Orgasm during intercourse

[ScarletSkull]

Hiplainsdrifter - to answer your question, yes, ask her if she wants to figure out how to cum during intercourse. Because if it's going to happen (given that it hasn't already) there's a good chance she needs to be actively thinking/working towards this as a goal also, does that make sense?

And yeah, young kids can be an absolute killer of the sex drive. It's a cost thing - if sex noises are going to wake up a child that will then keep me awake for another hour, that's a pretty high cost for a young mom who is already sleep deprived to have to pay.

 

[Cavalier]

Oh yes, I remember the good old days of having kids in the house. Back then we found that the best use for lubricant was to put it on the door knob. Seriously though, It can be distracting for a woman worrying about waking the kids. It certainly can take some of the pleasure away for her I would think.

 

[AverageDude48]

So, in general.....listen to her. I am referencing your comment about "she said that she likes it harder and faster". For some reason, lots of women like it, when in doggie style, hard and fast. Hey, if that is how she likes it....I am pretty sure that she could not be more clear than that. Right? No subtle hint there....more like a freaking 2 x 4!

Work on your "hard and fast" game. Doggie style...hard and fast....could be over sooner than she likes. I have been with lots of chicks that like that and they always complain that with their other guys that it was over before they wanted it to be....you can get much deeper in this position and lots of guys have the issue with cumming sooner when they go deeper. Controlling your arousal and edging both come into play here.

As to women not being able to cum via penetration....depends on the woman. I can tell you from experience that I have yet to find a woman I could make cum with my fingers and tongue but not with my dick. But, I also know all about foreplay and tend to get a woman in that so-called orgasmic state....I am a giver and like to take care of my ladies. And my lady having a ton of orgasms is a good thing.

Now, having kids at home and worrying about them waking up or walking in on you....the worst nightmare that any parent faces (well, not really...I could think of 15 more....let's just go with that)....that can be a huge issue for anyone. Moms tend to be moms first, women second. You - if I might suggest - need to totally relax her. Get her mind empty. That will take some work. Have fun!

 

[Hiplainsdrifter]

Ok, the couple times she got during sex was when I brought her to the brink during foreplay. Then she got off relatively quick with me grinding away on top. Although, a couple times, she started crying and said it felt incredible. I'm not sure if she had an orgasm, but the way she reacted, it sure seemed like it. It was totally different.

It hadn't been as easy since. Maybe it due to more stress in our relationship. Who knows.

Here's the thing, that was a year ago. She doesn't seem that interested getting off while we're screwing and wants me to get off. She LOVES getting off with my fingers and holds out for that ..her orgasms are mind blowing they way. She practically throws me off the bed and she's a little thing.

But I wanna cum at the same time. The few times it's happened, it is incredible. I guess we need to talk about it.

I can say the reason I'm here is that I'm wondering if it's my size. Most indicators say no, but I'd like to be reassured. She said she gets sore with to much intercourse. And I can go a long time. I'm 6.1" NBEL, 6.6" BPEL, and 5.6" EG

 

[dmizzle]

You are plenty big. Im just over 5" eg and figured out how to make my girl orgasm from intercourse. The first girl I've been able to do it with. Whats funny is I've always had incredible sex despite. I mean they always cum back for more. Maybe cause I am good with my tongue. But now that I've learned how to make my girl cum with my dick it is amazing. And kind of an accident to figure it out. Now, like you it's all I want to do is make her cum with my dick cause it's definitely a very intense gspot orgasm. Just keep practicing and try different things. I can last forever in bed so it makes it easier to try all kinds of things.

