Drinking Alone

[islander]

Howdy!
I was not raised around drinkers. I am very critical of people who drink over what I consider reasonable. Especially people who drink alone.

I don't understand why someone would drink 6+beers in one sitting while sitting in a chair alone.

When I find out I immediately ditch. This is a matter of preference. A matter of what I consider a red flag.

I had a thread once about a guy I dated who drank 6 beers in four hours. I ditched. Many of you felt that was normal for him. Although many of you said to me specifically that it was too much for a first date.

I am finding I can't shake my judgement or fear on it as I meet new people. The man I'm seeing now does not drink. If he does it's two beers in seven hours. That is great although I don't consider it a plus or "pro" column because to me that's expected (not to be an excess drinker)

If you think I'm being too judgmental let me know. I'm not referring to guys getting drunk. That is unacceptable on a regular or occasional basis. I'm referring to drinking to their supposed buzz limit.

Yes I drink once a weekend at friends houses maybe two beers in six hours or more. Sometimes three is we are shooting pool.

Grrr

Edit: I drink socially. Never alone. I am a pretty outgoing social happy person. Never used drinking as a form of relaxation. On a date I can or will have up to 2 mixed drinks or 2 glasses of wine. When I am at a friends house I will drink beer until I dont want to anymore. As an adult I think I have got drunk by accident (lol) a couple times only. I dont drink to get drunk. Drinking while doing yard work, fixing your car, doing stuff is not what I am talking about. The single cocktail a night is not what I am talking about.

 

[somebodyelse]

Same guy as before with no coordination?

Drinking alone is automatic "Alcoholism" territory, to me.

 

[CUSP82]

Some guys do just like the taste of beer. It's not the alccohol they're after but rather the flavor.

 

[Padawan787]

When i'm at college in my own apartment I usually drink 1 or 2 Gin and Tonics or whiskies a night, or at least every 2 nights, I don't see a problem with it, I like the taste.

 

[islander]

SBE no my question on the drinkers is mainly new people I'm meeting in general or coming into the group. I just don't like to engage with them and they notice it. You know I can strict as hell. But I'm wondering if I'm being too critical because if they are in control of themselves and not rude who am I to question? Diss them?
Cusp. I find that odd lol

 

[islander]

Pady if I found that out I would ditch. I find that odd. No one on my life was a drinker but at my age now they are. And again I am trying to be accepting and not two faced about. Maybe my limit is two beers and they think I'm drinking too much lol

 

[pterodactyl]

Drinking alone = not so bad. Getting drunk alone could be a problem or lead to problems.

 

[CUSP82]

SBE no my question on the drinkers is mainly new people I'm meeting in general or coming into the group. I just don't like to engage with them and they notice it. You know I can strict as hell. But I'm wondering if I'm being too critical because if they are in control of themselves and not rude who am I to question? Diss them?
Cusp. I find that odd lol

No my dear you find me odd!!!

 

[Padawan787]

Drinking alone = not so bad. Getting drunk alone could be a problem or lead to problems.

Important distinction, I agree with this statement.

 

[islander]

Maybe fear? Since I don't know them I'm not willing to be around them to learn if they are in control of themselves all the time? If that's what it is that's not fair of me. I'm never alone I have a great group of friends. Hmmm

 

[Padawan787]

Pady if I found that out I would ditch. I find that odd. No one on my life was a drinker but at my age now they are. And again I am trying to be accepting and not two faced about. Maybe my limit is two beers and they think I'm drinking too much lol

I don't see a problem with it, I like to unwind and relax with a drink after a long day of class. And I know that I don't have an alcohol problem as this summer i've barely had any drinks because I worked a night shift.

In terms of alcohol consumed, 2 beers is the same as 2 whiskies or 2 gin and tonics btw. Out of curiosity, would you have a problem with someone having 2-3 glasses of wine in an evening (including dinner)?

 

[islander]

Pady yes I would haha

 

[Padawan787]

Of wine? ok, that is consistent at least (alcohol content is the same).

Loads of people drink wine in the evening and then criticize others for having beer, or whisky.

I personally think that this attitude is a bit extreme, but hey, different strokes for different folks

 

[somebodyelse]

You know what and who you want in your life... stick with it, if it's working for you.

 

[DemOne]

Some guys do just like the taste of beer. It's not the alccohol they're after but rather the flavor.

And then there's some guys like me who just get really fucking bored sometimes. Being drunk by yourself at home is a bit like dancing around your house naked with your weiner tucked between your legs like a lady singing some Aerosmith.

No fucks given!

Though it only takes me two beers on an empty stomach to get me to that point. Plus, it keeps me out of trouble.

 

[NCGUY1972]

Well im at home now doing yard work, housework, garden work driving a tractor moving some dirt and enjoying a few beers. I am alone and happy.

 

[CUSP82]

I happen to like the taste of wine. I don't want to drink enough of it to get me stupid; I have a big enough problem in that regard without having alcohol. A nice merlot at times can be better than sex. So tonight if no one is home and I'm siting on my deck looking at the sunset sipping a nice glass of merlot does that make me bad? It is the manner of which you approach things that make it a problem or not.

 

[Nihilanth]

I prefer to drink alone. I'm very susceptable to suggestions, that's mostly why. I don't drink until I passout or something like that, but I'm pretty drunk. I watch a movie in that condition, play a game or something. I avoid people because I trust only a few of them in that state. I'm very vulnerable when drunk. When I was in Czech, I undressed and was running naked and doing all kind of stuff in the hotel. If a girl didn't tell me to undress, I would never do it.

Also, if someone comes, I have to give them some of my alcohol. And usually I'm broke. And I'm a cheap bastard.

Since I'm susceptible, It's hard for me to not answer something and last time I told some of my "friends" that I'm a virgin and that went wrong. But it's ok, I lived without those bastards for years, I can do it again.

Sometimes I like to get drunk (mildly) and eat a shitload of sugar (some 250+ grams) which makes me extra high since I have problems with insuline. Basically a prediabetes. But I do it rarely since I'm completelly incapacitated and my parents are annoying. I live with them and don't do any of it anymore so I have to deal with the stress on my own. Snapping is very possible, but I'm getting offtopic....

 

[BigO]

I used to get sh*t faced alone, then for some reason I just lost my desire to drink. Islander, If you dont like being around drinkers then dont be. Nothing wrong with that at all. Since I stopped I find drunk people annoying and I was one of them a few years ago. I now drink 1 beer every sunday with my hockey team. No more!

 

[Closed039]

Nah, six beers over the course of a yankee or giants game? Not alcoholism in my book. A pint of georgie every night before bed so you can fall asleep or every morning before work so you can function? We may have a problem.