Just Talking

[ryansambas]

lol yeah well I don't appear to be getting close to any girl soon. And no I don't walk around all gloom and down because of this so I don't want people saying 'Girls love confidence' yada yada. I was pretty confident until I found out that she didn't want anything to do with me other than to just be someone to talk to at work, then it all went out the window And anyway I hate how women say we want confidence in a guy and so forth when we have to put in all the effort 99% of the time in asking the girl out and all that other stufffff, jeeezzzzzzz

 

[Hanma]

How old are you?

 

[islander]

Ryan: Women/young ladies should be able to talk to you as a friend, as in someone to talk to at work, without you thinking of them as a potential relationship or falling in love. If you are as you say you are, a confident nice looking smile on type of man, then you will be attractive to all people. They will want to talk to you, laugh with you, spend time with you. You need to be able to handle your gifts (good looking etc..) and accept that just because you get attention of any kind it does not mean anything more than what it is.

I see it with my son. He is a very good looking young man, with tons of confidence, smart, humor and is a magnet. People always want to be around him and yes a lot of girls. But just because he talks to them or laughs with them they immediately assume he likes them for something more. It took him sometime to get used to that because sometimes he would like the one girl who didn't like him in that way hence, the sad feeling you are feeling.

If you want a confident woman who has humor, smart, fairly good looking then be prepared that she too deals with these issues all the time. She is a magnet weather she likes it or not. So it takes time for people sometimes to figure things out.

I know what you mean about not wanting to have a girlfriend just to say "im in a relationship". That is a good thing/trait you have.
I dont think its lowering your standards though if you go out of your supposed type. Many times we think we have a "type" but we are surprised to find out that is not the case when we give someone that is out of our supposed type a chance. That chance becomes a yearn because of something special we feel. We can either run from it saying "oh no no no, she's not my type" or we can say "hmm I feel something special here let me see what this is..."

This has happened to me and I was pleasantly surprised when I didn't run from it.

At your age there is no way I would listen to anything I just typed up there lmao
I had a type and that was the end of it. I just wanted to write that because I can and wanted to just in case you hear it

Good luck and I hope you get to the peace stage quickly and move on from this one girl who rocked your world because trust me, there is another. There is actually quite a few more out there

 

[ryansambas]

19, not old I know but I haven't had a girlfriend, had sex or kissed a girl and for someone like me it's very weirddd

 

[islander]

19, not old I know but I haven't had a girlfriend, had sex or kissed a girl and for someone like me it's very weirddd

That is not weird Ryan. You value your lips, your body, your sex. That is great. You said it yourself, you are not going to bang or be with a girl just to do it. You want to feel for her, have a connection etc...

Plus with all the dog gone diseases out there its like we all need to be laminated! lol

I can feel it right now... you will be posting after school starts... you met her in a class.... you became friends... then she asked you out.... rest is history for the next few months. (swap out the school if you are not going to school and if so why not? lol)

At 19 we dont need a life partner.

 

[ryansambas]

Trueeee I'm not exactly wanting to get married any time soon and I'm at uni but I don't see a girl ever asking me out, I think it's always going to be me working hard for it lol. But I've never really listed a 'type' in my mind, although the 2 girls I went for were similar in a lot of ways, there were also different in a lot of ways. I'm not sure about how many girls like me, I know some have in the past but it was a bit fuzzy. At the moment I'm probably not in my 'best looking' phase because I haven't had my hair cut in a while and haven't booked an appointment yet. But I went back to the gym today, first time in 2.5 years. I'm in decent shape already at 5'11 180lbs or so but I want to get fitter, also next month I'll get my braces off and probably get contact lenses too so by the end of the year I could look different for the better but I'm not doing it for other people as well, I think it's positive for me directly.

But I don't know what to expect, think that is the only thing I'm 100% sure on is that I'll never know what to expect with this topic lol.

