Drinking Alone

[BigO]

I could never kick Spanky, that just sounds wrong and hes way to nice. I think that this thread is actually pretty damn awsome. Many great points being brought up and it just goes to show that there are so many things that people have different veiws on. When I was younger I dont think I would have liked a girl who didnt drink but now if I was single I would look for that very same person.
I dont mind if people drink so long as they are in control of the drink and not the other way around. I will have the odd drink here and there but it is not very often. I decided long ago that I am not a prize when I am drunk. I never started trouble but I may have been the life of the party on several occasions. Now I will get you home safely!

 

[islander]

Good morning big boy
I agree when I was young if you didn't drink or smoke pot forget it lol
All that changes as you mature get married have kids work etc
At my age the guys ride motorcycles and drink. Hey they deserve their freedom. I chose not to be on the back of their bike or be around drunk people.
Again preference.
I enjoy the drinkers in my group. I enjoy drinking. All about moderation and control at this stage.
But I do find some connection to excess alone drinkers to other red flags.
Just as many find my energy level, thought process and work situation too much for them.
Wax on wax off lol

Today I'll be drinking mohitos with the major BBQ I'm making for the group. Word!

 

[BigO]

Hey good looking, that sounds like fun. What time should I be there. I will give you aride home. I am BBQuing today myself but only for the little world of my kids and wifey. Simple stuff today but I might have a beer too. It is Sunday!

 

[islander]

Big boy you rock my ovary! Lol
BBQ is at my place so I don't need a ride home but you can drive me around the block

 

[islander]

So you guys can see what I'm dealing with here. After hearing all your responses I spoke to my guy friends by phone. Each one of them said "Landi don't date a guy who needs a drink to cut the edge off. If a guy drinks more than four beers in a date run". So you see I can't get a good response from the men in my life because they have different standards for me. These are all guys that drink a good amount. Hilarious!
Thanks for your honesty fellows.
I'm really happy today even though the rain hasn't stopped since 4am. It will come 2pm! Lol

Have a great Sunday !

 

[mrmark]

I don't drink or smoke it just does not interest me at all but when i go out with friends most of them are drinkers but they only drink lightly.I certainly know how to have a good time and enjoy myself its just that i don't need to be drunk to do it if you know what i mean.I would rather do some running or cycling as i love the buzz of feeling fit i am now at 12% body fat down from the usual 14% and it certainly pays off in the bedroom!.

 

[spanky]

"If a guy drinks more than four beers in a date run"

Fair enough I guess, If that made my date run, we'd *NEVER* get on!

 

[MrBigDick]

Same guy as before with no coordination?

Drinking alone is automatic "Alcoholism" territory, to me.

Really? I'll have a single jack and coke when I'm alone and I stop after that and switch back to water or iced tea.......and that puts me in "alcoholic" territory to you? Wow.......and I should note that I have one maybe every few days....its not a daily thing for me although it can be depending on the various stresses going on at the moment.

 

[BigO]

Well it all depends on how big that Jack n coke is now, doesnt it. Is it a small beach pail with a fifth and a two litre or a cocktail glass? I do like a beam and coke but I havent had one in about a year. i would have one with ya if we get the chance and that would count as a sppecial occasion so my glass would be large!

 

[MrBigDick]

Not having read every post in this read but having read enough I'll respond as follows. I do have 1 sole jack and coke maybe one every 2-3 days......and sometimes when the mood strikes I'll have one a day for maybe 2-3 days tops. I am not nor do I consider myself an alcoholic and sometimes yes, I do have my drinks totally sans company and I'm ok with that. From a purely comical point of view, those of you who know me well enough know that between living with my aging mother, dealing with inept ex wife and raising two daughters, you can quite imagine why I consume a reasonable amount of alcohol.

I would not NOT date someone because they had a few on a date. I would, however, stop if I found out that they were an alocoholic or that they were prone to addiction. I don't think someone having a drink or two on a date is at all ground for dismissing them. Now, if you have bad dating/relationship experiences relating to substance abuse and alcoholism then by all means, I should think that someone who was a non drinker would suit you best. However, just because you have 1 or 2 and your alone doesn't make you a bad person or make you the proverbial "alcky".

 

[MrBigDick]

Well it all depends on how big that Jack n coke is now, doesnt it. Is it a small beach pail with a fifth and a two litre or a cocktail glass? I do like a beam and coke but I havent had one in about a year. i would have one with ya if we get the chance and that would count as a sppecial occasion so my glass would be large!

LOL.....the glass is the size of a regular cocktail glass you'd get one in if you ordered it at a local bar.........I pour two shots of whiskey or burbon in it with the coke and that's it. I stop. I don't even like getting "buzzed" anymore and for the record, I've only been TRULY intoxicated once in my life, did not enjoy the aftermath and vowed never again and have yet to repeat that experience.............and for the most part, I've stayed away from Long Island Iced Teas ever since too....

