why do women do this?

[MrBigDick]

I'm 20, and I'm a horrible texter. Sometimes I take hours to text back because I'm busy, don't look at my phone, fell asleep, anything! I actually hate when people expect me to reply right away and obsess over my phone. Talking on the phone is 10,000 times better!

And I agree with this too. Talking on the phone is much nicer than these texting conversations our society seems intent on having. I've engaged in friggin' texting arguments.............talk about ridiculous! Fortunately, the woman who did this was kicked to the curb last year and I'm better off without her. One of the things I do look for now is a woman who IS NOT a textaholic.

 

[Learntolift]

Haha yeah recently I was talking to a girl who would ALWAYS respond to texts within a minute, maybe 5 at the most on a very rare occasion. She is hot but it was just too much and I have simply stopped talking to her.


but, the girl did reply to me, something like "I'm sorry I fell asleep and just got off work (then said her reply to my previall ous text)"

So I guess it was all whatever in the end, but I could be an ass and sit here an be like well she couldv'e replied before she went to work, but it's all good...

 

[MrBigDick]

Haha yeah recently I was talking to a girl who would ALWAYS respond to texts within a minute, maybe 5 at the most on a very rare occasion. She is hot but it was just too much and I have simply stopped talking to her.


but, the girl did reply to me, something like "I'm sorry I fell asleep and just got off work (then said her reply to my previall ous text)"

So I guess it was all whatever in the end, but I could be an ass and sit here an be like well she couldv'e replied before she went to work, but it's all good...

Let this be a lesson to you.......girls don't always respond to a text message when YOU think they should. Send her a text message and then FIND SOMETHING TO DO! Read a book, take a walk, work on your car, play a video game.............whatever! Just do something so you're not just sitting there staring at your phone waiting for that return text......somehow, I think you do that.

On a positive note, I'm happy she did respond to you.

 

[Learntolift]

lol I swear I don't just sit there, but it is always in the back of my mind. It's just how I am with everything not just girls. Sometimes it's good, sometimes it's bad :/

You know, I think I am just glad that I THINK I have found a good, quality girl who is a keeper, especially after what happened with the last one. I just hope it works out...

 

[Raider]

Send her a picture of your dong and she'll respond really fast

 

[islander]

To the OP
I live with my iphone. It is attached to my inside left hand and only leaves it to get charged. When I get a text I jump on that so fast they didn't get a chance to close their own phone lol So yes anyone who texts me and doesn't get an answer back very fast knows its because I can't.

Regarding your situation. I am with you on the frustration and yes it feels bad. But most women help books tell us not to answer back quickly. To wait hours and sometimes two days in a new relationship. I say eff that I will do it my way cuz I will never bait and switch anyone lol But just keep that in mind, its in the training manual lol

Also if your text did not require a reply then she will/may not reply. I do not reply to texts that do not require a reply. Same with email. And if I send a text that is closed "you have a great day" " Ty for the info ttyl" and they still text me I will not reply. Text sucks for new relationships I am firmly against it.

Pick up the phone and call her and leave a voice mail. Plus because we all use speed dial maybe she lost her phone? Maybe your text never went through? Just like a fax, just because it went out of your machine and said SENT doesn't mean the other party got it

Just try to relax and dont get up all in her sh*t just yet. Maybe its on purpose. Maybe its not.

Just because someone asks you a question doesn't mean you have to answer it. Just because you receive a text, message, letter or email doesn't require the receiver to respond. People respond because they want to. Dont get all bent out of shape because their time line doesn't work with yours. If you cant handle that then you cant handle the girl/guy. If its on purpose then you dont want that person lol

Add: I realize I am a little jealous and do require attention when I ask for it so for me I may be a little more strict on this stuff. That is why I understand you.

Lettuce know what happens please Hope it works out the way you hope

 

[mrmark]

I have never understood why people text i mean whats wrong with just picking up the phone and talking to someone?.I feel that texting is "cold" as you never get to hear the persons voice and how many stories have you heard about people being dumped by text,thats the cowards way out.By the time i have typed the message out it is far quicker to dial the number or if its someone i know the number is already stored in my phone,much quicker!

 

[somebodyelse]

I haven't read the thread so i'm going to sound like I'm coming from outer space...

here's the thing... My late friend once told me "If you're breathing, you're busy. You make time for things you want to."

There's no such thing as "busy" in that sense. you're either capable of responding, or you don't really want to. if you don't want to respond that fast, that means you don't care. Plain and simple. It's a case of "Actions speak louder than words"

If a girl takes 2 hours to respond to me and it's "normal" for her to do that, I wouldn't think it odd....UNTIL... if she picks up her phone when she with me... or even breathes in its direction, I know what she's doing. She's not interested and I will not text and/or contact her anymore. Deleted number and forgotten existence.

Words are words, Actions are Truth.

 

[Steve23]

I haven't read the thread so i'm going to sound like I'm coming from outer space...

here's the thing... My late friend once told me "If you're breathing, you're busy. You make time for things you want to."

There's no such thing as "busy" in that sense. you're either capable of responding, or you don't really want to. if you don't want to respond that fast, that means you don't care. Plain and simple. It's a case of "Actions speak louder than words"

If a girl takes 2 hours to respond to me and it's "normal" for her to do that, I wouldn't think it odd....UNTIL... if she picks up her phone when she with me... or even breathes in its direction, I know what she's doing. She's not interested and I will not text and/or contact her anymore. Deleted number and forgotten existence.

Words are words, Actions are Truth.

