[FONT="]I tried asking girls online what penis size they would prefer their ideal boyfriend had, but got very few honest responses. It looks like girls are terrible at imagining what for example a 17cm penis looks like. They also usually have no idea how big their previous sexual partners were in terms of centimeters, all they think in their head is - below average, average, above average. So it occurred to me that it makes much more sense to ask guys who slept with a lot of women what penis size is ideal. Everybody on this forum knows their exact size and also what the reactions were during sex so please, can you help me with this question of ideal size? Everybody seems to want a bigger dick but I am much more careful because I am already above average (16.7 cm or 6.6 inches) and don't want to overdo it. I want the girls that I'm having sex with to enjoy it and not be in pain because I am poking their cervix with a monster dick. How much more would you increase your size if you were in my place?[/FONT]
What is the ideal penis size that most women prefer???
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madyogi
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This question pops up quite a bit, and there is no one answer.
There are also different ways of thinking about size.
I'm not the best person to "answer" this, since I've only slept with one woman for the last 15 years, but when I got to 5.5+ in girth, she started making different faces, and started commenting about how thick I was. I don't know that my length gains have really impressed her that much, though.
Burrito probably has the best perspective on this, given the multiple partners he's had in recent times. My reading of his posts would indicate somewhere around 7.75" x 5.75", give or take, is pretty golden across the board.
Incogneetoe's recent musings on the interplay between length and girth are also worth a read.
There are also different ways of thinking about size.
I'm not the best person to "answer" this, since I've only slept with one woman for the last 15 years, but when I got to 5.5+ in girth, she started making different faces, and started commenting about how thick I was. I don't know that my length gains have really impressed her that much, though.
Burrito probably has the best perspective on this, given the multiple partners he's had in recent times. My reading of his posts would indicate somewhere around 7.75" x 5.75", give or take, is pretty golden across the board.
Incogneetoe's recent musings on the interplay between length and girth are also worth a read.
In my opinion: for most women, length really doesn't matter (as long as you're above average), but girth DOES.
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Is there any way to increase your girth without increasing your length or does it always go hand in hand?
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Thanks for that link. You're the Burrito guy that madyogi mentioned, do you find your length to be ideal now? Or would you say that it's too much because some women can't handle it and feel pain during sex?
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One thing that may be different about me is that I curve upwards kinda like a banana so when I'm going deep it isn't like it's head on. I have had remarks about girls feeling sore but they said it was the "good kind of sore". So far I've never hurt anyone because I went too deep. I have had a few instances where the girl had an IUD and I could feel it poking me some.
Girth is really tricky. You are at the upper edge of the "safe zone" at 5.5". At 5.75" you can run into some issues with teeth and anal requires some training with butt plugs unless she's just an anal whore. Vaginal is completely different though. I can reach up to 6.25" if I use my bathmate and wear a steel cock ring and the ladies I've done that with have gone absolutely crazy. I get begged to put it on because they love the extra girth so much and it's nice having leverage. I can say, I'll wear it if you do "this" first, and they will enthusiastically comply. The cock ring is great because it allows you to have the best of both worlds and is only temporary.
Girth is really tricky. You are at the upper edge of the "safe zone" at 5.5". At 5.75" you can run into some issues with teeth and anal requires some training with butt plugs unless she's just an anal whore. Vaginal is completely different though. I can reach up to 6.25" if I use my bathmate and wear a steel cock ring and the ladies I've done that with have gone absolutely crazy. I get begged to put it on because they love the extra girth so much and it's nice having leverage. I can say, I'll wear it if you do "this" first, and they will enthusiastically comply. The cock ring is great because it allows you to have the best of both worlds and is only temporary.
I've heard, not too long, not too wide, and is attached to a kind, lovable, warm personality human. One that is not obsessed with his penis. (I added that.)
https://www.pegym.com/articles/a-sex-educator-explains-what-to-do-if-your-partners-penis-doesnt-fit
This is an interesting aspect of relative size.
This is an interesting aspect of relative size.
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Length I caution that skill comes into it a great deal ,the longer you are the more you need to know how to use it .
My wife made it clear she prefered the girth I was when we first met (5.5) now she became actively displeased when I got over 6" REGARDLESS of warm up etc.
My wife made it clear she prefered the girth I was when we first met (5.5) now she became actively displeased when I got over 6" REGARDLESS of warm up etc.
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Just a point hre the op is asking a bunch of guys that are on a penis enlargement site so the answers are going to be affected by that .
So far as I understand there was a study done using dildos and asking which they prefered the results came back that the preference was just over average.
Guys want bigger, it's an ego thing. Nothing to do with women.
Take a look at this thread : [FONT="]Some food for thought off reddit[/FONT]
I tried to compile women's perspective.
I just have to address this idea of pounding the cervix. You do not need to always have it all in. One can control how deep one goes. I've been with a number of women, a few could not take more than 6 inches. So I just did not put it all in. You can be quite long and leave some out in the air.
As much as you want. Don't do it for women, do it for you.
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When I started PE, I did some heavy research to determine average penis dimensions and "the women's ideal" dimensions, so I could chart my measurements and gains against an "average" and "ideal." I do medical research for a living, so have access to even the raw data (key to understanding the average) and method details from most published studies. As you could guess, there is alot of variation between different studies - not just measurements, but also study methodology. So, take averages with a grain of salt as variance of raw data can be high. I sifted through the data from what I considered credible studies and cleaned it up to come up with my own set of measurements for what women consider ideal. Here are the numbers I use - 6.9" BPEL and 5.1" EG, which has a volume of 234ml, depending on penis geometry. I did adjust the data best I could to account for the BP vs NBP issue. Don't ask me to cite all the studies, because I didn't keep a list - sorry.
