Senior Sex: How to Maintain or Improve Intimacy

Sex in the Senior Years

By Mark Stibich, PhD | Updated on August 13, 2023
Medically reviewed by Isaac O. Opole, MD, PhD

This article is a repost which originally appeared on verywell health

Edited for content. The opinions expressed in this article may not reflect the opinions of this site’s editors, staff or members.

Key takeaways:

‧ People in their 70s and 80s and beyond can continue to enjoy sex.

‧ Striving for optimal physical and mental health can allow one to continue to enjoy sex in older age.

‧ Issues you cannot resolve on your own should be brought to the attention of a qualified medical professional.

Many people in their 70s and 80s are not only sexually active, but satisfied with their senior sex lives.1 Though the frequency or ability to perform sexually may decline with age due to physiological changes, these don’t necessarily affect how a person experiences or enjoys sex.

Aging-related problems like erectile dysfunction (ED), vaginal dryness, or urinary incontinence can affect sex. But their impact can also be minimized by using medication, managing chronic conditions, seeking individual or couples counseling, and changing sexual practices.2

This article explores the sex lives of adults 65 and over and the problems that can interfere with sex as the body ages. It also discusses the various treatment options and ways to maintain—or even jumpstart—your senior sex life.

Sexual Activity in Older Adults

Studies suggest that men are almost twice as likely as women to still have sex or masturbate in their later years. A British study found close to 60% of men ages 70 to 80 and 31% of men ages 80 to 90 are still sexually active. In women, those figures drop to 34% and 14%, respectively.3

This lower rate of sexual activity in older women may be due to a lack of opportunity rather than a lack of desire. Research shows that older women are less likely to have partners (due in large part to the fact that they often outlive their partners). This is sometimes referred to as “the partner gap.”1

Sexual Health Problems in Older Men

It is common for men to experience sexual problems after age 40. Reasons include a natural decline in testosterone levels, heart disease, and prostate problems. The inability to achieve or sustain an erection or reach orgasm or ejaculation are common concerns.4

Erectile Dysfunction

Erectile dysfunction (ED), formerly known as impotence, is the inability to achieve or maintain an erection firm enough for sexual penetration and long enough to achieve orgasm.

While ED is more common in older men, aging itself does not cause the problem. ED is related to conditions, sometimes several at once, that directly or indirectly interfere with erections.

Risk factors include high blood pressure, diabetic nerve damage, smoking, obesity, Peyronie’s disease, depression, and even certain medications. An accurate diagnosis is needed to ensure the right treatment.5

ED drugs like Viagra (sildenafil), Levitra (vardenafil), and Cialis (tadalafil) are often the first-line treatments for ED. Lifestyle changes and counseling can also help. For some men, hormonal therapy, penis pumps, and penile implants may be recommended.
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Benign Prostatic Hyperplasia

Benign prostatic hyperplasia (BPH) is a non-cancerous enlarged prostate and one of the most common health problems in older males.6 BPH can cause symptoms like difficulty urinating, frequent urination, or waking up in the middle of the night to urinate (nocturia).

On top of this, BPH can cause sexual problems like low libido (low sex drive) and delayed ejaculation (difficulty reaching orgasm).

Among the treatment options, testosterone therapy may help restore libido. There are also certain drugs used off-label that may help with delayed ejaculation, including cabergoline (originally marketed as Dostinex) and Wellbutrin (bupropion).7

Because some BPH medications can also cause sexual dysfunction, a change in the dose may help resolve these concerns.8

Sexual Health Problems in Older Women

More than a third of older women experience sexual problems. These are typically due to menopause, when estrogen levels steeply decline. Hormonal changes can lessen sexual desire and make it harder to become aroused.9

Sexual organs also change as a person gets older. A woman’s vagina will shorten and narrow. The vaginal walls become thinner and less flexible, tearing more easily. Vaginal lubrication decreases, making vaginal intercourse more painful.10

Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder

Hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD) is diagnosed when an absence of sexual fantasies, thoughts, and desires causes personal distress. It is a problem that is common among many older women.

A medication known as Addyi (flibanserin) is used to treat HSDD in women. It is currently only approved for premenopausal women, but research shows that it can also improve libido in older women as well.11

Vaginal Dryness

Vaginal dryness is uncomfortable and can make sex painful. Over-the-counter (OTC) remedies that can help relieve irritation and itching from vaginal dryness include lubricants such as K-Y Jelly or vaginal suppositories like Replens.

If OTC remedies don’t help, your doctor may prescribe estrogen cream as well as estrogen-containing vaginal rings and vaginal suppositories.

There are also plant-based products, like black cohosh, that have estrogen-like effects. These should be used with caution in women who have had or are at risk of breast cancer.12

Pain With Sex

Painful intercourse is more likely in older women as vaginal tissue tends to thin and tear easily after menopause. Standard treatments for vaginal dryness can often help ease pain during sex.

If that is not effective, prescription drugs like Osphena (ospemifene) and Intrarosa (prasterone) can treat thinning vaginal tissues and help relieve moderate to severe vaginal dryness.12

Pelvic Organ Prolapse

The pelvic floor muscles and tissues hold the bladder, uterus, cervix, vagina, and rectum in place. Pelvic organ prolapse (POP) occurs when the pelvic floor weakens, causing the pelvic organs to drop and bulge (prolapse) in the vagina. This can cause pelvic pain and pressure, pain with sex, and urinary incontinence.13

POP is often treated with pelvic floor physical therapy to strengthen the supporting muscles. In some cases, surgery may be needed.14

Other Health Concerns

Chronic medical conditions become more common as a person ages. Many of these can interfere with an older person’s sex life.
Arthritis and Chronic Pain

Arthritis and other chronic pain conditions are common among older adults and can make sex very difficult. Depending on the cause, doctors may recommend physical therapy to strengthen muscles and improve flexibility.

Nonsteroidal anti-inflammatory drugs (NSAIDs), both over-the-counter and prescription, can be taken before sex to help ease the pain. Opioid drugs, while effective as a pain reliever, can cause a drop in testosterone and contribute to ED.15

If the pain only occurs in certain sexual positions, let your partner know and try different positions. Bolstering your bodies with pillows and cushions can also help.

Diabetes

In the United States, almost one-third of adults over 65 have diabetes. Approximately half of these are undiagnosed.16

Diabetes can cause sexual dysfunction in both men and women. This can be due to circulation problems, medication side effects, or nerve damage. Problems include:17

‧  Low libido
‧ Difficulty with arousal
‧ Erectile dysfunction
‧ Painful intercourse
‧ Reduced genital sensation
‧ Urinary tract infections
‧ Yeast infections

The best way to reduce the impact of diabetes is to gain control of your blood sugar. Speak with your doctor if you have difficulty managing your blood sugar, and be sure to mention any sexual health problems you may be having. It’s important for your doctor to know.

Heart Disease

Older age is the greatest risk factor for heart disease.18 Heart disease causes problems as arteries start to narrow and harden (referred to as atherosclerosis). This reduces blood flow throughout the body, including the pelvis and genitals, resulting in sexual dysfunction in both men and women.

Heart disease is one of the leading causes of erectile dysfunction in men. It can also cause women to have difficulty achieving orgasm due to the decreased blood flow to the genitals.

