What causes premature ejaculation?

Reverse Stop and Starts and Kegels- Erect or Flaccid: Ask The Experts

Reverse Stop and Starts and Kegels- Erect or Flaccid: Ask The Experts

Big Al, of MaleEnhancementCoach.com, answers questions about Reverse Stop and Starts and performing Kegels.

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Q. I just started your training but I have the problem of lasting too long during sex or masturbation. What do I do to fix this?

Al: In your case, you’ll want to substitute the standard Stop and Starts with the Reverse Stop and Starts.

The Reverse Start and Stops is performed as followed:

Essentially, you use a very light grip and attempt to bring yourself to orgasm as quickly as possible- with no “stops”. The light grip is key.

This would be performed at the end of your session before your warm down (in lieu of the standard Stop and Starts).

Q2. So instead of edging for multiple minutes stopping and starting before orgasm., I would essentially try to reach orgasm as quick as possible with a very light grip not stopping before ejaculation. But trying cum as quick as possible with a very light grip?

Al: This is correct. Note- It only takes a few of these sessions to reset your sensory threshold!

Q. What percentage of erection should I use for my Erect Kegels, and what’s the difference with performing them erect of flaccid?

Al: For Erect Kegels, attempt to stay at 90% EQ or better.

While both movements are good, The Erect Kegel is a vastly superior exercise than its flaccid counterpart. Along with both movements training the pubococcygeal muscles, Erect Kegels also help to drive more blood to the penis, create increased tissue expansion, and increase venous sufficiency. This also aids in the recovery process.

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Stamina Training/Erection Quality Questions: Ask The Experts

Stamina Training/Erection Quality Questions: Ask The Experts

Big Al, of MaleEnhancementCoach.com, answers questions about stamina training and developing better EQ.

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Q. I’m performing 10 reps of the Erect Kegels for now. My kegels are still not at optimum erection that I would like but I could say 70-80%. I stop 3 times to get erect. The first set always is not as strong as the 2nd and 3rd. But still, lots of improvement from when I started.

What do you think?

Al: For now, keep the reps on the Kegels static but focus on getting a higher erection level- until you can perform them all at 90% erect or better. From there, add 1 rep per session.

You should also strive to continue to stimulate yourself DURING the Kegels. As long as you can maintain the form of the exercise, you can do this without issue.

Q. you said cardiovascular exercise is important for developing EQ. What should I do to get started?

Al: Much will depend on your CURRENT level of fitness. If you haven’t performed cardio in awhile, take up walking or swimming- at whatever pace you may comfortably challenge yourself with.

It also doesn’t need to be limited to a singular activity. Constant activity sports like basketball and soccer are great for cardio.

The key is to train in a progressive manner. As time goes by add more duration and intensity to your exercise while maintaining a heart rate of 60-80%.

Q. Since start and stop is not so much about getting close to PONR and stopping and repeating as much as it is about maintaining an erection, what do you say would be a good time to aim for? How long is “frivolous” unhelpful masturbation and how long does it cross into useful for PE?

Al: The Stop and Starts exercise (controlled edging)is for maintaining an erection (EQ) and getting close to the PONR (ejaculatory control). These are just a couple of the exercises target aspects. The goal should be to get to 20-25 minutes.

You should avoid frivolous masturbation altogether. Either you’re not sexually active- and you can route your energies into the Stop and Starts, or you’re active and can route your energies into live sexual activity.

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End Of Cycle Peaking, Edging Improvement, and Supplementation: Ask The Experts

End Of Cycle Peaking, Edging Improvement, and Supplementation: Ask The Experts

Big Al, of MaleEnhancementCoach.com, answers questions about peaking at the end of a training cycle, improving edging time, and supplements.

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Q. You mention “peaking” at the end of a workout cycle being a goal. What exactly does this refer to?

Al: Peaking is the goal for the end of a cycle where you’re performing at maximum effort after several weeks of increases. A good analogy for this is when athletes train for a competition in a manner which ensures they perform their best on the date concerned. In your case, the final week of a cycle is where you wish to peak/plateau. Continued work much beyond this state leads to overtraining.

