I need help guys (ED getting worse)

[slaveking]

Hi I have been trying this but it feels impossible to do it in reserve (maybe my PC muscle is weak?) when I try to force urine out there is no force behind it. I have no problem stopping my urine stream but I can't seem to force any more out if that makes sesnse.



Hi there I have seen quite a few doctors now and they always say to me it's "all in your head" but I did tests done for blood, testostrone, hormones etc last year which all came up normal. Anyway I am booking another appointment to see a doctor again and hopefully see him next week (can my GP check for scar tissue?) I think this could be what is causing me to have a firmer flacid penis and inalastic tissue. Hopefully he will refer me to a uroglist so I can get some physical tests done.

My ED is surely phsyical dsfan a surefire way to prove this is my morning erections are okay but not rock hard at all and the glans are always small, deflated and as soon as I move or get up my dick loses any hardness in a matter of seconds. I feel no anxiety really when this happens I'll wake up with an erection (again with deflated head) and when I get up it's gone in a minute just like that. Let's not forgot as well that erection in the morning are supposed it's strongest which mine aren't.

When you say scar tissue can be treated in what way? I have read some of your recent posts which says you have reduced some of your scar tissue down there from regular use of Cialus. Maybe you could give me more details on what you meant.



Hi slaveking I have never been offered Viagra or anything like that from doctors I think telling them I'm a virgin doesn't do me any favours (even though it's the truth) and they may view me as more niave but it just happens I'm a guy with moderate ED who hasn't had sex yet. Trust me if my ED was mainly a mental issue I'm sure I would of been able to get over this by now I don't chat up women let alone try to date them because I'll be a total flop in bed because my penis won't work properly. I would of tried to of got laid if I didn't have these ED problems hell even with an escort but when masturbating alone struggling to keep a good erection is difficult imagine trying to have actual sex I'm sure you can see where I'm coming from.

Is seeing a psychiatrist helping you with your ED? I'm just curious I wish talking to someone about my ED would be enough to solve the erection problems no amount of positive thining will make my erections magically better but some sort of phsyical treatment might. Believe me I tried thinking positive about ED for years and it doesn't do anything (at least in my case) and I have seen a psychiatrist before many years ago now when I was in my teenage years.



Hi there yes I'm pretty certain my ED is mainly organic in nature and perhaps permamant as it has been nearly 7 years since this all happened to me. I had two injuries when jelqing I noticed I lost my erection completely (I guess I was doing it slightly to erect) and after the glans didn't expland fully like before and would deflate quickly I had no troubles staying erection though just had deflated glans. This also seemed to of killed my throbbing erections. Anyway the second injury was from stretching (probably stretching too far out) and my dick immediately shrunk up to like a peanut size (scariest thing in my life) and it felt really hard and contracted. My penis went back to normal shortly after but then I started to soon notice my flacid penis wasn't so elastic like before and it was a bit harder to stay erect. It was more mild at first though like It would be a few minutes then I would start to loose my erection but it seems slowly over the years this has got worse to the point where I will loose my erection the instant I get one it's almost impossible to keep an erection without constant hand stimulation.
I will be seeing a doctor again so yes hopefully get some proper physical ED tests done. I hope I don't have Venous Leakage but I can't see what else is causing my ED especially after all these years.

I am waiting for my turn to see the psychiartrist...
..have u heard about SELF FULFILLING PROPHECY?
..first of all u cant come to a conclusion about ur ED unless u try sex...come one u didnt even try nd ur saying ur have ED...not having morning erection is not a criteria that prove that u cant get hard...anxiety is different than other psychological issue...ur problem is a beleif in ur mind that is growing stronger and stronger and that will prove itself as true if u keep thinking like this...Im not saying that ur problem is 100%psychological or u dont have physical problem...but what im saying is that even if u have some psyical problem u still can have sex....beleive me i had similar thoughts and still have some but after many sessions with my GP i realized i have some problem wd my thinking....wt i highlighted in blod clearly represent ur mind set...ur just wasting ur tym by making conclusion about ur ED...u maybe right but u have to consider the alternatives...i understand coz i have been in ur shoes..nd i know it is very difficult to say tht it is psychological coz there are physical proves..but the problem with mind is that the more u beleive in something the more true and real it becomes....I swear to god that many of my problems which i thought were physical and i experienced the sypmtoms in real just vanished after i got convinced that the problem was with my thinking....i still think i have physical problems but some of those which i use to think were physical wer not in real and went away after i realized....
so go nd try sex before u judge that u have ED...try to be confident wen going for it..if u thnk it is difficult then try a viagra after discuiing wd ur doctor...

