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January 27, 2023
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You may have heard the commonly repeated adage that men reach their sexual peak in their late teens and women reach their sexual peak in their 30s.
Key takeaways:
‧ Men have more sex, more orgasms, and more sex drive in their teens and twenties, but not necessarily more satisfying sex.
‧ Testosterone levels and sexual function decrease with age, but sexual satisfaction can increase.
‧ Sexual wisdom comes from experience. Getting older can lead to better sex.
It turns out that this is not necessarily true. If you think that you are past your sexual prime just because you are getting older, you may find that better sex is still on the horizon.
What is a sexual peak?
What defines a person’s sexual peak? Is it having more orgasms, more sex, or more satisfying sex?
Dr. Alfred Kinsey published Sexual Behavior in the Human Male in 1948, the first scientific study of sexual activity in humans. The claim that men reach their sexual peak in their teens is based on the finding that men had more orgasms in their teen years than in any other age range. However, this includes both sexual intercourse and masturbation and says nothing at all about how often young men have sex or their sexual satisfaction.
When it comes to sexual activity, men tend to have the most sex when they are in their 20s. As men grow older, sexual desire and sex drive decrease while sexual problems increase, leading to less frequent sexual activity. More sex is good, but is it better?
If sexual satisfaction is your benchmark for reaching the male sexual peak, then it may have less to do with hormones, sex drive, and quantity of sex and more to do with the quality of sex. Like a fine wine, sex can improve with age.
When do men have the best sex?
Both men and women tend to be more sexually active in their 20s, but they do not necessarily have a more satisfying sex life. Sex drive is highest in men in their 20s and decreases with age, along with testosterone levels. As sex drive decreases with age, erectile dysfunction and other types of sexual dysfunction increase. In other words, men tend to have less sex and more sexual problems as they age.
However, none of that matters when it comes to sexual satisfaction. Research has found that while sexual function decreases in men—especially after age 50—sexual satisfaction isn’t strictly determined by age. According to the same study, overall sexual satisfaction was highest in men in their 20s but is almost as high in their 40s and 50s. Sexual satisfaction only showed a significant decrease after age 60. One could say that men have several different sexual peaks: first in their 20s, then again in their 40s with a significant peak in their 50s.
Sexual satisfaction
Sexual satisfaction is affected by many different factors, including being in a committed relationship and living with your partner. Research shows that physical and mental health play important roles in determining sexual satisfaction, especially as people age. Overall health and sexual function tend to decline as we grow older, but that doesn’t mean that sex can’t be as good at age 50 as it was at age 30. Evidence suggests that it can be even better.
Research has also found that men have a better sex life than women as they get older. As men age, they are more sexually active, have better quality sex, and are more interested in sex than women of the same age.
Altogether this shows that sexual wisdom plays a significant role in sexual satisfaction. With age comes experience, such as communicating expectations and knowing how to deal with problems that arise during sex. Practice makes perfect; this is as true for sex as it is for playing tennis. Experience—and the lessons learned from experience—can make sex better and more satisfying.
Sex can get better as you get older
Your sexual peak is probably not when you think it is. Younger men have a higher sex drive, more sex, and more orgasms than older men, but that doesn’t mean that the quality of sex or sexual satisfaction is any better for younger men than older men.
Overall health, both physical and mental, plays a more important role in sexual satisfaction than age. Men experience more sexual dysfunction as they get older, but modern medicine has made it possible to keep having sex well into old age. Staying healthy can make your sex life better; this becomes increasingly important as you get older.
In the final analysis, men do not have a single sexual peak. Having a satisfying sex life is possible at just about any age. You may have less sex as you get older, but that sex can be better than ever. If you are under 50, your sexual peak may still lie ahead of you.
Resources:
1. APA PSYCNET. Sexual Behavior in the Human Male.
2. International Journal of Impotence Research. Sexual Functioning in a Population-Based Study of Men Aged 40-69 Years: The Good News.
3. BJU International. Assessment of Male Sexual Function by the Brief Sexual Function Inventory.
4. Deutsches Ärzteblatt International. Health, Sexual Activity, and Sexual Satisfaction.
5. BMJ. Sex, Health, and Years of Sexually Active Life Gained Due to Good Health: Evidence from Two US Population-Based Cross-Sectional Surveys of Ageing.
The following is a chapter taken from the book: The Ultimate Guide To Male Enhancement.
Our Takeaways:
· Delayed Ejaculation (DE) can be caused by a number of factors
· Poor masturbation habits in conjunction with pornography use appears to be a chief contributing factor to DE
· There are methods for mitigating and even reversing DE- to include exercises
Another less common, less understood but still notable issue is delayed (or impaired) ejaculation. This is a problem on the opposite end of the sexual spectrum from premature ejaculation. Delayed ejaculation is when an inordinate amount of intense stimulation and/or time is required to ejaculate. An extreme version of this problem can manifest itself in a condition known as anorgasmia- or the inability to orgasm. The clinical definition of delayed ejaculation is when you suffer from this condition for six months or greater.