One thing to keep in mind is that women, understandably, give a different answer when asked for ideal size for a regular partner and ideal size for a one-night stand/optimal orgasm. Most go for a significantly larger penis for a one-night stand, especially larger girth (over 5” EG). The average I stated is a blend of these sizes. There was a clear preference (far less data variance) for more girth as opposed to more length in both preference for regular and one-nighter sizes. I found in the data that if women had to choose between average length and big girth or longer length and average girth, they strongly tend toward taking the larger girth option. I also noted a clustering of women who liked a MUCH larger girth for optimal orgasm. But that cluster had a pretty clear “max” at approaching 6” EG.
Another thing to keep in mind when looking at studies is that both women and men are terrible at guessing length or girth sizes. When women are asked to just state a size preference, like in an online survey, they invariably state a much longer size (8” length preference came up in a recent study). BUT, in studies when women are actually allowed to see and hold a model of a penis (like a dildo), they invariably choose a much shorter model as ideal (6.5-7.0”) and often guess its length as much longer than it actually is. What is more consistent in both methods is the preference for girth over length. You can also find loads of posts by women saying how surprised they were when they measured their “hung” guy only to find out they weren’t anywhere near 8” after all.
One thing to keep in mind is that women, understandably, give a different answer when asked for ideal size for a regular partner and ideal size for a one-night stand/optimal orgasm. Most go for a significantly larger penis for a one-night stand, especially larger girth (over 5” EG). The average I stated is a blend of these sizes. There was a clear preference (far less data variance) for more girth as opposed to more length in both preference for regular and one-nighter sizes. I found in the data that if women had to choose between average length and big girth or longer length and average girth, they strongly tend toward taking the larger girth option. I also noted a clustering of women who liked a MUCH larger girth for optimal orgasm. But that cluster had a pretty clear “max” at approaching 6” EG.
Another thing to keep in mind when looking at studies is that both women and men are terrible at guessing length or girth sizes. When women are asked to just state a size preference, like in an online survey, they invariably state a much longer size (8” length preference came up in a recent study). BUT, in studies when women are actually allowed to see and hold a model of a penis (like a dildo), they invariably choose a much shorter model as ideal (6.5-7.0”) and often guess its length as much longer than it actually is. What is more consistent in both methods is the preference for girth over length. You can also find loads of posts by women saying how surprised they were when they measured their “hung” guy only to find out they weren’t anywhere near 8” after all.
IMHO I think women are more interested in how you handle your hard penis. Thickness might be factor, but a few minor adjustments in positioning should solve that. Find out what works as you and your partner explore each other and then build on that!
Guys are more concerned about size. We are very visual in our approach. I could be wrong on this next point, but I think most women are more interested in the full package. Pun intended! LOL Women see men differently than how we view ourselves.
Guys are more concerned about size. We are very visual in our approach. I could be wrong on this next point, but I think most women are more interested in the full package. Pun intended! LOL Women see men differently than how we view ourselves.
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I couldn't agree more with your "full package" comment. This OP was about penis size, but when you ask women about all of the factors that make a man a great lover, penis size is not at the top of the list, for sure.
I remember reading, maybe here or another forum, where a woman saw a true 8x6 for the first time in real life and it terrified her. It is really massive. I feel that many women would echo that. Then you run into the issue of getting denied because you are too big, which is the opposite goal of many here. Average is not bad (can't really say that on a site dedicated to PE).
I'm doing PE for fun. There's no need to take making your dick bigger that seriously.
I'm doing PE for fun. There's no need to take making your dick bigger that seriously.
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What's funny about all this is that many of the guys on here, myself included, have a "goal" size that is larger than what it appears women think is ideal. I keep a bar chart of my measurement compared to "average" and "ideal" and sometimes think "Why am I still doing PE. I'm already bigger than the average woman's ideal erect size." But here I sit wearing my extender. I'm a bio-scientist, not a psychologist, so I'll leave pontificating on the reasons for this to someone else!
That said, I do actually have a reason for continuing to do PE. My primary goal is to have a bigger flaccid size. My gf and I have been going to nudist resorts for years and I can tell you that many of the ladies do notice and talk about guy's penis sizes - just like the guys notice women (but the women are a bit more discreet about it!). PE has made a big difference in my flaccid size and has really reduced how often and how badly I get "shrinkage." I'd prefer to make that walk from the pool back to my lounger with a decent size dick. Another thing that occurred to me is that the last few times my gf complemented me on my size, I was flaccid. I think my erect size was OK with her from the start, but she seems to really like my larger flaccid size. Now we need a study on women's ideal flaccid size!
That said, I do actually have a reason for continuing to do PE. My primary goal is to have a bigger flaccid size. My gf and I have been going to nudist resorts for years and I can tell you that many of the ladies do notice and talk about guy's penis sizes - just like the guys notice women (but the women are a bit more discreet about it!). PE has made a big difference in my flaccid size and has really reduced how often and how badly I get "shrinkage." I'd prefer to make that walk from the pool back to my lounger with a decent size dick. Another thing that occurred to me is that the last few times my gf complemented me on my size, I was flaccid. I think my erect size was OK with her from the start, but she seems to really like my larger flaccid size. Now we need a study on women's ideal flaccid size!