 

[dsfan]

Im not entirely certain about the morning erections being the strongest, I know mine arent. Mine are half erections when I have them, but when im having sex I manage to get quite the stiffy going.

As.far as scar tissue goes, Google peyronies disease surgery, options are available but generally theyre a last resort when the pills dont work.

Try the pills. Unless you have bad scarring, your gp wont be able to tell.

It may or may not be physical, but if you do indeed care, and it sounds like you do, explore all the possibilities, physical and mental.

I say this because I started feeling a bit better when my uro told me my lack of sensation is because of a mental block, after having tests done, and now im waiting to start seeing a fertility expert / shrink. ( delayed ejaculation )

 

[UKGuy]

I am waiting for my turn to see the psychiartrist...
..have u heard about SELF FULFILLING PROPHECY?
..first of all u cant come to a conclusion about ur ED unless u try sex...come one u didnt even try nd ur saying ur have ED...not having morning erection is not a criteria that prove that u cant get hard...anxiety is different than other psychological issue...ur problem is a beleif in ur mind that is growing stronger and stronger and that will prove itself as true if u keep thinking like this...Im not saying that ur problem is 100%psychological or u dont have physical problem...but what im saying is that even if u have some psyical problem u still can have sex....beleive me i had similar thoughts and still have some but after many sessions with my GP i realized i have some problem wd my thinking....wt i highlighted in blod clearly represent ur mind set...ur just wasting ur tym by making conclusion about ur ED...u maybe right but u have to consider the alternatives...i understand coz i have been in ur shoes..nd i know it is very difficult to say tht it is psychological coz there are physical proves..but the problem with mind is that the more u beleive in something the more true and real it becomes....I swear to god that many of my problems which i thought were physical and i experienced the sypmtoms in real just vanished after i got convinced that the problem was with my thinking....i still think i have physical problems but some of those which i use to think were physical wer not in real and went away after i realized....
so go nd try sex before u judge that u have ED...try to be confident wen going for it..if u thnk it is difficult then try a viagra after discuiing wd ur doctor...

Damn maybe I do have some mental issues with ED (but not the complete cause of it) honestly the last raging hardon I had (and I know this will sound pathetic) is when I got a fleshlight a few years ago (threw it away though) my dick was like rock, the glans were bigger and my erection was staying hard on it's own. I haven't got an erection like that since though strangest thing, this was probably like 3 or 4 years ago now though. I know I have problems I don't exactly get women easily and I feel I won't be able to get it up and stay up If I do ever manage to be in a position to have sex as these days I struggle even masturbating to get a good erection and keep it. Okay slaveking can I ask how have managed to get over the mental aspect of your ED? I do think you're right my ED is likely a bit of both mental and physical. As for talking to a phychiatrist well I could give a go the last time I saw one was when I was in my early teens and had mild depression.

Im not entirely certain about the morning erections being the strongest, I know mine arent. Mine are half erections when I have them, but when im having sex I manage to get quite the stiffy going.

As.far as scar tissue goes, Google peyronies disease surgery, options are available but generally theyre a last resort when the pills dont work.

Try the pills. Unless you have bad scarring, your gp wont be able to tell.

It may or may not be physical, but if you do indeed care, and it sounds like you do, explore all the possibilities, physical and mental.

I say this because I started feeling a bit better when my uro told me my lack of sensation is because of a mental block, after having tests done, and now im waiting to start seeing a fertility expert / shrink. ( delayed ejaculation )

I always assumed erections in the morning are usually at their best and strongest well they were for me some years ago.. anyway about the scar tissue I am going to a doctor again soon next week hopefuily and get him to check for scar tissue. My flacid penis does feel firmer and inalastic but I have no hard lump, or curving of the penis though.

Yeah I'm going to look into more option for my ED I only did some enlargement exercises a few times and after the bad experiences trying them I totally quit doing them and haven't attempted PE since then. I also find it hard to believe I could of totally of damaged my penis completely from doing these exercises (nearly 7 years ago) only a couple of times.

dsfan I'm glad things are improving for you it's good to know I'm not alone with these ED problems many of us are in the same boat.

