Female masturbation.

[ColtAR-15]

My wife says she has never masturbated. How likely is it that she really has never done this? I know for a guy this would be highly unlikely.

 

[clarkstr]

My wife and I met in college. She told me she'd never masturbated. I told her that she needed to do it to figure out her body. Life definitely got better for us after that point. I have no idea how often she does it. We don't discuss.

 

[Mikes Mrs]

My wife says she has never masturbated. How likely is it that she really has never done this? I know for a guy this would be highly unlikely.

I think a lot of women don't want to admit it. They are uncomfortable and feel it is a very personal pvt matter.
If she ever rubbed her clit she would be materbating already and I can't imagine rubbing and getting that warm feeling and never touching herself again.
There are women that are asexual, they just don't need or want sex.
Does she allow you to touch and lick her clit, Have you tried to finger her G spot? Is she possibly very religious? Some feel it is dirty to do it?
One off my friends said she can't touch herself in front of her bf, it feels wrong to her and unlady like. But in pvt she will put the rest of us to shame.
I love using the massager shower head in the bath, I put it on the bottom of the bath so that it is spraying upwards, spreading my vagina and moved around allowing the spray to massage me until I came. Water hitting my clit is amazing....love it.
I think a women that knows her own body knows best how to please herself, The exact preasure exserted on her clit, sliding her finger up and down her moist slit...a little wetness on the finger does the job.Also it's part of foreplay and getting ready for him to penatrate. I am not into vibrators and toys much... my fingers and hand are more than what I need to orgasm or get my juices running. Evem though I get a lot of sex it is different to pleasure oneself now and then.
(Your wife has maybe missed out on a lot. I don't feel ashamed to say I am touching my swollen clit through my panty right now. I am sorry If any of you find my posts to open, honest and raw. Don't read what I write)

 

[ColtAR-15]

No she does have a interest in sex but for a lot of years it seemed that she didn't. She lets and likes it when I do all that stuff to her but says she has never done that stuff herself. She is more of the shy type so if she does she probably wouldn't admit it. Im leaning towards that she probably does. I don't find your risque nature offensive quite the opposite.

 

[donjelqer76]

I've known many women who weren't shy about their masturbation habits - my wife included. Though women in general seem a bit more shy on the subject than men are.

 

[TTBB]

Females are not talk about self pleasure.
I am sure your wife has touched herself at least once. She might not feel the need to masturbate if she is feeling she is satisfied with the sex she is getting from you(that is not to say females who masturbate aren't satisfied with the sex) For some females sex is all about the pleasure of the male not about self pleasure this can extend to not feeling the need or desire to masturbate kind of old school conservative in thinking.
Does your wife touch rub or touch her clit while having sex with you?

 

[Ivor]

Years ago I briefly dated this girl who told me she never masturbated, and she wasn't a prude or anything so I have no reason not to believe her. Seems kind of odd to me but then I guess women don't have the same build-up of an actual physical fluid that men do. A guy who doesn't masturbate and isn't getting any sex either will eventually just find himself ejaculating in his sleep.

The two women I've had by far the best sex with - my current girlfriend and a previous long-term GF - are both almost as keen on wanking as I am. In fact shortly after I met my ex she confessed to me about her "four-a-day habit" - I was like, sh*t, that's worse than me! Dunno if she still does, but it made me laugh, seeing as wanking is generally seen as a male thing.

Watching my girlfriend pleasure herself is one of my great pleasures. She likes to watch me, too.

 

[ThomasJohnThomas]

Many of my female friends have told me they watch porn and masturbate, just like we do. Some of them even say they have about four or five orgasms a day.
Some of them have even told me they started to masturbate much earlier than what I did, when I say I started at 13.
My ex said she rarely masturbated, but it happened. My gf masturbates on a daily basis.
Most of my friends are in their 20`s, but I have talked with a couple women in their mid 30`s who told me they are hornyer than ever.
I think it is very cute, beautiful and sexy when girls masturbate
I don`t think sexuality and gender is as big of an issue in Scandinavia as in many other parts of the world today.

 

[someone_like_u]

Colt, I believe your wife may just feel embarrassed about masturbation. I know I did when I was younger. If my hubby asked(back then), I'd probably tell him no as well. Why?, I really don't have an answer to that one. I don't know if all females masturbate or not, I always have, can't remember the age I started, lol.

