Side to Sides & Stop and Starts: Ask The Experts
Big Al, of MaleEnhancementCoach.com, answers questions about Erect Kegel pauses, rest in the stretched state & tool use.
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Q. I’m interested in testing out the Side to Sides stretch for length.
All I’ve done before is high rep jelqing. Can I start with high reps for the Side to Sides? How long can I use them for?
Al: It would be good to test out 100 reps of the Side to Sides in your initial session. If you’re starting with any new exercise, start on the low end of the rep plan. You can always adjust upwards with your reps. A good rule of thumb is to add anywhere between 5-10 percent volume per session for this exercise- at least until you get to 500 reps or more- then stay at ~5% per session.
The Side to Sides usually work well for 1-2 cycles. From there, more intense movements are needed to bust the almost inevitable plateau. That being said, we can keep using it for as long as you see fit to.
Q. I have sex one to days a week with my girlfriend.
The sex is quite good already but how can I get better at it and grow in confidence? I’m especially vulnerable to ejaculating too soon when I penetrate although I can get it up later.
Al: The best way to improve is to practice. Get more time and confidence with penetration, and you’ll develop mastery.
Something which can offer more immediate help is to ejaculate/orgasm LIGHTLY early in your encounter. This will mean stopping or pulling out during the act. The harder your orgasm the longer your refractory period, and the reverse is also true.
Practicing the manual Stop and Starts is your best alternative to live sexual contact if you need more training.