There is no one way to resolve these issues, but there is evidence that statin drugs used to reduce the risk of heart disease can improve erectile dysfunction in some men.19 Some studies suggest that similar approaches may improve sexual function in women with heart disease.20

People with heart disease may also be nervous about sex due to fear of a heart attack. While sexual activity is generally safe, talk to your health provider if you are concerned.21

Obesity

Today, more than 40% of adults over 65 meet the definition of obesity.22 Research shows that women who are obese are more likely to experience sexual dysfunction than non-obese women.23 In addition, obesity increases the odds of erectile dysfunction in men.20

These issues may be directly related to higher rates of diabetes among people who are obese as well as reduced blood circulation due to atherosclerosis.24

Weight loss, achieved with a healthy diet and routine exercise, is considered the best strategy to overcome obesity. It may also improve a person’s self-image and sense of well-being while making sex easier to navigate.

Urinary Incontinence

Urinary incontinence is the loss of bladder control. This becomes more common with age, especially in women.

Incontinence can be embarrassing and make sex awkward. Women who experience stress incontinence may be afraid to orgasm. Extra pressure on the abdomen during intercourse can also cause urinary leakage.

If you have incontinence, empty your bladder before sex. Changing sexual positions can help prevent urinary leakage by avoiding the compression of the bladder. Pelvic floor exercises can also help strengthen the muscles that aid with urine control.

Medications

Some medications used in older adults can cause sexual dysfunction in both men and women. These include:25

‧  Antidepressants
‧  Antihistamines
‧  Chemotherapy
‧  Diuretics (“water pills”)
‧  High blood pressure medicines
‧  Opioid painkillers

If you are having sexual difficulties, let your doctor know and advise them of any drugs you are taking, including over-the-counter, prescription, or recreational.

Lifestyle and Mental Health

Lifestyle and mental health issues can also contribute to sexual problems in older adults. These issues can be just as difficult—and sometimes even more difficult—to overcome than physical ones. If you are faced with any of these issues, there are things you can do to turn them around.
Alcohol

For some people, drinking a glass of wine helps them relax and get in the mood. However, too much alcohol can end up impairing sexual function. According to the National Institute on Drug Abuse, alcohol is the most-used drug among older adults, with 65% of people 65 and older reporting high-risk drinking.26

Alcohol can impair a man’s ability to get an erection, cause premature ejaculation, or delay orgasm.27 In women, too much alcohol can make it difficult to climax.2

Reducing the amount you drink can help, but if you are unable to control your alcohol use, speak to your doctor about treatment options.

Depression

In the United States, between 5% and 10% of adults over 65 are estimated to be depressed.28 This can lead to many health concerns, including sexual dysfunction.29

In people with depression, neurotransmitters—chemical messengers that send signals between the brain and body—are out of balance. This can affect sexual desire, arousal, and orgasm. Ironically, medications used to treat depression can have the same effects.

While the benefits of antidepressants often outweigh the risks, therapy and counseling may offer a reasonable option for those with mild depression.

Stress

Stress can be a contributing factor to sexual dysfunction. Financial worries and health concerns are just some of the common stresses affecting older adults.

To relieve stress (and the effect it has on your sex life), consider stress management techniques like mindful breathing, tai chi, yoga, and meditation. Research shows practicing mindfulness and meditation can ease the effects of stress and improve overall feelings of well-being.30 This alone may help improve sex.

In addition, seek professional assistance from financial advisors, health advocates, and social workers to help better deal with the other stresses in your life.

Relationship Issues

Lack of sexual intimacy is often related to relationship problems. If you are and your partner are not connecting emotionally, it can lessen your desire to be intimate.

On the flip side, studies show that older couples who engage in sexual intercourse with their partner are likely to share a closer relationship. Moreover, closeness to one’s partner has been shown to increase overall well-being.31

While this issue is not unique to older couples, many people find talking to a marriage counselor can help them work through relationship issues and rekindle sexual feelings and attraction.

Self-Image

With age can come weight gain and other body changes that may affect one’s sense of physical attractiveness. Self-consciousness can spill over into the bedroom and affect a person’s confidence during sex.

A 2019 study among older women found that those who were self-conscious about their bodies reported less sexual satisfaction. By contrast, those who had greater self-acceptance of their bodies irrespective of weight or aging-related changes had a more satisfying sex life.32

Self-acceptance is ultimately the key. Working with a therapist, either alone or as a couple, can help you discuss your feelings openly and find a way to embrace a more positive self-image.

How to Maintain a Healthy Sex Life

The benefits of maintaining your sex life as you age are physical and emotional. Being sexually active is associated with a lower risk of medical conditions and a longer life. It’s also associated with a greater sense of happiness and overall well-being.3

If your sex life has become stagnant and you’d like to rev it back up, here are a few things you can do.

Communicate

Good sex begins with good communication. Couples who have been together a long time often think they know what the other is thinking. But no one is a mind reader.

Talk to your partner about any concerns you have. You may feel as though your mate is no longer attracted to you because sex has become infrequent, when in fact they are experiencing a decline in sexual interest.

In addition, as sex organs change with age, what felt good before may no longer feel good or may even be painful. Be open with your partner about these changes.

Communicating about sex can be challenging at any age, however. If you and your partner struggle to talk about sex, consider seeing a sex therapist.

Redefine Sex

Sex, as you get older, may need to change. But different can still be good, if not better. With an empty nest and possibly retirement, there’s more time and privacy to explore.

Research shows older adults have a broader definition of sexual activity than younger adults.33 In other words, they better understand that there is more to sex than just intercourse. Foreplay on its own can be quite satisfying.

Be creative and willing to try new things.

Rethink Intimacy

Sex isn’t just physical. It’s an emotional expression of intimacy. As you grow older, sexual intimacy changes. What this means to you and your partner may need to be redefined.

Emotional intimacy can be expressed through non-sexual physical touch. Examples of non-sexual physical touch include:

‧  Back rubs
‧  Cuddling
‧  Holding hands
‧  Hugging
‧  Placing your hand on your partner’s shoulder or arm
‧  Playful nudges
‧  Sitting next to each other
‧  Touching feet under the table

Another non-sexual way to build emotional intimacy is spending quality time together. Things you can do:

‧  Go out on dates with other couples.
‧  Look through old photos and reminisce.
‧  Play cards, board games, or word games.
‧  Read aloud to each other.
‧  Play music together.
‧  Travel, explore new places.
‧  Visit with friends or family.

Just Do It

Instead of waiting for the desire to strike, experts recommend that older adults just go for it. This is because sex has physical and emotional benefits. Orgasms release oxytocin, a hormone that induces a state of calm and improves sleep.

Even if you’re not in the mood, having sex can set the stage for more sex in the future. This is especially true for women. Having sex regularly helps increase natural lubrication and vaginal elasticity. It may also improve erections in men.

Summary

Older age can lead to sexual problems in different ways. Age alone increases the risk of erectile dysfunction, delayed ejaculation, low libido, vaginal dryness, and pelvic organ prolapse. Medical conditions like arthritis, diabetes, heart disease, obesity, and incontinence can also directly or indirectly interfere with sex.

Lifestyle and emotional issues that can impair sexual function in all ages can become even more profound in adults 65 years and older. These include stress, depression, negative self-image, relationship problems, and alcohol abuse.

By working with a doctor or therapist, you can overcome many of these concerns and improve not only your quality of life but your sex life as well. Keeping open lines of communication and embracing change as a natural part of life can also help keep your sex life fresh as you approach your later years.

