Girlfriend Wanting To Use 8 inch Dildo

[oziemaster]

Hi all, this is my first post and the main reason why I come here today is because of a serious self-conscious issue arose out of me while talking to my girlfriend.

She was talking about how she wants to do some dominating activities like tying me up and then playing with herself in front of me. She had always expressed before that she just wants me and just wants my size. But she has mentioned she wanted to use a dildo and a vibrator. I thought we were playing around the sizes of the dildos but when I really asked her what she'd prefer she said she would want an 8 inch dildo to masturbate with when she feels in the bossy mood. 8 inches?! I'm just hovering around 5 inches. This is when I started seriously doubting myself.

I did bring it up to her stating I'm feeling a little uneasy about it and what not. But she explicitly stated she just wants me and my size and only wants to use the big dildo to get me jealous during her dominant time. We finished talking about but I still felt so extremely uncomfortable and self conscious. It was the first time she told me she wants something that big. She's never had any type of relationship before this and neither have I. I have brought up penis enlargement with her before but she gets annoyed and explicitly tells me not to and that I just want you. And here she is wanting to use an 8 inch dildo but only for when shes in the dominating mood and forces me to look.

Am I overreacting at her desire of this dildo that's almost exactly 3 inches longer than I am? Is this normal to feel this uncomfortable and self conscious? We've never been in any type of relationships before. How do I maintain confidence with my size and if so what are some good girth and length increasing tips? Could I ever reach the size of an 8 inch dildo at around 5 inches?

 

[oziemaster]

And I forgot to enter this but we've known each other very well over the last 3 years. And we have recently gotten together about 6 months ago.

 

[MrB8]

Welcome to the Gym oziemaster!

She loves you the way you are, and if you got larger, she'll look for an even bigger toy, its the point of her role play, if you don't share the same kink, I suggest you talk together and discuss your desires, if interested, you may want to try her game, if you are really uncomfortable with it, then tell her you are not into that kind of play.

But rest assured, that it doesn't mean that your penis is small for her preference or liking, she likes to play dominant and make her submissive (in your case, and if you like it, that means you) feel jealous during the scene, which should be properly planned beforehand, but it doesn't mean you are small.

I'm sure you will get better advice in a moment!

Anyway, you are here, if you are interested in PE for yourself and for health then please READ THIS THREAD FIRST and focus on safety.

Good Luck!

Edit:
If you are interested, you may read more on the subject here:
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https://www.pegym.com/forums/womans-perspective/54373-50-shades-oh-hell-yes.html
https://www.pegym.com/forums/gym/56194-bdsm-literotica-titles-repository-7.html#post763837

 

[oziemaster]

Thank you so much for the nice reply. It made me much more calm. I now have a clearer mind to talk about this to her instead of being clouded by judgment. But is it possible within a year to reach 8 inches and a girth proportional to that from my base 5 inch length and girth?

 

[MrB8]

Thank you so much for the nice reply. It made me much more calm. I now have a clearer mind to talk about this to her instead of being clouded by judgment. But is it possible within a year to reach 8 inches and a girth proportional to that from my base 5 inch length and girth?

Glad to help!

PE takes time, its not like a sprint, more of a marathon kind of thing, you need to be consistent and persistent to see gains, as for many men, they may come slow, you will need to stay motivated, and never rush it up, set yourself smaller goals and increase them as you gain, and keep safety your highest priority.

Having a healthier and harder penis, will make you feel a lot more confident and able, so focus on that while you exercise.

 

[kickinthemebs]

No.

But is it possible within a year to reach 8 inches and a girth proportional to that from my base 5 inch length and girth?

 

[Dangler]

of that 8", 3" needed to hold on to, the remaining 5" for insertion.

Who & where it gets inserted into is always a fun topic.

 

[oziemaster]

Wouldn't the girth of the 8 inch dildo stretch her out after her dominating session? Then when we have sex she would barely be able to feel me perhaps.

 

[DaddyDick]

Hi all, this is my first post and the main reason why I come here today is because of a serious self-conscious issue arose out of me while talking to my girlfriend.

