Young, insecure male.....

[joeaverage]

your penis size is more than enough to satisfy... more then many men have.

But enough to bring a woman the biggest orgasm of her life from a purely sexual encounter, provided the man used it right? I sense that it is not.

 

[Steve23]

Then friend, you don't know much about sex.

 

[MrBigDick]

But enough to bring a woman the biggest orgasm of her life from a purely sexual encounter, provided the man used it right? I sense that it is not.

You are going to prove to be your own worst enemy my friend with that attitude..........

 

[Steve23]

It seem when guys think like it it's because the woman would want more and leave the guy later. Women aren't shallow like that and stop thinking that.

 

[penisma]

really if you wanna be the best lover stop thinking about your penis size and lok up other love making forums

But do PE in the meantime. PE is a long term thing you can do on the side.
Right now you can read abook, dvd, or forum on how to be a great lover.

As for me I wont cuase I dont care. I just wanna big dick for me lol

 

[penisma]

Wow penisma, I'm stunned by this post. I feel for you man..........

What do you mean?

 

[MrBigDick]

What do you mean?

Your above post was basically all about you using a girl for your own personal sexual gratification. Go back and reread it.

 

[joeaverage]

why? really why?

I am so opposite. Im like a pervert I like depraved sex as much as anything.

I like to sit on a woman and get her suck me off I like to fist her and cum on her face. There is minimal enjoyment for her I guess unless she is into hard porn style stuff and that.

As for being great at sex or love making lmao I couldnt give 2 craps as long as I get aroused and enjoy it. But I think when you sometimes go out to enjoy yourself then you do well and maybe they lik eit. When you go out to please someone else you can mess up cause you trying or thinking to hard.

Like when I put on my guitar I play amazin gand its great. But if someone aske me to play a song I can mess it up as Im trying to please them not me. See what I mean?

Ah well, I guess its better to be me than you? My problem is Im more likely to not get repeat sex or end up in jail whereas you are more likely to suffer perfomance anxiety and depression related to sex/females lol

Dude, I am not like you at all! I think you have issues that you should try to get help for!

In actuality, macho-talk aside, I like vanilla sex, with nice kisses. Slow relaxing sex. I know that jars with all the stuff that I have said, but it is true. I feel like less of a man because I DON'T have pictures of me with random girls, and I DON'T like to have rough sex and treat the girl in an over-dominant way. It's not in my nature to be like that. I just fight it because I hate being the weakling. I want to be the alpha dog, and alpha males objectify women more than me. The only reason I am trying to be shallow and just focus on sex is because I don't want to feel so insecure. Maybe that was what all the porn was about. Porn is the distillation of pure lust, with no emotional subtext whatsoever. Ergo, if I view my girlfriend solely as a sex-object, I don't have to deal with the pain of thinking of the others before me.

This next part is heavy, but cuts to the core of my issues with my girlfriend.....

I feel that those other men got to use her as a sex-object and discard her, and that I can't love her because of it. How can I love a woman that has a picture of some as*hole's cock in her? They know her as intimately as I can ever know her, and have been in the same place as I have, and the only time they ever think about her at all is when they are going through the mental spank-bank. I think about her every day. That arab dude probably has had so many women that he doesn't even think about her at all! Imagine that, he get's to be as physically close to her as possible, and it meant nothing to him at all, AND he has a picture out there. My girlfriend is in a pornographic image! How am I supposed to love her knowing this? I feel like a chump. How can she seem so sweet and innocent after this? She seems like the nicest girl ever, but this is crushing me. To me, her past makes what we have right now completely irrelevant. If that guy got to pump-and-dump her, and it was no big deal, how can she mean anything to me? I wish I didn't care about her at all. This is so tough. If only she had just shut up! TMI. (Too much information).

 

[Steve23]

What's nice passionate sex having to do with being less of a man or a weakling? Have you had sex before her? I'm sure she doesn't picture you with your cock in some other pussy, and on top of that she doesn't wonder if the pussy was tighter than yours. Her past is hers and had nothing to do with you, if you can't let that go then good luck finding a virgin. And you wish you didn't care about her at all because she dated someone else before you?

 

[TTBB]

But enough to bring a woman the biggest orgasm of her life from a purely sexual encounter, provided the man used it right? I sense that it is not.

Yes. definitely it is enough for sure!