 

[Hiplainsdrifter]

So, what worked for you ? I've tried every position imaginable, grinding, everything. And I can last a long time. She gets sore after 20 mins or so though....But she does get close it seems sometimes

 

[dmizzle]

So we know every woman is different so what I did may not work for you. However the way I found is first tease the hell out of her. Like when you are on top, let your dick slide across her

 

[dmizzle]

Across her clit. After a minute she might grab your dick and try to stick it in. Dont let her. Then start pushing your dick inside her. But just the tip. Only the tip. Talk to her. Ask her if she likes it. Take a few minutes gradually sliding your dick in, then slide out to just the tip. Ask her if she wants more. When she says yes, boom slide the whole thing in. This should make her gasp. Stay all the way in. Grind a little then slowly go in and out. Listen to her breathing. When i know she's into it it's time to take it home. Slide all the way in. Then grab your headboard or use your feet and push or pull yourself another inch on top of her. This changes the angle to hit the gspot. I use my headboard to pull myself into and over her and she can straighten out her legs more. Almost like she is laying with her legs almost closed and you are on top of her. From here you want to gring. My girl will grab my ass and moves the way that feels best. Make sure you are hard caus not going in and out might make you lose erection. Let her control your dick. If you start to lose erection start sliding in and out. But always remember yo go slow. Then go back to the position I explained above. Listen to her reactions. If she likes it keep going, if not, move onto something else. Like I said every woman is different but this works with my girl. She sounds like a banshee when she cums from my dick. But I can also make her orgasm like this with my tongue and finger. Thats how I know its a gspot orgasm. Anyway, good luck. I know how it feels to want to make her cum with your dick. It too me almost 5 months to figure this out with my girl. I was just trying new things and I heard her reaction from this position so I just stayed with it. Next thing I know she is breathing really heavy, and she starts saying, "Cum with me". She howling and I just let loose and we came together. I literally think it was the best sex ever. That was like 6 weeks ago. We only see each other on the weekend so I don't get much practice. But I have make her cum this way 3 times since. And Ive only been with her 5 times so that's a pretty good ratio. The other time she couldn't cum at all, even from oral so its not gonna happen everytime. OK I'm done writing book. Good luck bro.

 

[Hiplainsdrifter]

Sounds very similar to what worked for me.....twice. Iit was mind blowing and she alled it the BEST SEX EVER. But haven't been able to duplicate it since.

 

[Hiplainsdrifter]

and it sounds more like a clitoral orgasm. By the way your grinding....

two nights ago, I wa getting for from behind in a different position and she was getting very tight. She said it felt like she had to pee. Maybe I was finally getting the g-spot. I'll have to try that one again and last longer this time !!

 

[dmizzle]

Yeah, you would think its clitoral but maybe its both. The way its working is not really grinding on her clit but when you go all in then slide up another inch or two it seems to change the angle and she really feels my dick hitting her gspot. There is definitely a different between her clitoral and gspot orgasm. If I eat her out an make her cum without my finger, thats a clitoral orgasm and its definitely not as intense. But when I use my finger on the gspot, she will wake the neighborhood. And thats the same orgasm she is having when using this position. Last weekens was her birthday. Anyway were having sex and i went to this position to quickly. I started to lose my erection because of no in and out action, her first words were "no, dont stop" but I had to cause I really dont feel much this way. I need in and out. Anyway I started f'ing her hard and she says F that pussy hard. Thats my key she wants me to cum for her. I came on her stomach. I had a cock ring on so after I finish she stuck my dick back it. I went straight to the home run position and she came in like a minute. So awesome. I just love hearing her orgasm. Thats when you know you are doing a good job. Now that Im older I feel like Im having the best sex ever. Sorry to be so graphic but just wanted to explain what I do that miggt help the OP.

 

[persist]

Firstly decorum gentleman.
The idea that most women don't cum from penetration is widespread, but there is no real evidence of it.

Can you cite any scientific studies to back that claim?

Because every study I have read claims only 25% to 35% of women climax consistently during intercourse. Here, for example, is a press summary of an analysis of 33 (three three) studies that claim only 25% are consistently orgasmic from intercourse:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/all-about-sex/200903/the-most-important-sexual-statistic

 

[persist]

I've been with my GF for a year and a half .. we were having great sex in the first few months. She came twice during intercourse within a 30 day window. Seemed like the conitions were perfect. Hasn't happened in over a year now.

