The training mindset

[Big Al]

I get asked a lot why I tend to focus so much on mindset when it comes to male enhancement. While it may be desirable to do the fun stuff and focus on enlargement, if you don't have the basic foundation then there could be repercussions. A best case scenario is a lack of satisfactory progress. A worst case scenario is injury.

There's a good reason why when I interview clients for coaching I include parameters like sexual confidence and EQ. If someone comes to me and they're distress to a level they can't manage themselves, then physical male enhancement training isn't recommended. Male enhancement workouts are NOT a substitute for mental hygiene, and attempting to force training when you're depressed, angry, or suffering from self-loathing can create negative conditioning.

Learning how to discipline your emotions so you can at least approach training a neutral mindset is optimal. If your emotions are turbulent but manageable, then practicing Emotional Visualizations and focusing on Stamina Training would be recommended. Once you have a basic level of mastery over yourself, then transitioning to an enlargement regimen will be productive.

If you have any male enhancement related questions or concerns- or you just need to chat, please message or email me. I'm here for you! You should also feel free to post to the forum, as there are plenty of seasoned and caring members who'll be happy to help!

 

[MisterGeo]

Great post, Big Al. Just to add a couple related thoughts. I've noticed that sometimes guys with the most pronounced self-image problems and insecurities have such an attachment to gaining size as an outcome that they can hardly get a start let alone deal with failures and setbacks. It turns into a sort of self-fulfilling prophecy and their frustrations just boil over. It's antithetical to the rational experimental attitude that leads to problem solving and training progress.

I believe it's important to try to have a detachment from outcomes and a willingness to accept any outcome even if that means a failure to gain. I suppose what I'm talking about is the same neutral mindset you state as being optimal. I think it requires effort for everyone. It's not something that usually comes naturally. So don't feel bad if you have to work for it or ask for help.

Most importantly though I think is that guys can establish a truly self-accepting attitude no matter what they eventually do with PE. Gotta get those insecurities put in their place and rise above them. Know where they come from. Some guys resist this idea because they believe their non-acceptance of their bodies is what will drive them to success. But as I already stated, it usually doesn't work that way. Better to learn to be happy no matter what.

 

[Big Al]

Agreed! The ultimate goal of male enhancement should be self mastery. If one doesn't love himself, it can set up a scenario where he won't expect others to.

 

[PEispossible]

Sometimes physically you're tired, and it's physical, whether it's diet, blood sugar levels, this happened to me last night.

 

[Andregood]

I thought I'd add something to that as well, maybe it can help someone, somehow. Talking about the feelings thing.
I compete in bench press and I remember being younger and always focusing "bench press , bench press", and when I finally let go of the pressure of constantly having to up myself daily (to an extreme degree that affected my entire day) I was able to enjoy my training and gain more in the gym. I guess a similar thing could happen with PE?

 

[Big Al]

I thought I'd add something to that as well, maybe it can help someone, somehow. Talking about the feelings thing.
I compete in bench press and I remember being younger and always focusing "bench press , bench press", and when I finally let go of the pressure of constantly having to up myself daily (to an extreme degree that affected my entire day) I was able to enjoy my training and gain more in the gym. I guess a similar thing could happen with PE?

You make a great point, but there are some fundamental differences with weight training and male enhancement. If you're depressed, anxious or angry, you can still go into the gym and will your pecs to press the weight. In the case of anger, you can even use this emotion to your advantage to channel your rage into your efforts with positive results. The penis isn't receptive to these types of emotions, though. If your anxiety, anger, etc. is excessive, it will interfere with the arousal response.

On days where emotions are hectic but manageable, an increased focus on Emotional Visualizations can help. On days where you're really stressed, it would be better to take the time off and attempt to relax. Forcing yourself to train male enhancement while in a severely depressed state can cause more harm than good.

 

[Andregood]

You make a great point, but there are some fundamental differences with weight training and male enhancement. If you're depressed, anxious or angry, you can still go into the gym and will your pecs to press the weight. In the case of anger, you can even use this emotion to your advantage to channel your rage into your efforts with positive results. The penis isn't receptive to these types of emotions, though. If your anxiety, anger, etc. is excessive, it will interfere with the arousal response.

On days where emotions are hectic but manageable, an increased focus on Emotional Visualizations can help. On days where you're really stressed, it would be better to take the time off and attempt to relax. Forcing yourself to train male enhancement while in a severely depressed state can cause more harm than good.

That makes a lot of sense to me, great advice!

 

[Big Al]

That makes a lot of sense to me, great advice!

Glad to be of service!

 

[Alwaysbbetter]

Big Al,

couldn't agree more with your post. Also applies to other physical activities such as weight lifting...When my head is floating all over the place it's usually a bad time to pump or lift...I do think anything to do with sex is highly mental ..Even more for women, but we as men are not immune to it...

