JAMESMONROE Journal and Log. (Premature Ejaculation) PLEASE HELP!!!! :O)
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No PONR tonight and a new possible technique!!!!????
No PONR tonight and a new possible technique!!!!????
I just masturbated right now. It is the same day as when I dry-humped my exgirlfriend. It was Day 2 of my routine(listed below in my signature). I don’t know if it was because I took a nap or cuz I ate pizza (lots of carbs), but I lasted 1 hour WITHOUT ONE SINGLE PONR!!!! It could also be because I did reverse kegels at work for a while. They say it helps to do reverse kegels before sex/edging. Or maybe cuz I emptied the tank already today with my ex. I am incorporating my ''ball and socket ballooning technique'' and the ''2 finger OK sign penis head stroke technique'' a lot more now during edging. I feel like I could have gone for another 30 minutes, but I got tired. I was wondering a while back if it would be good training, not only to not ejaculate after edging, but to also stop as soon as the first PONR happens. Maybe if the body and mind almost never senses PONRs.... it won't want to have any!!!! :0) Am I stumbling onto something new here???
No PONR tonight and a new possible technique!!!!????
I just masturbated right now. It is the same day as when I dry-humped my exgirlfriend. It was Day 2 of my routine(listed below in my signature). I don’t know if it was because I took a nap or cuz I ate pizza (lots of carbs), but I lasted 1 hour WITHOUT ONE SINGLE PONR!!!! It could also be because I did reverse kegels at work for a while. They say it helps to do reverse kegels before sex/edging. Or maybe cuz I emptied the tank already today with my ex. I am incorporating my ''ball and socket ballooning technique'' and the ''2 finger OK sign penis head stroke technique'' a lot more now during edging. I feel like I could have gone for another 30 minutes, but I got tired. I was wondering a while back if it would be good training, not only to not ejaculate after edging, but to also stop as soon as the first PONR happens. Maybe if the body and mind almost never senses PONRs.... it won't want to have any!!!! :0) Am I stumbling onto something new here???
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GREAT NEWS GUYS!!! I had sex 2 times with 1 girl and once with another girl the next night. I lasted about 20-25 minutes each time. Felt in total control. They both orgasmed each time. I went in not worried and very confident. I did take it very slow and tried breathing slow. I held a light reverse kegel most of the time with some short strong ones at times when it got too sensitive and I briefly stopped stimulation. I even had to make myself finish once by performing a regular kegel and pumping hard cuz she told me to cum. I am a new man. The alcohol could have helped but I am SURE the exercises from this site were the main reason I was nowhere near PONR and very confident. I strongly suggest reverse kegels, proper breathing, only ejaculating every 3-4 times, and ballooning. I wish you all the best. Btw... The girls were hot and very sexy and it didn't bother me. I was in control and confident. I think my positive attitude helped. Also cutting porn out of my life I think helped a lot. THANK YOU GUYS!!!!!
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Just to let you guys know, I use the thickest condoms available called lifestyle extra strong or strength and the liquor helped a bit I'm sure. I also was in control because I was on top at the beginning. When they jumped on top of me a asked them to go very slow and I think that is key. When sex is too fast paced it is too arousing. I haven't done any of my exercises in about 2 weeks so I can't wait to continue. I also remember holding reverse kegels once in a while while pumping. That really got the girls off cuz it inflated my penis and made me put pressure off the prostate at the same time. I don't recommend holding them too long though. The best is to exit and perform one as needed. Like i said.... going slow is a great tool !!!!
Just to let you guys know, I use the thickest condoms available called lifestyle extra strong or strength and the liquor helped a bit I'm sure. I also was in control because I was on top at the beginning. When they jumped on top of me a asked them to go very slow and I think that is key. When sex is too fast paced it is too arousing. I haven't done any of my exercises in about 2 weeks so I can't wait to continue. I also remember holding reverse kegels once in a while while pumping. That really got the girls off cuz it inflated my penis and made me put pressure off the prostate at the same time. I don't recommend holding them too long though. The best is to exit and perform one as needed. Like i said.... going slow is a great tool !!!!