 

[Toadstool]

I hear people say every weekend that they'll never get drunk again. Then, the next week, I'll see them at the bar as wasted as ever.

I guess MBD is just special!

 

[MrBigDick]

I hear people say every weekend that they'll never get drunk again. Then, the next week, I'll see them at the bar as wasted as ever.

I guess MBD is just special!

I am special........and all it took was one time and that did it for me. I didn't like the feeling so why do it? Makes no sense to me......

 

[BigO]

I used to pound down the long Islands, yummy back then.

 

[islander]

Big dick so glad you posted!
That's not at all what I meant or I'm sure what SBE meant (he and I are the same in this area)
I'm talking about sitting in a chair alone and downing six beers or more or at one sitting on a regular basis
I always have one to two glasses of wine or mixed drinks on my dates when the dates are at a restaurant. No worried mr big dick. I'm with ya

Ok someone shut down my 3G so I can stop checking this thread haha

 

[MrBigDick]

I have that person on block I don't see it's posts.
Thanks for all the relplies
I agree with beers and yard work. Beer while doing something. I meant sitting in a chair drinking alone at night in my original post.
The guy I referenced sucked down 6 on a first date. The guy I see now doesn't drink unless I drink. Light weight which is good lol
I'm happy I didn't grow up with drinking parents or siblings. As an adult I drink. Not often. I can suck down several mixed drinks and I party like a rock star (have it spend it lol) party doesn't have to mean getting drunk or too high to function.
But I guess I'm very picky or nervous when it comes to NEW people because you don't know how they handle themselves. That's what I'm coming away with y alls help.
Thanks as usual for your points of view. Big hug!

I can tell you that 6 beers on a first date? Talk about giving a negative impression of oneself...........I'd have ditched too in that situation. 6 is WAY too much on a first date.

I physically observed what alcohol did to my dad..........he drank vodka tonics every night......basically all vodka and a tad bit of water to dilute it. He let me have a sip once when I was like 16-17 and it was like drinking pure gasoline from your car. It was AWFUL! Couldn't understand how any human being could ingest that stuff.

Anyhoo, after that observation and then him dropping dead at age 55 from a massive coronary, I vowed NEVER to abuse alcohol in my life. I also recall vividly what it turned him into after work.......it wasn't his intent of course but after a long, stressful 12 hour day managing people and then coming home to have to help me with math homework......he was too through and didn't want to deal with it and would get angry with me very quickly if I didn't get some math concept quick......I remember how that made me feel and I decided back then I would never put my own kids through that and I'm trying very hard to live up to that promise to my kids.

On 1/1/12, I made a New Year's resolution to severely cut back my own alcohol consumption and I have stuck to my goal. I can go 3-4 days easy now without a drop. I love a glass of merlot and I love my jack and coke but these are not things I NEED to survive. I have my workouts at the gym for stress release.

Moderation is what is key here. My doctor has no problem with my current consumption level nor do I.

 

[MrBigDick]

Big dick so glad you posted!
That's not at all what I meant or I'm sure what SBE meant (he and I are the same in this area)
I'm talking about sitting in a chair alone and downing six beers or more or at one sitting on a regular basis
I always have one to two glasses of wine or mixed drinks on my dates when the dates are at a restaurant. No worried mr big dick. I'm with ya

Ok someone shut down my 3G so I can stop checking this thread haha

OK, maybe I misunderstood SBE's post. My apologies then. I read his post and thought "hey, wait a minute, I'll have one drink alone and I don't think that makes me an alcoholic".......but 6 beers by yourself nightly? THAT is a problem to me.

 

[MrBigDick]

I used to pound down the long Islands, yummy back then.

Let's see, this happened the summer of 2010 and I think I've had 1 since then.............

 

[ryansambas]

i don't usually drink alone but whilst ive been overseas with my friends and family in the UK which I currently am I have at some points but even then I'm with my Dad, haven't been drunk yet though but then again I can drink a lot to be honest. But once I get back home, I'll get back to just drinking on weekends

 

[not2big]

Big dick so glad you posted!
That's not at all what I meant or I'm sure what SBE meant (he and I are the same in this area)
I'm talking about sitting in a chair alone and downing six beers or more or at one sitting on a regular basis
I always have one to two glasses of wine or mixed drinks on my dates when the dates are at a restaurant. No worried mr big dick. I'm with ya

I guess I misunderstood your OP and thought you would ditch anyone who drank on the first date. I only occasionally have one or two drinks alone before dinner. Since you do have one or two drinks on a date, perhaps we should try for a second date.