The sex us not as good since I started living with her. It's getting vanilla fir me. She comes almost every time ( sometimes multiple) from manual or oral. She lives my finger the best.

Those two times, I brought her to the brink and then went at it missionary ...it was AWESOME ! But also a lot work and grinding.

She's come close since but she didn't seem to enjoy intercourse as much as before... she wants me to get off quick. She gets dry and sore. When I touch her clit during sex, she loves, but tells me to stop because it's TOO sensitive.

I'm thinking of spicing things up with a vibrstor in her a**. whole I'm doing her. I think she'd do it because she seemed open to having my d**k in there.

Any advice ? I know the stats say that 70-80% off girls don't cum from penetration. But I think she can. And, two other times she started crying during sex. I couldn't tell if she came but she said it was amazing and a much different feeling than she's ever had.

What is going on ?

Your post is a little disturbing to me because it sounds like you are going out of your way to ignore each and every signal that your girl and her body are giving you.

You know how to make her cum from manual, oral, and rear entry. Why, for God's sake, do you keep insisting on trying to make her cum from missionary when everything here says she will not do that easily? Are you just a sadist? You enjoy making her suffer? She's going dry because it isn't exciting or pleasurable for her in that position. Have you talked to her about that?

The pain during clit stimulation is also a clear sign that you have not brought her to the right stage of arousal before attempting intercourse. When women masturbate, they normally don't aggressively stimulate the clit for a while because it is sore and hurts. They have to really go at the vulva and vagina to get wet and only after significant arousal does the clit allow more direct stimulation. Even then a girl with a small clit has too many nerve endings in a small area and will usually prefer indirect stimulation.

When I am with a new partner job number one is to learn her clit and how it works, and it is different for every woman. That means how does she like it touched initially (usually not direct at all), and how much warmup before more direct stimulation. If she prefers indirect stimulation I have her teach me how.

If any woman ever told me her clit was sore when I touched it I would immediately stop everything and go back to foreplay, talk to her about that, ask her what she wants, and start over again. Sore clit is the number one sign that I don't know what I am doing and need to go to plan B.

I'm just confused by your post because you have things that are working for her, and it really feels like you are imposing some requirement on her to cum during missionary. Her body and mind are not liking it, and you are ignoring that too.

 

[persist]

Ok, the couple times she got during sex was when I brought her to the brink during foreplay. Then she got off relatively quick with me grinding away on top. Although, a couple times, she started crying and said it felt incredible. I'm not sure if she had an orgasm, but the way she reacted, it sure seemed like it. It was totally different.

That is a great strategy to use her favorite techniques to bring her to orgasm or close, then rapidly switch to some insertion method and hope to get her there that way. If you get off and she does not, switch back to her favorite method and finish her that way.

So what changed here? You are saying she still gets off from your fingers? So why can't you repeat what worked here before?

Also, you say she gets off from doggie. You cannot orgasm from doggy position yourself? That would be a rare man who cannot get off that way.

 

[persist]

