Adjusting Training Erections & Stop and Starts Form- Ask The Experts

Adjusting Training Erections & Stop and Starts Form- Ask The Experts

Big Al, of MaleEnhancementCoach.com, answers questions about training erections and Stop and Starts form.

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Q. I have the opposite problem of a lot of guys…

When I train I get too erect for exercises too easily, especially girth exercises. What can I do to counter this?

Al: When you start on your girth exercise, choose an erection level ~10% LOWER than your goal. For the sake of simplicity, let’s use 70% as the target, so you’ll start with an erection level of 60%. Train until your erection gets to ~10% HIGHER than your goal (80%). This will ensure you more or less get the erect level average you need.

You may also try performing length work before girth work. Intense length work can tire the penis out temporarily. This could be the optimal time to perform girth work in your case- since you’ll be less inclined to getting over-erect.

Q. I try to do good with all of my exercises but my performance of the Stop and Starts is terrible!

The times in between my stops are erratic. I also have to stop and even let my penis get flaccid to get the necessary time added each workout. Is this OK?

Al: Unlike the directive given for the other exercises, the form for the Stop and Starts takes a backseat to the time from start to finish. This means even if you need to pause, allow your erection to diminish, etc.- the initial milestone for this exercise should be to get to 20-25 minutes from start to finish. Once this has taken place, we won’t need to concern ourselves with time and we can focus on the aspects of hardness and ejaculatory control.

Taking the above into account, don’t worry about timing your stops- only on timing from start to finish.

Side to Sides & Stop and Starts: Ask The Experts

Side to Sides & Stop and Starts: Ask The Experts

Big Al, of MaleEnhancementCoach.com, answers questions about Erect Kegel pauses, rest in the stretched state & tool use.

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Q. I’m interested in testing out the Side to Sides stretch for length.

All I’ve done before is high rep jelqing. Can I start with high reps for the Side to Sides? How long can I use them for?

Al: It would be good to test out 100 reps of the Side to Sides in your initial session. If you’re starting with any new exercise, start on the low end of the rep plan. You can always adjust upwards with your reps.  A good rule of thumb is to add anywhere between 5-10 percent volume per session for this exercise- at least until you get to 500 reps or more- then stay at ~5% per session.

The Side to Sides usually work well for 1-2 cycles. From there, more intense movements are needed to bust the almost inevitable plateau. That being said, we can keep using it for as long as you see fit to.

Q. I have sex one to days a week with my girlfriend.

The sex is quite good already but how can I get better at it and grow in confidence? I’m especially vulnerable to ejaculating too soon when I penetrate although I can get it up later.

Al: The best way to improve is to practice. Get more time and confidence with penetration, and you’ll develop mastery.

Something which can offer more immediate help is to ejaculate/orgasm LIGHTLY early in your encounter. This will mean stopping or pulling out during the act. The harder your orgasm the longer your refractory period, and the reverse is also true.

Practicing the manual Stop and Starts is your best alternative to live sexual contact if you need more training.

Side to Sides & Stop and Starts: Ask The Experts

Side to Sides & Stop and Starts: Ask The Experts

Big Al, of MaleEnhancementCoach.com, answers questions about Erect Kegel pauses, rest in the stretched state & tool use.

If you have questions you’d like answered in an Ask the Experts article, please PM Big Al.

Q. I’m interested in testing out the Side to Sides stretch for length.

All I’ve done before is high rep jelqing. Can I start with high reps for the Side to Sides? How long can I use them for?

Al: It would be good to test out 100 reps of the Side to Sides in your initial session. If you’re starting with any new exercise, start on the low end of the rep plan. You can always adjust upwards with your reps.  A good rule of thumb is to add anywhere between 5-10 percent volume per session for this exercise- at least until you get to 500 reps or more- then stay at ~5% per session.

The Side to Sides usually work well for 1-2 cycles. From there, more intense movements are needed to bust the almost inevitable plateau. That being said, we can keep using it for as long as you see fit to.

Q. I have sex one to days a week with my girlfriend.

The sex is quite good already but how can I get better at it and grow in confidence? I’m especially vulnerable to ejaculating too soon when I penetrate although I can get it up later.

Al: The best way to improve is to practice. Get more time and confidence with penetration, and you’ll develop mastery.

Something which can offer more immediate help is to ejaculate/orgasm LIGHTLY early in your encounter. This will mean stopping or pulling out during the act. The harder your orgasm the longer your refractory period, and the reverse is also true.

Practicing the manual Stop and Starts is your best alternative to live sexual contact if you need more training.