Anyway, during sex with my hubby, I'd get really into all the play(I was ok with him doing things to me, I just wouldn't), then one day, he wanted to watch me masturbate. I was so not comfortable with that. He assured me it was a major turn on for him so I went along with it. I remember he was using a toy on me and we started out with him placing his hands over mine as I held onto it. After he saw me getting into it, relaxing a bit, he removed his hands so it was just me. I hesitated just a bit, but in the end, it was exactly what I needed to open up completely, surrender all trust to him. That was many many moons ago and things just get better.

So, if you have any toys or even with your hands, place her hand over her clit and you move her hand over her. Let her get comfortable with both your hands down there for a while then let her loose. Tell her you want to watch, reassure her by saying things to her, play with yourself, etc. Only she knows if she's masturbated or not, so by going about it this way, maybe it will help her to understand that it's a good thing, that she should get involved in her own pleasure as well. Good luck

Added: A great position to try: her sitting between your legs, maybe on the bed, with both of you sitting up but also leaning back a bit. That way, you have easy access between her legs, especially if you take one of your legs and spread her open a bit by isolating one of her legs, pinning it. You have easy access to her vagina and you can guide her hand. Plus, it might help her to relax knowing you can't really see her face while she's touching herself. Once you turn her loose, you have easy access to reassure in her ear how hot seeing her do this is, play with her breasts, nibble her neck.

 

[Ivor]

S_L_U, it sounds like you and your husband get up to some pretty similar stuff to me and my girlfriend. Masturbation takes on a whole new light when you realise how fun it is to do with another person! I really, really love to watch my GF getting herself off, and I often help out by stimulating her with a finger or two while she either rubs her clit or uses a vibrator on it. Sometimes she likes me to rub her G-spot but often she prefers a very gently, slow stroking motion between her labia. I love to have a finger or two insider her when she comes, as I can feel her contractions, which is a huge turn-on for me. (She's so tight during sex that I can't really feel her contractions with my dick.) She comes especially hard with two fingers in her pussy and a third fingertip in her arse.

This is an especially pleasant way to spend an evening when we're either too tired for full sex, or have been doing it so much that she's too sore for penetration but still has some residual horniness to work off.

She loves it the other way round, too - sometimes I'm still a bit horny after sex and will just take matters in hand while she's lying next to me, half asleep - she gets so turned on when I sort of lean over at the last minute and splash all over her. This tends to perk her up enough that she then wants to play, and so the cycle continues.

 

[Batwoman]

I have always loved masturbation, but then I have never been embarrassed about my body. It is easy for me to imagine that a woman taught that masturbation (and sex) are somehow dirty might never learn the pleasures. However, for most of my life I kept entirely secret what I did, and never talked about it with anyone. I suspect that is the norm for most women, at least in the culture of the USA (which is rather puritanical).

Great post, SLU (#9 above). It has only been in the last few years that I have been brave enough to engage in masturbation in front of my man, and to ask him to stroke himself to orgasm for me to watch. What a thrill! I think that mutual masturbation has to be one of the hottest things ever!

 

[CUSP82]

Mornings are getting really rough around here. Maybe I'll go do some work or something!

 

[someone_like_u]

Great post, SLU (#9 above). It has only been in the last few years that I have been brave enough to engage in masturbation in front of my man, and to ask him to stroke himself to orgasm for me to watch. What a thrill! I think that mutual masturbation has to be one of the hottest things ever!

Thanks BW, and couldn't agree more with you about watching my hubby stroke himself....H..O..T!!!

 

[Ivor]

Females are not talk about self pleasure.

You know it's funny - I don't know what it's like in the US but in Britain, every so often there's article about masturbation in one of our 'quality' newspapers or magazines (what we call broadsheets, not sure if the same term is used in America) and nine times out of ten, the main gist of the piece is "why does no-one talk about female masturbation?". I'm like, well you're talking about it, for one. A lot of female writers seem to live in this weird fantasy world where men discuss their wanking habits with each other as easily and casually as you might talk about the weather. I dunno, maybe some do, but it's not generally a favourite topic of conversation amongst my male friends. It's not a case of being too up-tight to talk about it, more that it's just a given that it's something everyone does, so it's not a particularly interesting topic.

