Nature, I have to admit your opening post made me laugh a bit but that is only because I can pretty much relate to all your problems. I haven't read through all the posts yet but I will, I very interested in the surgery so let us know how it goes and what the improvements are.
I don't know what to do anymore. Lots of sh*t
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i guess someone and I have pretty similar problem.......but to make u feel better, my situation is worse....
uncut, tight foreskin, short frenulum, curve cock, and premature ejaculation....
but my cock is below average size.....
even though i think i'm good looking also but because of all that, i'm afraid to go after any girl so i'm still a virgin.
so if u find a way to fix ur PE, PM me.
uncut, tight foreskin, short frenulum, curve cock, and premature ejaculation....
but my cock is below average size.....
even though i think i'm good looking also but because of all that, i'm afraid to go after any girl so i'm still a virgin.
so if u find a way to fix ur PE, PM me.
I am female and have never had a dick. From what I have heard from men is how they controlled when they came was arousal control. I have also had a few guys that paced themselves. If they were gonna cum before they wanted they pulled out and gave me oral and fingers. What is bad is if they cum and just leave you there. That will get you branded as a dud for sure.
If you are contemplating balancing out your hormones you can look into St. Johns Wort. Its pretty much the same effect as a prescription anti-depressant (increased seratonin) but with much fewer side effects. Its easy to take and muchhhhh cheaper. You can get like a month or two's worth supply for around 15 bucks.
Hi. I haven't had my surgery done yet, im about to. I've been busy.
Still on the dilemma of going only for the frenulum one, or getting a full circumsicion while im at it.
What worries me about getting only the frenulum one done is that it would not result in enough sensitivity removed, so I would cum still within seconds. And more importantly, i've heard cases of people developing pharaphimosis (scary sh*t) after getting their frenulum breve fixed, but leaving the foreskin intact (and mine is a pretty long ass foreskin).
Probably will go for the full circumsicion.
lol, being able to pull back and do oral means you don't have real premature ejaculation problems. When you would need to stop every fucking 10 seconds, then you have PE. And no girl wants that.
Still on the dilemma of going only for the frenulum one, or getting a full circumsicion while im at it.
What worries me about getting only the frenulum one done is that it would not result in enough sensitivity removed, so I would cum still within seconds. And more importantly, i've heard cases of people developing pharaphimosis (scary sh*t) after getting their frenulum breve fixed, but leaving the foreskin intact (and mine is a pretty long ass foreskin).
Probably will go for the full circumsicion.
lol, being able to pull back and do oral means you don't have real premature ejaculation problems. When you would need to stop every fucking 10 seconds, then you have PE. And no girl wants that.
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Yeah, no way I can't do that while masturbating, let alone inside a girls vagina/mouth.
I can have a DO, but the erection goes away a bit. I could go on, and get another orgasm, but it just sucks. There is no way I can use that during fucking. 0 control and impossible to do it. I can kegel and reverse kegel for a minute straight and I think I do it right before the PONR but I can feel the PC contractions and im basically having a reverse ejaculation (I see a drop of cum or 2 sometimes). It doesn't work. Plus when I do it, the "feels toogood" feeling keeps on going for like 30 seconds, and my cock can't be touched while I go for the next orgasm or i'll ejaculate. It's like the orgasm is still going and fading. It wouldn't work with a girl.
Anyway even if I wait for the 30 seconds and continue jerking it off (now with half a boner or less) I get hard again in like a minute or less and have another "half DO". The problem is, the next one, the hardon is worse in quality, till i cant get it hard again past a poor half-boner.
I don't imagine how it would be possible to fuck hard, have an orgasm without ejaculating without barely stopping and keep going on like that as long as you want, because at my rate I would be having orgasms every 30 seconds. Maybe if I didn't have PE.
I consider that a myth anyway.
I don't know how much I can help you but there are a few things I can recommend. Firstly, a lot of the time, PE can be caused by anxiety/lack of confidence. If you think too much about prematurely cumming, and are focused on preventing it the entire time you have sex, then it will happen. Secondly, I have no idea if you haven't already looked into this, but if not, then I advise you to look into ByggD's Guide To Ejaculatory Control. It's helped him, it's currently working for me, and according to him, it worked miracles for his friend who sounds like he was in the same boat you are in right now. Thirdly, if you're looking for a mentor/someone to look up to, then I highly suggest you give JonPop a PM. The guy went from having ED, to adding 4 inches in his penis length AND being able to last as long as he wants. I'm sure he'll help you out if you ask him for advice/what he did. And lastly, I know you feel like this condition has ruined your life, but such a pessimistic attitude isn't going to help you at all. I applaud your courage to be able to come on here and ask for help and the fact that you said that PE is no reason to commit suicide. Just remember that everyone on here is willing to help. We're all a group of guys that are on this website for the same reasons, and you don't have to do this alone. PS: 21 IS NOT the peak of male sexuality. It's actually around 30. And that doesn't mean it's all down hill after 30. There are guys on here who are in their 50's and have no problem pounding away at pussy as hard and long as they want.