The most common cause of delayed ejaculation among younger men is due to poor masturbation habits. As men age, delayed ejaculation becomes more common. For men over the age of 50, the chance of experiencing delayed
ejaculation increases significantly, even without negative masturbatory conditioning.
A high frequency of ejaculations can also lead to temporary delayed ejaculations, as well as exhaustion and lowered libido. This becomes more notable as men age, as it’s common for the refractory period to lengthen. The remedy for delayed ejaculation caused by ejaculating too frequently is simply to avoid ejaculating for a few days to ensure full recovery.
The causes of age-related delayed ejaculation may be related to lowered androgen levels, though some men with
normal levels of androgens still appear to suffer these effects. If this is the case, specific treatments, as prescribed by a medical professional, or supplementation may be of assistance with this.
Certain medications can induce delayed ejaculation. Most notable among these are anti-anxiety medications, selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs), painkillers, and blood pressure medications. If your delayed ejaculation is caused by medication, please consult with your doctor to see if a change in dosage or medication is possible.
Lifestyle choices can also result in delayed ejaculation. Alcohol can cause a dulling of sensation, which can lead to temporary delayed ejaculation. Drinking daily can result in a chronic case of delayed ejaculation as well as lower your libido. The easiest way to correct this problem is to stop drinking completely. Even one beer can negatively affect your ability to orgasm. Getting daily exercise and eating a healthy diet can also help improve your orgasm responsiveness, as your body will feel better and your cardiac health will improve.
Low testosterone levels and libido may also case delayed ejaculation. This is often accompanied by erectile
dysfunction. To determine if your testosterone levels are abnormally low, your doctor can perform a simple blood test.
Viagra has been prescribed with good success for the treatment of delayed ejaculation. Some prescription medications may also improve the effect as well, notably those for Parkinson’s and certain anti-allergy drugs. Speak with your doctor about these options, to see if any of them are right for you.
The herb piper auritum kunth (hoja santa) has been promoted as an aphrodisiac in traditional medicine, but it has also been shown to be an effective agent at improving sensory thresholds. It’s also shown to be effective in improving electromyographic activity of pelvic floor. Ensuring you are getting necessary levels of zinc in your diet can go a long way toward minimizing sexual dysfunctions and ensuring optimal genitourinary health and function.
If your delayed ejaculation is due to poor masturbation habits and the desensitization of your penis, a great exercise to alleviate delayed ejaculation and to reset your sensory threshold is the “Reverse” Stop and Starts movement. The Reverse Stop and Starts is very simple to perform.
Using an extremely light grip, attempt to ejaculate as quickly as possible.
Time yourself on this, and attempt to bring yourself to the 10-minute mark. From here, you should have reset your sensory threshold and can revert to the standard Stop and Starts for training. It won’t take many of these sessions to reset your sensory threshold!
As with all stamina and other male enhancement exercises, it’s important to cultivate an emotional backdrop of confidence and a feeling of being unencumbered. Some cases of delayed ejaculation may have an emotional
component to it. In cases like these, repeated use of emotional visualizations during training can be effective at improving the timing of your ejaculations.
Stress and anxiety are huge factors in emotional delayed ejaculation. Worrying about other aspects of your life can result in a difficulty in orgasming. This then increases stress and anxiety while having sex, which exponentially can compound the problem and even lead to other sexual dysfunctions, like erectile dysfunction.
Speaking to a mental health professional can help if there’s an emotional component to your delayed ejaculation. They can help you address the underlying issues affecting you. They can also give you cognitive behavior exercises.
It’s important to note open communication with your partner when contending with any type of sexual dysfunction or less than satisfactory performance is vital. Communication and understanding can go a very long way in helping to resolve many of these issues, as emotional stress can often make them worse.
Delayed ejaculation can be just as devastating to a relationship as any other sexual dysfunction. For the man, it can be an ego crusher, when he can’t orgasm. It can also be physically frustrating and tiring. This often results in a reduced libido.
For their partner, it can also be equally ego-crushing. Your partner may worry they are doing something wrong. They may worry you’re no longer physically attracted to them. Perhaps the most destructive worry is the concern you’re being unfaithful. Be 100% up front with your partner about what’s going on, no matter how embarrassing and uncomfortable it may be. Reassure your partner the problem isn’t with them, and continue this reassurance, while you work on your delayed ejaculation.
