Ready to give up altogether!!

[PumpSon!]

Almightycrunch, I am 21 and suffering from the same thing. I am terrified of sexual matters and avoid at all costs, and my anxiety is so bad that even when I have a partner willing to do it whenever for practise, I'm too worried. Here are this I have/am considering (bare in mind there is no quick fix)

fleshlight STU practise

or a better option for you may be a combination of supplements

have you tried delay sprays and Cialis? Maybe if you use delay spray for a few weeks just to get your wife back into the habit of enjoying sex for longer periods you can stop usi it and start regular practise again.

can I ask a question- did you premature ejaculation improve through regular sex? I am 21 and also had terrible master nation habits and wondered if having sex on a regular basis would help/does help? I would love to get some advice on this part in return for my 2c on your problem!!

try delay sprays and Cialis until you're back in the grove. Cialis may allow you to continue even after ejaculation!

 

[CUSP82]

Good gawd, does anyone pay attention??? Of course I have anxiety!!!! I have never denied that, but you cant tell me "hey, go jack off before you have sex and then you'll last forever" and expect me to respond with a, "hey great, thanks, I'll try that" when I have tried that already. That is why I am frustrated, anxious, angry, and discouraged, and feel like my situation is completely different from everyone elses. There seems to be any multitude of issues causing any multitude of problems for me, so I guess I cant explain every angle of every issue to everyone so that I may end up finding something that helps. I guess I wont find a "single" answer to adress an issue that likely has more limbs than can be explained in a single thread is all I meant. Dont take this wrong Cusp, it isnt directed at you personally.

You need to see a doctor and he needs to give you medication for your anxiety. It's not your dick but your brain that has become the enemy!

 

[kickinthemebs]

I agree, you need to sort out your psychological and anxiety issues before specifically trying the techniques advised here. From what I have seen that is the root of your problem - anxiety-induced premature ejaculation. Meditation, medication, yoga, avoidance of stress, etc might help.

You need to see a doctor and he needs to give you medication for your anxiety. It's not your dick but your brain that has become the enemy!

 

[almightycrunch]

Well I appreciate the sentiment, I am a registered nurse by profession, and while I agree that I have anxiety with regards to PremE, I wouldn't say that I fit the criteria for a definitive diagnosis of Anxiety . I do have the ability to test your theory with anti anxiety medication, so I'll let you know if that helps in any way.

 

[almightycrunch]

And just to clarify. NO I am not taking meds from a workplace!!!! Lol

 

[Going411x7]

And just to clarify. NO I am not taking meds from a workplace!!!! Lol

I would forget about trying to please your wife and focus on using this site to please yourself. For example, work on developing longer and longer edging sessions. Get some good sexual fantasies going to keep you going. Just focus on yourself and not her.

I would also recommend a sex therapist. You could even arrange it and tell her it's just a regular therapist--there really is not that much difference anyway.

My hunch is you are both afraid of true intimacy--maybe she more than you.

So just work here on satisfying yourself sexually, leaving her out of the picture for the time being.

If she cares about you at all, she will agree to go to some kind of counseling with you.

 

[OneEyedWilly]

Self medication with prescription drugs is never a good idea. Please get some counseling, hopefully your wife will go too, even if it's just to support you.

 

[CUSP82]

Well I appreciate the sentiment, I am a registered nurse by profession, and while I agree that I have anxiety with regards to PremE, I wouldn't say that I fit the criteria for a definitive diagnosis of Anxiety . I do have the ability to test your theory with anti anxiety medication, so I'll let you know if that helps in any way.

No nurse you do the right thing and go to a doctor and talk and see what he feels may be best for you. Nurses, even with your knowledge, should not doctor themselves!

 

[bolkonsky]

almighty: It seems like you have tryed everything that everyone here is saying.... Have you tryed my advice?

 

[kickinthemebs]

:decision:

almighty: It seems like you have tryed everything that everyone here is saying.... Have you tryed my advice?

 

[PumpSon!]

It seem like you are just here to vent anger, many people have offered good advice for you to try and you just ignore advice and post further incensed responses.

it is not the end of the world. Calm down and heed peoples words and you might benefit. You got yourself into this mess with bad habits, don't take it out on those attempting to alleviate your problem.