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The Male Sex Drive — How it Changes With Age

Published on July 24, 2023 .
Kristopher Bunting, MD  Author

This article is a repost which originally appeared on healthnews

Edited for content. The opinions expressed in this article may not reflect the opinions of this site’s editors, staff or members.

For many men, having a strong sex drive—or libido—can be an important part of feeling healthy and having a good quality of life.

Key takeaways:

‧ Male sex drive and testosterone levels decrease with age.

‧ Less sex does not mean less sexual satisfaction.

‧ Good health improves sexual function and sexual quality of life at any age.

‧ Aerobic exercise can improve sexual function and sexual satisfaction.

However, as men age and their bodies change, so does their sex drive. Sex drive tends to decrease with age after it peaks in men in their 20s, but that does not mean that aging has to have a negative effect on sex.

Age, sex drive, and sexual satisfaction

Most men (and women) are more sexually active in their 20s than in any other decade of life. Men’s sex drives seem to peak in their 20s and begin to decrease in their 30s and onward slowly. Men in their 40s and older are also more likely to have problems with sexual function, including erectile dysfunction.

Men have less sex as they get older, but that is only half the story. Sexual satisfaction does not necessarily decrease with age.

A study in Norway found that although sexual activity decreases with age and sexual dysfunction increases with age, sexual satisfaction is more complex. According to the study, men in their 20s had the highest level of sexual satisfaction, followed by men in their 50s. Surprisingly, despite increased sexual dysfunction and decreased sex drive, men in their 50s reported higher sexual satisfaction than those in their 30s and 40s.

Another study from the US found that overall, sexual quality of life tended to decrease with age but was higher in older people who had a better quality of sex. The authors attributed this to “sexual wisdom”—better sex through past experience. No matter the cause, this is certainly good news for anyone worried about their odds of having a fulfilling sex life as they age.

Testosterone and sex drive

Testosterone levels play a major role in the male sex drive. Testosterone is the primary sex hormone responsible for male sexual development and is also associated with sex drive. Research has shown that men’s testosterone levels decline with age beginning after age 30, and reach their lowest levels after age 70—when sex drive is at its lowest.

Low testosterone in men is called male hypogonadism. Hypogonadism in men can cause or contribute to lower sex drive, erectile dysfunction, infertility, loss of bone mass, loss of muscle mass, and depression.

Testosterone replacement therapy can treat male hypogonadism, and research shows that in older men, it can improve sexual activity, sexual desire, and erectile dysfunction. In a study of men with poorly controlled type 2 diabetes, testosterone replacement therapy was shown to improve not only sexual function but also the quality of life and memory.

While considered a normal part of aging, low testosterone can be caused by various medical conditions, including head injuries and some medications. Certain prescription medications can decrease testosterone levels, including opioids (painkillers), hormone therapy for prostate cancer, and a few other drugs.

Remember, do not stop taking any medication without first talking with your healthcare provider. If you are concerned about your testosterone levels, discuss it with your doctor or another healthcare provider.

Better health means better sex

As men age, health plays an increasingly important role in their sex life. According to research, people in better health are more interested in sex, have sex more often, and have a better sexual quality of life. On the other hand, high blood pressure, heart disease, and other conditions that affect blood flow can affect sex drive and contribute to male sexual dysfunction.

Medications can also affect sex drive and sexual performance in men, including some prescription medications for high blood pressure, depression, prostate disease, and hair loss. Common medications that contribute to low sex drive and sexual dysfunction are beta-blockers, diuretics, and finasteride (Propecia, Proscar). Always discuss possible medication side effects with your healthcare provider—the benefits may outweigh the drawbacks.

Erectile dysfunction

Along with a decreased sex drive, aging, poor health, and certain medications can also lead to erectile dysfunction—a known contributor to depression. Fortunately, modern medicine has dedicated a great deal of research to improving men’s erections.

Nowadays, there are several ways to successfully improve erectile dysfunction, including penile implants and medications such as sildenafil (Viagra), tadalafil (Cialis), and vardenafil (Levitra, Staxn). While these medications are safe for many men, they can cause dangerous side effects in people taking nitrates (such as nitroglycerin, isosorbide, and others).

However, it is possible to improve erectile function with natural means such as CBD oils. The latter is one of the best ways to reduce anxiety and stress interfering with libido. CBD oils and gummies improve blood flow in vessels, thus benefiting erectile function. Full-spectrum CBD oils are believed to be a better choice for erectile dysfunction containing both CBD and THC in moderate amounts.

Exercise can improve sex

It is no secret that aerobic exercise is good for your health. It helps reduce cholesterol, blood pressure, and body fat in addition to decreasing the risk of death from coronary artery disease. Studies also show that aerobic exercise is also important for sexual health.

A study in Japan found that regular aerobic exercise improved sexual function in men aged 43-59. Another group of researchers in the U.S. showed that aerobic exercise—running, cycling, or swimming—improved sexual function in men aged 18-50. The potential for better sex life is excellent motivation to get more exercise,

When do men stop being sexually active?

If you think that people stop being sexually active when they get older, you would be wrong. Research shows that men have a sexual life expectancy well into their 70s. While it is true that sexual activity decreases with age, even the elderly are busy getting busy.

In fact, the 55 and older population has had a significant increase in sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) over the past few decades, including chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis, and HIV. While an increase in STDs may be alarming, it clearly indicates that both men and women keep having sex well into old age.

As men age, they tend to have less sex but have high satisfaction with their sex life. Aging and health can have significant effects on sexual function and satisfaction, but medical treatment and exercise can improve both sexual function and sexual satisfaction at any age. If you are concerned about decreased sex drive or sexual dysfunction, talk with your healthcare provider.

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Factor beyond hormone: What impacts male sexual health and why it is related to mental wellbeing

Sexual problems in men can occur on and off and at any age and most of them can be easily dealt with

Dr Lalitha Palle June 19, 2023 16:57:15 IST

This article is a repost which originally appeared on Firstpost.

Edited for content. The opinions expressed in this article may not reflect the opinions of this site’s editors, staff or members.

Key Points

‧ Testosterone and sperm level decline, hormonal imbalances, and male pattern baldness are becoming a more common occurrence in younger men.

‧ It’s believed various contributing factors are the cause.

‧ Negative relationship dynamics and emotional concerns can contribute to worsening sexual health.

The topic of male sexual health has gained importance recently as an alarming number of reports reveal reduced male hormones i.e Testosterone levels, in younger men, reduced sperm counts, and increasing incidence of erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, male Infertility or impotence and early onset of male pattern baldness among younger men, becomes a common occurrence.

There are also reports that state that with the alarming rate of male hormone imbalance, India is set to become the Impotency capital of the world! It is thus high time that we take note of this silent yet fast-spreading condition and start by understanding its causes and impact and how we can at least start by destigmatizing conversations around male sexual health.

Male sexual health is influenced by a variety of factors, including physical, psychological, and emotional well-being. While physical factors such as hormonal balance, cardiovascular health, and neurological function play important roles, mental well-being can significantly impact male sexual health for several reasons:

Psychological Factors: Sexual desire, arousal, and performance can be influenced by psychological factors such as stress, anxiety, depression, and self-esteem. Negative emotions and mental health conditions can affect libido, sexual confidence, and overall sexual satisfaction.

Relationship Dynamics: The quality of relationships and emotional connection with a partner can have a significant impact on male sexual health. Relationship issues, unresolved conflicts, or lack of intimacy can contribute to sexual difficulties and dissatisfaction.