 

[Ivor]

Thanks BW, and couldn't agree more with you about watching my hubby stroke himself....H..O..T!!!

It's good to hear this from women. I find watching a woman pleasure herself hot as hell but had always assumed that the sight of a guy doing the same thing would be more comical than erotic. But my girlfriend says this isn't the case, an ex of mine liked to watch me do it and you and BW are saying the same thing.

Long live wanking!

 

[bigwinner]

My girlfriend doesn't masturbate. I finger her and have sex but she flat out doesn't touch herself. Sounds like it's more rare than I thought.

 

[ColtAR-15]

Females are not talk about self pleasure.
I am sure your wife has touched herself at least once. She might not feel the need to masturbate if she is feeling she is satisfied with the sex she is getting from you(that is not to say females who masturbate aren't satisfied with the sex) For some females sex is all about the pleasure of the male not about self pleasure this can extend to not feeling the need or desire to masturbate kind of old school conservative in thinking.
Does your wife touch rub or touch her clit while having sex with you?

No she doesn't touch herself during sex or have I ever observed her do this. She orgasms quite easily just from penetration. Her clit is ridiculously sensative so I have to be real careful when I mess with it. I can just put my finger on it and just apply a slight amount if pressure and I can feel it dancing around like its trying to get away. That thing is crazy. I don't think I will ever know if she does it I was just trying to figure out the liklihood that she doesn't.

 

[ColtAR-15]

It's good to hear this from women. I find watching a woman pleasure herself hot as hell but had always assumed that the sight of a guy doing the same thing would be more comical than erotic. But my girlfriend says this isn't the case, an ex of mine liked to watch me do it and you and BW are saying the same thing.

Long live wanking!

I also think it would be a real turn on to watch my wife masturbate especially with a toy. I have used toys in her but I could never get her to take over. Thanks for all the responses.

 

[ColtAR-15]

Colt, I believe your wife may just feel embarrassed about masturbation. I know I did when I was younger. If my hubby asked(back then), I'd probably tell him no as well. Why?, I really don't have an answer to that one. I don't know if all females masturbate or not, I always have, can't remember the age I started, lol.

Anyway, during sex with my hubby, I'd get really into all the play(I was ok with him doing things to me, I just wouldn't), then one day, he wanted to watch me masturbate. I was so not comfortable with that. He assured me it was a major turn on for him so I went along with it. I remember he was using a toy on me and we started out with him placing his hands over mine as I held onto it. After he saw me getting into it, relaxing a bit, he removed his hands so it was just me. I hesitated just a bit, but in the end, it was exactly what I needed to open up completely, surrender all trust to him. That was many many moons ago and things just get better.

So, if you have any toys or even with your hands, place her hand over her clit and you move her hand over her. Let her get comfortable with both your hands down there for a while then let her loose. Tell her you want to watch, reassure her by saying things to her, play with yourself, etc. Only she knows if she's masturbated or not, so by going about it this way, maybe it will help her to understand that it's a good thing, that she should get involved in her own pleasure as well. Good luck

Added: A great position to try: her sitting between your legs, maybe on the bed, with both of you sitting up but also leaning back a bit. That way, you have easy access between her legs, especially if you take one of your legs and spread her open a bit by isolating one of her legs, pinning it. You have easy access to her vagina and you can guide her hand. Plus, it might help her to relax knowing you can't really see her face while she's touching herself. Once you turn her loose, you have easy access to reassure in her ear how hot seeing her do this is, play with her breasts, nibble her neck.

Thanks for the advice. I have done the sitting position thing before but instead of my hands I would use the geadcof myvpenis just and inch or so inside and move it upward with a free hand. Its kind if like using myself as a dildo. Women do seem to love that initial penetration. Its also real hot watching her lips spread and wrap around me.

 

[MrBigDick]

My wife says she has never masturbated. How likely is it that she really has never done this? I know for a guy this would be highly unlikely.

Some women don't do that........I dated a woman once who never did it.

And no guy doesn't masturbate..............there are those that claim they don't and I cry "bullshit" on it......