If you don’t hit a peak by the end of a cycle., it’s a good bet you’ve been UNDERtraining.

Q. I seem to be stuck at 10 minutes max time with edging.

The instructions say to stop three times before the point of no return but I can’t even get past two times. What is it that I can do to solve this problem?

Al: If you have to pause to get the extra time in, you can do so. If you can slow the rate and intensity of stimulation while still adding time per session that would be even better- though more difficult.

The initial goal of this exercise is to get to 20 minutes. At this point, a threshold should be reached where it becomes much easier to control your ejaculations. You should also have gotten more tolerance bu this time- though the correlation between endurance for MANUAL Stop and Starts and sexual activity may not be equal.

Q. What are some supplements you recommend for male enhancement improvement?

Al: For better EQ, L-Arginine is a good one. Yohimbe is excellent as an “herbal Viagra” and even has aphrodisiac-like qualities, but isn’t recommended for those with high blood pressure. Arnica is good to speed healing, while Butcher’s Broom (Ruscogenin) can aid in strengthening venous sufficiency. Vitamins A, E, and Zinc all help to maintain optimal hormonal profiles.

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Assessing the Effectiveness of Exercises, Stamina Later, and the “60 Minute Rule”: Ask The Experts

Assessing the Effectiveness of Exercises, Stamina Later, and the “60 Minute Rule”: Ask The Experts

Big Al, of MaleEnhancementCoach.com, answers questions about assessing exercises during training, training stamina at a later time, and utilizing the “60 Minute Rule”.

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Q. How do I know my enlargement exercises are having an effect? I see a good pump after my workouts but is this enough?

Both my conditioning and erection quality are very good so I can train at a high rate of volume and intensity.

Al: A post-training “pump” is a good sign you’re on the right path.

ALL enlargement exercises require hitting a “sweet spot” between not enough and too much. In the case of conditioned trainers such as yourself, you can train intensely without incurring negative symptoms- but what happens when you go overboard is a toughening response- as opposed to the desired flexibility.

For assessing length, using BPFSL before AND after your sessions. If you’re noting a 1/2″ increase or better in the post-training measure, you’re on the right track. Anything under 1/4″ elongation is a sign you’re either not getting enough stimulation, or (from heavy sessions) too much.

You can do the same with girth exercises, but halve the figures given above.

Q. Is it OK for me to perform the stamina portion of my training at a later time?

Al: If you have scheduling issues and aren’t able to perform all of your training in one sitting, then splitting your workouts is better than missing the session altogether- though it’s not an optimal scenario.

A well designed routine will be set up so that each exercise cascades into the next one. The stamina exercises are great on their own, but when you’ve pre-stretched the tissues with enlargement specific exercises the stamina exercises in and of themselves become effective ENLARGEMENT exercises.

Q. You mention a 60 minute rule for edging requirements.

There are some weeks where I’m sexually active more than others. How would this work then?

Al: The BEST form of stamina training is live, vigorous sexual activity. It surpasses any form of manual training for obvious reasons. The only instance where it would be recommended for you to perform manual edging (Stop and Starts) instead of live activity is if you don’t feel ready for sexual contact.

The “60 Minute Rule” applies to your estimated level of vigorous sexual activity. In essence, if you’re getting 60+ minutes of said activities then you’re fulfilling all of your edging requirements for the week. Less than this, and you can make up for the balance with manual edging.

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The Context of Stamina Exercises for Training Male Enhancement: Ask The Experts

The Context of Stamina Exercises for Training Male Enhancement: Ask The Experts

Big Al, of MaleEnhancementCoach.com, answers questions about exercises.

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Q. In your 3×20 routine you mention doing Kegels during the breaks in between sets.

What’s the advantage of this over doing them after the hanging?

Al: The Kegels in between sets are meant to act as an antagonist to the stretching- creating a “push/pull” effect*. There’s also the efficiency factor. It’s recommended you take a break in between hanging sets to restore full circulation, so if you can that and take care of other aspects of your training, you save time.