Performance Anxiety: Many men experience performance anxiety, which is the fear of not being able to perform sexually to their or their partner’s satisfaction. This anxiety can stem from various sources, such as societal expectations, personal insecurities, or previous negative sexual experiences. Performance anxiety which is very common, especially in younger men, can interfere with sexual arousal, leading to erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation.

Body Image and Self-esteem: Body image concerns and self-esteem can affect sexual health. Men who have negative perceptions of their bodies may feel self-conscious and anxious during sexual encounters, impacting their ability to fully engage in the experience.

Stress and Lifestyle Factors: High levels of stress, unhealthy lifestyle habits, and poor self-care can contribute to sexual health problems. Stress can disrupt hormone production, reduce libido, and impair sexual performance. Lifestyle factors such as smoking, excessive alcohol consumption, and lack of exercise can also negatively impact sexual function.

It is essential to address both the physical and mental aspects of male sexual health. Seeking support from healthcare professionals, therapists, or counsellors can help individuals navigate and address the underlying psychological factors that may be affecting their sexual well-being. Open communication with partners, healthy lifestyles, and stress management can also contribute to overall sexual health and satisfaction. Sexual problems in men can occur on and off and at any age and most of them can be easily dealt with. Not speaking or discussing them will only lead to a vicious cycle of negative mental health and poor performance. Men should break free from the so-called ‘taboos’ and ‘stigmas’ to improve their lives’ quality.

The Impact of Erectile Dysfunction and Peyronie’s Disease on Men’s Lives

By Sarah Lowe – June 9, 2023

This article is a repost which originally appeared on PR NEWS BLOG

Edited for content. The opinions expressed in this article may not reflect the opinions of this site’s editors, staff or members.

Key Points

‧ ED sufferers often have challenges maintaining sexually healthy relationships.

‧ Peyronie’s can be painful when the bend get severe enough.

‧ Men should realize they are not alone in their suffering with ED and Peyronie’s.

Men’s sexual health is crucial for their general well-being. Most men feel confident in their usual day to day life when their sexual function is working properly. Unfortunately, there are some medical conditions that can cause a pernicious impact on sexual function in men. Peryronie’s disease and Erectile Dysfunction happen to be two such medical conditions that can cause abject misery to sufferers. (https://www.russillo.com/) Erectile Dysfunction is identified by the inability of achieving and maintaining erection during sexual activity and Peyronie’s disease is identified by the curvature of the penis which causes pain during erection. Issues like these can have a monumental, negative impact on men’s lives. In this article, we will try to explain how ED and PD can negatively affect the lives of men.

Physical Implications:

1. Erectile Dysfunction:

ED can hinder sexual performance and intimate relationships, leading to frustration, disappointment, and loss of sexual confidence. The physical inability to engage in sexual activities can strain relationships and cause feelings of inadequacy, guilt, and shame. Additionally, the stress and anxiety associated with ED can further exacerbate the condition, creating a vicious cycle.

2. Peyronie’s Disease:

Peyronie’s disease not only causes physical pain during erections but can also result in a significant penile curvature, making sexual intercourse difficult or impossible. The discomfort and embarrassment associated with the condition can lead to decreased sexual desire and avoidance of intimacy in men with PD altogether. Moreover, the distorted appearance of the penis may prevent sexual intercourse and cause self-consciousness and a negative body image, leading to feelings of isolation and depression.

Emotional and Psychological Impact:

1. Erectile Dysfunction:

The emotional toll of ED can be profound, causing feelings of frustration, low self-esteem, and depression. Men may feel inadequate and worry about their ability to satisfy their partners, leading to anxiety and performance-related stress. The fear of rejection or judgment can further contribute to emotional distress and hinder the development of healthy sexual relationships.

2. Peyronie’s Disease:

The psychological consequences of Peyronie’s disease can be equally debilitating. Men may experience embarrassment and ignominy due to the abnormal curvature of their penis. They may avoid seeking intimate relationships or withdraw from existing ones, fearing judgment or rejection. This isolation can result in feelings of loneliness, depression, and a loss of overall well-being.

Relationship Challenges:

1. Erectile Dysfunction:

ED can strain relationships, leading to communication breakdown, frustration, and a decline in emotional and physical intimacy. Partners may feel unattractive or blame themselves for their partner’s condition, causing feelings of inadequacy on both sides. The lack of sexual satisfaction and connection can lead to emotional distance, resentment, and, in severe cases, even relationship breakdowns. So, dating with Erectile Dysfunction can be very dangerous.

2. Peyronie’s Disease:

The physical and emotional challenges posed by Peyronie’s disease can also impact relationships. The pain and curvature associated with the condition may make sexual intercourse uncomfortable or impossible, leading to frustration and decreased intimacy. Partners may struggle to understand and support the affected individual, adding strain to the relationship. Open communication, empathy, and seeking professional help are crucial to navigate these challenges.

Seeking Help and Treatment Options:

1. Erectile Dysfunction:

It is important for men experiencing ED to recognize that they are not alone and that effective treatments are available. Seeking help from healthcare professionals, such as urologists or sexual health specialists, can provide a comprehensive evaluation of the underlying causes and appropriate treatment for Erectile Dysfunction. These may include lifestyle changes, medication, psychotherapy, surgical interventions or modern non-invasive treatments. Non-invasive treatments like shockwave therapy for ED and EMTT therapy have become very popular in recent years because of their ease of use and very little side-effects.

2. Peyronie’s Disease:

Men with PD should consult with a urologist specializing in sexual medicine or a Peyronie’s disease specialist. Treatment options may include oral medication, injectable medications, shockwave therapy or surgery, depending on the severity of the condition. Though shockwave therapy for Peyronie’s disease is a relatively new treatment option, it is very effective in breaking down the plaques within the penis. Psychological support and counselling can also play a crucial role in managing the emotional and psychological impact of the disease. For more information about Peyronie’s Disease, visit https://peyroniesforum.co.uk/

Conclusion:

So, men can suffer from Peyronie’s disease and ED both physically and mentally. If a man is experiencing these sexual issues, then it becomes really hard for him to maintain a healthy relationship with his partner and also to stay focused in day-to-day tasks. Fortunately, there are a wide range of treatments available to aid men in these kinds of scenarios. But just like any other treatment options, it’s advisable to get these treatments from reputable clinics who have prior experiences in treating these kinds of sexual issues in men. One such clinic is Shockwave Clinics Ltd. It is a London based clinic which specializes in treating ED, PD and other male sexual issues using revolutionary shockwave therapy. The clinic also offers other non-invasive treatments like EMTT therapy, Tesla Chair and NanoVi.

How Men Can Take Care of Their Sexual Health

What Men Can Do to Ensure Their Sexual Health Is Strong

Mental and physical care are both critical to a man’s libido and reproductive well-being.

Author: Helen Massy
Published: March 06, 2023

This article is a repost which originally appeared on Giddy

Edited for content. The opinions expressed in this article may not reflect the opinions of this site’s editors, staff or members.

Key Points

‧ Maintaining good sexual health is important for men.

‧ Mental health will have a large impact on sexual well-being.

‧ 20-30% of men in their 20s and 30s experience some form of ED.

Sexual health is an essential part of every man’s life. As well as protecting yourself from sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and diseases (STDs) or preventing unwanted pregnancies, sexual health is about having safer, satisfying sex and a positive and respectful approach to sexuality and relationships.

Understanding how to look after your sexual health benefits both you and your partner.