Communication becomes really important in cases where you may not have negative conditioning or even any
functional problems with ejaculation but are still experiencing delayed orgasm due to vaginal looseness in their sexual partner. The Kegel exercise is recommended for toning the vaginal walls and can also improve the intensity of orgasms for women. In extreme cases, surgery may be required or preferred to Kegels as a solution for vaginal laxity.
Broaching this sensitive subject can be difficult and requires great tact. One effective way of introducing the Kegel to women in cases of vaginal looseness is for the man to suggest vaginal contractions to his partner during penis-in- vagina (PIV) sexual contact. Repeated sessions of this type of activity should lead to increased tone and vaginal response in just a few weeks.
Another version of conditional delayed ejaculation is when your sexual partner can’t withstand long bouts of sexual activity due to health-related issues. As with the above, communication and alternate arrangements during sexual activity can go a long way toward creating better sexual harmony.
by Romero MD
Original post: A Doctor with Hard Flaccid – Updates and Advice
Hi everyone 
I am 26 years old and I recently developed this mythical problem called Hard Flaccid.
I am a medical doctor. I finished medical school a few months ago, and I am currently applying for Obstetrics-Gynecology.
First, my story. I have been practicing PE, intermittently, for the past 4-5 years. Basically, only manual stretches (I am satisfied with my girth), but, like many others, I think my injury was caused by Edging and excessive Kegeling, which I have been practicing for over 10 years, for stamina training and erection quality.
And without knowing the extreme importance of Reverse Kegeling. Every time I have sex, I also do intense kegels, in order to last 60-90 minutes of penetration. I know, I know… maybe it’s a little too much… But my girlfriend and I have always liked long love sessions 
Almost 2 months ago, while I was having sex with my girlfriend, I started to lose my erection suddenly, after performing an intense Kegel, during a sex position that placed my penis at a downward angle (so, I did a “very weighted Kegel”).
I thought I might have torn a muscle or ligament, and we stopped at that moment. The next day, I woke up with a hyper contracted and cold penis. As it didn’t seem to be a penile fracture, nor did I have any skin lesions, hemorrhages or bruises, I decided to simply rest. Because I thought that any fellow urologist would tell me to simply do the same – to rest.
After two weeks of online research, I discovered my diagnosis – Hard Flaccid/CPPS. However, I only have/had symptoms related to the anterior/superficial pelvic floor (Ischiocavernosus and Bulbocavernosus Muscles). I don’t have pelvic pain, difficulty passing stools or other posterior/deep pelvic floor symptoms. But I have/had:
– Sudden erectile dysfunction (9-10/10 to 4/10)
– Sudden premature ejaculation (90min to 3-5min)
– Hyper contracted penis (Hard Flaccid). Which improves sitting, lying down, with Reverse Kegels and with heat; and worsens standing, with physical activity, with Kegels and with Involuntary Kegels
– Cold and soft glans (sometimes scrotum and penis too)
– Mild urinary retention
– Loss of morning and spontaneous erections
– Slight bend of the penis to the left, from the base of the shaft. (IC injury?)
– Slight downward curvature of the penis, from the middle of the penis (BC injury?)
– And a slight twist of the entire shaft, clockwise (IC injury?)
The next day, I visited the Urology Department at my hospital. I was observed by 4 urologists. As expected, none of them had ever heard of Hard Flaccid… After explaining the whole story, situation and symptoms, I was medicated with:
– Ibuprofen (anti-inflammatory), for 7 days
– Cyclobenzaprine (muscle relaxant), for 30 days
– Tamsulosin (alpha blocker, to decrease all sympathetic nervous activity, stressful or non-stressful, to the pelvic floor), for 30 days
– Total sexual abstinence (masturbation and sex), for 30 days, which I was already doing for 2 weeks.
After these 30 days, I will have an appointment with one of the best Andrologist in my country, which will be on August 27
So, after 3 weeks, I have been doing a lot of research (books, websites, forums) … And, according to my symptoms, I am almost sure that I had/have a strain of the Left IC Muscle (and maybe the Left and/or Right BC), which is, consequently, contracting the anterior/superficial pelvic floor and the penile smooth muscle (giving rise to the Hard Flaccid and the shortening of the penis, while it is erect) and, consequently, compressing the pudendal nerve, dorsal nerve and pudendal arteries, giving rise to all the other symptoms.
And that’s why REVERSE KEGELS are so important for the progressive relief of all the symptoms.