 

[MrBigDick]

Dude, I am not like you at all! I think you have issues that you should try to get help for!

In actuality, macho-talk aside, I like vanilla sex, with nice kisses. Slow relaxing sex. I know that jars with all the stuff that I have said, but it is true. I feel like less of a man because I DON'T have pictures of me with random girls, and I DON'T like to have rough sex and treat the girl in an over-dominant way. It's not in my nature to be like that. I just fight it because I hate being the weakling. I want to be the alpha dog, and alpha males objectify women more than me. The only reason I am trying to be shallow and just focus on sex is because I don't want to feel so insecure. Maybe that was what all the porn was about. Porn is the distillation of pure lust, with no emotional subtext whatsoever. Ergo, if I view my girlfriend solely as a sex-object, I don't have to deal with the pain of thinking of the others before me.

This next part is heavy, but cuts to the core of my issues with my girlfriend.....

I feel that those other men got to use her as a sex-object and discard her, and that I can't love her because of it. How can I love a woman that has a picture of some as*hole's cock in her? They know her as intimately as I can ever know her, and have been in the same place as I have, and the only time they ever think about her at all is when they are going through the mental spank-bank. I think about her every day. That arab dude probably has had so many women that he doesn't even think about her at all! Imagine that, he get's to be as physically close to her as possible, and it meant nothing to him at all, AND he has a picture out there. My girlfriend is in a pornographic image! How am I supposed to love her knowing this? I feel like a chump. How can she seem so sweet and innocent after this? She seems like the nicest girl ever, but this is crushing me. To me, her past makes what we have right now completely irrelevant. If that guy got to pump-and-dump her, and it was no big deal, how can she mean anything to me? I wish I didn't care about her at all. This is so tough. If only she had just shut up! TMI. (Too much information).

Dude, the only way you're going to get past your feelings of being inadequate or feeling like a weakling is if you accept yourself for who and what you are. If you like "vanilla sex" and being dominant with a woman isn't who you are, then be true to yourself and stick with what works for you. You can't be what you're not.

 

[penisma]

Your above post was basically all about you using a girl for your own personal sexual gratification. Go back and reread it.

Yes correct. My personal sex toy. Ok it sounds bad but I do like to perfrom oral on hot girls. And liek to make lovery type sex to.

but I have a few fetishes which all add up would seem to be using a girl as a sex toy.

 

[duppy]

I am sure this question has been asked millions of times here, but.....what's average?

Do you think women tend to see larger than average sizes more often, as larger men tend to be more confident and get laid more? Perhaps most attractive women think average size is bigger than it actually is, because the only men confident enough to approach them are sporting something extra. You think at the bar or nightclub the size of guys scoring chicks is larger than average?

in bold thats a damn lie lol

 

[duppy]

Mate, you're the one saying you don't get any thrill from having sex from women, that it's empty to you, and that making love is an alien concept because it's just in/out. That tells me you don't relate to women in that way. Sorry if that sounds harsh. I have no problem with homosexuality either, but the idea of sex with men leaves me cold. Indeed I had my cock sucked by a guy once. I felt nothing apart from the obvious. Much like you describe.

Having said all of this, sorry I'm throwing quite a hard case at you, having sex with women I don't find attractive is much the same I guess.

-_- huh

 

[joeaverage]

It's mainly just that a guy who out-classes me sexually got to have her, take a picture of the act, abuse her, screw her friend and the rest of them dorm room, and doesn't give to shits about it. It's that I hate her for being so naive and idiotic, because she seems very intelligent. Why would she A. get into a situation were a guy could abuse her and take photos of her, like she was some trophy, and B. be stupid enough to tell me these things when everything was going so perfectly. Did she WANT to ruin it?

Steve, assuming you aren't single, does your wife or girlfriend have a porn picture of her out there? Would it bother you that your wife or girlfriend was abused, used solely as a piece of meat, made a topic of conversation amongst the man's friends, laughed at, objectified and immortalized in a pornographic image?

It's mainly just that a guy who out-classes me sexually got to have her, take a picture of the act, abuse her, screw her friend and the rest of them dorm room, and doesn't give to shits about it. It's that I hate her for being so naive and idiotic, because she seems very intelligent. Why would she A. get into a situation were a guy could abuse her and take photos of her, like she was some trophy, and B. be stupid enough to tell me these things when everything was going so perfectly. Did she WANT to ruin it?