The best place to start is by getting to know your body and your reproductive system, and what’s normal and what’s not normal. This way, you can quickly identify any problems and seek medical support to address them.

There are multiple aspects to men’s sexual health, including physical health and mental health. Lifestyle factors influence all of these elements, either in a positive or negative way.

Men’s health and sexual health

A few of the essential aspects of a male’s sexual health are desire, erections and endurance, explained James J. Elist, M.D., a urologist in Beverly Hills, California, who specializes in impotence and male sexual dysfunction.

Being sexually healthy enables a man to fully participate in and enjoy sexual activity.

The body can’t just rely on physical health to create desire, erections and endurance, though. Physiology, mental health and emotional health can affect both libido and sexual function.

Male sexual health isn’t just about the ability to enjoy sex. It’s also about preventing STIs/STDs and identifying any problems with fertility. It’s about understanding how to prevent unwanted pregnancies and ensuring sex is consensual, respectful and safe for both partners.

Mental health and men’s sexual health

Mental health can directly impact sexual health and vice versa.

“Low libido, erectile dysfunction [ED] and premature ejaculation can all be exacerbated by negative mental health experiences, whether that’s traumatic experiences, relationship or professional workplace stress, depression or anxiety,” Elist said.

He explained that those negative mental health experiences can lead to worsened sexual performance, which in turn leads to more strains on mental health, driven by decreased self-confidence and self-worth as a result of poor performance in bed.

This leads to a negative cycle in which one feeds into the other.

“As such, it’s important to seek solutions early on to prevent any issues from worsening. Taking care of one’s mental health through therapy, meditation, etcetera can often improve sexual health issues as well,” Elist said.

If you find your mental health is affecting your sexual health, or problems with sex or sexuality are affecting your mental health, you can explore a number of options with your healthcare provider to address either issue.

Physical health and men’s sexual health

“It all begins with male libido,” Elist said of the connection between physical health and sexual health. “A man must have the desire to engage in sexual activity in the first place.”

Unfortunately, he said, as guys get older, libido tends to decrease as testosterone decreases. Obviously, for a man to be able to perform sexually, he must be able to achieve and maintain an erection. You can take steps to address this issue.

“As with testosterone and libido, erectile function also relies on staying healthy, particularly maintaining cardiovascular health, avoiding cigarettes and exercising frequently to get the blood pumping,” Elist said.

Once a man achieves an erection, he must maintain the erection and be able to last long enough to enjoy a sexually satisfying experience for both himself and his partner.

“Often, premature ejaculation can get in the way, which is why it’s important to limit stress and practice pelvic floor exercises if that’s an issue an individual deals with,” he said.

There is no need to suffer in silence if you have any problems with your libido, erection, ejaculation or performance. Seek help from your healthcare provider if you are experiencing problems, as many treatment options are available to help you feel comfortable and satisfied when having sex.

What’s a ‘normal’ sex drive?

Sex drive varies depending on a man’s age. Elist explained what happens to libido across the stages of life:

‧ In his early 20s, an individual can desire sex almost daily.

‧ Starting in his mid-30s, an individual’s testosterone levels begin to decrease by approximately 1 percent per year.

‧ Upon reaching his 60s, sexual desire may lessen even further for many men.

While there’s no “normal” level of sex drive for men, Elist stressed it is normal for levels to decrease over time.

“However, that trend can be partially mitigated and offset through regular exercise, eating healthy and maintaining a consistent sleep schedule,” he said.

Sexual health and reproductive health

“There are various issues that can impact an individual’s reproductive health and fertility, from stress to smoking to excessive testosterone use,” Elist explained.

To look after reproductive health, men should undertake a testicular self-exam routinely to ensure that there are no signs of lumps or tumors. Cancer is obviously a concern here, but fertility comes into the picture, too.

Testicular self-exams and examinations by a physician can help men identify the presence of a varicocele, a dilated vein inside the scrotum that can increase the temperature of the testicles and negatively affect sperm development, according to Elist.

Sperm counts decrease by an estimated 40 percent for every degree the testicles rise in temperature.

Elist also highlighted that the excessive use of testosterone or androgens could damage the testicles. Tobacco and frequent marijuana use can also decrease sperm count. All of these factors should be considered if a man is experiencing fertility issues.

Your healthcare provider can use various tests to help establish fertility problems, including the following:

‧ STI/STD testing
‧ Semen analysis
‧ Urinalysis
‧ Hormone testing
‧ Ultrasound scans
‧ Testicular biopsies

Complications and related conditions

The most common male sexual dysfunctions men should be aware of, according to Elist, include:

‧ Low testosterone
‧ Low libido
‧ Erectile dysfunction
‧ Premature ejaculation

ED is an issue that impacts more than half of all men at some point in their lives.

“While many think erectile dysfunction is an issue that only affects older men, it can actually impact 20 percent to 30 percent of men in their 20s and 30s,” Elist said.

Premature ejaculation is an issue that impacts nearly 40 percent of all men.

“It is characterized by sexual activity that often lasts one minute or less and sexual experiences which cause stress and frustration,” Elist explained.

You can address premature ejaculation issues with a combination of solutions that could include meditation, pelvic floor exercises, supplements, lidocaine sprays or prescription SSRIs, or selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors.

“Other issues, such as delayed ejaculation, retrograde ejaculation and Peyronie’s disease, are less common, but if an individual is experiencing any of those issues, then it’s important to discuss them with a urologist,” he added.

 

How Does Exercise Help Men Sexually?

How Exercise Improves Men’s Sexual Health

Being active is good for everyone, but there are benefits specific to males.

Author: Laura Williams Bustos, ACSM EP-C
Published: February 21, 2023

This article is a repost which originally appeared on Giddy

Edited for content. The opinions expressed in this article may not reflect the opinions of this site’s editors, staff or members.

Key Points

‧ Everyone can benefit from exercise.

‧ Men have specific reasons for maintaining fitness as they age.

‧ Exercise may help to prevent erectile dysfunction.

Men, women, children and anyone else can reap the benefits of exercise. From helping prevent weight gain to reducing the risk of major chronic diseases such as heart disease and diabetes, exercise is something for which everyone should make time.

But there are reasons men, specifically, should consider including physical activity in their day-to-day lives. These reasons include sexual health benefits as well as reducing the risk of sex-specific issues such as erectile dysfunction (ED) and prostate cancer.

Men’s exercises

The ins and outs of exercise are similar for all adults. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) outlines that all healthy adults should aim to accumulate at least 150 minutes of moderate-intensity aerobic exercise, such as brisk walking, every week. In addition, adults should perform at least two days of strength-building exercises, which target major muscle groups.

If you’re not currently exercising, this may sound overwhelming, but it breaks down to about 30 minutes of exercise per day, five days per week. And if strength-building exercises are performed in a circuit format, with little rest between exercises or sets, they can actually double as the recommended moderate-intensity cardio, too.

While there are lots of ways to meet this goal, a sample schedule may include:

  • Monday. A 15-minute morning walk plus a 15-minute evening walk.
  • Tuesday. Thirty minutes of strength training exercises performed as a circuit. For example, perform 10 repetitions each of bodyweight squats, pushups, walking lunges, dumbbell overhead shoulder presses, dumbbell row, triceps chair dips, dumbbell biceps curls and sit-ups. Then repeat the series two more times without rest between exercises or rounds.
  • Wednesday. Thirty minutes of pickup basketball or playing soccer at the park with your kids.
  • Thursday. Thirty minutes of strength training exercises performed as a circuit.
  • Friday. A 15-minute morning walk plus a 15-minute evening walk.

