My heart is happy that you are doing the celibacy and waiting is worth it...not easy...yet VERY worth it.
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My heart is happy that you are doing the celibacy and waiting is worth it...not easy...yet VERY worth it.
what do you guys think of pictures and videos of your girlfriend or wife? Is it porn? I thought I was doing so good I’ve been off porn for 5 weeks but just this week my girlfriend sent me some naked pictures which I masturbated to and we filmed a video of us having sex which we watched after wards. I read on other forums and people are saying it’s porn but it’s A part of our relationship that I love I don’t want to get rid of it, if I’m not jerking off to a picture of her I’m gonna be imagining it anyways.
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Can someone tell me what counts and what doesn't count in order to bring your penis back to life? Nude photos? Friends sending sex vids to group? Watching porn w/o masterbaiting? I'm 25 and kinda hope I can still revive my penis but i'm just curious have have tons of questions.
23 April 2018 – Day 333 No PMO, Day 326 NoFap
UPDATE
It has been 333 days since I last quit porn and 326 days since I last fapped. I feel I might give an update on the progress.
So far no risk of re-addiction - I am totally done with porn. When I am idle, I absolutely feel no need to watch porn. Erections are at 100%, sexual performance at 100%, social life at over 100%.
On the NoFap, it has been easy sail so far - I have constantly been with girls week after week so there pretty has been no long periods of time without sex partners.
The major change that has happened to me in the last couple of months is that I have adopted Benjamin Franklin's Order and it is really working super well for me. I think I will do an article on this here: https://www.pegym.com/forums/gym/114585-fast-paced-life-5.html
Also, I have changed my diet pattern to be such that I take heavy meals in the Morning/Lunch and no meal or a light meal in the evenings. These two changes are enormous and they rank among the top 5 greatest things that I have done with my life and that I will never reverse - ever! The other three being:
1. Running my own corporation
2. Being Vegan
3. Quitting porn
I am happy to add number four and five and knowing that it is a lifetime change
4. Adopting Benjamin Franklin's "Order"
5. Changing my eating pattern
On those struggling with porn addiction and wanting to know if it really is worth it, my answer is YES! Absolutely Yes!
The no-brainier decision is to quit porn. There is absolutely no value that porn is adding to your life. There is no need for "Occasional" watching. This desire, this need to occasionally watch is part of the addiction. It is the dopamine speaking. You cannot be a better person by watching porn - instead to the contrary you become worse off. So quit it and have the courage to see your resolution through.
Thanks PEGYM and all its members here for helping me see this through - I wish I could donate but I fear for anonymity now and in the distant future. Any one with advise on this?
UPDATE
It has been 333 days since I last quit porn and 326 days since I last fapped. I feel I might give an update on the progress.
So far no risk of re-addiction - I am totally done with porn. When I am idle, I absolutely feel no need to watch porn. Erections are at 100%, sexual performance at 100%, social life at over 100%.
On the NoFap, it has been easy sail so far - I have constantly been with girls week after week so there pretty has been no long periods of time without sex partners.
The major change that has happened to me in the last couple of months is that I have adopted Benjamin Franklin's Order and it is really working super well for me. I think I will do an article on this here: https://www.pegym.com/forums/gym/114585-fast-paced-life-5.html
Also, I have changed my diet pattern to be such that I take heavy meals in the Morning/Lunch and no meal or a light meal in the evenings. These two changes are enormous and they rank among the top 5 greatest things that I have done with my life and that I will never reverse - ever! The other three being:
1. Running my own corporation
2. Being Vegan
3. Quitting porn
I am happy to add number four and five and knowing that it is a lifetime change
4. Adopting Benjamin Franklin's "Order"
5. Changing my eating pattern
On those struggling with porn addiction and wanting to know if it really is worth it, my answer is YES! Absolutely Yes!
The no-brainier decision is to quit porn. There is absolutely no value that porn is adding to your life. There is no need for "Occasional" watching. This desire, this need to occasionally watch is part of the addiction. It is the dopamine speaking. You cannot be a better person by watching porn - instead to the contrary you become worse off. So quit it and have the courage to see your resolution through.