Steve, assuming you aren't single, does your wife or girlfriend have a porn picture of her out there? Would it bother you that your wife or girlfriend was abused, used solely as a piece of meat, made a topic of conversation amongst the man's friends, laughed at, objectified and immortalized in a pornographic image?

The main thing is that all the negative stories she told me about her past boyfriends seem to relate solely to this one guy, and I assume he had a giant dick to boot, AND he took a photo of her, so it's given me a complex the likes of which I have never known. I feel il when I am around her now. I fake every smile and gesture of affection. In fact, the only time I like being around her now is when we have sex. It didn't used to be like this. I used to enjoy seeing her more than anything else. I feel like, with this knowledge, all the things we have done together, and the time we spent with eachother is a complete fallacy.

I have no problem with her past boyfriends. If they had an emotional connection and were exclusive to eachother and he did not exploit her, I don't mind at all. I don't want a virgin! I want a woman that likes sex....I just don't want one that is in a porn picture. Why did he deserve to fuck her and take a photo.

The main thing is that all the negative stories she told me about her past boyfriends seem to relate solely to this one guy, and I assume he had a giant dick to boot, AND he took a photo of her, so it's given me a complex the likes of which I have never known. I feel il when I am around her now. I fake every smile and gesture of affection. In fact, the only time I like being around her now is when we have sex. It didn't used to be like this. I used to enjoy seeing her more than anything else. I feel like, with this knowledge, all the things we have done together, and the time we spent with eachother is a complete fallacy.

This is only an issue because I feel like I was and am still in love with her, but I can't get this f*cking guy out my head. How if he saw me and her together, he would laugh to himself about the fact that I get his cast-offs, his table-scraps. If I were to ever meet him, I would want to punch him in the face so badly. Why are guys so horrible to women? I couldn't ever do what he did. Why did she tell me this? Ignorance is bliss.

Maybe she wanted to keep up with me, as I told her that I had slept with eleven women, and I used to tell her anecdotes here and there, just to make her think I am more experienced than I am. I have only slept with four women, so when she told me she had slept with six men, including me, I had to lie. Maybe I can pull the hammer down and end this stupid, meaningless relationship.....but that french accent still gets my heart fluttering. Stupid french accents.

 

[Steve23]

Well if your girlfriend can forget about it, then surely you can too. People make mistakes. Did she say she regretted being with him? Are you going to blame her for something she did dumb in the past?

My girlfriend's ex was the wrong type of guy, and she regretted dating him, no there's no porn pic of her, but I am not going to blame her or be angry at her for something she did stupid in the past. She told me it was dumb and wish she never dated him, why would I be angry at her for it, It had nothing to do with me and she didn't even know me then.

 

[penisma]

who cares whos fukin her now him or you

Lmao you worryin about nothing expcet your ego or sum crap.

Yesterday was the past today is the present.

THe way I see girls and sex is for soemthign for me to enjoy she may have had a bigger cock last week or will next week but who gives a crap Im gonna enjoy her whilst I get my chance. As long as she stiskcs aroudn she must be njoying it to, great, if she leaves, no sweat, I just need to find a new one.

 

[Steve23]

You can talk to her about it tell her how you feel about it, did she say he was the best lay ever? Probably not, did she say she regretted it? If she did then what is your problem. People make mistakes all the time, especially if you're young.
You say you love her but don't want to? then break it off and you Will get over it. Or say with her and get over yourself and your silly thoughts about the past.

 

[joeaverage]

Addendum: I realize that real love is hard to find. When I am forty and alone, perhaps I would really regret losing a great woman who was crazy about me. It's just that it's hard to know how you will feel in years to come. I think she would still like me if she found out I was in porn movie where we triple-teamed a girl, so why can't I extend her the same courtesy? In my case, probably because I never took photographs of me having sex. I know people make mistakes, but I really think this photo thing is the lynch-pin of causality here. The past is gone.....but the knowledge that there is a photo makes the past PRESENT in a sense, and reminds you of the reality of what really went on. If she had just not told me about that, I would feel way way better about her.

All that being said, what if she is the one and I am negating all that because of one dude's penis. Is love more important than sex? I have never felt so, but if I were emotionally intelligent I would never have created a thread like this!

 

[Steve23]

You're young and dumb, you just need a slap on the head. Go see your girlfriend, I'm sure she will give you one.