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I agree. I find if we start out a session with lots of gentle stimulation, and avoid regular rhythmic movements - say if she masturbates me gently or rubs all over, or she goes down on me but without sucking and kisses and licks all over rather than trying to simulate her pussy, then I can remain in control of my arousal. After 15-20 minutes of that, consistently with no breaks, then I find penetration is just that little bit less stimulating (be that numbness/fatigue or whatever) so I can stay in control for far far longer than if we just get right down to it.
A few times in my life, I have prematurely ejaculated but that is usually when I have not had sex in a long time. Before I got married and vowed to stay abstinence for about a few years more wanting in my life a woman to grow old with and not some relationship which would end, the first time, my wife (not yet my wife) and I have sex, I did and it was embarrassing but she knew I held out until I found that woman (here); also, when we met I refused to have sex with her until after four month because then I would know if this was for the long term (thank the Lord it was. I am blessed with such a woman). Anyways, she did understand that I remained abstinence for a while, so after 10 minutes my package was ready.
By the way, you might not think this to be true about porn, but it can desensitize your member after a while. I would suggest lowering your porn input. I am sure your mind can think of many sexual things without it.
By the way, you might not think this to be true about porn, but it can desensitize your member after a while. I would suggest lowering your porn input. I am sure your mind can think of many sexual things without it.
On the contrary, porn was training me to last a shorter time. Making me used to ejaculating fast and with images way too exciting. I now masturbate without porn and when I have sex with women I am not as excited with those mental images and making me last longer. I also believe that the more and more we last longer and stay clear of ejac too fast, the more used to lasting longer and longer.
In addition to the response/post above.... I have great news! Today I held a very strong reverse kegel while doing a plank style body posture/position for 2 and a half minutes. I could only do it for about 1 minute before. That means my stomach and groin muscles are getting stronger. I do it as long as I can. That's how I got really good at regular kegels. I was up to 8 minutes once. I'm gonna keep it up and see how long I can go. Maybe this will turn me into a marathon man!!! :0)
i like seeing success stories but have you had issues with porn? like when you watch it, u become sensitive and ejac fast?
Is it the same with a girl?
Is it the same with a girl?
Too much porn every day while regular kegeling the whole time and rushing masturbation caused me PRE EJAC.
I don't watch porn anymore, do reverse kegels and other things and now last longer. I recently tried porn again and ejaculated way too soon again. I'm never gonna masturbate to porn ever again. It makes me to excited and I have to get those images out of my head again.
It's ind of doing the same thing for me. Porn has the capacity to annihilate any progress I've made.
Does anyone think it's a good idea to watch porn without masturbating? I have major issues with getting way, way too aroused far too quickly and thought that it might be beneficial to watch porn while carrying out the (de)arousal techniques such as deep breathing, reverse kegels and relaxation in order to teach myself not to become so aroused. I've tried it a couple of times and I think I've made a little progress but may this eventually have any negative effects? I never masturbate to it, just concentrate on controlling and lessening my arousal levels.
I heard it's best to not watch it at all to get those overly exaggerated and extrememly sexual images and visuals out and away from our brains. I think it's working for me.
Had sex 2 times in one day with alcohol, and again 2 times on another day without alcohol. I lasted about 15 minutes in rounds 1 and about 25-35 min on rounds two. It helped to tell the girl to move slowly. I definitely believe sex should be done atleast 3 times in one night. You last way longer each time. Reverse kegels helped but I noticed if I'm very close to the last PONRs, there is nothing that can stop ejaculation. Maybe if u rest a while, but that is a risk of losing your erection. I am gonna try to have sex 3 times next time. Maybe the 3rd will be a marathon man type session. Btw.... I tried 1/4th of a dose of antihistamine, but I'm sure it wasn't enough to help or test it. There is talk on the net about a link between histamine levels and premature ejaculation/delayed ejaculation. Good luck guys.... please give me some feedback!!!
Thanx.
Thanx.
yep this is a bad habit of mine, i watch images and im already pretty aroused so i just hit PONR. WHen i dont watch those i last a few minutes masturbating that is.
Hi, this is my first post. I’m French so forgive me for my English. I read your thread and we do pretty much the same things so I thought I would write. In regards to your last post, I think it is not good to rely on a 3rd sex the same night. Because you will have increasing trouble to get your erection after you ejaculate the older you will get. As for the rest, I totally agree, PORN is not good at all if you want to control your excitation.
