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[Nikki]

Great idea -- let's keep it on the new Gym thread! Can we get back to sex and dating here, please?

Yes, exactly! Thank you, Batwoman.

 

[Nikki]

The first thing you have to do is look at the people around you and smile. Don't smile because you want them to see you smiling. Smile because you want to enjoy yourself. If you want to enjoy yourself enough, then you will find yourself in a much better mood. People gravitate towards others who look like they are happy, because they themselves want to be happy. You don't want to be fake about it though. You want to genuinely be enjoying yourself.

Then just talk to people. Eventually you will see the social cues that people give to you on whether or not they are willing to talk to you. You won't always have something to say, but don't worry about it. If they say something, try to think of something that relates to it and share your own story with them.

Yes, very good observations, Dry Jelq. Women view men who smile frequently as having a lot of confidence in themselves.

 

[Nikki]

Actually I do, but I know I attract the wrong kind of girls. Which isn't bad since I'm still young. The only thing is having an image of a 'player'. Even the guys, with their remarks 'Hey man, so how many girls did you do last weekend?'. While I was working the whole weekend on some university stuff.

Ha! The weirdest comment I got was a few weeks back at a houseparty of a girl from my class. She came up to me and suddenly said 'You know, my mother and I were looking through some pictures of the introduction week, and she thinks you're the cutest'.
I was like: Okay....

Some girls really like to chase a "player" because it is a status symbol for them to be able to show you off to their friends.

 

[Nikki]

Hitting on women is like poker where most women are passive players. They are shy and are usually afraid to make the first or second or third move. You won't be able to tell what cards they are playing unless you bet at them a little bit. Start by flirting with them a little. If they respond nicely then you know they probably find you either nice or attractive.

After you are successful a couple of times, you'll be able to tell when a girl is interested or not. I've actually been pretty surprised what sort of signals women send out. I asked one of the girls at my work if she wanted to do karaoke sometime. And she said yeah sure and opened her cellphone. But she didn't say, hey do you want my number. She just took it out and waited for me to ask for her number. Looking back what I wish I said in that situation was "Whatcha lookin at? Nothin? You just took it out to get my number?"

Many girls are shy and they want you to make every move for them, so they just send out signals whether intentional or not to give you the hint. It's all in their body language. Eventually you'll be able to tell the difference between a girl being turned off or creeped out by you, being indifferent towards you, and a girl feeling awkward and nervous because she likes you.

Sometimes woman are shy because they either know or have seen in the news other women who have been beaten/raped/killed by someone they just met. So, it is really more about being cautious many times until they feel comfortable with you.

 

[Nikki]

True dat. It's all in the body language. Eye contact is important!
Once you make eye contact with a woman, watch her for a few seconds after she looks away. If she does something that implies she has become nervous due to you making eye contact, this means that she is interested in or attracted to you. For example, she will: play with her hair, adjust her clothing or jewelry or fiddle with something in her hands.
Oh yeah, first eye contact, second eye contact (I want you), third eye contact (why are you waiting?!)

If she smiles back, jackpot baby. God I love girls

Ha, ha. You have us all figured out, don't you? Those are good observations!

 

[MrBigDick]

Sometimes it is. You know how weird it is to have a bad boy appearance when you're actually a good guy?

I actually have the "good guy" image and it's only once a woman gets to know me a bit and she finds out I have a couple of tattoos she's like "oh wow, I didn't know you have tattoos???".......then, it becomes a WHOLE new ballgame for me. Funny stuff.......

And I agree with you, I love girls too. Older ones though (I'm almost 40). I find many girls in their 20's to be a total pain in the ass and a waste of my time.............notice I said "MANY".......this doesn't imply all.

 

[Batwoman]

Sometimes woman are shy because they either know or have seen in the news other women who have been beaten/raped/killed by someone they just met. So, it is really more about being cautious many times until they feel comfortable with you.

I think this is really important: smart girls are cautious. You shouldn't always interpret this as being about you, rather about her need to feel safe. You may not have bad intentions, but she doesn't know that! So be smart and don't push things past her comfort zone. You'll earn big points by letting her set the rules until she's confident that you're OK. Sometimes suggesting another meeting in a public place (rather than trying to get her off alone somewhere) may put her at ease.

 

[kingpole]

Good looking people, i think everybody is good looking.

 

[RyanV]

Ha, ha. You have us all figured out, don't you? Those are good observations!

10 years of experience starting from the age of 13. Girls are great teachers as well and my analytic insight is pretty high.