It’s important to remember that exercise preference plays a key role because if you can choose exercises you enjoy and can do confidently, you’re more likely to continue doing them.

For instance, a study published in 2018 by researchers from Virginia Commonwealth University found men were significantly more likely than women to enjoy weightlifting, while they were less likely to enjoy moderate-intensity cardio. So even if the CDC’s guidelines suggest doing “moderate-intensity cardio” for 150 minutes per week, it’s important to find options—like playing sports or strength training—that are most appealing to help you meet those overarching goals.

“Regular exercise decreases the risk of all diseases and mortality from all causes,” said Kirk Parsley, M.D., a sleep expert and retired Navy SEAL based in San Diego as well as a medical team member for LegacyExpeditions.net Triple 7 Expedition. “It also helps men maintain blood flow throughout the body, enhancing muscularity and reducing the severity of male pattern baldness. Blood flow to the skin and genitals also makes sexual dysfunction less likely and improves sensation during sex. Maintaining cognitive function through balanced neurochemistry and blood flow is one of the major benefits of regular exercise and, in many cases, can counteract the risk of inherited genetic diseases.”

Risks and benefits

When started slowly, conscientiously and progressively, an exercise program carries very few risks and offers a slew of potential benefits.

“If a man is completely untrained—has never exercised regularly in his life—and he is over 30-ish, he should be evaluated by a physician for serious cardiovascular risk as well as musculoskeletal stability and movement prior to starting an exercise program,” Parsley explained. “For example, if a man has always been overweight, has never played sports or wasn’t active growing up, he may well have some biomechanical deficits that would make certain exercises more dangerous than would be worth the risk. However, generally speaking, men are no more or less likely to get any specific injury from exercise. The exercise dictates the risk.”

If you haven’t exercised in some time, schedule a quick health screening with your doctor to make sure there aren’t any specific exercises to avoid. Then consider enlisting a trainer for a few sessions to help you perfect your form and start a safe, well-designed program.

Certain exercises pose a higher level of risk because performing them incorrectly (or doing too much too soon) can place undue stress on the joints. If you’re new to exercise, it’s best to ensure you’re doing each movement correctly.

“Dead lifts are risky for low back injuries, running is risky for knee and hip injuries, [and] swimming, boxing or any racket sport has a higher risk of shoulder injuries,” Parsley said.

Even if the risk of an injury is slightly elevated due to the specific movement, the risk can be mitigated by perfecting proper form and gradually increasing workout intensity.

“If you start by exercising at a moderate pace, tempo and intensity, and gradually add short bursts of higher-intensity exercise progressively over months to years, you can do any exercise without unreasonable risk-to-reward benefits,” Parsley said.

And about those rewards? They’re extensive. The National Library of Medicine’s MedlinePlus information resource highlights the following:

  • Boosts mental health and mood
  • Enhances sexual health
  • Helps keep cognitive health sharp with age
  • Helps manage blood sugar and reduces the risk of developing type 2 diabetes
  • Improves sleep
  • Increases the likelihood of living longer (and living better as you age)
  • May help you quit smoking
  • Reduces the risk of cardiovascular disease
  • Reduces the risk of falls
  • Reduces the risk of some cancers, including colon, breast, lung and prostate

It’s important to note that while these benefits apply to men and women, a few of them should be of particular interest to men.

“Regular exercise lowers the risk of diabetes and high cholesterol, as well as lowers the risk of high blood pressure, which is elevated, in particular, in this gender,” said Rathna Nuti, M.D., an orthopedic physician at DFW Sports Medicine in North Texas.

Exercise and sexual health

One of the reasons exercise is so beneficial for men lies in how it can benefit sexual health. Arguably, this could be one of the biggest motivating factors for starting and maintaining an exercise program.

Benefits to sexual health are not emphasized as often as some of the other reasons to exercise, such as reducing the risk of heart disease. However, the increased blood flow that helps reduce the risk of heart disease is actually the same reason exercise can improve sexual health.

“Regular exercise impacts men’s sexual health by increasing the circulation of blood flow to various areas of the body, which helps ensure a healthy circulatory system,” Nuti explained. “A strong, smooth blood flow is key for arousal, which helps with erections and increases libido in men. Men who exercise more often are less likely to suffer from sexual dysfunction.”

“Sexual health is hugely impacted by fitness, for endurance, strength, the ability to move in certain ways, hold certain positions and carry your partner’s weight,” Parsley added. “However, high-intensity interval training [HIIT], a certain form of exercise, has been shown to increase testosterone levels, as can weightlifting or competitive sports. Testosterone has an impact on sexual desire, sexual confidence and oftentimes erection quality and duration. Cardiovascular fitness is not only beneficial to sexual performance, but the reverse is true, too. Poor cardiovascular fitness is often associated with greater difficulty getting and maintaining an erection.”

Exercise and ED

As Parsley and Nuti both pointed out, the impact exercise has on blood flow and circulation can positively influence the ability to get and maintain an erection. Believe it or not, studies have investigated the kinds of exercise that make a difference.

A study published in 2018 in the journal Sexual Medicine observed the impact and results of multiple exercise interventions to improve ED and concluded 160 minutes of moderate- to vigorous-intensity exercise performed each week for six months would help decrease erectile problems in men with ED. The study authors recommended 40 minutes of this kind of training four days per week.

If you currently aren’t exercising and the thought of carving out two and a half hours per week from your schedule for exercise seems daunting, remember that something is better than nothing. You can work your way up to the goal of 150 to 160 minutes of exercise each week by starting with 10 to 15 minutes of exercise per day.

Consider all the ways it can benefit your health, including your sexual health, and you’ll soon realize that once the habit is formed, it’s going to be worth the effort and time. The trick is simply finding the form of exercise that you enjoy.

Q&A: Why holiday stress can affect men’s sexual health and how to manage it

 

By Dr. Tim Sandle Published December 13, 2022

This article is a repost which originally appeared on DIGITAL JOURNAL.

Edited for content. The opinions expressed in this article may not reflect the opinions of this site’s editors, staff or members.

Our takes:

‧ A number of men report lower sex drives during the holidays.

‧ It’s thought ED (Erectile Dysfunction) is becoming more common and also more openly discussed.

‧ Stress is believed to be the #1 culprit in ED.

Many men experience a much lower sex drive during the holiday season. Holiday stress, spending time with extended family (maybe in unfamiliar and less private surroundings), excessive drinking and overly-indulgent food – are all contributing factors to a lack of interest.

To discuss the many factors that affect the male libido, particularly during the holiday season, and how to address and manage them, Digital Journal sat down with Michael Werner, M.D, FACS, a board certified urologist and Medical Director and Founder of Maze Men’s Sexual & Reproductive Health in New York.

Digital Journal: We’ve been hearing more and more about erectile dysfunction (ED) lately. Is it becoming more common, or are people just more willing to talk about it?

Dr. Michael Werner: I think it safe to say it is a combination of both. Men are living longer, and with higher expectations of having a quality life, including a robust sex life, complete with a rigid erection. We have learned from research that ED is far more prevalent in younger men than we previously thought. For example, 20 percent of men in their 20s have some sort of erection problems. At the same time, it is pushed into the forefront through proliferation of online medication and support services, men’s magazines, and media in general.