*Reference: https://mediphysio.com.au/pnf-stretching-technique/

Q. What is the purpose for starting a workout using Emotional Visualizations?

Al: The Emotional Visualizations serve the purpose of dispelling emotions inappropriate to the scenario (e.g.- anxiety, apathy, etc.) and replacing them with, at the very least, a feeling of neutrality. Optimally, you should be inducing a feeling of confidence and relaxed joy to effect the best response. This will allow you to set the tone to extract much more out of the sensations you’re experiencing- which leads to a better kinesthetic sense during training. As you get better as inducing the desired emotions, you’ll learn to transcend limitations placed by your own [initial] mental reservations.

Q. Up until now I haven’t been doing any sort of stamina exercise…

[Editor’s Note: This refers to Kegels and edging and may also include outside activities like cardiovascular training], and I think this could be why I’m not making gains. Getting erections is easy for me but maintaining them past a few minutes is hard. What should I do?

Al: It can’t be stressed enough that- for as long as you’re pursuing enlargement- you should be attempting to get your Erection Quality (EQ) as high as you can get it. This rule applies even if your sexual prowess is satisfactory. Few factors are more important for inducing maximum tissue stretch and recovery than high EQ.

This doesn’t even cover the other benefits of stamina work- which include greater penis strength and health, as well as ejaculatory control. One can even develop the ability to become multiorgasmic, as discussed in the Master Your Orgasms exercise.

In your case, including Kegels and Stop and Starts immediately after your enlargement work should work well. You should also take care to do what you can outside of male enhancement training to induce better EQ, and nothing beats cardiovascular exercise for this purpose.

Adjusting Training Erections & Stop and Starts Form- Ask The Experts

Adjusting Training Erections & Stop and Starts Form- Ask The Experts

Big Al, of MaleEnhancementCoach.com, answers questions about training erections and Stop and Starts form.

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Q. I have the opposite problem of a lot of guys…

When I train I get too erect for exercises too easily, especially girth exercises. What can I do to counter this?

Al: When you start on your girth exercise, choose an erection level ~10% LOWER than your goal. For the sake of simplicity, let’s use 70% as the target, so you’ll start with an erection level of 60%. Train until your erection gets to ~10% HIGHER than your goal (80%). This will ensure you more or less get the erect level average you need.

You may also try performing length work before girth work. Intense length work can tire the penis out temporarily. This could be the optimal time to perform girth work in your case- since you’ll be less inclined to getting over-erect.

Q. I try to do good with all of my exercises but my performance of the Stop and Starts is terrible!

The times in between my stops are erratic. I also have to stop and even let my penis get flaccid to get the necessary time added each workout. Is this OK?

Al: Unlike the directive given for the other exercises, the form for the Stop and Starts takes a backseat to the time from start to finish. This means even if you need to pause, allow your erection to diminish, etc.- the initial milestone for this exercise should be to get to 20-25 minutes from start to finish. Once this has taken place, we won’t need to concern ourselves with time and we can focus on the aspects of hardness and ejaculatory control.

Taking the above into account, don’t worry about timing your stops- only on timing from start to finish.

Dealing with Premature Ejaculation & Causes of Premature Ejaculation (from The Ultimate Guide To Male Enhancement)

Dealing with Premature Ejaculation & Causes of Premature Ejaculation

The following are two chapters taken from the book: The Ultimate Guide To Male Enhancement.

Edited for content

Chapter 12: Dealing with Premature Ejaculation

What is Premature Ejaculation?

The definition of what constitutes premature ejaculation may vary depending on the source, but it’s commonly accepted as a scenario where the length of time for sexual performance on the part of the male is unsatisfactory, by either the man or his partner. That being said, what constitutes premature ejaculation can be arbitrary. There is no set time that if you orgasm before it then you have premature ejaculation.

Consider this – the average time between arousal and ejaculation is typically three minutes for a man. Considering the
average time for a woman to orgasm is typically 13 minutes after arousal it can be seen how many men may think they have premature ejaculation, but really they are simply normal. With this in mind, you can see why foreplay is so important to satisfying a woman.