Across her clit. After a minute she might grab your dick and try to stick it in. Dont let her. Then start pushing your dick inside her. But just the tip. Only the tip. Talk to her. Ask her if she likes it. Take a few minutes gradually sliding your dick in, then slide out to just the tip. Ask her if she wants more. When she says yes, boom slide the whole thing in. This should make her gasp. Stay all the way in. Grind a little then slowly go in and out. Listen to her breathing. When i know she's into it it's time to take it home. Slide all the way in. Then grab your headboard or use your feet and push or pull yourself another inch on top of her. This changes the angle to hit the gspot. I use my headboard to pull myself into and over her and she can straighten out her legs more. Almost like she is laying with her legs almost closed and you are on top of her. From here you want to gring. My girl will grab my ass and moves the way that feels best. Make sure you are hard caus not going in and out might make you lose erection. Let her control your dick. If you start to lose erection start sliding in and out. But always remember yo go slow. Then go back to the position I explained above. Listen to her reactions. If she likes it keep going, if not, move onto something else. Like I said every woman is different but this works with my girl. She sounds like a banshee when she cums from my dick. But I can also make her orgasm like this with my tongue and finger. Thats how I know its a gspot orgasm. Anyway, good luck. I know how it feels to want to make her cum with your dick. It too me almost 5 months to figure this out with my girl. I was just trying new things and I heard her reaction from this position so I just stayed with it. Next thing I know she is breathing really heavy, and she starts saying, "Cum with me". She howling and I just let loose and we came together. I literally think it was the best sex ever. That was like 6 weeks ago. We only see each other on the weekend so I don't get much practice. But I have make her cum this way 3 times since. And Ive only been with her 5 times so that's a pretty good ratio. The other time she couldn't cum at all, even from oral so its not gonna happen everytime. OK I'm done writing book. Good luck bro.

Good for you for being persistent and experimenting.

Can you describe in more detail where you are positioned inside her when you are stroking her g spot? You are fully inserted and just grinding a little into the g spot with your base?

Are you by any chance inserted deeply enough that the tip of the penis is behind the cervix and pushing into the posterior fornix? That is another extreme pleasure zone and it will trigger orgasms in the pelvic nerve which is also felt as a deep body orgasm.

 

[Pegasus]

Can you cite any scientific studies to back that claim?

Because every study I have read claims only 25% to 35% of women climax consistently during intercourse. Here, for example, is a press summary of an analysis of 33 (three three) studies that claim only 25% are consistently orgasmic from intercourse:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/all-about-sex/200903/the-most-important-sexual-statistic

It did not show the studies or give any evidence whatever , am I supposed to take this serious?!?

 

[Pegasus]

It did not show the studies or give any evidence whatever , am I supposed to take this serious?!?

Not interested in anything from a militant feminist source either btw. Give me something with some scientific chops.

 

[persist]

Not interested in anything from a militant feminist source either btw. Give me something with some scientific chops.

I don't care if she a militant lesbian who sleeps with dogs. She is an accomplished academic and she is beyond that kind of sleazy review of her work. She reviewed 33 scientific studies and the average result across these studies was that only 25% of women climax consistently during intercourse.

Her book is here if anyone wants to buy it:
http://www.amazon.com/Case-Female-Orgasm-Science-Evolution/dp/0674022467

If you want to refer to studies, refer to your own studies. Please make those studies ones that were done by macho men with 10 inch penises, because then god knows the science will be infinitely more accurate, right?

Just stop posting your opinion and start posting facts of your own. Every post you have made with this claim contains your personal opinions only and no cited facts from any source at all.

 

[Pegasus]

I don't care if she a militant lesbian who sleeps with dogs. She is an accomplished academic and she is beyond that kind of sleazy review of her work. She reviewed 33 scientific studies and the average result across these studies was that only 25% of women climax consistently during intercourse.

Her book is here if anyone wants to buy it:
Amazon.com: The Case of the Female Orgasm: Bias in the Science of Evolution (9780674022461): Elisabeth A. Lloyd: Books

If you want to refer to studies, refer to your own studies. Please make those studies ones that were done by macho men with 10 inch penises, because then god knows the science will be infinitely more accurate, right?

Just stop posting your opinion and start posting facts of your own. Every post you have made with this claim contains your personal opinions only and no cited facts from any source at all.

Accomplished academics should cite there sources. What studies done where by who and by the ay if it is by militant feminists it taints the source .

 

[Pegasus]

My view is this whole area is prone to poor academic work /research .

https://www.pegym.com/forums/premature-ejaculation-forum/84260-sexpert-slap.html?highlight=