Cheers

 

[slaveking]

Well my story is strange...when i look back i really feel sorry for wasting lots of years having a false belief...the strange thing is that my problems are not completely over and i still think i have some physical problems and i may have..thats why im not happy with my gp completely...but before meeting him my situation was worse...i used to beleive that i have a problem with my testicles, and used to experience lots of pain in my testicles and also use to have severe headaches (now i dont have these problems after plenty of visits to my gp and after he checking and confirming to me i have no problems, also did blood tests hormone tests)now i really think i was only fooling myself and this was because of my fast habbits of befucking masterbating and squeezing my penis between my thighs and experiencing some pains which led me beleive that i have such problems...also i failed once when i tried to have sex with a prostitute and this made me isolate myself from girls and avoid sex coz i thought i really have a problem and cant intercourse...yes i still have some problems like i cant maintain my erection when i stand up it goes in 5seconds if im not stimulating it..i get sudden pain in my anus area, i hav diffiuclty peeing (my urologist feared tht i may hav prostate problem but after digital rectal examination it was ok)after the test infact i started expereincing the symptoms less as i starting beleiving that i had this problem after finding the symptoms in the internet but after the test i stopped beleiving this....
my first successful intercourse came with a chinese girlfriend to whom i shared my problems actually and how i think and fear having sex coz i cant.....she was not beautiful so she also had problem with her self image...we both shared our problems.....we felt more intimate and finally we tried sex....she knew already my fears nd problems so i didnt real care if i fail to intercourse...but it really worked without any problem...i could manage to have intercourse nd it lasted four about 4 or 5minutes and she said i was goood...i really releived as if a burden came out of me...though she left after completing her studies, i tried sex with escort girls...and didnt have any problem having sex....i also lied to my urolgist lately tht i failed having sex as i wanted him do more tests as i really dont like having difficulty peeing or losing erection without stimulation (he prescribed viagra and said try sex with it to overcome anxiety) but later when he refered me to a urologist for my peeing problem, the urologist prescribed me alpha blockers which means i cannot use viagra wen im using them...(but i really have no intention of using viagra as i can have sex without any problem)
i really regret not trying sex in my early 20s because of my stupid thinking which convinced me that i cant be successful having sex...
im seeing the psychiatrist coz i still could not stop beleiving that some of my problems are not physical...so i will be seeing a psychologist so that he can help me+ will see my urologist after taking the alpha blockers one month program.....i really have nuetral thinking about my problem..im not beleiving that i have physical problem and also not completely denying it as well....also my gp suggested me a book which i read and it was fantastic and really helped me understand my mentality and this also helped me from getting rid of some false beleifs...this the book if u want to read it

Stop Worrying About Your Health! by George D. Zgourides

i would suggest to u stop believing that u cant have sex..or u will fail...and if think u cant, try viagra and try sex so that u dont regret like i did...it caused me great problems..isolated me from girls,made me a porn addict, cause me lost self confident,inferiority complex...i really thankful to that chinese girl.. ...i still have problems with dating girls but not like before but my problem is low self confidence wen im with them....if i get rid of this difficulty peeing, i will stop visiting urologists completly nd enjoy my life....please read the book if u can, it really helped me...it is not about ED but about worrying about ur health and getting the symptoms as if it is true...
take care...

 

[dsfan]

I am doing better yes, thank you, but I know I still have a very long way to go

 

[SHAKEnBAKE]

Try some pelvic floor stretches along with strengthning, I believe the pelvic floor has alot to do with erections. As we get older the pelvic floor weakens which is why I think the older we get that we have erection problems.

 

[baribal46]

hi, baribal.. can you please describe what is this new method that cures ED?

Of course, but please activate the private message receive, I can't write back to You. So i post my reply here:

Hi Shark,

There is something called ZEN and what i understand it's all about vein and micro blood circulation. Of course it's possible only when you have physical ED, read the article I found about this: Doctors testing new procedure for erectile dysfunction | News-Gazette.com

I take some research for myself and recently found even the clinic that started treat ED this way. Only problem is they are in Poland. If you interested about it, please write to me back.

 

[sharak]

Of course, but please activate the private message receive, I can't write back to You. So i post my reply here:

Hi Shark,

There is something called ZEN and what i understand it's all about vein and micro blood circulation. Of course it's possible only when you have physical ED, read the article I found about this: Doctors testing new procedure for erectile dysfunction | News-Gazette.com

I take some research for myself and recently found even the clinic that started treat ED this way. Only problem is they are in Poland. If you interested about it, please write to me back.

hi, baribal.. thank you so much for the link and i apologize for the block to my pm.. its unblocked now, just to let you know. years ago i read about using angioplasty which is akin to a balloon instered in the penis to expand channels in there to allow more blood flow, and hence, better erections.

this link you sent is good news. i will be following up for developments of this technique. also, please read the link below. it deals with shock treatment for the penis. researchers said that most of the test group who used it didnt need pills anymore for their ed. thanks baribal..

http://www.healblog.net/medical/a-shocking-innovative-finding-to-treat-erectile-dysfunction/

 

[baribal46]

Thanks Shark, your article also was interested.