Phases of Ejaculation

There are two phases of ejaculation.

● The Emission Phase and

● The Ejaculatory Phase


Emission Phase:

Here are the physical processes which occur during the emission phase of ejaculation:

● The vas deferens begins to contract to move sperm from the testes toward the urethra and prostate gland.

● The seminal vesicles secrete fluids into the urethra

● Chemical messages activate the sympathetic nervous system and begin what’s known as the ‘point of no return’
(PONR). Ejaculation is inevitable at this point.


Ejaculatory Phase:


During the ejaculatory phase, the posterior portion of the urethra senses the sperm and secretions and sends a signal
to the spinal cord. This then sends messages to the muscles at the base of your penis. This causes said muscles to contract, which results in ejaculation.

Chapter 13: Causes of Premature Ejaculation

Premature ejaculation can be caused by any number of factors. These can be separated into two categories:


● Physical (which can include chemical side effects) and

● Mental (or psychological) causes.


It’s not uncommon for both some mental component to be present in physical cases of premature ejaculation. Worry
about the experience of premature ejaculation often compounds any physical components.


Physical Premature Ejaculation

The most common form of premature ejaculation is due to physical causes. The most common among these is negative conditioning. This is usually because most men masturbate in a hurried and furtive manner. Doing this repeatedly trains the body into ejaculating quickly, so it shouldn’t be surprising to understand how this can lead to issues.

If added stimuli like porn is used, it can further skew what you can expect from real sexual encounters. This then adds to anxiety, which further increases the possibility of premature ejaculation. The easiest way to correct this is to train in a manner contrary to negative conditioning. This will be discussed in detail further in the section.


Hormonal Issues

If you have low testosterone or abnormal levels of catabolic hormones this can have a drastic effect on your ability to maintain an erection. This can turn into premature ejaculation if you have to strive to get erect. It can be further compounded if your hormone imbalances induce negative emotions like anxiety. Diet and exercise is often recommended as a treatment for issues related to hormone imbalances; however, if do-it-yourself treatments aren’t effective, then a full blood work up is necessary to determine the cause of these imbalances.

Chronic and/or acute stress can lower levels of dopamine in the system. This can create a scenario where you can find it difficult just to get aroused even in the absence of anxiety. Stress management is key to helping treat this issue. The amino acid L-Tyrosine has been shown to be effective at helping to restore natural dopamine levels.


Infections

It’s been shown infections of the prostate and urethra may contribute to premature ejaculation. Infections usually require medical attention and antibiotics for treatment.

Pelvic Floor Issues


Pelvic floor spasms may contribute to premature ejaculation. If these symptoms are minor, rest and targeted stretching of the area should help to alleviate the issue. If the problem is more severe, this might require the services of a physical therapist for relief.


A strain in the pelvic floor may cause pain upon Kegeling and symptoms such as “hard flaccid”. Certain muscles like the ischiocavernosus can become perpetually strained. This leads to a difficult to resolve issue, as these muscles are involved in many different bodily functions. Due to this, it’s not easy to allow them to recover as you would if you immobilized an arm or even a leg. A strain may require targeted massage and heat. Specific yoga poses which specifically target the pelvic floor may help to speed healing as well.


A common cause of pelvic floor issues is due to abusing the Kegel. This includes the Reverse Kegel (contractile) exercise. It’s vital you start Kegeling by using only as much contractile force as is needed during any of the Kegel type movements. A limited number of reps should be performed as well and then slowly increased each session.


Prescription Medications

Some prescription drugs may cause premature ejaculation as one of their side effects. If this is the case, contact your physician or pharmacist to see if there are alternative medications.

Mental Premature Ejaculation

Premature ejaculation may be placed on the spectrum of erectile dysfunction, especially if the case is so severe that penetration becomes difficult or impossible. This is often the case if performance anxiety is involve. A common scenario will involve difficulty in obtaining an erection, with almost immediate ejaculation upon or even before penetration. This stage most commonly precedes impotence.

