Problem is, my wife does not fit the profile of what everyone wants to assume, therefore suggestions and/or assumptions generally never fit the situation.
Ready to give up altogether!!
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and I learned a long time ago, not to make judgements until you've heard both sides of the story. We're only hearing one side. Just not sure what you ( Almighty ) are looking for here?
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Try to implement a few of the activities we suggested here, edging by yourself and with your wife, do kegels, etc. It sounds like it is a psychological thing more than a physical thing why you are premature ejaculating, you are nervous and feel performance anxiety about your extremely irregular sex and you also feel pressure to perform for your wife who only likes penetrative sex.
Firstly, you need to discuss all of this with your wife. After all it is your wife, you should be open and free to discuss anything that is on your mind, especially something as large as this. I agree, the presumptions and comments about what a horrible person your wife is and that you should divorce her are neither constructive nor helpful here. Talk to her about it, because we can only help and advise so much to the best of our abilities, but it really is something that needs to be talked about between both of you.
Firstly, you need to discuss all of this with your wife. After all it is your wife, you should be open and free to discuss anything that is on your mind, especially something as large as this. I agree, the presumptions and comments about what a horrible person your wife is and that you should divorce her are neither constructive nor helpful here. Talk to her about it, because we can only help and advise so much to the best of our abilities, but it really is something that needs to be talked about between both of you.
Ever try going out and sleeping with a bunch of strange pussy? maybe once you get a taste of whats out there you might not be so enamored by your wifes vagina and you will be able to last.... Thats what i would do.
I was talking to this girl at a house party and she told me that, the exact same problem your having, she was having with her husband. She said He tryed everything under the sun EXCEPT sleeping with a bunch of women. They were mormon and were virgins when they married. She said it ruined their marriage of 5 years. She was at that party trying to get laid.
Back when i was 15 i couldnt last too long... Then i slept with 20 women and the whole mystique of the pussy went away and i could last as long as i wanted.....
Id go get my dick wet a bunch of times bro. Go sleep with 30 women, and in a year from now you'll be fine.... Thats probably the most real advice your going to get. Non of this holding your wifes hand as you edge and her being super supportive crap.
I was talking to this girl at a house party and she told me that, the exact same problem your having, she was having with her husband. She said He tryed everything under the sun EXCEPT sleeping with a bunch of women. They were mormon and were virgins when they married. She said it ruined their marriage of 5 years. She was at that party trying to get laid.
Back when i was 15 i couldnt last too long... Then i slept with 20 women and the whole mystique of the pussy went away and i could last as long as i wanted.....
Id go get my dick wet a bunch of times bro. Go sleep with 30 women, and in a year from now you'll be fine.... Thats probably the most real advice your going to get. Non of this holding your wifes hand as you edge and her being super supportive crap.
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But there is a likelihood that it is the only advice that will work. I can tell you one thing.. The poor guy doesnt have long until his wife goes out and cheats on him..
Here ya go Brother:
https://www.pegym.com/forums/relationship-forum/74426-seduction-part-one.html
and most importantly part two:
https://www.pegym.com/forums/relationship-forum/74552-seduction-part-two.html
now go get laid.
But there is a likelihood that it is the only advice that will work. I can tell you one thing.. The poor guy doesnt have long until his wife goes out and cheats on him..
Here ya go Brother:
https://www.pegym.com/forums/relationship-forum/74426-seduction-part-one.html
and most importantly part two:
https://www.pegym.com/forums/relationship-forum/74552-seduction-part-two.html
now go get laid.
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Don't worry bolkonsky, nobody can ever take your award away from you! We put a stop to him 
So almightycrunch when you ejaculate how long can you last when you masturbate/have sex again? Even if you have to wait 20 minutes again, can you get and maintain a reasonable erection? Have you ever wondered why after you ejaculate and go for a second time you can always last almost forever?
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Ahaha Bolkonsky...pretty telling that you knew immediately I was referring to you. Well, as they say, the first step in correcting a problem is admitting it.
Hmmm I've read of stuff like this before.
Okay, almightycrunch, you say your SO doesn't like foreplay? Eating out, fingers, anything? While I know some women can take it or leave it, and not to knock your ability, but perhaps try new techniques? Is her clit not sensitive? I know some women don't like it because it makes them self conscious so ask her that?
You've already had a lot of good advice on how to tackle your PE, but I'm going to try a slightly alternate route. If she is a gal into penetration and you can't last, why not use toys like dildos? You can choose the size you are comfortable with and you won't have the burden to last. Also, after dildo play, you can follow and cum inside her so she feels the session is complete after she's had penetration for a while.
From your words it seems like sex, which should an intimate activity, has become a source of discomfort/anxiety. This can be a vicious cycle contributing to your PE. I read of one couple where the wife changed her mindset of disappointment because of the guy cumming too soon, to a mindset that he's so turned on he can't control himself and they used sex toys +oral sex (which your wife seems to be indifferent to) to have a great sex life. Perhaps if you went this route, the burden of lasting forever would be lifted off your shoulders and you'd get better? Make a game out of it?