Thanks PEGYM and all its members here for helping me see this through - I wish I could donate but I fear for anonymity now and in the distant future. Any one with advise on this?
Just wanted to pop in here and bump this thread. I have looked at porn since i was about 12 and start to masturbate to porn at the age of about 14. Since then every jerk off session was to porn, all of em. I would say i watched porn a few times per week for a long time. I used to play Online game on the computer so most of my time was spend on the computer and staying up late which of course led to more porn usage.
I got a girlfriend about 6 years ago and thought id be done with porn for good. Well after a few months i realized that just wasnt true. My porn consumption never slowed and then for the past about 2 years it go worse, WAY WORSE. I was watching it at home, late at night after gf went to bed, morning after gf left to work, and at my work. My phone was a traveling porn player for me. I almost considered not having a smart phone anymore because the temptation was too bad.
On july 1 i went 4 weeks without porn wich was a record for me. And then that same week just after a full 30 days i relapsed as an attempt to begin working on my arousal control for my Premature Ejaculation problem that has fllowed me since the second sexual encounter that i had. But immediately i begin to fall back into porns trap. I could feel the temptation there and i watched it a few more times over the next two days, jsut watched though, not touching. That continued till Friday (Wed- Friday) and then i realized im done with porn. This has caused a huge issue for me sexually and has taken up an extreme amount of my attention and time. So here we are about 4 days since last viewing and posting here. Just wanted to post and join in on the convo of being porn free.
Best of luck guys
I got a girlfriend about 6 years ago and thought id be done with porn for good. Well after a few months i realized that just wasnt true. My porn consumption never slowed and then for the past about 2 years it go worse, WAY WORSE. I was watching it at home, late at night after gf went to bed, morning after gf left to work, and at my work. My phone was a traveling porn player for me. I almost considered not having a smart phone anymore because the temptation was too bad.
On july 1 i went 4 weeks without porn wich was a record for me. And then that same week just after a full 30 days i relapsed as an attempt to begin working on my arousal control for my Premature Ejaculation problem that has fllowed me since the second sexual encounter that i had. But immediately i begin to fall back into porns trap. I could feel the temptation there and i watched it a few more times over the next two days, jsut watched though, not touching. That continued till Friday (Wed- Friday) and then i realized im done with porn. This has caused a huge issue for me sexually and has taken up an extreme amount of my attention and time. So here we are about 4 days since last viewing and posting here. Just wanted to post and join in on the convo of being porn free.
Best of luck guys
Day 1 of 90 Days...
I recently have been slipping and looking at porn due to boredom, curiosity, and fascination. I realize that this is going down the wrong path again. Thus here I am again. No excuses...only confession and moving forward to be better with God's help.
I recently have been slipping and looking at porn due to boredom, curiosity, and fascination. I realize that this is going down the wrong path again. Thus here I am again. No excuses...only confession and moving forward to be better with God's help.
Hang in there! May I make a suggestion? If you like playing games online find one that you enjoy and throw yourself into that when you start feeling bored. I've been playing Forge of Empires since 2014 and Criminal Case off and on since that same time. If you like to read shut off all of your devices and pick up a book. I think today's hardcore porn is so cartoony that I can't believe men actually watch it. Once men who are trying to break the habit realize how ridiculous it is they stop watching it.
I will suggest you get more social actually. Gaming can replace porn, but only in the short term. They both feed into a similar dopamine reward circuit.
Social activities, be they hiking with a group, language exchanges in cafes, movie or reading clubs will get you to practice being around women. What better way to meet a potential partner there and forget the poem even exists?
Of course I may be wrongly assuming you are single.
Social activities, be they hiking with a group, language exchanges in cafes, movie or reading clubs will get you to practice being around women. What better way to meet a potential partner there and forget the poem even exists?
Of course I may be wrongly assuming you are single.
I'm married...At night time is when the thoughts occurred and at times during the boredom of work drudgery.
In that case, the advice still stands. If you prefer more alone time, then you can focus on an activity you've always wanted to try. Begin as a hobby and who knows where that could lead?
