I would like to learn all ideas for basic to advanced. :3 but the most I love orgasm denial and when sub struggle to get and is leaved with nothing. mrrau. :3
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Hey everyone! I'm back after a hiatus from PE.
After some experimentation, I've determined that I'm switch, through and through. The kind of switch play I like is swapping sub/dom roles, and even male/female roles, in a single scene. When my partner switches to dominant, I sense it and instantly go submissive. When my partner switches to submissive, I sense it and instantly go dominant. There are, of course, other times when I initiate the switch, either by going into a submissive position (spreading my legs open), or establishing dominance (manhandling, rough manipulation of my partner's body).
The interplay between roles, and the constant switching really keeps me aroused and excited.
I found this out because I have a new partner, [CS]. We've been seeing each other for about 3 weeks now. Our sex is easily the best I've ever had. After thinking about it, the reason is because we play around with gender roles, role reversals, and switching dom/sub roles. Sometimes I'm dominant, sometimes she is. I've found I really enjoy exploring traditionally female positions. The only difficulty is: I have balls, which get in the way of [CS] thrusting her hips into mine when I have my legs spread. Ouch. Anatomy problems.
[CS] is bisexual, and is a switch. She enjoys both male and female bodies, and being in either male or female roles during sex. This bodes well for our compatibility. She openly said that she likes my ability to be comfortable with exploring different roles without it threatening my sexuality.
After some experimentation, I've determined that I'm switch, through and through. The kind of switch play I like is swapping sub/dom roles, and even male/female roles, in a single scene. When my partner switches to dominant, I sense it and instantly go submissive. When my partner switches to submissive, I sense it and instantly go dominant. There are, of course, other times when I initiate the switch, either by going into a submissive position (spreading my legs open), or establishing dominance (manhandling, rough manipulation of my partner's body).
The interplay between roles, and the constant switching really keeps me aroused and excited.
I found this out because I have a new partner, [CS]. We've been seeing each other for about 3 weeks now. Our sex is easily the best I've ever had. After thinking about it, the reason is because we play around with gender roles, role reversals, and switching dom/sub roles. Sometimes I'm dominant, sometimes she is. I've found I really enjoy exploring traditionally female positions. The only difficulty is: I have balls, which get in the way of [CS] thrusting her hips into mine when I have my legs spread. Ouch. Anatomy problems.
[CS] is bisexual, and is a switch. She enjoys both male and female bodies, and being in either male or female roles during sex. This bodes well for our compatibility. She openly said that she likes my ability to be comfortable with exploring different roles without it threatening my sexuality.
I am not gay, but I can tell you it might be fun to have her wear a strap on and give you some loving from the traditional male position in the doggy style position. I Dont mean to offend at all. My prostate loves some attention. Good for you finding more about yourself and embracing it. Huzzah.
How do you find out about places like this around your area? I would love to take my girlfriend to one of these sometime.
Another update, maybe this one's a bit more vulnerable. I'm discovering that I'm not dominant. I'm exploring the possibility that I'm entirely submissive, not switch. As in, I enjoy being dominant if that's what brings pleasure to my partner, which I've heard is called "bottoming from the top."
Also, I feel like I've suppressed this, nearly to the point of denying it, because being submissive is typically not considered a "manly" thing. There's some shame associated with it, like somehow it makes me less of a man, or it's something I can't tell everyone. It's much less socially acceptable to be a submissive man than a dominant man.
If anyone knows of places where I can find people to talk about these things, I feel like I have suppressed emotions about this that I'd like to find a safe space to express them.
Also, I feel like I've suppressed this, nearly to the point of denying it, because being submissive is typically not considered a "manly" thing. There's some shame associated with it, like somehow it makes me less of a man, or it's something I can't tell everyone. It's much less socially acceptable to be a submissive man than a dominant man.
If anyone knows of places where I can find people to talk about these things, I feel like I have suppressed emotions about this that I'd like to find a safe space to express them.
Thank you. I actually joined a few years ago and never really explored it. I've logged in again and am looking around now.
I would say just go for it, nothin wrong. I would love for my wife to tie me up, get me all hot and bothered and then just go watch TV for awhile.
I went to my first kink party. Well, not my first kink party, actually my fifth. But this was my first time going 1) by myself, and 2) with the intent of exploring my submissive side.
It was great! There were only about 15 people who went. It was pretty small. I got to know some of the people there. In particular, maid (that was what she wanted me to call her, and she wanted the lower-case "m") and Mistress Jules. Mistress Jezebel was there, too, as well as Devin (she didn't ask me to use a title).
Mistress Jules used a "violet wand" on me, which looks like one of those Hitachi vibrators, except instead of a vibrating head, it has an electrical socket. You can plug different attachments into it, like a metal beaded flogger, or a glass tube, and they'll have different effects. You plug it into the wall outlet, electricity flows through the wand, and then shocks whatever it touches. It was very... shocking. I enjoyed it. Light play, just perfect for my first time there.
Afterwards, she asked if I was looking for a Domme. I said yes. Then I added that I'd brought an outfit and didn't wear it. She said, "You should wear it next time." Then she looked at me more seriously. "Wear it next time." I gave a sheepish grin. I really liked that she wanted me to wear it.
I then told her that my girlfriend just told me she's also submissive. Mistress Jules said, "I can dominate both of you. I can tell you to do things to each other." That really got my heart racing. Yes, I'll invite my girlfriend next time.
I think this is going to be fun. <3
It was great! There were only about 15 people who went. It was pretty small. I got to know some of the people there. In particular, maid (that was what she wanted me to call her, and she wanted the lower-case "m") and Mistress Jules. Mistress Jezebel was there, too, as well as Devin (she didn't ask me to use a title).