Well said space man. Almost everyone now a days has their phone with them while they are awake. If someone is busy they would text that they are busy, it takes what? 4 seconds to text that they are? And even if they didn't have their phone on them at the time of the text once then get ahold of their phone they would obviously see it. It's annoying if I text someone, get no response then text them again 2 hours later and they respond right away.

 

[islander]

Damn SBE you are freakin strict! Two hours? Wow!
OP
In my life,
It's not disrespectful if business comes before pleasure. Especially during business hours.
Whats wrong with replies to Text or calls when you want to make time for the person with all of you. If that takes hours then the person has to handle that.

For me I am on hold and conference calls a lot. I multi task but won't or rarely with someone special because I'm not all there mentally.
Ain't gonna go bankrupt eh . Texter paying my bills? Lol Then if I fade off, answer wrong or use one words answers he will get hurt anyway.

Just because I receive a call or text doesn't mean I am at the beck n call.

Like many have said basically if you can't handle the delay keep on walking. You are not for her Delete delete

Add: lmao@spaceman lol

So you guys need to be told "I answer texts from 6-9 pm eastern time" lol
Interesting. Or have someone interrupt their thought process or whatever they are doing to reply. I got it

 

[somebodyelse]

lol! Islander, it's not the idea that she's taking her time. If she's busy, she's busy, but if she's texting someone else while WITH me, that means she can answer whatever texts I send to her when she gets them... Apparently whomever is texting her is more important because she can answer their texts while she's "with" me. So yea, it's disrespectful to make me wait when you don't for other people.

It takes 4 seconds, like Steve said. "busy, talk in a sec" I had one chick Text me 3-4 months later like "where are you? I haven't heard from you in a while" i was like "who dis?"... Take too long to answer back I don't have time for you... I said before, Why spend time on people who mean me no good (or don't think highly enough of me) I go where I'm wanted. I respond to texts as soon as I get them unless i don't have my phone (whereupon the receiver will receive an explanation, even though i don't have to explain myself) or I don't respond. If i don't you can guarantee it's because i don't want to talk to you, I have nothing else to say to you, or you've made it clear you don't to talk.

Just like Cusp said "treat people the way you want to be treated"... I do I like to be responded to. if you ignore and/or postpone my texts, I take it as disrespect as I have treated your texts as important as everyone elses.

If you're breathing you're busy... you make time for people/things you want to.

Email is different. I take a long time to respond to email (unless it's business). Emails take too much time to think about when you're writing. plus I never get through what i want to say the first time. (multiple emails aren't as seemless as multiple texts LOL!

Even on my post as evident by my edits! \/

 

[islander]

Lol
Agh so you get to chose. Let's get a room imma battle you on this one

 

[Learntolift]

so i was creepin her facebook cause i was bored for a bit, and there is this one guy:

who posts on a lot of her profile pictures, and the other day posted a picture he took of her, on her facebook wall, and she replied saying like hahahahah thank you!! fun night


i think i am being veeeery paranoid right now as once again she hasnt replied to me in about 6 hours. but all i can think is like shes ignoring me and hanging out with this guy, even though im sure shes really at work.

 

[TTBB]

i have removed the link. Please do not post someone else's personal profile here on the forums.. esp if you want half a chance with the girl.

 

[MrBigDick]

so i was creepin her facebook cause i was bored for a bit, and there is this one guy:

who posts on a lot of her profile pictures, and the other day posted a picture he took of her, on her facebook wall, and she replied saying like hahahahah thank you!! fun night


i think i am being veeeery paranoid right now as once again she hasnt replied to me in about 6 hours. but all i can think is like shes ignoring me and hanging out with this guy, even though im sure shes really at work.

OK, dude, you're either going to have to grow a pair and keep walkin' or accept this as this is who she is. This isn't an isolated incident, you text her and she takes hours upon hours to respond to you. YOU are not an important aspect in her life at this point. She may also be sensing your "neediness" and is turned off by it. Either way, you're ultimately going to have to decide what you are and aren't willing to put up with.

IF it were me and a woman was doing this to me, I'd completely stop texting her and move on and if she happens to text me, that's one thing but I would cease any initiated contact with her that was of my own accord.

 

[MrBigDick]

i have removed the link. Please do not post someone else's personal profile here on the forums.. esp if you want half a chance with the girl.

Good call Tink.........

 

[somebodyelse]

bring it, Landi!:aikido:


LOL!

 

[Learntolift]

so do you think she is playing me?

last night at like 1 am she sent me a huge long text before she went to sleep, saying how she can make me as happy, if not happier, than my last relationship, and how she likes me, etc. then today she sent me a text and i replied and i have yet to get anything back, although she is at work and must be busy. idk, maybe im just psyching myself out because i dont think she is attached to her phone at all from what i have noticed when i am with her

 

[MrBigDick]

so do you think she is playing me?

last night at like 1 am she sent me a huge long text before she went to sleep, saying how she can make me as happy, if not happier, than my last relationship, and how she likes me, etc. then today she sent me a text and i replied and i have yet to get anything back, although she is at work and must be busy. idk, maybe im just psyching myself out because i dont think she is attached to her phone at all from what i have noticed when i am with her

She could be. I dated a woman last year that did the same thing to me, only she cancelled dates left and right yet claimed she was into me and loved me but yet everytime I'd make a date, she'd find some way to get out of it. Talk is cheap. I judge based on actions.

 

[Learntolift]

well we did just spend 2 pretty amazing nights together last weds and friday