Drinking Alone

[islander]

Haha
See not2big we are already having communication problems. Lmao. Too late you already ditched me. I'm hurt so deeply I could never muster the guts to try again.



Hahahaha

Yea I'll edit my OP. it's such a long thread now my clarifications are deep in the thread.

I feel confident that with all the responses I'm able to adjust my views and fear threshold. I friend of mine explained it well. We are used to what we have lived. Who we have seen. So when something is different or someone is different we sometimes shut down or off. Because I'm very private in my real life it takes a lot to get me to stay in play to get to know new people. All true stuff.
Growing every day. Gotta love life man

 

[spanky]

...I friend of mine explained it well. We are used to what we have lived. Who we have seen. So when something is different or someone is different we sometimes shut down or off. Because I'm very private in my real life it takes a lot to get me to stay in play to get to know new people. All true stuff.
Growing every day. Gotta love life man

Wise words.

Funny with all this automatic red flag talk, that I feel like MR RED FLAG over here.. and you don't know the half of it haha. Maybe it's just the British way? I dunno, it's not like I really care since I meet, attract, date, seduce and get seduced by (yeah, really) enough women not to be concerned.. and I'm not up for marriage either, but this talk has made me think a little about how choosy *I* am - since I don't have such severe standards.

I mean sure there's a point at which I know I won't get on with somebody, but I always give people the chance and the freedom to be their true selves right up until they (try to) screw me over, then it's game over for ever. I find that generally happens quickly if the person in question (not just women or dates) is going to do so.

In retrospect I guess I missed a lot of red flags with my ex, and I could maybe have avoided that hurt, but I think I learnt something different, to be more cautious with my heart, and to examine people's motives more closely. I don't think I learnt any automatic strikes from her, there are probably things she did and ways she behaved early on that shold have been automatic goodbyes, but I thought they were funny. I made the mistake of trying to keep her. If I hadn't been so accomodating with her I would have missed out on a LOT of good times too. Y'know, it only hurt at the end. Tough call?

 

[Hanma]

I mean sure there's a point at which I know I won't get on with somebody, but I always give people the chance and the freedom to be their true selves right up until they (try to) screw me over, then it's game over for ever. I find that generally happens quickly if the person in question (not just women or dates) is going to do so.

Hate to break it to you, but you'll almost always be dealing with fakes. They'll always so "I'm so and so, these are my likes and dislikes, I'm these many years old ..." but those ideas are completely man made. They do not reflect the actual self. So, even when you say "Hey, she's not attractive, but damn her true self's got a spark!" it is still a mask, albeit a great one. Our own word "person" is from the Latin, persona: "That through which comes sound." This word was used for the masks worn by actors in the Greco-Roman theater, which being an open-air theater required a projection of the voice. The word person has, however, in the course of time, come to mean "the real you." The inner self, the deep down real self is just the same as yours and everyone else's.

You think you're not caught up in these games, but you are, you are. Nothing wrong with that, you're free to join in but you know it's a game.

 

[spanky]

Hate to break it to you, but you'll almost always be dealing with fakes. They'll always so "I'm so and so, these are my likes and dislikes, I'm these many years old ..." but those ideas are completely man made. They do not reflect the actual self. So, even when you say "Hey, she's not attractive, but damn her true self's got a spark!" it is still a mask, albeit a great one. Our own word "person" is from the Latin, persona: "That through which comes sound." This word was used for the masks worn by actors in the Greco-Roman theater, which being an open-air theater required a projection of the voice. The word person has, however, in the course of time, come to mean "the real you." The inner self, the deep down real self is just the same as yours and everyone else's.

You think you're not caught up in these games, but you are, you are. Nothing wrong with that, you're free to join in but you know it's a game.

You now what, honestly I can't be bothered with it. Imma just do my thing. In the meantime, I've met amazing people, and total bitches. It's all been an experience. I could I suppose try to become some kind of expert in judging people early on, but I'm kind of too busy with other things in my life to dedicate that much energy to it. And despite that, things are going pretty well for me right now, so something must be working

 

[Hanma]

Well of course, I wasn't implying that you oght to force people to reveal themselves and only associate with smart ones. If you're having fun, go for it. But now you know what a fantastic game all of this is.

 

[spanky]

Well of course, I wasn't implying that you oght to force people to reveal themselves and only associate with smart ones. If you're having fun, go for it. But now you know what a fantastic game all of this is.

Isn't *all* of life a game though really?

 

[Hanma]

Isn't *all* of life a game though really?

Of course it is. And if one finds out that the game isn't worth the struggle, one has the right to opt out. Somehow people think that's a bad move. "Life must go on man!" ... but it doesn't have to.

 

[bautista19]

I do, and I think the wife hates it. I should stop.

 

[Kelspeed]

Medicating with alcohol has never made any sense to me. I feel bad for those who do.

 

[MikeShlort]

I farted

 

[rollingthunder]

I never understood the problem with drinking alone. I like to get home from work and set on the porch with a whiskey or beer. Or both. Ooooooooooh.

Are you seriously timing these guys? That sends ME red flags.
Nothing personal. I just couldn't be with someone that would judge me by some arbitrary standard.
If you see me sloppy, then judge all you want. It still isn't very nice.

 

[draggin]

Drinking is bad. The less you do it the better, so Congrats Islander!!

2 drinks in 7 hours? that's not drinking. I only drink on weekends too. But if some SEC college Football is on, I can drink at least 7 in one sitting all by myself and have a hell of a good time too!! I think that means you will ditch me. Darn, just when I was starting to like you.