Treatments. What I have done to recover:
– Ibuprofen, Cyclobenzaprine, Tamsulosin
– Extraordinary healthy eating (Proteins, vegetables and fruits. Very important in the recovery of any injury) and supplementation (Ginkgo Biloba, Ginseng, L-Arginine, Fish Oils, Vitamins E, D, C, B complex and Zinc)
– No masturbation, no sex, NO PORN. And no pictures, no Instagram girls, nothing. Just hugs and kisses from the girlfriend. (Alright… We make love, but only with my hands and mouth. I don’t let her touch my penis… I was in this hardmode for 4 weeks. In the last week, I have been trying very light Edging (5 minutes of very light massage, very soft touches, always with REVERSE KEGEL), every other day, to give a little physiotherapeutic stimulation to the tissues. But without ejaculation (to avoid the Involuntary Kegels associated with orgasm, to keep my libido high and to increase the likelihood of spontaneous erections)
– Lots of REVERSE KEGELS/Front Reverse Kegels, throughout the day.
– Very light and Soft Squeezes (“massages”) of the flaccid penis, while Reverse Kegeling, to help relax tissues, throughout the day.
– Belly Breath Combos, Hindi Squats and Happy Baby, along with Reverse Kegeling.
– Light external massages, on the anterior/superficial pelvic floor
– 1 hour of STRETCHING (flexibility training) every other day – Pelvic Floor, Hamstrings, Psoas, Piriformis, Quadriceps, Adductors and Abs. (All along with Reverse Kegeling and Belly Breaths). Again, hardmode – Static, Dynamic and Weighted Stretches. I’m literally training to do the front and side splits.
– HEAT. Heat relaxes muscles and dilates arteries, increasing blood flow and, consequently, relieving symptoms. I wear shorts, under my pants, during the day. When I get home, I wrap my lower body in a blanket and I use a hot rice sock sometimes. And I place a big and soft pillow under my buttocks, when I am sitting in my chair.
– Sleep. A lot. (Very important in the recovery of any injury)
– I am a very active person (running and weighted calisthenics), but I stopped this type of physical activity since the day of the injury (to avoid Involuntary Kegels). However, I am doing some bodyweight Squats and Hip Thrusts (along with Reverse Kegels) before stretching. I read somewhere that gluteal and posterior chain strength is also important.
– ABSOLUTELY NO STRESS (!!!). I have always been a very calm and peaceful person, in all situations of my life. But, after reading that Hard Flaccid was highly influenced by stress and anxiety, I am now completely in a “ZEN state with the Universe” Buddhist monk style.
Not only to avoid any nerve discharge from the Sympathetic Nervous System to the pelvic floor (and, consequently, Involuntary Kegeling, which prolongs the contraction of the pelvic floor muscles, which worsens the compression of nerves and arteries), but also to prevent the rise of Cortisol and Adrenaline and, consequently, the drop in testosterone levels. And (as many of you claim) this is absolutely essential.
I was a little stressed during the first week (before I knew the real diagnosis) and my penis was terrible… Hard Flaccid like a rock, with a loss of 1.5inches in BPFL. After knowing that I really have to relax completely, I immediately felt the first improvements in 3-4 days.
However, on the other hand, I am very convinced that I did a muscle strain, at least, of the Left IC. Those left curvature and left twist… Hmmm… On August 27, I will ask for an MRI. If the radiologist tells me it is normal, I will try to take the images to more doctors.
So… after almost 2 months, I have improved a lot 
– Now, I only have hard flaccid if I’m standing. A few times, I don’t even have it standing. It happens when I get up after doing Reverse Kegels for a few minutes (or sitting for a while in a more comfortable position) and continue to do Reverse Kegeling while I’m standing. This was impossible 1 month ago.
– The morning erections are progressively coming back
– 3 days ago, I’ve managed to have a 8-9/10 erection during the mini Edging sessions.
– However, I still have a slight bend to the left and the clockwise twist, during erection (I no longer have the downward curve), and I lost about 0.5 inches in BPEL…
1- Now, I would like to ask Pegym’s brightest minds and everyone in this group who is still recovering from Hard Flaccid, what are the most recent updates on this disease/symptom? Regarding physical treatment, exercises, medications and supplements. What am I missing? Where can I improve to speed up recovery?
2- I have been thinking about starting to do a small daily session of Kegels/Front Kegels/IC kegels… In order to give a physiotherapeutic stimulus, just like any other muscle injury. But I’m afraid it could get worse… What’s your opinion? (See post 26)
3- What do you think about adding very light and soft manual penile stretches? (along with Reverse Kegeling) I feel a lot of relief with the soft squeezes. But, in these, the applied force is perpendicular to the penis. I’m not sure if extra parallel force will be beneficial for the tissues. (See post 26)
4- Okay, the last question might be a little funny, but I think it might be relevant. I think I have an injury mostly on the left side. So, is it more advisable to rest the penis in the left groin or in the right groin? It tends to get softer on the right, but naturally falls to the left. (See post 26)
Thanks a lot for reading my story Best regards to the entire PEGym community
And thank you so much, for saving me during the past 2 months UPDATES: post 21, post 23 (stress management), post 26, post 29, post 63, post 66 (HF & Stretching)