why do women do this?

[MrBigDick]

well we did just spend 2 pretty amazing nights together last weds and friday

Well, you're the one freaking out every time you text her and you don't get a response from her within a minute or two. I'm not exactly Learntolift what it is you're looking for advice wise.....

 

[somebodyelse]

so do you think she is playing me?

last night at like 1 am she sent me a huge long text before she went to sleep, saying how she can make me as happy, if not happier, than my last relationship, and how she likes me, etc. then today she sent me a text and i replied and i have yet to get anything back, although she is at work and must be busy. idk, maybe im just psyching myself out because i dont think she is attached to her phone at all from what i have noticed when i am with her

That's the first thing I notice. Her habits. I look clueless, or at least try my best to, but i am VERY observant. I notice everything said and done. if there's inconsistencies, i wont necessarily say anything right away, but that part i'm working on. My partner jumped all over me for holding stuff back. She kinda got me out of holding onto stuff. Side bar

but anyway, getting back to what i was saying. I'm very observant so I'll match up all her behaviors to what i notice. When she is with me. if she doesn't keep her phone on her, or she leaves it somewhere, constantly, you've got nothing to worry about.

If she's on top of her phone all the time and she still takes time to get back to you, that's when you notice inconsistencies.

 

[Learntolift]

mrbigdick idk what i am looking for really anyway, i guess deep down i want reassurance that all my worries and insecurities are unfounded and i shouldnt worry. idk

somebodyelse, yeah both nights i was with her when we were out and when i spent the night in her bed with her, i dont think i saw her look at her phone more than once or twice, which was to check the time i think

 

[MrBigDick]

mrbigdick idk what i am looking for really anyway, i guess deep down i want reassurance that all my worries and insecurities are unfounded and i shouldnt worry. idk

somebodyelse, yeah both nights i was with her when we were out and when i spent the night in her bed with her, i dont think i saw her look at her phone more than once or twice, which was to check the time i think

The only person who can give you that reassurance is you and that comes from being confident in who and what you are as a man. The less confident you are, the more reassurance you need.

 

[Learntolift]

oh yeah im definitely pretty insecure

which is weird because EVERYONE i know thinks i am just so confident

 

[somebodyelse]

well there you go... calm down a bit...

 

[Learntolift]

so my friend who lives across the country offered to text her and pretend she got the wrong number, to see if she would reply.


and looks like the girl just replied to my friend asking who it is, and i never got my reply...guess she really is ignoring me...wow

 

[somebodyelse]

so my friend who lives across the country offered to text her and pretend she got the wrong number, to see if she would reply.


and looks like the girl just replied to my friend asking who it is, and i never got my reply...guess she really is ignoring me...wow

Nothing else left to be said . Move on!

And DO NOT make a scene about it. just quietly stop talking to her. No big dramatic overdoses of revenge or anything. Just move on quietly and confidently

 

[Learntolift]

hmm

 

[Learntolift]

i don't get it. sometimes she responds almost immediately, but sometimes she takes like forever. for example last night she was watching a movie and took like an hour to reply. if you are watching a movie you have your phone right there, i don't get it.

and like i texted her this morning and 3 hours later i was getting annoyed like she is ignoring me again so i blocked my # and called her just to see if she'd answer/had her phone. and she immediately answered, meaning she had already gotten my text and just not replied. i hung up without saying anything, but then like 12 minutes later she texted me like heyyy im on my break im starving. point being she was on break but still took a while to reply. i just don't get what is going on

 

[TTBB]

Never make someone a priority, when they only make you an option.

 

[Learntolift]

i can't tell if shes just playing a game that girls play in their late teens/young 20s or if shes just not that interested (although when we are talking she does act interested) etc...

 

[TheSnitch]

Never make someone a priority, when they only make you an option.

Oh Tink... oh Tinkerbell, Tinkerbell Tinkerbell.

Date for below quote: 09-19-2011
https://www.pegym.com/forums/relationship-forum/29016-starting-get-my-mojo-back-9.html

These are some things I've been accumulating in my own head to battle my insecurities.

1. The more you think the less you do - Stop Thinking
2. Asking questions about possible actions is merely another form of asking permission - Just Act
3. Act boldly or don't act at all - meek is for the weak
4. Say what you mean and mean what you say - those who care don't matter and those who matter don't care
5. Don't make someone a priority who you are only an option for
6. Don't seek approval except from yourself

Someone's been following TheSnitch, and likin what they see.

 

[TTBB]

When you like someone its really hard to ignore them...When you really really like someone its hard to get them out of your mind, if they contact you..generally the opportunity is jumped on.
I personally think the slow response or no response is not a good sign ..Girls when they like a guy, we tend to be all up in it.

 

[TTBB]

Oh Tink... oh Tinkerbell, Tinkerbell Tinkerbell.

Date for below quote: 09-19-2011
https://www.pegym.com/forums/relationship-forum/29016-starting-get-my-mojo-back-9.html



Someone's been following TheSnitch, and likin what they see.

Laughing.. ummm sorry to disappoint you.. but no.
its something i was told a couple years ago.. something i am still trying to master when it comes to people.

but i do like your list.

 

[Learntolift]

So tinkerbell, from what you know, what would you recommend I do?

It's too bad because when we talk she seems all about me, she just said she wants to skype more. The other night she said she doesn't have the privilege of calling me hers. and I asked if she wants the privilege, and she said in time she will see if she still wants the privilege or something. Like I don't get it

 

[Steve23]

Yeah if this girl is actually dating you she would jump on your texts. People don't play hard to get once they are dating(Well most of the time) and seeing that she answered your blocked call right away but not your text for over an hour says something. It's probably hard for you because you like her but doesn't seem like shes so interested in you from what you've been saying so far.

 

[Padawan787]

As infuriating as it is it is just something that girls do, gotta get used to it! However the longest I have had to wait is about half an hour, not as bad as some of the guys in this thread

 

[Learntolift]

well we have only hung out twice and those 2 nights were pretty amazing like I said, for both of us.

I wonder if she is being like it because she doesn't want to get her hopes up too much too fast, or cause she just isn't that into me. But she is a very honest person I can't see her leading me on

 

[TTBB]

I would say step back for awhile...let her contact you.
She is giving mixed signals, toying with (intentionally or unintentionally).
She could be a coy girl, but she could be a game player.
give it some distance, stop chasing and stop feeding into what she is doing.
she knows you are interested and keen..so stop tripping over yourself trying to get her attention