Dear PE diary...
I read a thread today. I forget the title, but it was about how some guy used a banana as a makeshift dildo. Afterwards, he measured the fruit and found it to be 7x5.1.
I'm 7.75x5.5
I have never once thought to myself, wow that thing looks as big as a banana. Just today I was edging and thought to myself, this thing looks like it's 5 inches. I must be measuring wrong. I measured it, and it was two ticks away from 7.75 (So I'm not OFFICIALLY 7.75" BPEL)
A banana looks so much thicker. and longer. I thought it would be more along the 8x6.5 range.
Not that I care. I'm just surprised is all. Props to the guy who can watch his girl take a banana and not feel emasculated. Too many guys take offence at their girl having been with a bigger guy, or using something bigger than themselves. A serious, deep offence that they know is illogical, but hurts all the same. Most of the guys even acknowledge that it's illogical.
It's like this base-level belief that bigger=better.
I once read about the Irish Elk and their relation to sexual selection. This was a university course of ecology, where we related a lot of animal behaviours back to Darwin's theories of evolution.
Now, the Irish Elk are a good example of 'runaway selection,' where a single feature is so sought after and so exaggerated that it actually begins to harm the animal's fitness (Fitness being their ability to procreate and survive). It was their antlers that eventually brought these elk to extinction.
The antlers are thought to be some sort of phallic symbol. Bigger antlers means a stronger elk male to do battle and protect the herd. The females would mate with the elk with the biggest antlers and, over time, they became so large that the males had a hard time lifting their head, nevermind protecting anyone.
Every time I log onto PEgym.com, I am always reminded of this. Guys go about their day with this core value that a bigger dick = better. I'm convinced it's not true. I don't buy that "media" hype argument. I think the media is a product of man's internal beliefs, and it feeds those beliefs back to us. So those thoughts already had to have been there.
What is it about this that gets to men so much? They feel as though they are lesser of a man if they don't add up in every way. I'm not even sure if it's about the size of the dick that's the issue, or maybe some internal, self-defacing value system.
You'll have guys who will say "if only I was more in shape, I'd be better." Or guys who say "I'm bald, so girls won't like me." Or guys with some other imperfection and it affects them on a deep level. I think penis size is really just one more thing guys can hate on themselves for. And I'll bet guys are good at justifying why it makes them less of a man. "Girls like it bigger!" "It looks better bigger" and on and on.
Like the elk, guys are so infatuated with the thought of having a bigger penis, that they will even hurt themselves to get it, emotionally primarily, and even physically (with the use of steroids, injections, surgeries, rushing PE).
I once read something about Dimebag Darrel (RIP). It said something to the effect of, "He is a really short guy, but his personality made him seem larger than life." That always stuck with me, how perception can change the thing you see. Like those times you see one person and they become either more or less attractive depending on how they behave.
I'll bet the same is true for performance in bed. If you can make someone want you, then it won't matter how big your jibblets are. There will be a memorable experience for both of you.
There are members with above-average sized ding dongs who are very insecure about their size. So the size isn't the real problem in my eyes. It's the perception of the person looking down at their ding dong.
If you want to stop feeling bad about your size, then you have to love your body for the way it is. Love yourself. Enjoy yourself, and forget the numbers or how it looks. Don't give someone else the power to make you feel bad.
That's the lesson I learned from this place.