The Zen of PE (from The Ultimate Guide To Male Enhancement)

The Zen of PE (from The Ultimate Guide To Male Enhancement)

The following is a chapter taken from the book: The Ultimate Guide To Male Enhancement.

By Rockitman

How a young man looked for a bigger penis and along the way found strength of character.

A young man comes to PEGym dejected, rejected and down and out. Maybe it was the girlfriend who bragged about the anaconda her former lover had in his pants, or he’s inexperienced and had some ‘performance anxiety’ his first time out of the chute. Maybe it’s just his mental-image of his penis is frozen in time from when he was 10 years old. Whatever the reason, he came here looking for something: a bigger, better penis.

Of course,everyone knows a bigger penis cures ALL of a man’s woes, right?

So he lurks some websites and lands here at PEGym, launches into the JP-90 beginner’s routine with all the faith and diligence that he can muster, stretching and Jelqing with textbook precision and form. He learns what BPEL means, and has reverse Kegels down to a science. Along the way he trades techniques, experiences, his opinion on women and even a joke or two with kindred souls on the forums. He then makes some modest gains in a few months; strengthens muscles he REALLY didn’t know he had and enjoys the enhanced sexual performance that comes with it.

Our intrepid young man is now well-versed in the advanced techniques of PE and he’s made some gains. Granted, he’s not slinging his member over his shoulder, but the results of his efforts are somewhat noticeable, even if only to himself. By now he’s an old hand at PE and is giving advice to others, gaining him a slew of rep-points and a certain degree of respectability among those in the forums. This newly-found confidence has permeated other aspects of his life: at work or school, people comment “you changed your hair-style, didn’t you?” or “Are you working out?” (plead the 5th on that one!) Girls begin to notice him more.

It’s gotta be that new bulge in his jeans from the inch he gained in length and the quarter inch in girth from almost a year if PE, right? Or maybe it’s the fact that our hero achieved a goal he set for himself, or maybe he hasn’t quite achieved it yet, but he’s well on his way there.

Much like the kid who got picked on one-too-many times in school and joins a dojo to learn martial arts to become a Grand Master as an adult, he transcended even the actual physical aspect of PE and found that the answer was not in his penis, but in his character. Whether its building a better penis, becoming adept at self-defense, able to run long distances, there comes a point in which a diligent and conscientious practitioner of almost any endeavor of “superficial” self-improvement transcends the physical aspect itself, and he finds strength, not just in the physical sense, but psychologically and spiritually as well.

THERE’S A LOT MORE TO PE THAN MEETS THE EYE!!

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Penis Enlargement: Just Another Form of Vanity? (from The Ultimate Guide To Male Enhancement)

Penis Enlargement: Just Another Form of Vanity? (from The Ultimate Guide To Male Enhancement)

The following is a chapter taken from the book: The Ultimate Guide To Male Enhancement.

Penis Enlargement: Just Another Form of Vanity?

The following was taken directly from a “Question and Answer” exchange:

Question

To me there is a bit of irony in your profession and your view on sex, if you truly feel the way you do about sex, then why do you do what you do… if you feel men don’t need a bigger penis or learn how to use it better, then why do you teach men both of these things? I feel like your point of view on sex and what you do for a living just don’t match.

I understand where you’re coming from, and I completely agree. Sex has been skewed in America by the media and, yes, I fell for it; I admit that. But, even with that said, it’s nice to have a good-sized penis and know how to use it…don’t you think so? It’s like a man wanting to be fit or get muscles, so they go to the gym. If a woman wants to have a fit body, with firmer legs and ass, they go to gym to do so. I feel men getting or wanting a bigger penis is no different. Why can women pay to get bigger boobs and ass and us as men have to stay with the penis size we were born with?

As I earlier said, I totally agree with your view on sex today, but do you think it’s wrong for me or anyone for that matter to want a bigger penis and learn how to use it like a porn star and learn how to please most women? I think sex is a beautiful thing. Even though I agree I am one of those you speak of falling for the idea of having to be like a porn star to be great in bed, I don’t think it’s a bad thing to want to be one.