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im also 21 and have the same problems since im 17. This is awful, i never went for a girl and this is a huge mistake. PE is really something awful to have. Im currently almost at 3 weeks abstination and im horny as hell. Porn can ruin lives. ugh.
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nature, you say you have always came fast but i doubt you were in your youth when you hit puberty. Its because of your masturbation and porn habits that you developed this problem.
It seems to me that stop start edging without stimulation should still be beneficial if you stick with it.
I understand that it might be 20 seconds stimulation, followed by 40 seconds cool down, but so what? You can't focus on the fact that 'that isn't the kind of sex you want to have'. It is STILL rewiring your brain that stimulation does not lead quickly to orgasm. If you do that 20seconds on 40 second cool down 30 times a day, you are STILL teaching your brain - 30 times a day no less -that NO it does not need to prepare to ejaculate when it gets that much stimulation.
And maybe, a few months from now you'll be at 25 seconds on, 35 off.
And maybe a few months after, 30 on 30 off.
I bet its quicker then that, but seriously, if it takes you 3 years to fix, you'd be what, mid 20's, still able to pull awesome girls and have it under control? Your lifetime sex by age 30 would still slaughter most guys entire lifetimes.
Small steps add up.
I understand that it might be 20 seconds stimulation, followed by 40 seconds cool down, but so what? You can't focus on the fact that 'that isn't the kind of sex you want to have'. It is STILL rewiring your brain that stimulation does not lead quickly to orgasm. If you do that 20seconds on 40 second cool down 30 times a day, you are STILL teaching your brain - 30 times a day no less -that NO it does not need to prepare to ejaculate when it gets that much stimulation.
And maybe, a few months from now you'll be at 25 seconds on, 35 off.
And maybe a few months after, 30 on 30 off.
I bet its quicker then that, but seriously, if it takes you 3 years to fix, you'd be what, mid 20's, still able to pull awesome girls and have it under control? Your lifetime sex by age 30 would still slaughter most guys entire lifetimes.
Small steps add up.
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Thats retarded. All of my friends used to watch a shitload of porn back in the day. In fact we shared movies when the internet was still not as easy to get porn (we were like 13 lol).
They all are sex beasts with no problems but me.
God doesn't exsist so thats irrelevant.
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I wouldn't count on full circ bailing you out.
That said, I'm getting one in about two weeks, I'll let you know if I see a difference.
That said, I'm getting one in about two weeks, I'll let you know if I see a difference.
You experience a loss of physical sensation after the glans start drying out. This is a fact, not a matter of opinion.
And yes deliver some feedback.
Hi there, a quick update.
Still didn't got the surgery done, but it's on the way.
I gave up on jelqing and stretching since it's too anoying with a tight frenulum, but I continued doing kegels, reverse kegels and edging. 30 kegels/50 reverse kegels for 5 seconds each, then to finish it a nice hold-as-long-as-you-can kegel and then reverse kegel. Also edging.
Of course this didn't change a thing because my problem has nothing to do with that, but I still do it to have a trained muscle.
Anyway, what I thought recently is that the feeling of cumming is very similar to that microsecond before you are going to piss and the piss stream is about to go out. To piss you don't really need to push a lot, just a subtle pressure that technically could be called a very soft, sustained reverse kegel. If you kegel hard the piss goes out at high pressure for a second and then you stop it. If you reverse kegel, the piss goes out with high pressure and the stream continues at this high pace as long as you can hold the reverse kegel-like pressure on there. Once there is no more piss comming out, you (at least me) do a couple of kegels to push the remaining piss inside there.
So what I noticed recently is how im able to piss when im hard, if I push hard enough with a reverse kegel. This feels good, and I cam cum no hands while doing this sustained hard reverse kegel pressure when i have a hardon. In fact I came today at the shower doing that. It's ridiculous. It made me think how retarded the idea of doing some exercises to fix this is. Im fucked beyond that. Pills and the surgery are the only thing I have left now. Reverse kegeling real hard is supossed to stop the pleasure, but it increases it, just like kegeling, or just like relaxing it. The only thing for me to not cum instantly is stop applying pleasure every 2 seconds (impossible to have sex).