She was talking about how she wants to do some dominating activities like tying me up and then playing with herself in front of me. She had always expressed before that she just wants me and just wants my size. But she has mentioned she wanted to use a dildo and a vibrator. I thought we were playing around the sizes of the dildos but when I really asked her what she'd prefer she said she would want an 8 inch dildo to masturbate with when she feels in the bossy mood. 8 inches?! I'm just hovering around 5 inches. This is when I started seriously doubting myself.

I did bring it up to her stating I'm feeling a little uneasy about it and what not. But she explicitly stated she just wants me and my size and only wants to use the big dildo to get me jealous during her dominant time. We finished talking about but I still felt so extremely uncomfortable and self conscious. It was the first time she told me she wants something that big. She's never had any type of relationship before this and neither have I. I have brought up penis enlargement with her before but she gets annoyed and explicitly tells me not to and that I just want you. And here she is wanting to use an 8 inch dildo but only for when shes in the dominating mood and forces me to look.

Am I overreacting at her desire of this dildo that's almost exactly 3 inches longer than I am? Is this normal to feel this uncomfortable and self conscious? We've never been in any type of relationships before. How do I maintain confidence with my size and if so what are some good girth and length increasing tips? Could I ever reach the size of an 8 inch dildo at around 5 inches?

I would like to offer some advice on your situation as only a husband with a kinky wife can. As far as the dildo size goes, an eight inch dildo usually has an insertable length of six inches (only one inch larger than yourself). Here is a link to a 9" dildo that only offers 6.25 inches of insertable length. Dildos often include the balls when measuring.

The problem with toys and what causes the problems is not the length, but the girth. If you get a toy that is significantly thicker than you, she may feel loose. I would recommend something like this, because it is 8 inches like the wants (btw eight inches is too big for most woman) and it is skinny.

Buy her a rabbit if this is still something that you are not comfortable with. No man can replicate that feeling and she will know it. One of the best things that I did was hold my wife down and use her rabbit on her. Consensual of course.

 

[oziemaster]

I would like to offer some advice on your situation as only a husband with a kinky wife can. As far as the dildo size goes, an eight inch dildo usually has an insertable length of six inches (only one inch larger than yourself). Here is a link to a 9" dildo that only offers 6.25 inches of insertable length. Dildos often include the balls when measuring.

The problem with toys and what causes the problems is not the length, but the girth. If you get a toy that is significantly thicker than you, she may feel loose. I would recommend something like this, because it is 8 inches like the wants (btw eight inches is too big for most woman) and it is skinny.

Buy her a rabbit if this is still something that you are not comfortable with. No man can replicate that feeling and she will know it. One of the best things that I did was hold my wife down and use her rabbit on her. Consensual of course.

Thank you for your reply and the much needed information. I'm feeling way more confident than I did in the beginning.

 

[BigO]

Welcome oziemaster.

Good advice above. Toy use for fun is great, but it shouldn't make you uncomfortable. As others have said, nothing can replace the real thing. If the size of it is an issue for you right not, just try a different sized toy to start out with.

Or, for that matter, skip the toy completely for a while until you're more comfortable. Let her "make" you watch a solo show, which will enable her to play the role she wants without making you self conscious.

She already sounds like she is taking your concerns in consideration, so I am sure she wont mind easing into the toy play. As always, communication is very important.

Don't forget to relax and have fun!!

 

[DaddyDick]

Welcome oziemaster.

Good advice above. Toy use for fun is great, but it shouldn't make you uncomfortable. As others have said, nothing can replace the real thing. If the size of it is an issue for you right not, just try a different sized toy to start out with.

Or, for that matter, skip the toy completely for a while until you're more comfortable. Let her "make" you watch a solo show, which will enable her to play the role she wants without making you self conscious.

She already sounds like she is taking your concerns in consideration, so I am sure she wont mind easing into the toy play. As always, communication is very important.

Don't forget to relax and have fun!!

Great advice!

Most men would love their wife to give them a show.

 

[BigO]

Great advice!

Most men would love their wife to give them a show.

Yes I do...I mean they would.