Here's a great experiment:

When you want to find out if a woman is checking you out. Give her your 'pretty boy face' with smile and look at your watch, count to 3 and look at her again. If she looks at her watch also, then she was checking you out. It's a natural reaction to mimic the actions of someone you're interested in. She's just curious and interested in you and what you are waiting for. With no other source of information she will look at her own watch.
This is just an experiment and its funny as well haha.

Oh yeah, and smiling is important as well. Like you said, women view guys who smile frequently as having a lot of confidence in themselves. Just don't walk around with a smile stuck on your face, thats just creepy ! I always smile when I talk to someone, girl or guy (no homo!). A girl recently said: You like to flirt openly don't you? I don't know, I'm just being me. I do smile when I talk to someone and I probably look at girls like I desire them. Which I don't do on purpose by the way. For some reason, women can detect this desire.

 

[RyanV]

I actually have the "good guy" image and it's only once a woman gets to know me a bit and she finds out I have a couple of tattoos she's like "oh wow, I didn't know you have tattoos???".......then, it becomes a WHOLE new ballgame for me. Funny stuff.......

And I agree with you, I love girls too. Older ones though (I'm almost 40). I find many girls in their 20's to be a total pain in the ass and a waste of my time.............notice I said "MANY".......this doesn't imply all.

Haha, I don't know how I have this bad boy image going on. Don't have tattoo's, piercings or whatever. Just this vibe that I'm some kind of player who gets a lot of girls. And it's actually the opposite for me, she will find out that i'm actually a good guy 'What?! You graduated with distinction?!' Yeah...Or when I'm a little bit shy cause I do get shy sometimes. She doesn't expect that and she will even love you more for that ! It's probably her way of detecting your sincerity and that you have 'deep waters'.

You know lately...I don't if it's a phase or something. But I'm attracted to women who are older than me and I mean women over 30 or something. The oldest woman I've been with was 5 years older than me (28). I get a lot from older ladies, but I've always thought of it like it was a taboo to do that. But I THINK these ladies know how to enjoy themselves and life, which makes them hot for some reason.

 

[MrBigDick]

Haha, I don't know how I have this bad boy image going on. Don't have tattoo's, piercings or whatever. Just this vibe that I'm some kind of player who gets a lot of girls. And it's actually the opposite for me, she will find out that i'm actually a good guy 'What?! You graduated with distinction?!' Yeah...Or when I'm a little bit shy cause I do get shy sometimes. She doesn't expect that and she will even love you more for that ! It's probably her way of detecting your sincerity and that you have 'deep waters'.

You know lately...I don't if it's a phase or something. But I'm attracted to women who are older than me and I mean women over 30 or something. The oldest woman I've been with was 5 years older than me (28). I get a lot from older ladies, but I've always thought of it like it was a taboo to do that. But I THINK these ladies know how to enjoy themselves and life, which makes them hot for some reason.

No, I think it's because older women, once they find themselves single, realize that their choices are limited so if they have the chance to grab onto a hot, young stud like youself or myself for that matter, they go for it. My ex wife is 4 years older than I am (I'm 39). My ex gf is 50. I don't know about you, but most men by the time they hit 39 have let themselves go in some capacity. They've got a bit of a gut going on, or they're bald, or this that or the other. I do have some hair loss but I've been pumping hard iron for the better part of 20 years so I've got a muscular physique, which older chicks seem to really dig.

This chick I'm talking to right now. She's 36 and is by all definition a gorgeous MILF! She is SMOKIN' HOT! I asked her for her number and she flat out gave it to me and told me "I feel like a teenager again!!". Funny stuff.....

 

[RockofFox]

No, I think it's because older women, once they find themselves single, realize that their choices are limited so if they have the chance to grab onto a hot, young stud like youself or myself for that matter, they go for it. My ex wife is 4 years older than I am (I'm 39). My ex gf is 50. I don't know about you, but most men by the time they hit 39 have let themselves go in some capacity. They've got a bit of a gut going on, or they're bald, or this that or the other. I do have some hair loss but I've been pumping hard iron for the better part of 20 years so I've got a muscular physique, which older chicks seem to really dig.

This chick I'm talking to right now. She's 36 and is by all definition a gorgeous MILF! She is SMOKIN' HOT! I asked her for her number and she flat out gave it to me and told me "I feel like a teenager again!!". Funny stuff.....

You give her that big Dick!!