My new theory is that, besides the base problem of having a tight frenulum and probably and overally a supersensitive penis, my system is somehow confusing the urge to piss with the urge to cum. Like it gets mixed. Hope you get the idea. It's fucked up but who knows at this point. I don't have any incontinence problems or any problems related with urine, but I just that feeling about it. Like, when you are in the middle of a fuck with a girl and you want to piss you shouldn't really notice it because you are hard, and you are not supossed to feel like you want to go to the wc to take a piss, but somehow I do. This would also explain why sometimes after some time of edging, when I stop for a minute or less after 2 seconds of strokes so I don't cum, I lose the hardon a bit, then when I want to stroke 2 seconds or so again, my semi-hard-more-flaccid-than-hard cock is able to ejaculate. I want to take a piss but it feels good at the same time, so I cum.
Anyway I'll report back when I manage to get a box of those Priligy pills and after the surgery aswell.
Still didn't got the surgery done, but it's on the way.
I gave up on jelqing and stretching since it's too anoying with a tight frenulum, but I continued doing kegels, reverse kegels and edging. 30 kegels/50 reverse kegels for 5 seconds each, then to finish it a nice hold-as-long-as-you-can kegel and then reverse kegel. Also edging.
Of course this didn't change a thing because my problem has nothing to do with that, but I still do it to have a trained muscle.
Anyway, what I thought recently is that the feeling of cumming is very similar to that microsecond before you are going to piss and the piss stream is about to go out. To piss you don't really need to push a lot, just a subtle pressure that technically could be called a very soft, sustained reverse kegel. If you kegel hard the piss goes out at high pressure for a second and then you stop it. If you reverse kegel, the piss goes out with high pressure and the stream continues at this high pace as long as you can hold the reverse kegel-like pressure on there. Once there is no more piss comming out, you (at least me) do a couple of kegels to push the remaining piss inside there.
So what I noticed recently is how im able to piss when im hard, if I push hard enough with a reverse kegel. This feels good, and I cam cum no hands while doing this sustained hard reverse kegel pressure when i have a hardon. In fact I came today at the shower doing that. It's ridiculous. It made me think how retarded the idea of doing some exercises to fix this is. Im fucked beyond that. Pills and the surgery are the only thing I have left now. Reverse kegeling real hard is supossed to stop the pleasure, but it increases it, just like kegeling, or just like relaxing it. The only thing for me to not cum instantly is stop applying pleasure every 2 seconds (impossible to have sex).
My new theory is that, besides the base problem of having a tight frenulum and probably and overally a supersensitive penis, my system is somehow confusing the urge to piss with the urge to cum. Like it gets mixed. Hope you get the idea. It's fucked up but who knows at this point. I don't have any incontinence problems or any problems related with urine, but I just that feeling about it. Like, when you are in the middle of a fuck with a girl and you want to piss you shouldn't really notice it because you are hard, and you are not supossed to feel like you want to go to the wc to take a piss, but somehow I do. This would also explain why sometimes after some time of edging, when I stop for a minute or less after 2 seconds of strokes so I don't cum, I lose the hardon a bit, then when I want to stroke 2 seconds or so again, my semi-hard-more-flaccid-than-hard cock is able to ejaculate. I want to take a piss but it feels good at the same time, so I cum.
Anyway I'll report back when I manage to get a box of those Priligy pills and after the surgery aswell.
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Hi there, update:
I've kept exercising my reverse kegel and just some regular kegel technique doing repetitions everyday, to the point I am now a boybuilder when it comes to the PC muscle. I can press so hard that and for so much time that if I have a 100% hard boner I can SHOT PISS out of my dick, while having a huge hardon. I didn't know that was even possible.
Guess what: Nothing of that has made it a little better. I still have the insane pleasure sensation everytime that cannot be stopped, unless you actually stop touching your dick, not even jerking/fucking, just any kind of contact will make it explode, which means girls hating you. My premature ejaculation definitely runs in deeper levels.
Im gonna finally contact the urologist in the next weeks and probably get Priligy prescribed as a last resort.
I've kept exercising my reverse kegel and just some regular kegel technique doing repetitions everyday, to the point I am now a boybuilder when it comes to the PC muscle. I can press so hard that and for so much time that if I have a 100% hard boner I can SHOT PISS out of my dick, while having a huge hardon. I didn't know that was even possible.
Guess what: Nothing of that has made it a little better. I still have the insane pleasure sensation everytime that cannot be stopped, unless you actually stop touching your dick, not even jerking/fucking, just any kind of contact will make it explode, which means girls hating you. My premature ejaculation definitely runs in deeper levels.
Im gonna finally contact the urologist in the next weeks and probably get Priligy prescribed as a last resort.