This has all made the topic more approachable. Nationally, 1 out of 3 men have some sort of sexual function problem. It does takes men a much shorter time to come to terms with the fact that they have a sexual issue, and to seek treatment, even if it is just to access drugs on line.

DJ: Why is there is an increase in ED during the Holiday Season?

Werner: Stress is probably the #1 culprit here. Not only the stress of events and family get-togethers, but financial pressures of couples. In our practice we hear a lot of friction in couples worrying about how much money is being spent on holidays. Nothing kills sex like resentment or anger. Add to this, overeating, too much alcohol, and being overtired will all put a damper on any sex life.

DJ: Let’s talk about the stress – how can men best manage that when a lot of the holiday pressure seems out of their control?

Werner: Breathe! Taking care of yourself means minimizing stressful situations. You do not have to accept every invitation that comes along. It means stepping outdoors for a breath of fresh air or going for a walk when you have had enough of family dynamics. Better yet, go for a walk with your partner. Commiserating and talking about your stress with your partner, being open about your feelings, will often bring you closer together. Misery loves company! Laugh about the insanity around you.

It is important to maintain as much of your normal routine as possible. Work harder on getting to bed on time, exercise, avoid overeating and certainly avoid over drinking.

DJ: The holidays are known to increase symptoms of depression. Is this part of the equation as well?

Werner: Virtually all holidays have a lot of expectations around them. We have this ideal of what any holiday is supposed to look like. If our expectations are a Hallmark movie but reality more closely resembles Mad Magazine, we can get pretty frustrated. Holidays can also amplify feelings of loneliness or loss. Holidays are associated with memories and not all memories are pleasant. We encourage our patients to get involved in helping other people such as a soup kitchen or volunteering in their religious community.

DJ: You say we should avoid overeating and drinking too much. Isn’t that difficult during the holidays?

Werner: I really feel that for most people it’s not simply over-eating, it is that they are eating food in quantities they normally would not. Instead of one candy, it’s so easy to pop another candy, cookie, or holiday treat into your mouth as you walk by the kitchen counter. Pretty soon, the cookie tray is empty, and you are in a carb crash and feeling bloated.

Alcohol can be the same situation. It’s a party? Have another drink! The good news is that not drinking alcohol is very common in our culture now. Most people will respect your choice to not imbibe. If they don’t? You’re at the wrong party.

DJ: What steps can men take to improve sexual health during the holidays?

Werner: Eat well, sleep well, exercise well! The magic trio of good health applies to sex organs as well. But sexual health is not just body parts. Maintain physical intimacy. This is a good time to explore pleasure focused sex: massages, baths, and other non-penetrative activities. I think sometimes we don’t acknowledge that intercourse often requires a lot of energy and endurance for everyone! Buy each other a sex gift of some kind. Sexual health is emotional health and mental health as well.

Depression and erectile dysfunction: The link, causes, and treatment

What to know about depression and erectile dysfunction

Medically reviewed by Nicole Washington, DO, MPH — By Mary West on November 14, 2022

This article is a repost which originally appeared on MEDICAL NEWS TODAY.

Edited for content. The opinions expressed in this article may not reflect the opinions of this site’s editors, staff or members.

Our takes:

‧ There are many potential causes of Erectile Dysfunction (ED).

‧ Anxiety and emotional stress appear to be common underlying factors.

‧ Medical professional assistance is available for treating ED.

Research has shown that there is a link between the two conditions. If a person has depression, they have a higher risk of developing erectile dysfunction (ED).

The above information comes from a 2018 review published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine.

Researchers do not fully understand the connection. However, theories suggest the underlying causes may include sexual performance anxiety or antidepressant side effects.

If a person with depression experiences ED, their doctor may prescribe a medication such as sildenafil (Viagra). Alternatively, they may recommend trying a different antidepressant.

Read on to learn about the symptoms of ED, how depression can cause it, treatment options, and more.

Signs and symptoms of erectile dysfunction

The signs of ED include‧:

‧ ability to get an erection only sometimes, despite a desire to have sex

‧ inability to get an erection at any time

‧ ability to get an erection, but being unable to sustain it throughout sex

Can depression cause erectile dysfunction?

Research from 2018 evaluates 49 studies to determine the relationship between depression and ED. It finds that a person with depression was 39% more likely to have ED than a person without depression.

Experts do not fully understand the factors that underlie how depression may cause ED. However, the current theories include:

‧ Behavioral: Depression involves negative thoughts and low mood. Either or both can lead to performance anxiety that hinders erectile function.

‧ Antidepressants: Many people with depression take antidepressant medications to manage their symptoms. However, these medications can cause low libido and inhibit the ability to have or maintain an erection.

‧ Low testosterone: The male hormone, testosterone, plays a key role in sexual performance. As such, low levels often correlate to ED. There is an association between depression and low testosterone levels in men.

The previously mentioned 2018 review also finds that people with ED are 192% more likely to have depression. This means that the link between depression likely goes both ways. For example, a person with depression may have ED for the reasons listed above. Similarly, a person with ED may also be more likely to experience depression.

Low self-esteem, self-consciousness about sexual performance, and other negative thoughts could contribute to depression in people with ED.
Other causes

There are a wide variety of factors besides depression that can cause ED. They include:

physical health conditions, such as:

‧ type 2 diabetes

‧ high blood pressure

‧ heart and blood vessel disease

‧ multiple sclerosis

‧ Peyronie’s disease (curvature of the penis)

‧ chronic kidney disease

‧ surgery for bladder cancer

‧ injury to the penis or pelvic area

certain medications, including:

‧ antidepressants, such as fluoxetine (Prozac)

‧ blood pressure drugs, such as atenolol (Tenormin)

‧ tranquilizers, such as diazepam (Valium)

‧ antiandrogens (medications that block the effects of testosterone), such as bicalutamide (Casodex)

‧ appetite suppressants, such as phentermine (Adipex-P)

Mental health factors can also increase a person’s likelihood of ED. In addition to depression, these include:

‧ anxiety

‧ low self-esteem

‧ fear of sexual failure

‧ stress

‧ guilt about certain sexual activities

Treatment options

Treatment for ED and depression includes medication, lifestyle changes, and psychotherapy. The treatment a healthcare professional recommends depends on the underlying cause of a person’s symptoms.

Medications for erectile dysfunction

Older research from 2001 explains when depression and ED occur simultaneously, treating one condition may improve the other. The findings indicate that treating ED with Viagra can alleviate the issue and lead to a notable reduction in depression.

Despite this, the research did not investigate how long the improvement lasts.

Doctors commonly prescribe Viagra for ED. It works by relaxing the muscle and increasing blood flow to the penis during sexual arousal. Other medications in the class include:

‧ vardenafil (Levitra)

‧ avanafil (Stendra)

‧ tadalafil (Cialis)

Additionally, if a person has low testosterone, a doctor may prescribe supplemental hormones.

Another treatment option that can trigger an erection is alprostadil. This comes in the form of an injection (Caverject) or a suppository (Muse).

Medication change for depression

A study from 2017 notes that sexual dysfunction is a common side effect of many antidepressants. For that reason, changing medication can help. Low libido and difficulty maintaining an erection are common side effects of antidepressants. However, some medications are less likely to have these effects.