Stretching After Surgery, After Light Jelqs, Reverse Stop and Starts: Ask The Experts

Stretching After Surgery, After Light Jelqs, Reverse Stop and Starts: Ask The Experts

Big Al, of MaleEnhancementCoach.com, answers questions about stretching after surgery, what to do after training with light jelqs, and when you use the Reverse Stop and Starts.

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Q. I plan on having penis lengthening surgery soon…

but I want to know if I can still gain length doing stretches after the procedure.

Al: In my opinion, the surgical option should be a final option. If you do plan on going forward with a surgery it’s important for you to research the procedure fully. If there are no other issues after a surgery then you should actually stand to gain MORE length with a severed ligament.

What IS vital is that you ensure said ligament doesn’t reattach itself to your pubic bone. Your doctor should prescribe a regimen of light hanging or extending after your surgery to ensure this doesn’t happen. Also, it should be noted that a surgery of this type will force you to be out of commission sexually for 6 weeks. Other issues such as nerve damage and problems with healing can present themselves.

 

Q. I’ve been doing light jelqs and stamina work for a few weeks now.

They’re working great but I feel the need for more of a challenge. What would be the next best step to take?

Al: The next step would be to raise slightly the level of force used with the jelqs. The level of erection should be raised over time as well- though this tends to shift more of the growth emphasis towards girth.

If after an acceptable period there isn’t satisfactory growth due to a lack of intensity, we can look into more challenging movements. This may require splitting the enlargement portions of your workout to individually targeted length and girth exercises.

 

Q. I’ve been working out with male enhancement exercises for some months now but I have the opposite problem a lot of guys have.

Instead of ejaculating too quickly, it takes me a looong time and a lot of effort to orgasms. This might be from masturbating to porn for long periods of time. What can I do to fix this?

Al: If you’re having issues with porn use, please review the following: The Detraining Effect: Understanding and Reversing Negative Habits To Improve Erection Quality and Sexual Confidence

You can perform the “reverse” Stop and Starts to decrease your time to the PONR. The Reverse Stop and Starts is performed using an extremely light grip and attempt to ejaculate as quickly as possible. That should help to reset your sensory threshold.

Caution- it won’t take many of these sessions to reset your sensory threshold!

Various Kegel Types and Stop and Starts: Ask The Experts

Various Kegel Types and Stop and Starts: Ask The Experts

Big Al, of MaleEnhancementCoach.com, answers questions about various Kegels and Stop and Starts.

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Q. Why is it recommended to do only 3 stops in the Stop and Starts edging exercise?

And why only 20 to 25 minutes max? Why not, say, an hour?

Al: There are scenarios where one can use 4-10 stops or more- such as with the Extreme Stop and Starts. Essentially, when one isn’t able to last past the 5 minute mark, then more stops can be taken to get to the 5-10 minute mark. Once one get to ~10 minutes with, say, 10 stops, no more time is added but the stops are reduced.

There’s a reasoning behind the 20-25 minute threshold. Once one reaches this point, a level of proficiency is usually achieved which makes it much easier to maintain activity even beyond this point- whereas when one isn’t capable of maintaining some sort of erection under activity for up to 20 minutes, proficiency is comparatively diminished.

Some very advanced trainees do opt to go for up to an hour with the Stop and Starts. This particular version of the exercise becomes an all-inclusive exercise- with light jelqs, pulls, and Kegels all done under a very high erection level. The issue with this is overconditioning- where training creates a scenario where it take a lot of stimulation and time to ejaculate. By keeping an average of 20-25 minutes at 3 stops to the PONR, one gets the best of both world- control, but the option of ejaculating early on command.

All of this assumes you’re not regularly sexually active. If you are, then abide by the “60 Minute Rule”- which states: “For stamina training, a good rule of thumb is the 60 minute rule. If your sexual activity has you engaged in vigorous movements WITH a full erection for a total of 60 minutes or more per week, you can forgo the Stop and Start. For any time less than that, you should make it up in your training.”

Q. Before getting on these forums I though there was only one type of Kegel exercise.

Now I read about more than one, and some are not even flexing exercises! Is there a reference you can give me for them?

Al: It can be confusing when there are so many different variants of an exercise. The following should be a helpful reference: Minuteman’s Kegel Master List

 

EQ and Male Enhancement: Ask The Experts

EQ and Male Enhancement: Ask The Experts

Big Al, of MaleEnhancementCoach.com, answers questions about EQ and Male Enhancement.

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Q. Why do you stress EQ so much in your training philosophy?

What if my stamina is already good? Can I do away with performing the recommended stamina exercises?

Al: EQ or Erection Quality is a combined measure of stamina and hardness. This stat measures the literal life blood of the penis. It’s a useful stat for checking many aspects of male enhancement development in addition to mere stamina and hardness- like conditioning, mind state (when taken in conjunction with other stats) and whether or not a training break is recommended.