I can tell the guys who are successful here have gained tons of confidence that is obviously translating into the bedroom...If you think about it...Is it the added size or confidence that's leading to the better sex? Surely the size is helping but its likely the actual confidence part that goes much further..I think this is the biggest issue with porn...I think it reduces men's confidence and teaches them to watch rather than participate..I was watching a lot of porn throughout my 20s and even 30s...I was having sex with women but i feel that it was holding me back...Holding my masculinity back...I could remember doing many sessions right after leaving q girls place, dorm room ect...It made me even more turned on and my unit was still juiced up from being inside someone...

I don't resort to porn any more ans the only time I stroke it is to get hard for the pump with no intention of climaxing...All of my energy is now delivered into the bedroom and its nice. Just that alone makes a huge difference and then the journey of improving your manhood is just a bonus...

 

[Big Al]

Big Al,

couldn't agree more with your post. Also applies to other physical activities such as weight lifting...When my head is floating all over the place it's usually a bad time to pump or lift...I do think anything to do with sex is highly mental ..Even more for women, but we as men are not immune to it...

In communicating with women about what they want, many complain their partner [who can have a large penis and endurance] appears so focused on performance they lack emotional engagement.

I can tell the guys who are successful here have gained tons of confidence that is obviously translating into the bedroom...If you think about it...Is it the added size or confidence that's leading to the better sex? Surely the size is helping but its likely the actual confidence part that goes much further..I think this is the biggest issue with porn...I think it reduces men's confidence and teaches them to watch rather than participate..I was watching a lot of porn throughout my 20s and even 30s...I was having sex with women but i feel that it was holding me back...Holding my masculinity back...I could remember doing many sessions right after leaving q girls place, dorm room ect...It made me even more turned on and my unit was still juiced up from being inside someone...

I don't resort to porn any more ans the only time I stroke it is to get hard for the pump with no intention of climaxing...All of my energy is now delivered into the bedroom and its nice. Just that alone makes a huge difference and then the journey of improving your manhood is just a bonus...

The influence of porn addiction in the absence of other forms of sexual education has proved destructive for a generation now.

 

[Fur83]

I get asked a lot why I tend to focus so much on mindset when it comes to male enhancement. While it may be desirable to do the fun stuff and focus on enlargement, if you don't have the basic foundation then there could be repercussions. A best case scenario is a lack of satisfactory progress. A worst case scenario is injury.

There's a good reason why when I interview clients for coaching I include parameters like sexual confidence and EQ. If someone comes to me and they're distress to a level they can't manage themselves, then physical male enhancement training isn't recommended. Male enhancement workouts are NOT a substitute for mental hygiene, and attempting to force training when you're depressed, angry, or suffering from self-loathing can create negative conditioning.

Learning how to discipline your emotions so you can at least approach training a neutral mindset is optimal. If your emotions are turbulent but manageable, then practicing Emotional Visualizations and focusing on Stamina Training would be recommended. Once you have a basic level of mastery over yourself, then transitioning to an enlargement regimen will be productive.

If you have any male enhancement related questions or concerns- or you just need to chat, please message or email me. I'm here for you! You should also feel free to post to the forum, as there are plenty of seasoned and caring members who'll be happy to help!

Question.

When did you start taking this aproach?

Perhaps you may not remember me. It has been about ten years ago that i last spoke to you. It was my first attempt at back then. Back then i was severly depressed. I was not ready for coaching back then. On top off that, my mother passed away shortly after my start in that period. So mentally i was in a bad place.

I have worked with a therapist for a long while now. I am finaly in a good place right now. Wich i why i will be making another attempt soon. And i agree with this aproach. A poor minset will lead you to poor results.

Maybe my memory is incorrect. But i dont remember you taking this aproach. Am i wrong. It does seem like your service developed well over the years.

Kind regards

 

[Big Al]

Question.

When did you start taking this aproach?

Perhaps you may not remember me. It has been about ten years ago that i last spoke to you. It was my first attempt at back then. Back then i was severly depressed. I was not ready for coaching back then. On top off that, my mother passed away shortly after my start in that period. So mentally i was in a bad place.

I have worked with a therapist for a long while now. I am finaly in a good place right now. Wich i why i will be making another attempt soon. And i agree with this aproach. A poor minset will lead you to poor results.

Maybe my memory is incorrect. But i dont remember you taking this aproach. Am i wrong. It does seem like your service developed well over the years.

Kind regards

The more time I spend coaching, the more I learn from clients.

A great number of men were coming to the subject of male enhancement often via negative motivation. There are too many similar patterns to not notice what appears to the the root cause of a lot of problems like ED. As these men were observed learning how to overcome their emotional concerns, improvement often came rapidly.

 

[rbi99]

So many guys fret about the size of their dick, convinced they are small. Truth is, very few of us (and I mean very few), have stood around in a room full of naked guys with erections. Doubt any of us have been in that situation, walking around checking out the various sizes they would find there. If they did, they would see a whole bunch of guys that were similar to their size. That's where a combination of studies comes into play. Over and over again most studies have a basic agreement on flaccid length/girth and erect length/girth. Guys just don't want to believe those averages are real. I definitely think coming into PE with a realistic knowledge of penis size is critical. Want to get a little bigger for any number of reasons, go for it. But to think you are going to be a better man if you make your dick bigger, well that's just counter productive.