 

[RyanV]

No, I think it's because older women, once they find themselves single, realize that their choices are limited so if they have the chance to grab onto a hot, young stud like youself or myself for that matter, they go for it. My ex wife is 4 years older than I am (I'm 39). My ex gf is 50. I don't know about you, but most men by the time they hit 39 have let themselves go in some capacity. They've got a bit of a gut going on, or they're bald, or this that or the other. I do have some hair loss but I've been pumping hard iron for the better part of 20 years so I've got a muscular physique, which older chicks seem to really dig.

This chick I'm talking to right now. She's 36 and is by all definition a gorgeous MILF! She is SMOKIN' HOT! I asked her for her number and she flat out gave it to me and told me "I feel like a teenager again!!". Funny stuff.....

Yes I know what you mean. But it's still a bit weird since I'm only 23 years old and some of these women are married !! They're not shy and seem to be super happy when you're talking to them and they like to tease as well ! First I thought 'Older ladies are really friendly !' But they're just flirting with you !

 

[Pegasus]

You poor thing Ryan, make sure they don't take advantage.

 

[Batwoman]

Yes I know what you mean. But it's still a bit weird since I'm only 23 years old and some of these women are married !! They're not shy and seem to be super happy when you're talking to them and they like to tease as well ! First I thought 'Older ladies are really friendly !' But they're just flirting with you !

Yup! I think older women have learned that the process can be as much fun as the goal. Some things, like flirting, can get easier and less pressure-filled with time. But MrBD is also probably right. Speaking from the female perspective, there are fewer eligible partners out there in one's own age group as time passes.
Take advantage of that if you choose to, but go in with your eyes open.

 

[DryJelq]

Be careful with older women. Last one I was with told me she loved me second time I fucked her. She's older than my stepmom telling me this. I was very creeped out by it. Plus now I have a cold sore on the roof of my mouth and I was sick all week too.

Older women might look fun, but there are repercussions for sure.

 

[RyanV]

Be careful with older women. Last one I was with told me she loved me second time I fucked her. She's older than my stepmom telling me this. I was very creeped out by it. Plus now I have a cold sore on the roof of my mouth and I was sick all week too.

Older women might look fun, but there are repercussions for sure.

Wow that doesn't sound good.

I have enough girls my age to play around with, but older ladies know how to tempt you. Not nervous, look at you like they desire you, not afraid to smile right away. While the younger ladies are more like: Is he looking at me? sh*t, is my hair okay? Does he really like me? Blablabla Not to downtalk the younger ladies, cause I still know exactly what buttons to push to make them fall for me. I know I'll never be able to do an older lady because something in my mind blocks me from doing it. Everytime one of them flirts with me, I try to laugh it off like eh ehehehe...You know, those forced smiles. My body says yes, while my mind says no.

But lets not turn this thread into how to get older ladies hehehe

 

[Dante311]

I learned from my last experience... girls who are pretty, insecure, depressed girls... find the first guy that they're physically attracted to that happens to be 'weak' and when i say weak.. no attachment to another women.. so they're free and easily seduced. They take advantage of this man (in my case.. me LOL) and destroy him emotionally until they can walk on their own 2 feet again and move on with their lives like nothing happened.

All we can do, if we're in this situation, is learn to recognize AND see the red flags... see these women for who they truly are and move on. Do not expect an "I'm sorry" or some apologetic closure... nope. you won't get it. find closure within. Find your sense of self.. sense of worth and be proud of what you have going in your life that's good.

I hated myself, but I learned to cope.. and to move on.

now I'm back to the fun loving, confident, goofy, banana loving self I used to be. I stopped dying my hair... and now... I'm me. working out.. eating.. sleeping... studying... social as usual. it's nice.

i dont' want to hear from my ex. i don't expect to hear from my ex. but I won't date again until i know I'm 100% again.. to not carry baggage into my next relationship.

good luck

 

[Pirate]

We all have baggage, BB11, but certainly some of us pack lighter than others. You are right to learn from your experience and listen to your intuition when you start meeting new people. Your intuition is your experience talking even if it can't verbalize what it is saying. If the situation doesn't feel right, it probably isn't. Move on.

 

[Batwoman]

Your intuition is your experience talking even if it can't verbalize what it is saying. If the situation doesn't feel right, it probably isn't. Move on.

This is really great advice. I am a firm believer in going with things that feel right, and avoiding things that feel wrong. It can be totally irrational but you should follow your intuition, especially in relationships. I like the idea that "your intuition is your experience talking." Always listen -- particularly when it is telling you to avoid something!