Ways to lower libido?

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Yeah not knowing is why I struggled sticking with NoFap cause I'd always question whether it's gonna help or make the problem worse. I think even fapping without porn, I doubt I would be sexually satisfied so I'll probably still be frustrated. A high libido is good when you're in a relationship but it can be a nuisance when you're single.

[FONT=&quot][FONT=&quot]If you can't repress it, maybe you should try to adapt to it. If you don't make sexual thoughts and fapping problems by judging them maybe you will find peace this way.[/FONT][/FONT]
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[FONT=&quot][FONT=&quot]If you don't get sexually satisfied from fapping without porn, it's the porn that is the problem not fapping. Noporn is more sensible than nofap. You'll probably get over it when you have had long enough break from watching porn.[/FONT][/FONT]
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1.Dont watch porn.
2.Workout more/use that energy for something else.
3.Have real sex with women.

I dont think you should try to repress it, its who you are, it will only backfire.Go out and seek for sex with women or try to start a relationship and make regular sex.The best for your situation would be to find a woman who has high libido as well, and want a relationship.Dont start a relationship with a woman who doesnt match your sexual needs, it will only lead to frustrations later on
 

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Man, I'd love to have your so called problem!!!!!
 

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I am someone who's made it over year of NoFap. I remember the first 3 to 4 months. Those months were some of the nastiest and most tedious months of my life, no joke. All I could think about was sex. And at that point I was too busy with studies and work to even find a girl. It was only after the 5th month of NoFap that I kind of "flatlined" (NoFap term for "depression" and sexual loss of interest). After 1 month of flatlining I returned to normal. With normal I mean normal libido and interest in sexual intercouse with women. It's been all good since then (with only 2 close calls and maybe 3 mini-flatlines that lasted about 2 weeks each).

In some NoFap forums people like to compare the urge to PMO to a dragon. It's strong and most people don't even notice it (most people don't think about fapping that much) but give in and fap. Your libido is like the "dragons fiery breath", it really burns you from the inside when you try to suppress the urge to PMO. It's amazing feeling when you can live a life where you don't control the urges, but you master them. You aknowledge them, but don't give 'em any more room in your mind than what's necessary. It's a skill and I think it helps with other things in life as well.

Keep in mind, that NoFap isn't for everyone. Some of us just have much stronger libido, or less willpower. Or in some cases, both. The same feeling can be obtained at least partially by changing your life; changing your diet, starting exercising or quitting other bad habits such as smoking.
 
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I've had trouble sleeping since I was a child. If only going for a run cured sleeping disorders. Only thing that worked for me was Diazepam, apart from that staying up for 2 days straight allowed me to get a good nights sleep but then I would be exhausted for those days.
Run till you drop from exhaustion then run some more was hard to understand?
 

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Run till you drop from exhaustion then run some more was hard to understand?

I think you're being a bit ridiculous tbh. You expect me to run all night every night? Like I don't have better sh*t to do.
 

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Man, I'd love to have your so called problem!!!!!

Nah you wouldn't. Not when you ain't getting any sex or you can't find a girl that will keep up with you.
 

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I am someone who's made it over year of NoFap. I remember the first 3 to 4 months. Those months were some of the nastiest and most tedious months of my life, no joke. All I could think about was sex. And at that point I was too busy with studies and work to even find a girl. It was only after the 5th month of NoFap that I kind of "flatlined" (NoFap term for "depression" and sexual loss of interest). After 1 month of flatlining I returned to normal. With normal I mean normal libido and interest in sexual intercouse with women. It's been all good since then (with only 2 close calls and maybe 3 mini-flatlines that lasted about 2 weeks each).

In some NoFap forums people like to compare the urge to PMO to a dragon. It's strong and most people don't even notice it (most people don't think about fapping that much) but give in and fap. Your libido is like the "dragons fiery breath", it really burns you from the inside when you try to suppress the urge to PMO. It's amazing feeling when you can live a life where you don't control the urges, but you master them. You aknowledge them, but don't give 'em any more room in your mind than what's necessary. It's a skill and I think it helps with other things in life as well.

Keep in mind, that NoFap isn't for everyone. Some of us just have much stronger libido, or less willpower. Or in some cases, both. The same feeling can be obtained at least partially by changing your life; changing your diet, starting exercising or quitting other bad habits such as smoking.

For me I don't think it's willpower because I can power through urges when I'm focused but when I relapse it seems out of my control like all the willpower in the world wouldn't stop it. I basically snap out of it when I'm finished then feel sh*t.