That’s one of the things I wanted ever since I was in my early teens and just decided to do something about it now. Though I hurt myself bad, I thought you’d be the one to 1) help me heal as fast as possible 2) help me get the perfect size and stamina I always wanted. It’s like asking you to train me at the gym to get the body I always wanted. As I said before, I don’t anything wrong with wanting that and/or wanting to please most women in the bedroom. I think you and I both know that a 5 1/2-inch penis that’s not thick at all on most girls won’t cut it.

Answer

It’s about perspective. Do you engage in self-improvement activities because you enjoy the challenge and benefits, or do you do it because you feel inferior and because you’re plagued by feelings of emotional inferiority? There’s nothing wrong with sex. It’s one of life’s greatest pleasures, but it’s important you put sex in the proper context of your life.

The TRUE irony about all of this is men who suffer from self-doubt often suffer from those sexual issues (or have them compounded) BECAUSE of the doubt itself! For those men, male enhancement can give them the confidence they need to make changes in other areas of their life. It allows them to get their foot in the door, so to speak. I still wish to help you with your training, but I also want you to feel emotionally whole, which is much more important than the mere pursuit of enlargement.

Imagine having the confidence about not worrying either way what someone else thinks and if they like it then more power to you. Having TRUE confidence can be much more impressive than merely having a large penis. You can have both, which covers the question you had mentioned in your first sentence. THIS is the part of my teaching I’ve been focusing more on, and I expect soon the coaching will focus exclusively on these and other more challenging projects.

Let’s get down to the essence of what I’m trying to talk to you about – the ego. While people’s youths have typically been defined as the time for the exploration of the ego, modern culture has perverted this into this monstrous idea where not only do you have to be perfect in order to be somebody, but you should be better than others, in order to rank above them. I can expand on this further and get into the sexual improprieties you’re expected to partake in, but surely you get the picture. You may be at an age where many young men strut around, show off and engage in reckless relationships and activities.

You feel deprived in some way, not only due to what you perceive to be a disability of some sort, but also due to how you’re expected to perform. By all means, as a human, on some level you’re going to feel cheated, but your particular situation presents you with a challenge, should you get through it.

You’ll become the type of person

1. Others will admire for their inner strength (surely, you’ve met people who may not have been physically attractive but exuded a presence or aura which seemed irresistible), and

2. You’ll be so emotionally strong you won’t be as prone to falling prey to emotional traps. That’s going to take YOU going inside yourself and confronting your fears and seeing them for what they are. Until you do that, issues will continue to pop up, and you’ll have one worry after another to keep you busy. Some men spend their entire lives caught in those types of traps.

Confidence is when you’re happy with yourself enough such that what others may think or say about you in a negative fashion isn’t able to truly affect you. This isn’t to say your feelings won’t be hurt, but you’ll understand the real issue is with the person making specific demands of you, not you. It’s all about the ego.

Working on going beyond the ego is a work in progress. Depending on where you’re at emotionally, some people need ego-strengthening to get them out of feelings of suicide. Confronting your fears and why you have them in the first place will help you get started. Valuing yourself above your physical/material attributes will also help.

Please allow me to be very clear when I say wanting to please others is NOT what I was referring to exactly. There’s nothing inherently wrong with that or wanting to be bigger, etc.; however, the problem arises when you think you have to do these things in order to be complete. This is especially true when those feelings of being incomplete are so powerful, they cause life-crippling effects. This is due to ego-driven FEAR, and it’s this particular issue I’m trying to help you get over.

What is stopping you from being able to perform? It’s the very thing we’re attempting to help you with, as described. Now, what if we rephrased your writing to something like: Imagine being free of the fear to be the best a potential sexual partner has ever had. Imagine being free enough to be able to let go of any anxieties enough so you can tap into passion, while you’re with someone. The sex is so intense and natural, and all you feel is pleasure – no hang ups, no worries – just pure enjoyment.

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Jimmy’s Thoughts: What I Learned From PEGym

Jimmy’s Thoughts: What I Learned From PEGym

Some of you may know me as only an Editor but I’ve been a lurker on PEGym for years. I don’t do enlargement works since most of what I do revolves around improving sexual performance. Part of this involves how to think about sex.

