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Look into pelvic floor exercises for better ejaculatory control. In particular, read up on reverse kegels. There is a boatload of information for your happy consumption in the preE folder.

All the best!

Hi Guys,

Just wanted to say I have found a lot of great/useful info in this thread and wanted to get some input on my specific situation. If this is too much to post as a reply please let me know!

I'm 23 and I had been PMOing for 10 years before my first real sexual partner. I found out I had porn-induced ED about 2 years ago when I first tried to sleep with a woman. I struggled to get an erection/feel aroused at all throughout foreplay, and once I was finally able to penetrate, I came within 15 seconds. Since then, I've quit watching porn and masturbating all together. I've had sex with multiple women over this past year, every single time I've struggled to achieve an erection (sometimes unable, and always came fairly quickly, lasting 1 minute at my best, and 3 pumps at my worst, which is the usual case). During this time I tried edging to combat my PRE-E to no avail, with my PIED not really improving. Fast forward to four months ago and I've "relapsed" and started viewing erotic photos and masturbating regularly for about a month until I realized I killed my sex drive and have since quit again. (Will never go back to porn) I was on about a month and a half streak of no masturbation/porn when I was able to have sex with a woman (whilst I was very drunk), lasting about a minute and achieving an erection without TOO much difficulty. I was also able to have sex again a week after that (rare for me again), much less drunk, struggling to achieve an erection and finishing in ~15 seconds.

My questions is, do I just need to abstain from porn/masturbation for an even longer period of time? As I have heard that some young guys who started on internet porn can take up to ~2 years to fully "recover" AND I also seemed to do OK after the month and of half of fully abstaining. Or should I start incorporating techniques to battle the PRE-E, I'm just worried that these will worsen my PIED.

Any info is greatly appreciated! :)
 

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Or should I start incorporating techniques to battle the PRE-E, I'm just worried that these will worsen my PIED.

Any info is greatly appreciated! :)
You definitely would want to look into the Pre-E forum, lots of useful info there. Also totally quit porn, it has tones of downside and so single upside.
 

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By God's grace, I have been doing well. I made love to the wife on Saturday and could barely take my hands off of her when massaging her. Lol

Day by day...one day at a time...
 

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17 October 2017 – Day 144 No PMO, Day 137 NoFap

It is easy cruise for me. Lots of sex with girls, no desire for porn, no desire to Fap. This is a permanent change for me and if now is any indicator of the future, the future looks rosy.
 

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By God's grace, I have been doing well. I made love to the wife on Saturday and could barely take my hands off of her when massaging her. Lol

Day by day...one day at a time...

In my experience keeping the hands applied to the other body makes for a better massage:D.
 

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Relapsed once again, i dont get to the Point where i am feeling good sexually.


Libido is almost dead but i could fap 3 times a day to porn no problem
 

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Relapsed once again, i dont get to the Point where i am feeling good sexually.


Libido is almost dead but i could fap 3 times a day to porn no problem

Thanks for the courage to post. What steps are you taking to get back on track?
 

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Update: Even if at times, I'm frustrated with my wife and sexual lot at times, I haven't "used" or sought out at all. I pray, let situations go to God, and focus on staying positive.
 

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Thanks for the courage to post. What steps are you taking to get back on track?

I dont know what to do anymore, its been 5 months and no progress...

I have no idea, maybe im one of those who takes a year to recover...

ok one last time once and for all, no more relapses and i am certain, quitting smokes and chewing aswell from today on.
 

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I dont know what to do anymore, its been 5 months and no progress...

I have no idea, maybe im one of those who takes a year to recover...

ok one last time once and for all, no more relapses and i am certain, quitting smokes and chewing aswell from today on.

You can look into the Fortify program which may be a help regarding porn.

If you like practical advice, do a web search for the articles/blog posts of James Clear. His posts are amazing.

Other programs you can check out is the Youtube channel "Improvement Pill" - he has a free video series on building good habits:

 

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Yesterday I found my curiosity and lust almost got the best of me. I sought out some things that could have gotten me in trouble if I would have continued. By God's grace, I didn't go through with it.

My sexual energy has been off the charts though. You can visit my progress log to see what happened with it even at church!
 

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Completing Day Six with my buddies, Lezoteli and Commited_gainer! We're kicking this habit...and excited about the benefits...

Great to see you...Post here when you can!
 

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Day Seven will soon be in the record books.

This has been a good day for me so far...and should finish well.

Lezoteli and Commited_gainer! How are my buddies doing today? This marks the end of our first week. I find it pretty easy and think we should all maker it to Day 90! Keep up the good work!
 

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Day Seven will soon be in the record books.

This has been a good day for me so far...and should finish well.

Lezoteli and Commited_gainer! How are my buddies doing today? This marks the end of our first week. I find it pretty easy and think we should all maker it to Day 90! Keep up the good work!

So far so good.. hope we make it to day 90 :)
 

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10 months today without a second of porn. I Don't come here often but just wanted to remind anyone that it can be done. Will be back at the 1 year mark! :D
 

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01 November 2017 – Day 159 No PMO, Day 152 NoFap

Many months ago, I decided that I will never watch porn again. It was a right decision. Stemming from this decision, I am rest assured that my sex-system is functioning as expected. My penis reacts proportionately to the sexiness of the physical visual input. I can also get my penis erect just by thoughts alone. I love this.

Also many months ago, I decided that I am never going to FAP again. This was a right resolution and I praise myself a lot for this. The resolution of making my body know, in no uncertain terms, that the only and the only way it will get pleasure is through women really catapulted me in the wild direction. I have since met and mate many women.

It is absolutely satisfying to know that when the moment of vaginal penetration comes, the penis and the entire sex-system will work with absolute perfection with or without a condom. This change, and it seems permanent, has arisen specifically due to quitting porn and boxing my mind to the reality that the only way for it to get pleasure is through women.


For those that are considering whether it is worth it to permanently quit porn, the answer is, it is 100% worth it. For those that are also considering quitting Fapping and want to know if it worth it, the answer is, it is 100% worth it, but with a caveat: you will seek and find a sexual partner with whom to sex.
 

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01 November 2017 – Day 159 No PMO, Day 152 NoFap




For those that are considering whether it is worth it to permanently quit porn, the answer is, it is 100% worth it. For those that are also considering quitting Fapping and want to know if it worth it, the answer is, it is 100% worth it, but with a caveat: you will seek and find a sexual partner with whom to sex.
Nice Idea the no fap part with the purpose to increase the desire to find real sex...but I have 2 questions (because the idea is tempting me)

what if you (work, busy time etc) don't have and find partner for weeks? you need to "release!"

but, most important, you can't train stamina and if you find a partner the first times you risk PE due to many reasons (more libido, long abstinence, no stamina training)..


how you deal with these 2 factors?


btw congratulation!



day 11 here