Hi guys! Been absent for a long while. Long story short: I haven't done any of my exercises for like a whole month and a half except I have done some reverse kegels here and there. I met a girl and we have been having sex almost every time we see each other. She knows about my struggle and is very supportive. For some reason or another, I'm lasting longer and longer every time. We often do it 2 times with the first time lasting about 20-25 and the second from 25-30. I wear a condom as always and try to have her on top most times. I notice every time I have more control and I don't start and stop almost at all now and I can thrust harder, longer. I truly believe the secret is in reverse kegels and having REAL SEX. I don't even masturbate anymore and I don't watch porn. I think the secret is to eventually ONLY have sex and never cum quickly... whether it's from masturbating, sex or blowjobs. I suggest not letting the girl blow you too long and you shouldn't have "quickies". Save the sex for long, slow, controlled sessions and do it atleast 2 times, maybe 3. You will last longer the 2nd and 3rd time and train your body and mind to last longer during real sex. Keep taking it slow during sex and intensify speed and thrust bit by bit. I feel that now I'm at a stage where masturbation will only hurt me. Real sex is the key. Ever since I started practicing with her, I haven't had premature ejaculation. I'm sure the more confidence and less anxiety I get with every session helps more and more each time. Find yourselves a good partner and practice, practice, practice!!! We are gonna try for 3 times next time. Good luck guys.
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I seem to remember you being very pro porn and masturbating to it. I think you said you'd watch it, act like you were actually doing the woman in the porn. This was all practice for lasting longer. Your were very adamant that this was logical for overcoming pre-e. Now you are not watching porn? Major turn around.
I do know about the other Monroe on here and I know you are not him. He is very pro porn.
Hi guys! Been lasting longer and longer everytime I have sex. I always eat blueberries, walnuts, almonds and half a pill of benadryl-type medicine, just incase(only 1/4 of the dose). Those things might be a bit helpful, but I think it's mostly mental, making me think they are working, so it makes me feel a bit confident. I'll try without those things soon and let you know. I just feel that having real sex is the key. My body is getting used to lasting longer and thrusting longer to the real thing. I dont even masturbate anymore. I feel like anything else is unnatural and will just confuse and affect my performance. Reverse kegels, edging and ballooning without porn is what helped me get rid of my Prem Ejac and I still try to hold a light reverse kegel during sex the whole time to stay relaxed and stronger reverse kegels to hold off when I feel I'm about to cum or I'm getting close. What I keep noticing is that I do finish quicker the first time. I feel sex should be done atleast 2 times maybe 3 cuz you last longer the second and third time. I try to go right away ASAP so that I start with a completely empty chamber. When I do that I get no PONRs or spasms till like 30 minutes later. THAT'S WHY I FEEL THAT PREM EJAC IS MORE PHYSICAL THAN MENTAL. I also notice that there is too much PRE-cum the first time. It gets all inside the condom and makes you too wet and sensitive and makes you cum too soon. I also stay away from blowjobs, quickies and masturbation for now. I feel masturbation will have negative effects for me now. Real sex is the key to train your mind and body to last longer each time. You just have to take it slow with an understanding/helpful partner. I'm up to 30-40 minutes now. Oh btw.... I occasionally watch porn on my phone but NEVER masturbate to it anymore. I'm thinking if I see those images but don't stimulate myself or get even an erection, then that might do some good for when I get the real thing. We'll see how it goes. I went from cuming in 1 to 2 minutes watching porn while constantly regular kegeling..... to lasting up to 40 minutes with a hot girl. Thanx PEGYM!!!! REVERSE KEGELS, EDGING/BALLOONING WITHOUT PORN, REAL SEX WITH WOMEN and the PEGYM RULES!!!!! Good luck guys!!! Feel free to ask me anything please.
BTW.... regular kegels cause me to cum quick by putting too much pressure and massaging my prostate and creates too much pre-cum inside the condom. Reverse kegels stop pre-cum from coming up and out of the penis hole, and i can stop ejaculation at any time with strong hard reverse kegel.
BTW.... regular kegels cause me to cum quick by putting too much pressure and massaging my prostate and creates too much pre-cum inside the condom. Reverse kegels stop pre-cum from coming up and out of the penis hole, and i can stop ejaculation at any time with strong hard reverse kegel.
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