There are so many men here who suffer for all the wrong reasons. I can’t blame them since I used to think the same way though thankfully I didn’t dwell too much on it. My life has been pretty great even if average. What I have is peace. This comes from learning to love yourself and not caring too much about what others may think of you. Most of the older members of the site get it. They learned from experience how if you don’t value yourself then you can’t expect others to.

We live in a time where women can do just about anything a man can do for the most part. This includes playing the sexual power game. I’m an older guy and can remember when things were a bit different. Not that power games didn’t exist then but it’s just seemed to hit an all time low. Young guys and not so young guys on the forms making themselves miserable over potential mates where the objective is just sex. More like mutual masturbation in a way. So much misery over so little love! It’s an ego game being played on both ends!

If you’re going to get into penis enlargement training then do it or yourself! I have less years ahead of me than in front of me. One thing I can say I’ve learned in my time here on Earth is that it all goes so fast! You blink, and you’re over 50, fighting old man problems. Life is too short to worry about ego games and about satisfying people you don’t even know!

Listen to the wisdom of the moderators and admins of this site. They care and it shows! Most of them have a lot of life experience and just want to see others not make some of the same mistakes they made.

I hope you got something out of my ramblings. Hopefuly I can write some more for this great forum!

Sincerely,

Jimmy

Healthy Mindset is Key to Healthy Sexuality

Last time we went over all the six sex secrets, and if you didn’t read that overview yet, it’s essential that you first read the overview and only then continue with reading this article here.

Healthy Mindset is Key to Healthy Sexuality

Not too many men realize that the quality of their mindset plays a critical role in the quality of their sexual life. In this article, we will briefly explore this hidden link between mindset and sexuality.

I can talk about this subject for few days straight, but I want to keep this article short and to the point, because I have five more sex secrets to tell you about, so I choose to explain to you here a concept I call “The Mindset and Penis Connection.”

Did you know that your sexual performance is affected not only by how good you are in bed or how long you can last, but it’s first and foremost influenced by how you think (AKA “your mindset”)?

I’ll give you here a good example that will make this point very easy to understand:

Imagine a guy who has performance anxiety, and he’s now about to make love to a woman. Will you agree with me that he’ll probably have a hard time getting a super hard erection that stays hard because of the anxiety and all the worries he has in his head?

The same happens with premature ejaculation because if during sex, a man starts to fixate on the idea that he won’t be able to hold it, he’ll be more likely to experience premature ejaculation (that’s a fact).

Can you begin to see how the penis is influenced by how the mind thinks?

I hope that by now, you begin to see the mindset-penis connection, and maybe you can even remember a time when something similar happened to you in the past.

The Sexual Confidence Loop

I have good and bad news for you, and they are both the same!

The news is that your mindset works like a spiral.

You can make it stronger and stronger in a positive way and master your mind. Or you can let it take you down to a negative place deeper and deeper, and in the end, it will master you.

To illustrate that, imagine a guy that just had sex, and it was terrible and humiliating because he had some performance issue this time for whatever reason.

How do you think he will approach sex the next time?

In most cases, the answer is that he will probably have a bit more performance anxiety, which will negatively affect his erection and performance even more. In the end, he will probably end up feeling even worse with even more performance anxiety.

On the other hand, now imagine that a different guy that just had sex and everything was great and his sexual partner really enjoyed it and even complimented him in the end about how good he is in bed.

How do you think our second guy will approach sex the next time?

I guess that he will probably approach it with even more passion, which will allow him to have a stronger erection and project more sexual confidence, which will likely make the act more enjoyable for his partner.

Can you now see how your mindset evolves in a reinforcing loop/spiral for better or for worse? Do you now understand how important your mindset is when it comes to your sexuality and why you should pay attention to it?

In conclusion:

If you want to master your sexuality as a man, you first need to start paying attention to how you think, be aware of the sexual confidence loop and do whatever you can to make it stronger and stronger in a positive way.

And remember that it’s all in your head!

About the Author:

David Finer is the man behind VibratingLove.com. He was written extensively on matters related to male enhancement and sexuality, and has written this article specifically for PEGym members looking to get a better understanding of their overall sexuality.