 

[almightycrunch]

Im not ignoring advice, except bolkonksy's.

 

[almightycrunch]

Why do you think Im ignoring advice???

 

[Jay1983]

90 seconds of sex? If you're only lasting 90 seconds than you obviously need to reevaluate your technique.

Sex isn't jacking off; it's not a race to the finish line! It's the time spent between point A and point B that counts.

No wonder sex is kinda fucked now-a-days. A lot of people think it's about the cumming. WTF??

I've had orgasms before even ever cumming that have felt way better than cumming has ever even felt!

The way I see it... cumming is just the finishing technique to drop high arousal states and get back to reality.

:bolt:

Forgive me if I didn't respond to your post properly.. All I read was the first two lines of post #1 in this thread.

 

[bolkonsky]

90 seconds of sex? If you're only lasting 90 seconds than you obviously need to reevaluate your technique.

Sex isn't jacking off; it's not a race to the finish line! It's the time spent between point A and point B that counts.

No wonder sex is kinda fucked now-a-days. A lot of people think it's about the cumming. WTF??

I've had orgasms before even ever cumming that have felt way better than cumming has ever even felt!

The way I see it... cumming is just the finishing technique to drop high arousal states and get back to reality.

:bolt:

Forgive me if I didn't respond to your post properly.. All I read was the first two lines of post #1 in this thread.

I dont think its his fault JAY... The guy has tryed everything (EXCEPT: my fantastic advice) I dont think its his 'tequnique'.. Lets give him more credit than that.

AlmightyCrunch:

How many women have you slept with in your life?

Are you mormon or super christian?

I wouldnt be so quick to discount my advice when nothing else has worked.

I'll try not to chime in on your thread here again. Perhaps i was a little to Vulgar in my advice. But if you think about it I'm sure it would work. The only people i know that have a P.E. problem are guys that dont sleep with alot of women. I'd even be willing to bet that if you talk to your wife about it she would give you the green pass to go out and be promiscuous if it would heal your sexual life and your marriage. Hell I bet she would help you find some women.

 

[almightycrunch]

Ive slept with 25, maybe 30, no im not religious

 

[almightycrunch]

And no, I havent tried "everything" yet

 

[almightycrunch]

Almighty, you need to get some positive vibes going. Every response you have for the people on this forum, who are trying to help you, is met with nothing but negativity from you

Ok, first off, "every response i have for people on here is met with nothing but negativity from me". Negativity would be me responding with "good lord thats stupid, why would anyone think that would work at all??? " I responded to a suggestion by saying that emptying the chamber DID NOT work for me, nothing more, nothing less

 

[OnMyWayThere]

Just a recommendation with regard to the PremE, I've found that doing sine kegels near PONR suddenly and very dramatically increased my orgasm control.

I've also seen it recommended to alternate kegels and reverse kegels on other threads as well. However, that did not work for me and I always messed up (although I didn't try very often). What did work is doing the kegels while edging just do try to build PFM strength; as a side effect, doing them near PONR helped build the orgasm control.

See here for a description of sine kegels: https://www.pegym.com/forums/premature-ejaculation-forum/56407-minutemans-kegel-master-list.html

 

[Bigstar20]

You haven't tried everything, so stop saying your situation is unique. Take a look at this link, it's the most common causes for Pre-E. Now go down the list and address every point, if that doesn't work, THEN you can come back on here and complain that your situation is unique.
Premature Ejaculation - Cure-Erectile-Dysfunction.org

Don't be cheap, go get some tests done. Get a blood test done that checks EVERY hormone level (all testosterones, estrogen, prolactin SHGB etc etc). Now get another test to check your levels of neurotransmitters (serotonin, dopamine, GABA, norepinephrine, epinephrine). Then come on here and post your results. My guess is you won't do the tests though. .

Have you even researched the causes are you one of those people who assumes that edging is the magic cure? (it helps but isn't the only piece of the puzzle). And dont say "oh it's not chemical because I tried SSRI's and Tramadol", because serotonin is only ONE chemical related to PE.

I also agree with the people who said to meditate and do yoga, these will help lower your anxiety and strengthen your parasympathetic nervous system (research this if you don't know about it, but you should if you're a nurse). My guess is that you've always had a 'reason' for your PE, but then your wife being a b*itch has worsened the issue.