 

[amiok]

19, not old I know but I haven't had a girlfriend, had sex or kissed a girl and for someone like me it's very weirddd

I was 23 bro lol. So don't get too down

 

[amiok]

Hilarious

http://www.buzzfeed.com/donnad/20-unapologetically-awesome-tramp-stamps

 

[closeed258]

Hilarious

http://www.buzzfeed.com/donnad/20-unapologetically-awesome-tramp-stamps

LOL No.10 is the best

 

[amiok]

LOL No.10 is the best

Oh yea it is lol. It's awesomeness makes up for the fact I am looking at a dude haha

 

[Hanma]

Or just a really unkept woman.

 

[amiok]

Or just a really unkept woman.

i hope not lol

 

[Hanma]

Lordi has been the only redeeming musical group in the Eurovision contests in the past decade. Or maybe more.

Fuck this faggy pop and disco sh*t they popularise now.

Yes I said faggy.
Because it's true.

 

[amiok]

Lordi has been the only redeeming musical group in the Eurovision contests in the past decade. Or maybe more.

Fuck this faggy pop and disco sh*t they popularise now.

Yes I said faggy.
Because it's true.

Lordi? Ok haha, to each his own. Gwar rip offs to me

Should have said that in the fans of rock music thread!

 

[Hanma]

The treadmill said I burned 90 calories today on highest incline but I probably burned 60 Those things are never exact.

At least burned off my chocolate ...

 

[ryansambas]

Didn't feel too good yesterday, got my hair cut and my hair looks shitty in my opinion and it's not cos the hairdresser cut it wrong. It's because my hairline has changed too much since I was about 16/17 and now I sort of have a receding hairline (not the usual u shaped one thank god), I can still spike my hair (although I got it cut shortish to allow it to grow in) and I have no problems growing a lot of hair but it just grows shitty in a shitty way It's hard to describe without a pic and I don't wanna upload one, like I said it's not one where I lack a lot of hair or hair growth but the frontal sides grow badly...ughhh I hate it cos my hair used to be one of the only things I felt good about a few years ago when I didn't really have much (in my opinion) physically that looked great but yeah guess I get the bad luck or something. The weird thing is I think my confidence about how good looking I think I am relates to how my hair looks, if my hair looks good I feel great but if it looks bad I feel like sh*t and I honestly believe the only reason I didn't get the girl from work is because I'm not good looking enough for her (not because of the hair, because of me as a whole) and if it was my exact personality into a guy she would find attractive, she'd go out with that guy straight away The type of girls I fall for are probably ones who wouldn't go out with me

 

[Hanma]

Sigh. Then do what I will do. Save up money for plastic surgery, then get one.

 

[ryansambas]

i don't feel that ugly, just don't feel good looking enough to get the girls that I've liked in my life and the type of girls I'll like in the future

 

[Hanma]

I understand what you're feeling Ryan.Sometimes I look in the mirror and find myself feeling crippled inside at my own sight.
I'm not ugly, I'm not hideous - I'm not attractive either nor am I "good enough" ...

I really hope I don't end up going under the knife. I don't want to. But hey, I don't know the future so I might get procedures done on me.

 

[ryansambas]

Yeah it's shitty, at the time before and during asking her out I felt good (a little self conscious from time to time but that is normal) about myself but now hmmmm not so good. I don't think my face is good enough to get the girls I want and it's not like I've liked girls purely on looks in my life, it's a combination. I have never liked someone before I've met them (I've read that here and other places, if it's someone they work with, at school etc) and with the three girls I've liked it's literally been from the first meeting where I have liked them so it's how they are as people as well. But one of those girls probably liked me more than the other two put together but because I was going for another girl, that didn't work out...so maybe I have something? I don't know, certainly doesn't happen a lot

I'm 5'11, 182lbs in decent shape but at the moment I'm wearing glasses and braces. Braces should come off next month and I'm probably going to get contacts soon, I think braces are accepted these days, quite a lot of people I know have had them including attractive females so it's not something to judge people on in my opinion but I feel the glasses hold me back a bit.