 

[rokenone]

Good post slaveking. I tried sex for the first time at age 20, and it didnt work out at all. BUT, that Im sure was from my anxiety, I know for sure I can get somewhat hard. Its about overcoming the flaws you have (be it by "forgetting", focusing on what you DO have). It is possible, only its a very rocky road. Physical disability amplifies your mental disbeliefs, and mental condition. And ends in a truly negative circle. The one thing brings the other down, and so on.

Also, imo, theres a line between worrying and being aware of own health though (didnt read the link, sorry, but wanted to say that)

 

[UKGuy]

Well I have doing kegels which has been suggested here, I have been doing them every other day for the past few weeks and they certainly work (but I have experimented with them before), so I'm going to keep them up I already notice better head sensitivety, my erection is stronger than usual and the shaft at least will stay hard on it's on. Also I feel a bit more horny than usual, my orgasm feels more intense when I cum. My urine stream has more force to it as well hmm.. weaker erection and weak urine stream could they be related to the PC muscle? I still have a problem with the glans though they reach almost full size with stimulation but the head soon deflates where my shaft remains solid, it's annoying and I wish I knew how to fix it.

Also what I don't understand is why is that when I stop doing the kegels after a day or so my erections lasting ability and strength is back to how it was before (eg a bit weaker, hard to stay up without near constant stimulation). That's annoying too.

At least kegels are working though. I am wondering actually the weaker erection, weak urine stream, weaker orgasm these all seem to improve from kegels so do guys think it may just be down to some PC muscle dysfunction? It's weird.

I have also read that losing your erection quickly and weaker erections may just be due to not enough blood flow. So in my case the increased blood flow from doing kegels definitely gives me better erections.

 

[UKGuy]

Low libido and ED (lifeless penis) is there a connection?

Low libido and ED (lifeless penis) is there a connection?

Hi guys so a few here will know I have some real erections problems (probably Venous Leakage) which I got from performing penis exercises incorrectly (roughly 7 years ago) and my dick hasn't been the same since.

I have been wondering if perhaps part of my ED is due to having a low sex drive or libido because due to the erection problem I am still a virigin. It seems like my desire for sex and sexual feelings are nearly none existant for example If I see a hot woman with nice cleavage or ass I don't get an erection or turned on I see hot women but little to no reaction downstairs. I know I'm not 16 anymore (I'm nearly 27 in a couple of months) but I know still at my age I should be getting way more erections and random ones which I hardly ever get and on a rare occasion I do they're very weak. I don't know If I'm crazy or what but I'm sure since I injured my penis years ago my libido went down with my erection quality. I swear If I don't watch porn I don't really get horny or feel sexual desires (even in my mind) I rarely think about sex anymore. It's just so frustrating having a lifeless dick and when I go out to a bar or whatever I see so many hot women but I know I'm useless downstairs.

 

[not2big]

Have you ever had your testosterone level tested?

 

[realityman]

Sounds like classic Low T.

 

[Connor]

Low testosterone sometimes is not the reason. Mine was normal last time I checked. I do have too lifeless penis. My random erections are very rare and 99% of the time almost completely soft (if I don't tell you, you wouldn't notice). I never wanked on porn on a habit (just me and my fantasies). I probably combined over mb with poor diet, dunno. But I could tell you getting horny every time a chick walks by is sci-fi. I'm pretty sure men's dick doesn't work that way. Walking in a mall with your buddy up is not a sign of normal hormones, it's "hormones on crazy". Young people have it, because at first they cannot control it, after that it normalizes. It's the mood, stress and etc that matter. If I don't feel like getting horny, I can't get horny. If I'm horny, I am (but dead inside with this buddy). Don't push yourself too hard. Go out with friends, have fun, enjoy life. Your buddy cannot be happy unless you are. Don't take yourself as a man with a problem. Think of you as a man with a hitch...

 

[MisterGeo]

Hi guys so a few here will know I have some real erections problems (probably Venous Leakage) which I got from performing penis exercises incorrectly (roughly 7 years ago) and my dick hasn't been the same since.