Anxiety, depression and stress are three of the leading mental causes of premature ejaculation. Sometimes, it’s a matter
of which came first though – the chicken or the egg – the premature ejaculation or the anxiety/depression/stress. It’s
not uncommon for men to suffer from these three common challenges without even realizing. It’s even more common for these challenges to surface, when there’s a concern about premature ejaculation.

The Ultimate Guide to Male Enhancement

Sex or Edging After Training and Hanging Too Heavy- Ask The Experts

Sex or Edging After Training and Hanging Too Heavy- Ask The Experts

Big Al, of MaleEnhancementCoach.com, answers questions about sex/edging after training and hanging too heavy.

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Q. Is it a good idea to have sex after training?

Al: If you’re referring to male enhancement training- and you have no negative issues like performance anxiety or low EQ, then sex after training can be a great way to finish off your workout. This also applies to manual edging- e.g.: Stop and Starts.

Q1. I’ve worked up to hanging 15 pounds for over an hour…

…but I haven’t seen any growth in months. What is it I’m doing wrong?

Al: It needs to be understood that training using enlargement specific exercises isn’t quite like other forms of bodily training. The exercises, reps, etc. are all incidental to quality tissue stretch.

It’s best to think of your enlargement training as something more akin to flexibility training than resistance training. Working up to 15 lbs of weight is only good if it’s a byproduct of growth, meaning the routine you performed yielded gains so you added more weight.

Did you make gains earlier in your routine?

Q2. I did make some gains…

and the workouts were more enjoyable. I’m also sore after each workout. This is probably not a good sign?

Al: This is not a good sign! You shouldn’t be feeling anything more than a mild soreness which dissipates in 24 hours or less.

You’d be well advised to go back to a lighter weight and do your best to focus on what you’re feeling with your hanging. Taking mental focus out of the equation with passive forms of training like hanging is easy, so really doing what you can to ensure quality maximum tissue stretch each session without pain or strain should be the goal.

You’ll know you’re on the right track when your penis appears elongated without being exhausted after your sessions, and (of course) by observing growth- which should be noted once every two weeks when you measure.

Your gains will also be greatly accelerated if you’re improving EQ as well.

Various Kegel Types and Stop and Starts: Ask The Experts

Various Kegel Types and Stop and Starts: Ask The Experts

Big Al, of MaleEnhancementCoach.com, answers questions about various Kegels and Stop and Starts.

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Q. Why is it recommended to do only 3 stops in the Stop and Starts edging exercise?

And why only 20 to 25 minutes max? Why not, say, an hour?

Al: There are scenarios where one can use 4-10 stops or more- such as with the Extreme Stop and Starts. Essentially, when one isn’t able to last past the 5 minute mark, then more stops can be taken to get to the 5-10 minute mark. Once one get to ~10 minutes with, say, 10 stops, no more time is added but the stops are reduced.

There’s a reasoning behind the 20-25 minute threshold. Once one reaches this point, a level of proficiency is usually achieved which makes it much easier to maintain activity even beyond this point- whereas when one isn’t capable of maintaining some sort of erection under activity for up to 20 minutes, proficiency is comparatively diminished.

Some very advanced trainees do opt to go for up to an hour with the Stop and Starts. This particular version of the exercise becomes an all-inclusive exercise- with light jelqs, pulls, and Kegels all done under a very high erection level. The issue with this is overconditioning- where training creates a scenario where it take a lot of stimulation and time to ejaculate. By keeping an average of 20-25 minutes at 3 stops to the PONR, one gets the best of both world- control, but the option of ejaculating early on command.

All of this assumes you’re not regularly sexually active. If you are, then abide by the “60 Minute Rule”- which states: “For stamina training, a good rule of thumb is the 60 minute rule. If your sexual activity has you engaged in vigorous movements WITH a full erection for a total of 60 minutes or more per week, you can forgo the Stop and Start. For any time less than that, you should make it up in your training.”

Q. Before getting on these forums I though there was only one type of Kegel exercise.

Now I read about more than one, and some are not even flexing exercises! Is there a reference you can give me for them?

Al: It can be confusing when there are so many different variants of an exercise. The following should be a helpful reference: Minuteman’s Kegel Master List