Mistress Jules used a "violet wand" on me, which looks like one of those Hitachi vibrators, except instead of a vibrating head, it has an electrical socket. You can plug different attachments into it, like a metal beaded flogger, or a glass tube, and they'll have different effects. You plug it into the wall outlet, electricity flows through the wand, and then shocks whatever it touches. It was very... shocking. I enjoyed it. Light play, just perfect for my first time there.
Afterwards, she asked if I was looking for a Domme. I said yes. Then I added that I'd brought an outfit and didn't wear it. She said, "You should wear it next time." Then she looked at me more seriously. "Wear it next time." I gave a sheepish grin. I really liked that she wanted me to wear it.
I then told her that my girlfriend just told me she's also submissive. Mistress Jules said, "I can dominate both of you. I can tell you to do things to each other." That really got my heart racing. Yes, I'll invite my girlfriend next time.
I think this is going to be fun. <3
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Yes, definitely updates!
I've been getting more into bondage. I've settled on some terms that describe me: service top, and submissive.
My girlfriend is kinky and submissive, and I love the noises she makes when I tie her up, spank and flog her! I think all that was needed was someone that I had some real chemistry with.
I'm going to rope bites, learning more knots and ties. So far, I know: single column tie, double column tie, wrist cuffs, and a simple hip harness (with handles, of course). The first two, single and double column ties, are really versatile. My most proud accomplishment with those two ties: I tied my girlfriend's thighs to her calves, then tied her wrists to her thighs. Then I tied each leg to the bed post. This meant that her legs were spread wide open, with her hands right there so she could grab my head as I made her cum over and over and over again. And there was no way she could stop me.
She wouldn't have stopped me anyways, but the idea that she was bound and couldn't even if she wanted to meant that she was having multiple multiple multiple orgasms. She was brought to a new high. It was glorious. <3
So yeah, continuing to explore, and having tons of fun!
I've been getting more into bondage. I've settled on some terms that describe me: service top, and submissive.
My girlfriend is kinky and submissive, and I love the noises she makes when I tie her up, spank and flog her! I think all that was needed was someone that I had some real chemistry with.
I'm going to rope bites, learning more knots and ties. So far, I know: single column tie, double column tie, wrist cuffs, and a simple hip harness (with handles, of course). The first two, single and double column ties, are really versatile. My most proud accomplishment with those two ties: I tied my girlfriend's thighs to her calves, then tied her wrists to her thighs. Then I tied each leg to the bed post. This meant that her legs were spread wide open, with her hands right there so she could grab my head as I made her cum over and over and over again. And there was no way she could stop me.
She wouldn't have stopped me anyways, but the idea that she was bound and couldn't even if she wanted to meant that she was having multiple multiple multiple orgasms. She was brought to a new high. It was glorious. <3
So yeah, continuing to explore, and having tons of fun!
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I've been exploring kink and polyamory. At one point I had a girlfriend and 5 lovers. Now I'm at 1 girlfriend and 2 lovers. 3 breakups in the past 3 weeks. Sometimes it's like that. Ideally I want 2 girlfriends and 1 lover.
I had a date with a super hot woman. Definitely the hottest woman I've ever asked out. I even admitted to her that I was hesitant to ask her because I thought she was way out of my league. She was the host of a sex party that she invited me to, and then got me in for free. That's a big deal for single men. I asked her out, didn't know what was gonna happen. She said she was eyeing me at the party the whole time and was glad I asked. And then the date was super boring.
Intellectually, we held similar values. Emotionally and physically, we didn't really get along. I really didn't like the way she kissed. She prefers light feathery touch, which I definitely enjoy, but I also want intense grip, strong manipulation, almost violent pushing and pulling. If there isn't at least a little bit of that, it's kind of boring for me; I interpret it as a lack of desire, or at least it doesn't stir any desire in me.
Anyways, that really upped my confidence, that someone that hot would be mesmerized by me. Apparently I'm pretty hot stuff. My girlfriends have all told me that. Now I'm actually starting to believe it.
Hey PEGym!
Every once in a while I poke my head back in here when I have something to share. Well, I have something to share.
I had a girl actually say to me, "I'm your sex slave for the night. What would you like me to do?"
And you know what? I couldn't think of what to do. We were at a sex party. People having sex everywhere. It's not my first sex party, more like my 6th. I've noticed that I don't particularly have any desire to have sex at a sex party. I like to watch, I like the sounds and smells, I just... don't feel like having sex.
I'd just gone down on her, and then used the Hitachi to make her cum. She wanted to return the favor, and offered to be my sex slave. Honestly, there wasn't really anything I wanted. What I actually wanted was to learn more about what makes her cum, and do that over and over again.
Oh wait, maybe I should have said that. Dammit, ok now I know what to say the next time some hot woman offers to be my sex slave at a sex party...
Every once in a while I poke my head back in here when I have something to share. Well, I have something to share.
I had a girl actually say to me, "I'm your sex slave for the night. What would you like me to do?"
And you know what? I couldn't think of what to do. We were at a sex party. People having sex everywhere. It's not my first sex party, more like my 6th. I've noticed that I don't particularly have any desire to have sex at a sex party. I like to watch, I like the sounds and smells, I just... don't feel like having sex.
I'd just gone down on her, and then used the Hitachi to make her cum. She wanted to return the favor, and offered to be my sex slave. Honestly, there wasn't really anything I wanted. What I actually wanted was to learn more about what makes her cum, and do that over and over again.
Oh wait, maybe I should have said that. Dammit, ok now I know what to say the next time some hot woman offers to be my sex slave at a sex party...
Write up a list of your favorite things you want to have happen. You can always have your partner pick one or two from the list & go from there.
This is a great idea. I should totally do this. Actually, I think I did start doing something like this, but I just never really completed it...