I have been wondering if perhaps part of my ED is due to having a low sex drive or libido because due to the erection problem I am still a virigin. It seems like my desire for sex and sexual feelings are nearly none existant for example If I see a hot woman with nice cleavage or ass I don't get an erection or turned on I see hot women but little to no reaction downstairs. I know I'm not 16 anymore (I'm nearly 27 in a couple of months) but I know still at my age I should be getting way more erections and random ones which I hardly ever get and on a rare occasion I do they're very weak. I don't know If I'm crazy or what but I'm sure since I injured my penis years ago my libido went down with my erection quality. I swear If I don't watch porn I don't really get horny or feel sexual desires (even in my mind) I rarely think about sex anymore. It's just so frustrating having a lifeless dick and when I go out to a bar or whatever I see so many hot women but I know I'm useless downstairs.

Your problem is mental and emotional. It's really that simple. From what I'm reading you're not describing anything so remarkably unusual.

I recommend you seriously seek a loving relationship with a woman. Get a decent girlfriend. Let things happen naturally. After a couple dates you should end up in bed with her...hopefully. Have several sexual encounters with her. And THEN you can ascertain whether or not you actually have erectile dysfunction issues.

Or you could ignore this advice and do what you've been doing to yourself for the past 7 years. Make it 14 years of hell. It's up to you. If it's so much of a problem for you to get a girlfriend, I recommend you seriously find a pscyhologist or some kind of therapist who specializes in problems like this. You're a head case. I think you're worrying about all the wrong things. I hope that's not too harsh, but it is frustrating to read messages like this over and over and over again when the real problem is obvious.

 

[carlos21cm]

I dont think anybody here is capable of diagnose UKguy witha mental ED or other psycological isuue only based in the fact that he is a 27 year old virgin. I ahve the same symtoms witht he only difeerence is iM not a virgin.
The sad truth is ED has increased during last century due to all teh chemicals we get among many otehr reasons. From any food to a deodorant.There are chemicals estrogenic substances,alcohol,drugs and stress.
So Ukguy unfortunately during last decade ED has become an increasing condition in men under 30.Before it was thought to be a condition for above 60 men.
why? for many reasons. trust me that thousands if not million men worldwide under 40 use viagra regulary.
I dont have that libido itnerest for sex,I can visually look to women I love the way t hey look how sexy they are and everything,but jsut dont feel the need of ahving sex.unless im really close touching her and she touching me I dont feel it.
So...now Im looking for herbs that restore libido.
Most natural alternatives focus on blood flow and erection issues not on libido.
Few days ago a guy posted an amazing recipe for libido.He says he was walking in the mall getting spontaneus erections.You should try it and see how it goes.
My advice UKguy is...find a pretty and nice prostitute. Dont be afraid,there are nice girls working on that that will treat you friendly.There you dont need to impress her or satisfy her needs,just relax and enjoy.So its a good way to ahve your first encounter without the stress and frustration involved

 

[dsfan]

Im not entirely sure that I agree with the whole chemicals causing it...

A much simpler reason is... There was nothing that could be done 50 years ago, and people did not want to talk about it.

 

[CUSP82]

Low testosterone sometimes is not the reason. Mine was normal last time I checked. I do have too lifeless penis. My random erections are very rare and 99% of the time almost completely soft (if I don't tell you, you wouldn't notice). I never wanked on porn on a habit (just me and my fantasies). I probably combined over mb with poor diet, dunno. But I could tell you getting horny every time a chick walks by is sci-fi. I'm pretty sure men's dick doesn't work that way. Walking in a mall with your buddy up is not a sign of normal hormones, it's "hormones on crazy". Young people have it, because at first they cannot control it, after that it normalizes. It's the mood, stress and etc that matter. If I don't feel like getting horny, I can't get horny. If I'm horny, I am (but dead inside with this buddy). Don't push yourself too hard. Go out with friends, have fun, enjoy life. Your buddy cannot be happy unless you are. Don't take yourself as a man with a problem. Think of you as a man with a hitch...

This is very good advice along with Hot Rod telling you that you're a bit depressed. There is nothing wrong with your dick unless you hit it with a hammer. ( you didn't do that did you?) You dick is a lot tougher than you think it is. No you're depressed, unhappy, and looking for a way out. How about going to see somebody who can help you iron out your problems and get on with life!

 

[CUSP82]

Oh I forgot; a rep for you Connor!