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Hey all,
Im 24 and have been browsing this forum for around a month now and I seem to have the same problem as all of you. I won't waste space with all of my symptoms as quite a few are the same as most have already described....I feel that I can relate with 95% of what people have written. My hard flaccid problem started after a period of extreme stress (self inflicted and stupid...makes my current situation even more unbearable due to the fact that I am constantly reflecting on the fact that it could have been avoided with smarter desicion making). It started with intense insomnia and sudden onset erectile dysfunction...I mean literally overnight I started experiencing frequent night awakenings. My first clue that something was wrong with my dick was 2 nights into the insomnia when I had a nocturnal emission with a fully flaccid dick. In the following weeks I experienced ED for the first time in my life. Normally I am a walking erection...but all of a sudden I'm experiencing zero spontaneous erections and weak erections with vigorous manual stimulation. Needless to say I was sh*t scared at this point. Went to my doctor and he said it was anxiety. I had a one night stand with a girl 3 weeks into the whole ordeal and almost cried tears of joy when I was able to get and maintain a full erection. Well I didn't last too long as I hadnt ejaculated in weeks so she starts giving me a handy like 5 minutes later trying to get me going...well she tugs way to forcefully to the point where it hurts and I stop her after a couple of seconds. A horrible lay...but all in all Im just happy my dick was able to work with a girl.
3-4 days later I started getting weird spasm, tingling like feelings in my perineal region and then I developed the hard flaccid condition which brought me scrambling to the internet and this forum. SO yeah...I've had this horrible condition for a month now...but atleast for me it seems to have been brought on by extreme anxiety/stress and possibly the forceful painful tugging by that dumb chick. The sad thing is that I have always been a laid back person and the fact that my current predicament can be traced to a single event that I could have easily avoided is killing me on the inside. I can't get it off my mind...and I still am sleeping like sh*t. Anyway sorry for the sob story...I know its not good to wallow in self-pity but its just so hard with this sh*t...as all of you are well aware. I told my dad about it and he just laughed...says I am neurotic. Doctors have been dismissive with me as well.
My current situation 2 months post stressful event is constant firm cold flaccid of normal length that is made much worse by exercising, nocturnal erections are either weak or extremely hard and uncomfortable and take forever to go down, bulging veins on either side of penis, spontaneous erections are almost impossible to get, like many of you head doesnt fill normally....many other symptoms as well. I wanted to share my story as perhaps some of the details may shed some light on the situation. In my opinion the reasons behind developing this condition are probably more complex then simply attributing it to one thing. I think the chronic muscle contraction/pelvic pain theory holds the most water but I can't discount other possibilities. All I know is that I want my normal dick back. I want to glance at the curvy brunette at the corner table in starbucks..imagine what it would be like taking her from behind...and pop wood haha. Funny how I used to consider that annoying to get an erection in public.
This sucks guys..it sucks alot. Take solace in the fact that nothing is permanent. That is what I have been trying to tell myself. The body is a self regulating, dynamic, highly complex biological system that even the most brilliant minds barely understand. We may all feel broken right now...but there's no telling what situation we might find ourselves in several years from now. The penis is arguably the most important part of our anatomy as it is intimately involved in maintaining the survival of our species. Do you really believe that millions of years of evolution wouldn't have fine tuned a way to ensure that our dicks continued to function properly? I'm not advocating being complacent...im searching for solutions as much as any of you...I'm just saddened by some of the comments mentioning suicidal ideations and indicating deep depression and I hope that everyone can put this issue in perspective. What would a gorilla do if his penis suddenly started acting weird? probably go out and fuck female gorillas with an uncomfortable dick...haha im no zoologist but you guys get my point...I think as humans we are blessed and cursed by our big brains. ive seen plenty of comments on here from people saying to not become obsessed with this issue and to become engrossed in life and continue to enjoy things...I think that is the best advice I have read on this forum. I know its easier said then done...I am struggling with it myself. By all means schedule the doctors appointment, buy the ginko supplements and apply the hot wraps...but dont become consumed by constant thoughts about your dick. The mind-body connection is stronger than we all think.
sorry for the rambling nature of my post...good luck ...I hope that we all overcome this soon ! !
well in the mean time make sure to take magnesium supplements especially magnesium oil if you can get your hands on it. Secondly no masturbation or anything man. Nothing, keep with the hot wraps. Third, please go to hardflaccid.org and fill out the survey and post your story there as well