You can have great EQ, but if you’re looking to maximize your size gains then you’ll need to do what you can to get your EQ as high as possible. This is even if your EQ is more than satisfactory for sexual performance. While some correlate EQ as being a factor in “newbie” gains (which it undoubtedly is), it needs to be understood the EQ is also a huge factor in achieving advanced trainee gains as well- see: Types of Gains in Penis Enlargement.

Maintaining high EQ is also important for maintaining size gains after you’ve achieved your enlargement goals.

Q. What can I do to get my EQ as high as possible?

Al: If you’re new to male enhancement training, then exercises like Kegels and edging/Stop and Starts will be very helpful. You should also take care to do what you can outside of male enhancement to maximize your EQ gains- namely: performing regular, intensive cardiovascular exercise, maintaining a heart healthy lifestyle, and taking care to do something to encourage positive emotional health. (amissionofmercy.org)

For advanced stamina training, exercises like Towel Raises, Super Kegels, and the “Master Your Orgasms” exercise will be useful.

Stamina Training & Sexual Performance: Ask The Experts

Stamina Training & Sexual Performance: Ask The Experts

Big Al, of MaleEnhancementCoach.com, answers questions about Stamina Training & Sexual Performance.

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Q.  Big Al, I have a few questions concerning my stamina workout and sexual performance…

1) This one doesn’t matter if it’s with a woman. I read that I should masturbate up to couple of seconds before ejaculating. Is that how it should be done or when I feel that the end is about to come – my pelvic floor starts tensing and I know that I’ve lost control over it – when should I stop, first or second ?

2) Are there some positions that you suggest since I need to have full control over the motions?

3) And I understood that I shouldn’t do the stop and starts if I have sex more than three times a week?

4) Since in the past I managed easily to get erection after finishing once or just maintaining it , is it bad to cum 3 to 4 times per evening when with a partner ?

5) And when cumming 3 or 4 times do you suggest doing the Stop and Start each time or just the first time ?

Big Al: Thanks for your questions! I’ve answered them in the order they were received:

1) Performing the techniques of the Stop and Starts during sexual activity is a superior practice to the manual version, but also more difficult to control. You’ll need to experiment with learning how you feel when you’re building up to ejaculation. If your pelvic floor begins to flutter this is a good sign you’re getting close. Slowing/stopping at this time should allow you to hold off ejaculation/orgasm. Learning when to stop and the timing in which you Kegel in reference to approaching the PONR is going to take practice.

2) Missionary position allows you maximum control, and when performed correctly is often the preferred position for giving a woman orgasms.

3) You should limit the MANUAL Stop and Starts as per the “60 Minute Rule” outlined in the Stamina Exercises section. You can have as much sexual contact as you can handle, but please be aware that sex can be considered a form of training. If you’re engaging in a lot of sex (several hours a day, multiple days per week) this will cut into your recovery. You may need to take extra days off between your enlargement sessions to account for this. Compound this with other types of training and you can see how you’ll need to optimize your recovery if you wish to be able to handle it all.

4) If you can recover enough to engage in 3 to 4 bouts of sexual activity per evening then more power to you 🙂

5) Practicing during live sexual activity is different from manual training. I don’t want to place any positive limitations on you (which includes the number of “stops”), but you should ensure you’re attempting to increase your time each session.

 

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Pumping, Porn, & the Stop and Starts Exercise: Ask The Experts

Big Al, of MaleEnhancementCoach.com, answers questions about Pumping, Transitioning away from porn, and the Stop and Starts Exercise for the high EQ trainee in this Ask the Experts article.

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Q. I researched yesterday about pumping…

…and everyone on every forum recommends no more than 40 minutes per day, usually split into 2 sessions throughout the day.

What do you think about that? Isn’t the “extreme” pumping of 2+ hours maybe too extreme and dangerous? The last think I want is to permanently damage my penis.

Big Al: The “Extreme Pumping” guideline you’re referring to is for advanced pump training. It’s exceeding rare for anyone to work up to two hours of pumping, and you certainly wouldn’t start off at 40 minutes+ per day!

My initial recommendation (as seen HERE) is to start with FIVE minutes of pumping a day. That being said- as with any activity- you build conditioning with time and effort. As long as you progress with very small but regular increases to your training loads- and you’re monitoring your EQ and other PIs- there should be no reason why you wouldn’t be able to work up to 40+ minutes.

Q. I have read the three-part Detraining article. As I understand it…

…the transition period you mention consists of abstaining from porn as well as physical stimulation until I adapt the lack of porn stimulus and my EQ naturally improves again. At that time I can start the stamina routine once more.