 

[Pegasus]

Hmm this approaches bdsm I would like to hear the L4's on this.

 

[draggin]

Ya there is a time and place for bdsm, but I'd say "NO!" to buying an 8 inch toy. No way.

A pussy apparently "stretches" to fit whatever size enters. So that means she can feel her husbands dick just fine just the way it is. Why ruin that?

This is why I say that: I know that women that use vibrators desensitize their clits, for the same reason a guy desensitizes his penis if he uses the death grip. Well, using that logic, her pussy will get used to an 8 inch toy and that will take something away from what they have now naturally.

Don't do it dude! Have fun, play with toys, tie HER up (not you), take control!

 

[oziemaster]

Ya there is a time and place for bdsm, but I'd say "NO!" to buying an 8 inch toy. No way.

A pussy apparently "stretches" to fit whatever size enters. So that means she can feel her husbands dick just fine just the way it is. Why ruin that?

This is why I say that: I know that women that use vibrators desensitize their clits, for the same reason a guy desensitizes his penis if he uses the death grip. Well, using that logic, her pussy will get used to an 8 inch toy and that will take something away from what they have now naturally.

Don't do it dude! Have fun, play with toys, tie HER up (not you), take control!

Very good point, but wouldn't it be quite interesting having her initiate the fun sometimes? Just not with a toy that destroys her in the long run.

 

[draggin]

Very good point, but wouldn't it be quite interesting having her initiate the fun sometimes? Just not with a toy that destroys her in the long run.

Hell Ya!! I have never met a man that doesn't love a chick that imitates sex. Go with it!

All I know is that innately women lust a man who is sexually dominant. Women yearn to allow themselves to become submissive to a confident man in control. So yes, let her have her fun, but remember your roles. Just trust me on this. But did you consider her taking control and suggesting bdsm is a signal to you that she is ready and willing for you to "man-up"?

To bring it back to the 8inch dildo thing. Say "No". Take control. You tell her what kind of toys will turn you on. All I can say is if my wife had a giant fake dick I would never feel like I am man enough for her. So don't even go there.

 

[oziemaster]

Hell Ya!! I have never met a man that doesn't love a chick that imitates sex. Go with it!

All I know is that innately women lust a man who is sexually dominant. Women yearn to allow themselves to become submissive to a confident man in control. So yes, let her have her fun, but remember your roles. Just trust me on this. But did you consider her taking control and suggesting bdsm is a signal to you that she is ready and willing for you to "man-up"?

To bring it back to the 8inch dildo thing. Say "No". Take control. You tell her what kind of toys will turn you on. All I can say is if my wife had a giant fake dick I would never feel like I am man enough for her. So don't even go there.

Thank you for the advice. I will make sure to sit her down so we can calmly take about our limits. I can't thank all of you enough giving me a clearer mind to deal with this.

 

[DirtyNerd]

Yeah i would say know to the bigger dildos mate don't get me wrong my brain is dirty from porn so i got my girl a 9 inch dildo things have changed in there we don't use it much maybe one every couple of months i love to watch and hold and all that stuff but things change in there no matter what anyone says just get a ivibe rabbit there only 5inchs and she will be in heaven

 

[oziemaster]

Hell Ya!! I have never met a man that doesn't love a chick that imitates sex. Go with it!

All I know is that innately women lust a man who is sexually dominant. Women yearn to allow themselves to become submissive to a confident man in control. So yes, let her have her fun, but remember your roles. Just trust me on this. But did you consider her taking control and suggesting bdsm is a signal to you that she is ready and willing for you to "man-up"?

To bring it back to the 8inch dildo thing. Say "No". Take control. You tell her what kind of toys will turn you on. All I can say is if my wife had a giant fake dick I would never feel like I am man enough for her. So don't even go there.

And no actually, I have never really thought of it that way. I always thought it was just since she is the one with the slight wild side it was just her fully expressing her sexual wants. She's never had a sex toy before, we're both very new to this and she rarely masturbates alone. I'm thinking she wants the 8 inch dildo just to invoke emotions out of me not fully knowing what it could actually do to her and/or us.