The study’s authors recommend the following antidepressants for people who consider sexual functioning important:

‧ desvenlafaxine (Pristiq)

‧ trazodone

‧ vortioxetine (Trintellix)

‧ vilazodone

Lifestyle changes

Lifestyle changes may also reduce symptoms‧ of ED. These changes include:

‧ stopping smoking, if applicable

‧ eating a nutritious diet

‧ exercising regularly

‧ maintaining a moderate weight

‧ limiting or stopping recreational drug use, if applicable

Psychotherapy

The following psychotherapy interventions may help a person manage the emotional and psychological effects of depression and ED.

‧ Sex therapy: This involves counseling partners about their relationship or sex-related concerns.

‧ Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT): This helps a person identify unhelpful thoughts and develop healthier ways of responding to challenges.

‧ Mindfulness therapy: This mental exercise consists of focusing on the present moment.

When to contact a doctor

If a person thinks they may have ED, it is a good idea to make an appointment with a doctor.

Additionally, people should seek medical attention if they have symptoms of depression. The sad feelings associated with depression last weeks and months, not days.

If they have suicidal thoughts, they should get immediate medical attention.

Suicide prevention

If you know someone at immediate risk of self-harm, suicide, or hurting another person:

Ask the tough question: “Are you considering suicide?”
Listen to the person without judgment.
Call 911 or the local emergency number, or text TALK to 741741 to communicate with a trained crisis counselor.
Stay with the person until professional help arrives.
Try to remove any weapons, medications, or other potentially harmful objects.

If you or someone you know is having thoughts of suicide, a prevention hotline can help. The 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline is available 24 hours a day at 988. During a crisis, people who are hard of hearing can use their preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.

Click here for more links and local resources.

Summary

People with depression are more likely to have ED, and ED is also associated with higher rates of depression. Symptoms of ED include being unable to attain and sustain an erection long enough to have sex.

If a person has both depression and ED, treating one condition is likely to improve the other. Medication and psychotherapy interventions, such as mindfulness, may help someone manage both conditions.

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Sexual Stamina: 10 Tips to Last Longer

Kristopher Bunting, MD

Updated on October 17, 2022

This article is a repost which originally appeared on healthnews.

Edited for content. The opinions expressed in this article may not reflect the opinions of this site’s editors, staff or members.

Whether you have problems with premature ejaculation or you simply want sex to last longer, there are many ways to last longer in bed. Making sex last longer can involve maintaining an erection for longer, delaying ejaculation, and reducing the time to achieve another erection after ejaculating. There are a variety of ways to improve your sexual stamina and make sex more satisfying for both you and your partner.

Key takeaways:

‧ There are many ways to improve male sexual stamina, including medications and sexual techniques. Increased foreplay and emotional intimacy may also improve sexual performance.

‧ Medications for erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation can improve stamina and sexual performance.

‧ Controlling sexual stimulation by using numbing sprays or gels, certain sexual positions, and other techniques can help men control when they orgasm.

How long should sex last?

Ideally, sex should last for as long as you want it to. Many people think of sex as penetration, but it can (and should) involve much more. Research shows that the average time until ejaculation during penetrative sex is between 5 and 6 minutes. For most people, achieving orgasm is the goal of sex. While 5 minutes of penetration (or less) will get many men where they want to get to, it takes longer for women to climax from penetration alone. So, how can you make sex last longer?

Foreplay

There is more to sex than just penetration and orgasm. Foreplay is important for mutual arousal; it gives you and your partner time to stimulate yourselves and each other. Take time to use all of your senses to get excited and prepare for the main event.

Kegel exercises

Kegel exercises can help both men and women strengthen pelvic floor muscles, improving continence and sexual function. A strong pelvic floor can help you control when you ejaculate.

Work on your relationship

Sex is both physical and mental. Both the body and the mind need to be stimulated and aroused to enjoy sex. Emotional intimacy plays a role in sexual arousal, especially in long-term relationships. Research has shown that emotional intimacy is linked to sexual desire. Furthermore, good communication in a relationship is linked to improved sexual satisfaction and decreased sexual dysfunction. Communicating sexual needs with your partner can improve sex and may help you last longer.

Medication

Medications used to treat erectile dysfunction (ED) and premature ejaculation (PE) can also improve sexual stamina. Commonly used antidepressants such as Prozac (fluoxetine), Paxil (paroxetine), Celexa (citalopram), and other drugs that raise serotonin levels in the brain can help delay ejaculation. While this can be an unwanted side effect for some, it can help people with PE have more control over when they orgasm.

ED medications can help some men recover more quickly after ejaculating and may improve sexual performance in men without erectile dysfunction. Viagra (sildenafil), Cialis (tadalafil), and other erectile dysfunction medications improve blood flow to the penis. This allows men with mild to moderate ED to have firmer, longer-lasting erections. Remember, these are prescription medications; you should not take them without first being evaluated by a doctor. They can have extremely dangerous interactions with other medications, including nitrates taken for chest pain or amyl nitrate and amyl nitrite (poppers) taken recreationally.

Reduce stimulation

Topical anesthetics are used to treat PE and can help men delay orgasms. A variety of topical numbing creams, sprays, and personal lubricants are available that reduce stimulation of the penis, including condoms with numbing lubricant. However, these can cause skin irritation and discomfort in some people, so check with your partner before using a topical anesthetic.

Other ways to reduce penile stimulation and delay orgasm include wearing a condom and using more lubrication. Wearing a condom not only helps prevent sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancy, but it can also decrease stimulation of the penis, especially thicker condoms. Using lubrication during sex can reduce friction and stimulation.

Techniques to delay orgasm

There are a variety of techniques that can be employed to help delay orgasm and ejaculation. Techniques recommended for people with PE include the squeeze technique (gently squeezing the head of the penis for several seconds) and the start and stop technique (stop penile stimulation for 30 seconds). Other techniques include pausing and taking a deep breath or shifting your focus away from sexual sensations during sex. In other words, slow down and take a moment to rest before you reach orgasm.

Masturbating before sex can help delay ejaculation, but timing is important. Practicing edging, bringing yourself to the brink of orgasm while masturbating, can help you learn how to recognize when you are about to orgasm and allow you to practice techniques to delay orgasm.

Try something different

There are many Tantric and Taoist sexual practices that can help control ejaculation and improve sexual pleasure for men and their partners. The “sets of nines” technique is an easy way to control mutual stimulation. It involves performing 9 sets of 9 controlled thrusts, beginning with 9 shallow thrusts, followed by 8 shallow thrusts and 1 deep thrust, then 7 shallow thrusts and 2 deep thrusts, and so on, ending with 9 deep thrusts. It is a simple technique, but it is very effective for controlling ejaculation and building up sexual excitement.

Certain sexual positions can help control ejaculation, especially positions that allow for grinding, as opposed to thrusting. Partner on top positions, the lotus position, and the Coital Alignment Technique can maintain constant stimulation for your partner while limiting stimulation to the penis from thrusting. Explore the Kama Sutra and other books for tips on which positions can help you control when you orgasm.

Get healthy

Overall health affects sexual function; eating a proper diet and getting enough exercise can improve your sexual health. Obesity, type 2 diabetes, high blood pressure, heart disease—all of these conditions can affect sexual function and they can all be improved or prevented through diet and exercise.

You can improve your sexual stamina

There are many ways for men to improve their sexual stamina. Foreplay, communication, and emotional intimacy can improve sex. Medications, condoms, and lubricants can delay orgasm and reduce stimulation. A variety of techniques can help men control when they orgasm, including techniques used for premature ejaculation and certain sexual positions. Give some of these a try and find out what works best for you.

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