Point is do not think about NOT doing porn. By trying to avoid it you're actually thinking of it. The activity, on the other hand, puts no pressure on the porn issue... all it does is redirect your attention elsewhere.
Also, does watching porn make up for lack of sex with your wife? I have trouble imagining why you would need it if you are both passionate in the bedroom...
Sex is fine...could be better. I start thinking about certain porn stars and want to see them in action. I was thinking about how porn objectifies real people. I only wanted to see them because they have physical aspects that I find appealing. The person's personality is left out in porn.
8/8/2018
Day 2
A struggle emotionally. I noticed that when I am bored or overwhelmed at work, the sexual energy builds. With God's help, I need to find a safe outlet so I don't go to the pig pen of porn. (Alliteration win!)
Status: Porn free
Day 2
A struggle emotionally. I noticed that when I am bored or overwhelmed at work, the sexual energy builds. With God's help, I need to find a safe outlet so I don't go to the pig pen of porn. (Alliteration win!)
Status: Porn free
I've been, and still am in your shoes. Finding meaningful work is, imo, the best antidote to a life of distraction. If you find yourself bored a lot at work, what would you feel like now, if you had he chance to reinvent yourself and embark on a new career? Focus on the feeling of having something exciting that would keep you wanting to go back to your project on a daily. Forget specifics like subject matter or salary. Just the idea of you being thrilled about your work life........8/8/2018
Day 2
A struggle emotionally. I noticed that when I am bored or overwhelmed at work, the sexual energy builds. With God's help, I need to find a safe outlet so I don't go to the pig pen of porn. (Alliteration win!)
Status: Porn free
I'm with you 200% that porn is destructive. But why not focus first on some amazing thing that could make you feel great about life?
8/9/2018
Day 3
A better day. I am learning to sense when my sexual urges/energy swell up within me. I am also learning to channel this energy into creative endeavors too. I had a drive where I prayed to God and asked for His help to channel the energy and surrendering everything to Him.
Day 3
A better day. I am learning to sense when my sexual urges/energy swell up within me. I am also learning to channel this energy into creative endeavors too. I had a drive where I prayed to God and asked for His help to channel the energy and surrendering everything to Him.
8/10, 8/11, 8/12 (2018)
Better days...I noticed that as a married man, I need to be careful. Why? There is a group I frequent online and one girl seems to be attached to me even if she knows I am married. I could be reading more into it than I could however I want to be careful still. I will limit my group activity there and go there on Fridays only.
Other than that, by God's grace, I am doing well. Great time with the wife on the weekend.
Days 4, 5, and 6 were good days.
Better days...I noticed that as a married man, I need to be careful. Why? There is a group I frequent online and one girl seems to be attached to me even if she knows I am married. I could be reading more into it than I could however I want to be careful still. I will limit my group activity there and go there on Fridays only.
Other than that, by God's grace, I am doing well. Great time with the wife on the weekend.
Days 4, 5, and 6 were good days.
You hit the nail on the head! You do need to channel that sexual energy into other more beneficial pursuits. Now would be a good time to begin an exercise routine.
8/13/2018 + 8/14/2018
Days 7 & 8
Decent days...Although there were times where my thoughts tried to get wild...with God's help, I stayed focused and realized that the desire to watch porn or to "research" would not be in my best interest.
Days 7 & 8
Decent days...Although there were times where my thoughts tried to get wild...with God's help, I stayed focused and realized that the desire to watch porn or to "research" would not be in my best interest.
August 18 2018
Day 1
I'm sick of this! For years I've been struggling and have good streaks and then a relapse! No more! With Gods help I know I can do it but I need to know when to run from the temptations not just expect God to do everything for me. I see the help from him but I disregard it and give in. NO MORE!!!!
Day 1
I'm sick of this! For years I've been struggling and have good streaks and then a relapse! No more! With Gods help I know I can do it but I need to know when to run from the temptations not just expect God to do everything for me. I see the help from him but I disregard it and give in. NO MORE!!!!