Okay, almightycrunch, you say your SO doesn't like foreplay? Eating out, fingers, anything? While I know some women can take it or leave it, and not to knock your ability, but perhaps try new techniques? Is her clit not sensitive? I know some women don't like it because it makes them self conscious so ask her that?
You've already had a lot of good advice on how to tackle your PE, but I'm going to try a slightly alternate route. If she is a gal into penetration and you can't last, why not use toys like dildos? You can choose the size you are comfortable with and you won't have the burden to last. Also, after dildo play, you can follow and cum inside her so she feels the session is complete after she's had penetration for a while.
From your words it seems like sex, which should an intimate activity, has become a source of discomfort/anxiety. This can be a vicious cycle contributing to your PE. I read of one couple where the wife changed her mindset of disappointment because of the guy cumming too soon, to a mindset that he's so turned on he can't control himself and they used sex toys +oral sex (which your wife seems to be indifferent to) to have a great sex life. Perhaps if you went this route, the burden of lasting forever would be lifted off your shoulders and you'd get better? Make a game out of it?
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Another thing here that may help, I'm not sure if your using birth control, but wearing a condom may significantly desensitise you for the duration of intercourse, without killing nerve endings.
I think someone else here mentioned, that the PONR doesn't just come out of nowhere, there is a build up sensation - like water boiling, it heats gradually then boils rapidly - Turn down the heat before it boils!
I find breath control a very useful tool when practising edging. Your breathing should also benefit you with your arousal level when you have intercourse with your wife.
This is an exercise I practice all the time, I find it mentally/physically/spiritually balancing. Placing the mind in your centre of gravity (two/three inches below your belly button), relaxing and gently letting breathing enter there too, should help you, it helps me when I feel that all the world is against me and I have lost my way. I consider it (the hara) the tiny all consuming black-hole that negative emotion, external forces cannot escape, absorbing all of life's worries! Aikido student's are taught to keep conscious awareness of this point at all times.
This may sound like some hippy crap, but it definitely helps me, if nothing else you should be a little more physically balanced.
https://www.google.co.uk/url?sa=t&r...oYDwCA&usg=AFQjCNGcuMrciRsjST6M2fzIbw1c1L4sMg
I think someone else here mentioned, that the PONR doesn't just come out of nowhere, there is a build up sensation - like water boiling, it heats gradually then boils rapidly - Turn down the heat before it boils!
I find breath control a very useful tool when practising edging. Your breathing should also benefit you with your arousal level when you have intercourse with your wife.
This is an exercise I practice all the time, I find it mentally/physically/spiritually balancing. Placing the mind in your centre of gravity (two/three inches below your belly button), relaxing and gently letting breathing enter there too, should help you, it helps me when I feel that all the world is against me and I have lost my way. I consider it (the hara) the tiny all consuming black-hole that negative emotion, external forces cannot escape, absorbing all of life's worries! Aikido student's are taught to keep conscious awareness of this point at all times.
This may sound like some hippy crap, but it definitely helps me, if nothing else you should be a little more physically balanced.
https://www.google.co.uk/url?sa=t&r...oYDwCA&usg=AFQjCNGcuMrciRsjST6M2fzIbw1c1L4sMg
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I dont last any longer after ejaculating once, I have commented on this in other threads before. I am 46 years old, able to get an erection at the drop of a dime, when I first started the edging thing, I had one day where I did multiple sessions, and edged 4 times in approximately an hour, the second, third and fourth times were NO longer in duration than the first. I did this as someone suggested that "emptying the chamber once" would help delay ejac the next time, but this is not the case for me.
Almighty, you need to get some positive vibes going. Every response you have for the people on this forum, who are trying to help you, is met with nothing but negativity from you. With all of the suggestions offered up to you, there must be a couple you haven't tried yet. Here's a suggestion I don't think has been mentioned yet.....get the strongest penis desensitizing cream you can find, rub it on your dick ( put a double dose on the head and ridge ) then go pound your wife's pussy. I'm guessing you'll last 15 to 20 minutes, that should bring a smile to her face.
I am not trying to be negative in my responses, I am merely relaying my experience. I am at my wits end for a reason, hence my list of things that HAVE NOT WORKED FOR ME yet. I have a tube of mandelay at home, which was one of the first things I tried. From what I remember, I was "almost" unable to get or keep an erection using it due to complete numbness, but I was still able to finish quickly.
I guess I'll just stop posting on here. Thanks to those who posted with helpful information and genuine concern.
And you want to stop posting why? Maybe the anxiety you have shown here in some of your responses may be the very same anxiety that causes your issue. Think about it.
Good gawd, does anyone pay attention??? Of course I have anxiety!!!! I have never denied that, but you cant tell me "hey, go jack off before you have sex and then you'll last forever" and expect me to respond with a, "hey great, thanks, I'll try that" when I have tried that already. That is why I am frustrated, anxious, angry, and discouraged, and feel like my situation is completely different from everyone elses. There seems to be any multitude of issues causing any multitude of problems for me, so I guess I cant explain every angle of every issue to everyone so that I may end up finding something that helps. I guess I wont find a "single" answer to adress an issue that likely has more limbs than can be explained in a single thread is all I meant. Dont take this wrong Cusp, it isnt directed at you personally.
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