I worry about quitting smoking though because NoFap is stressful enough and quitting smoking will make me feel worse. They say it's a bad idea to quit too many things at once.
 

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I think you're being a bit ridiculous tbh. You expect me to run all night every night? Like I don't have better sh*t to do.
Yep . You asked for a solution I provided it.

Talking about ridiculous this whole thread seemsto be just a little silly .
 
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Yep . You asked for a solution I provided it.

Talking about ridiculous this whole thread seemsto be just a little silly .

So you're solution to a high sex drive is to run 24/7? :laugh: I'll just quit uni, get my running shoes on, go out running at 6am and will return at 10pm, should be ready for sleep by then. It's a bullshit theory anyway to be fair. I've exhausted myself at the gym before and gone home then wanked straight away. Being active doesn't cure sex addiction.
 

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Being active just promotes sex drive, if anything lol
 

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Being active just promotes sex drive, if anything lol

Especially after hitting the gym seeing all the chicks in yoga pants lol but yeah exercise increases testosterone and results in higher libido. Thanks for reminding me lol
 

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If you're thriving, you just can't avoid a high libido.

Enjoy it while it lasts bro, we all get old one day and it's gone. If anything, talk to those yoga pants wearing women.

:pimpride8lr:
 

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Any thoughts about the soy article and suggestion that I posted for you?
 

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Any thoughts about the soy article and suggestion that I posted for you?

I saw that it can cause ED though? I want a libido that I can easily control so I ain't constantly thinking of women and can go long periods without ejaculation but I don't want my dick to stop working lol
 

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If you're thriving, you just can't avoid a high libido.

Enjoy it while it lasts bro, we all get old one day and it's gone. If anything, talk to those yoga pants wearing women.

:pimpride8lr:

Social anxiety though, it's a bitch!

Maybe I don't need to fix my libido and fix my anxiety instead and just get myself out there. Probably better to have a good sex life than a repressed one. :confused:
 

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Social anxiety though, it's a bitch!

Maybe I don't need to fix my libido and fix my anxiety instead and just get myself out there. Probably better to have a good sex life than a repressed one. :confused:

Anxiety make you kegel a lot? Especially in social situations?
 

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Anxiety make you kegel a lot? Especially in social situations?

No not really. I only kegel when I'm peeing or masturbating (voluntary) and ejaculating (involuntary). It doesn't cause me ED either, anxiety has never affected me sexually for some reason. A lot of guys get ED cause of it but I think my sex drive is that high that anxiety doesn't affect it.

I could also be anxious because of the shame associated with porn use and masturbation though as well as fantasizing about girls instead of having a natural conversation with them. There's rumours that quitting can improve anxiety, I just find it hard to believe.
 

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I have been doing erect kegels as part of my training though and my sex drive seems more intense recently. I've noticed this when I've previously done a kegel routine too.
 

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I worry about quitting smoking though because NoFap is stressful enough and quitting smoking will make me feel worse. They say it's a bad idea to quit too many things at once.
That's true. Trying to correct your life in one big step instead of a few smaller ones is difficult or even impossible. What I intended with my previous post was that you could try to improve other areas and give NoFap a break.

If you, however, want to continue with NoFap, I can give you some tips that have helped me during my journey. I bet you're aware or even applying some of these, but at least I can give you a good reminder.

1. Quit using social media platforms. They contain a lot of content that can be described as "triggers" for some NoFappers. Now, I don't mean you should delete them if you're really passionate about your profiles. Just cut down the time spent and maybe block sites that contain erotic images or somehow act as triggers that lead to PMO.

2. Like Pegasus said, increase training. Do you have a gym membership? Or maybe you have a big swimming pool that you can use. It's important, that you have a direct plan what you're going to do when you feel the urge. Physical activity requires time; at least for that 1-2 hour window you would be unable to fap.

3. If you already trained or it's rest day, you can contact your friends or family members. Maybe ask your old friends to go for spontaneous fishing trip or maybe you could watch some football with them?

4. Stay focused. If you find yourself surfing the internet for porn or such things, just close your device or at least close the browser. If you find urge to fap during PE exercises, try to count the reps of the exercises you're doing. Or alternatively, time. That way, you're more focused on the exercise than the urge. What worked for me was having small pauses during exercises. That could work. Maybe get a glass of water and continue later?

Hope some of these work for you!
 
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