your training, you save time.

*Reference: https://mediphysio.com.au/pnf-stretching-technique/

Q. What is the purpose for starting a workout using Emotional Visualizations?

Al: The Emotional Visualizations serve the purpose of dispelling emotions inappropriate to the scenario (e.g.- anxiety, apathy, etc.) and replacing them with, at the very least, a feeling of neutrality. Optimally, you should be inducing a feeling of confidence and relaxed joy to effect the best response. This will allow you to set the tone to extract much more out of the sensations you’re experiencing- which leads to a better kinesthetic sense during training. As you get better as inducing the desired emotions, you’ll learn to transcend limitations placed by your own [initial] mental reservations.

Q. Up until now I haven’t been doing any sort of stamina exercise…

[Editor’s Note: This refers to Kegels and edging and may also include outside activities like cardiovascular training], and I think this could be why I’m not making gains. Getting erections is easy for me but maintaining them past a few minutes is hard. What should I do?

Al: It can’t be stressed enough that- for as long as you’re pursuing enlargement- you should be attempting to get your Erection Quality (EQ) as high as you can get it. This rule applies even if your sexual prowess is satisfactory. Few factors are more important for inducing maximum tissue stretch and recovery than high EQ.

This doesn’t even cover the other benefits of stamina work- which include greater penis strength and health, as well as ejaculatory control. One can even develop the ability to become multiorgasmic, as discussed in the Master Your Orgasms exercise.

In your case, including Kegels and Stop and Starts immediately after your enlargement work should work well. You should also take care to do what you can outside of male enhancement training to induce better EQ, and nothing beats cardiovascular exercise for this purpose.

What is EQ, Trusting Emotional Visualizations & Pacing Kegel Reps: Ask The Experts

What is EQ, Trusting Emotional Visualizations & Pacing Kegel Reps: Ask The Experts

Big Al, of MaleEnhancementCoach.com, answers questions about EQ, Emotional Visualizations and pacing kegel reps.

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Q: What is EQ and how do I measure it?

Al: Erection Quality is a combined measure of stamina AND hardness.
A 0 would be complete impotence whereas a 10 would be YOUR ideal standard of stamina and hardness. You can use whatever standard you like to gauge EQ: workout performance, sexual activity, or even an average of it all- as long as it’s consistent.

A 7 is typically considered just hard enough for penetration, but still flexible.

Q. How come I’m really struggling with the idea of trusting emotional visualization to get erect.

Doing the exercises isn’t an issue for me but how I get erect direct is and I’m concerned about that.

Al: The above is the very reason you should practice Emotional Visualizations. Your struggling and concern are the items sought to be mastered with the exercise. The EV is where you learn to let go of struggles and concerns. Doing this during training will help you to develop a foundation which transfers over to sexual confidence and performance. Practiced individually and widely, it can also help to place sex into its proper context into people’s lives.

It may sound as if I’m overblowing the effects of the EV, but the benefits from and skills learned from that exercise will be of immense value to you!

Q. Thank you for recommending the kegels! I am noticing a difference in hardness and waking up at night with hard ons after one week.

You recommended starting off with 5 reps, but I felt I could do more, so I am adding 5 every day. I am up to 15 reps but it’s getting harder to do them now! What do you recommend that I do now with the reps?

Al: For the kegels- or any other exercise- you need to take care not to force your limits just yet! The reasoning behind this involves training momentum. If you pace your progress, you’ll be able to train for MUCH longer in a progressive manner. If you force a peak in your training too soon you’ll burn out very quickly (no training momentum).

The Kegels usually doesn’t lend itself to very rapid rep increases from an established baseline. I’d recommend you back off to ~10 reps or so and resume adding one rep per session. When you get to 20 resp total, add 2 reps per session.

More On Emotional Visualizations

More On Emotional Visualizations

Emotional Visualizations are used to learn emotional mastery- for preparing and during training and sexual activities.  EVs also have practical applications outside of male enhancement training.

The following exercise (courtesy of T.W. Durfy) can also be used in conjunction with Emotional Visualizations:

Beyond the importance of a strong PC muscle when it comes to stamina, many men do not realize that we ALL are capable of having multiple orgasms just by learning a few simple, physical techniques. With a little dedication and practice, you can unlock the secrets to the best sexual experiences of your life.

The main question I get asked is “why do men lose this ability to have multiple orgasms if we’re all capable of doing it?” Simply put, ejaculation. Once we begin to ejaculate in our younger years the feeling is so unbelievable that it completely overtakes a man’s ability to distinguish between the feeling of arousal and orgasm to that of losing themselves in ejaculation. We rewrite this by understanding and separating the different sensations between arousal and orgasm so that we don’t allow ourselves to crossover into ejaculation.

A combination of breathwork and muscle control is the key to becoming multi-orgasmic. In the audio linked below, I’ll guide you through a basic breathing exercise that when practiced regularly will act as an energy pump. A physical exercise that you can try is the Stopping the Stream Exercise:

1) When you are about to urinate, deeply inhale
2) Exhale slowly forcefully pushing out the urine
3) Inhale and contract your PC muscle stopping the flow of urine
4) Exhale and start urinating again
5) Repeat 4-5 times or until you have finished urinating

This file can be useful for mastering your breathing during the exercise.

T.W. Durfy is a certified personal trainer, licensed massage therapist, and Dai Soke of the Hoshin Roshi Ryu Jutaijutsu system of martial arts and esoteric energy. He specializes is mind and body transformation coaching his clients how to heal from the inside out. “Transform your mind, transform your body, transform your LIFE!”