Just finished watching the movie Hall Pass. I'm curious if anyone has done it or allowed their partner a hall pass. How did it work out for you?
Hall Pass
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I haven't seen the movie but I believe it is allowing their partner to sleep with someone else. Yes, I have lived this. Each of us slept with more than one person. It went on for years. We only slept with someone else when the need was really there. It wasn't one after another, after another. Neither one knew when it was happening. We never knew who the person was. I did ask him a couple times how many he had been with. I decided I didn't really like knowing, so I stopped asking. He never asked me about mine.
The hall pass is like a day or week off marriage. The guy or girl is given the hall pass by their partner as a gift. So it's like having permission to cheat. The idea being the guy or girl will get the thoughts of having sex with other people out of their system. And will come back with more commitment than before. And although it would be cheating, it wouldn't be as big a betrayal because the partner is the one who gives it and knows about it.
Misty, sorry to hear about your situation you were in.
The movie obviously made light of the hall pass. The moral of the story however, was that it's not a good idea and appreciate what you have, because it will mess up a good thing.
I was just curious if this is something people tried or if its one of those things where everyone talks about it, but they dont actually do it.
Misty, sorry to hear about your situation you were in.
The movie obviously made light of the hall pass. The moral of the story however, was that it's not a good idea and appreciate what you have, because it will mess up a good thing.
I was just curious if this is something people tried or if its one of those things where everyone talks about it, but they dont actually do it.
Ahhhh. A period of time off the marriage. Ok.
Nothing to be sorry about for me. I was the one that brought up to my partner of sleeping with others. I did/do see it as a way to get it out of your system. We did not do this period of time thing. We only slept with others when we were going nuts inside ourselves. We agreed to be discreet so the other wouldn't know. This held back jealousy issues. It takes a unique couple to do this.
Why break up a whole marriage (in case of hall passes) because you want to sleep with someone else? People do that you know. My brother and uncle did it. Broke up families because they wanted other pussy. They were not going to cheat so they got a divorce. My uncle ended up going back with my aunt after 5-6 years. My aunt waited. They re-married. My brother and sister-in- law are done. She won't take him back even if he wanted it.
wow, i really would hate to have any agreement where wither of us have permission to sleep with other people. in my opinion thats just wrong.
if i had an agreement as such it would only make me more mad inside myself. strange really but i wouldnt have a problem with me sleeping with someone else but it would rip my guts out if my long term partner was doing it.
sorta hard to explain really. but i expect my partner would have the same lealousy and conearns as i did.
deffo not into sharing.
if i had an agreement as such it would only make me more mad inside myself. strange really but i wouldnt have a problem with me sleeping with someone else but it would rip my guts out if my long term partner was doing it.
sorta hard to explain really. but i expect my partner would have the same lealousy and conearns as i did.
deffo not into sharing.
GTO
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"Unique" isn't the word ... wow, I don't think I could do that ... Cheating, while wrong, isn't that uncommon and its a reality. But to give the other permission to do so, wow ...
I see it as better than breaking up a marriage or relationship. The game some people play is have a big fight, separate (married folks) or break up. Do your thing and then get back together. That is how most people do it. They just don't sleep with people while "together", they have to have a fight, an official split, a break to make it kosher. It is just a game to say they didn't "cheat". I am sure many of you have played that game whether you want to admit or not.
GTO
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True. But if the need to go out and be with someone else is there for both of you, and you both KNOW it's going on, why not swing? From what I hear, that's (oddly) becoming a big thing and both people are involved openly.
You would have a problem with it. You are a man, she is your girl, your property. Men still look at women like that as far as we have come. It is in their male wiring. They can't help it. They can try to repress it but it is never actually gone.
hey women are the same way "Girl keep your eyes OFF my man!" etc.
It's not something you can just reduce to nothingness. I see the difference between a friendship and a relationship is the level of intimacy there. If there's no intimacy, it's just a great friendship... If that level of intimacy is shared with other people, there's nothing special there...the relationship is voided.
It all of a sudden becomes "false" to me... If we're together, we're together. I guess I'm just the kind of guy who doesn't cheat. I've been cheated on, as many of you have, and it's not fun. I didn't have the self-esteem to kick her to the curb so it happened 4 more times before i just gave up on her as a decent person. I'd never do that to someone else, agreement or not.
Swinging is different. Couples see who the other is going with. A tough thing to do. Often times they have sex with the other person in the same room. Who wants to see your partner having sex with someone else??!! Jealousy is a strong emotion. This may upset someone on here possibly, but what you don't know won't hurt you. I found out because I asked twice and it sucked. I never asked again.
It often comes up in fights at later times. It is used as a weapon. Many couples cannot get past it. Even though both agreed, they throw it in each others faces.
GTO
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The alternative being you do not know they are with someone else and and who? Yes.
It really takes a special kind of person, couple and relationship that can do it. It is the same for swingers.