Would you recommend still doing daily kegels? Not erect kegels due to the physical stimulus required but kegels in a flaccid state which can be performed anywhere and anytime throughout the day. Since the kegel exercise plays a prominent role in EQ as well I would like to continue a daily flaccid kegel regimen for continued PC muscle improvement. What are your thoughts regarding this?

Big Al: The tough part is the (usually) weeks long process of going from a lack of porn and poor adaptation to turning the corner on it. This demands you approach your training objectively- see it as a tool towards improved gains and not as something to get stressed about. Accept the fact that there’s going to be that necessary period of transition, and it’ll make it much easier for you to adapt.

You can perform flaccid Kegels but they should be part of a structured regimen. You do NOT want to overtrain the pelvic floor! That being said, you should strive to do your best to perform kegels with an erection.

You should also strive to develop the capacity to perform Erect Kegels- AND you should include the Stop and Starts exercise in your training repertoire to speed up the conditioning process.

Q. You recommended doing Stop and Starts. On your website…

…I’ve read that this exercise is for building endurance.

I don’t have any stamina problems – quite the opposite: sometimes it takes me quite a while to finish. And if I have sex for a long period of time, I tend to lose my erection a bit I don’t think I need to build more endurance in terms of “lasting longer” but “lasting harder”. Also if I go for a second round, it’s a lot harder to get an erection and more common to lose it.

Big Al: The Stop and Starts is the most inclusive exercise you can perform in that it aids in ALL aspects of male enhancement development. If one had time to perform only one male enhancement exercise it should be the Stop and Starts.

For the purposes of enlargement training, having as high a level of EQ as you can develop will be vital to maximizing gains. You’ll need to aim for an even higher level of EQ than you’d expect for unencumbered sexual performance.

In your case, you might consider performing the “Reverse” Stop and Starts to decrease your sensory threshold.

In-Depth stamina Training Questions: Ask The Experts

Big Al, of MaleEnhancementCoach.com, answers questions about Lengthening Devices, Client Study & Sexual Recovery/Training in this Ask the Experts article.

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Q. By the time I’m done I’m tired and it’s a struggle to get the proper erection levels.

…Can I just do the stamina stuff first? Why do you recommend doing stamina exercises at the end of a workout?

Big Al: There are deliberate reasons for putting the stamina exercises at the end of a workout:

-Stamina exercises in and of themselves become better ENLARGEMENT exercises after the tissues have been pre-stretched with more traditional enlargement exercises like Squeezes and stretches.

-If one can get to the point to where they can perform a successful stamina session after a thorough enlargement workout, then performing fresh for sexual activity will be much less of a challenge. This is true on physical and psychological levels.

-The Stop and Starts usually ends in ejaculation. Ejaculating and then attempting to train immediately afterwards can be uncomfortable.

Q. When you talk about emotional visualizations and not fantasizing about sex, this makes it harder for me to perform.

…What is your reasoning behind this? Are there any exceptions to this rule?

Big Al: It’s understandable that using erotic imagery- porn or mental fantasies- make the process of getting and maintaining an erection easier. The main reason why you want to ensure you’re not using erotic imagery in your training is that it creates a conditioning effect.

Here’s a very common example: You’re having sex and your penis starts to falter in it’s erection a bit. You go into your mind and think about whatever you typically use to masturbate to- a favorite porn clip, a prior scenario, etc. What normally happens is you achieve the desired effect- your penis gets erect, and you finish the session.

Afterwards, you ask yourself why do I have to think about other things when I’m with a live partner? As before, the reason is conditioning. By learning to develop focus on what you’re feeling during manual Stop and Starts, you learn to extract maximum sensory benefit from the activity. That way, when you’re engaging in live sexual activity you’ll be able to focus solely on your partner and not have to rely on mental erotic imagery.

There’s an exception to this rule. If you’re in a committed relationship you can fantasize about your partner. That way, you’re matching up what’s in your mind to reality.

Q. I find it’s easier to maintain an erection if I perform a lot of Kegels during my Stop and Starts.

…Is this OK?

Big Al: A well timed Kegel can be useful in helping to hold back or accelerate erections. When the process is refined, it can even allow one to experience Male Multiple Orgasm (MMO). Even the occasional Kegels during the movement to give your erection a boost is OK, but you don’t want to spend the entire Stop and Starts session Kegeling.

One reason is overtraining. If you follow a standard stamina protocol you’re going to be performing Kegels before your Stop and Starts. A more vital reason is negative conditioning. MANY who’ve Kegeled excessively during Stop and Starts eventually find they have to Kegel constantly just to maintain an erection. For obvious reasons, this isn’t a requirement you want to impose upon yourself.