I’m wondering, if I’m stuck on phase 1 because I just started then what am I supposed to do if I want to actually ejaculate? I’m trying to combat physical P.E first and I feel that I can stay in phase 1 using meditative reverse kegels (I think I’m doing them right) for a long time, however I don’t feel a real build up to the PONR unless I slip up on the MRK’s and let some IK’s come through by accident which eventually build up to PONR. But for the most part I can avoid PONR in phase 1 and don’t want to force myself through kegeling to ejaculate as this will reinforce the bad habit so what do I do? If I stop the MRK’s I will definitely cum soon after, however if I don’t I will go for a long time and likely not ejaculate at all. Is the next step to transition into phase 2 and try combat psychological P.E whilst still using MRK and rely on over stimulation mentally to help me ejaculate? My question basically is, how can I ejaculate without reinforcing a bad habit within the first or second phase? This is probably a really stupid question and has such a simple answer but I'm quite neurotic, over analyse things and type wayy too much so please bare with me.
Also, I know these involuntary kegels have been caused via years of negative habits so it doesn’t make sense for me to wonder why they aren’t disappearing after a few edging sessions with reverse kegels, a problem caused over years isn’t likely to disappear after a week or two. But sometimes I just wonder can I really reverse IK’s? I mean, I literally just have to wrap my hand around the whole of my glands and I kegel instantly, aroused or not. That’s really reversible over time? I’ll be able to do that and not get IK? I’m not being negative, I’m actually quite curious to see how this plays out, it will be amazing to see how adaptable the human mind and body is if this works. I understand it could possibly take me years.
However most of what ammonite has said is similar to what can be found in a book called The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg, except I believe that Duhigg quoted Ann Graybiel, a scientist at MIT who oversaw many basal ganglia experiments, who told him: “Habits never really disappear. They’re encoded into the structures of our brain, and that’s a huge advantage for us” and “The problem is that your brain cant tell the difference between bad and good habits, and so if you have a bad one, its always lurking there, waiting for the right cues and rewards”. I’m not sure if this applies to our situation completely, but maybe its something we can take into consideration? Or maybe I’m completely wrong, who knows.
