Question for you men...

[SheSquirts]

How many of you get off not-so-easily from getting head?

My guy said he's only been sucked off twice. Damnit it to hell I am going to be number 3 if it freaking kills me.

My problem is he lasts FOREVER! While it's nice there's times he doesn't cum AT ALL. He will fuck for 1.5 hours with nothing then 15 min later we go at it again and he'll cum. We've talked about it and he says he understands my point of view. I said I love it, it's great, wonderful, etc... But then it sucks because I think what am I doing wrong. He said he's always been like that and never wants it to change. At 41 years old he's pretty damned lucky. Hell my ex had a hard time keeping a load for more than 5 minutes!


Any advice to get him off? My other thing is he's huge. I feel like I need to train for the damn oral Olympics here!

The only way I can get him all the way in (my mouth) is when we're doing 69 and he's on top.

 

[BossBoy93]

Thats the same with my girl! If I want it all in she has to be on her back.

To answer your question, for me it all depends on how she is doing it, like everything else with sex, if she is just moving her head up and down I wont cum at all, wont even get close. But... if she is kissing, slobbering, sucking, spitting and really getting into it I cum after like 20-30 minutes. I like getting head after sex casue I cum faster and feel good for not cumming during sex

 

[camaro]

How many of you get off not-so-easily from getting head?

My guy said he's only been sucked off twice. Damnit it to hell I am going to be number 3 if it freaking kills me.

My problem is he lasts FOREVER! While it's nice there's times he doesn't cum AT ALL. He will fuck for 1.5 hours with nothing then 15 min later we go at it again and he'll cum. We've talked about it and he says he understands my point of view. I said I love it, it's great, wonderful, etc... But then it sucks because I think what am I doing wrong. He said he's always been like that and never wants it to change. At 41 years old he's pretty damned lucky. Hell my ex had a hard time keeping a load for more than 5 minutes!


Any advice to get him off? My other thing is he's huge. I feel like I need to train for the damn oral Olympics here!

The only way I can get him all the way in (my mouth) is when we're doing 69 and he's on top.

Hehe serves you right.

Anyway - Lots of saliva, go deeper ( if you can ) look adoringly at him.That should do it.

If that doesn't work play with his balls a bit....

 

[Boosie]

haha wow how big is he?

As for the question, Some guys just don't come as easily during a blowjob. I'm just like that.

 

[malcolm]

Is this him?http://uk-mg42.mail.yahoo.com/neo/launch#mail

 

[TehDBare]

What you may find is that with his size he's not used to receiving and may have had some negative feedback in the past about it. He may be sitting there worried that your jaw hurts and you really aren't enjoying yourself, as may have been his experience in the past. Warm him up days ahead of time to make sure his mental hang ups are gone, that he knows you really want to do it for yourself because you love doing it.

Second thought is that at his size the mouth may not be able to provide enough stimulation, work the hands more. I'm sure you know your way around but if your mouth has become very skilled over the years perhaps you've developed lazy hands. Make sure to grab hold where it counts, most women face the guy and just reach out and grab, this puts their fingers wrapped around the top side of the unit where there is very little sensation, all the nerves are concentrated where the thumbs are and doesn't maximize the potential. Keep in mind that with a large penis there are still the same number of nerves as a smaller guy, but much more surface area they are spread out on. Turn the hands around or approach from the side to get the fingers underneath similar to his masturbation strokes.

Third thought is that maybe he's a very considerate lover and he's more worried about pleasing you. Maybe he prefers to do it after penetrative sex so he knows you've gotten yours first. I know for me that's a big hang up, not just for her sake but I also don't want to have to wait for recovery period before being able to be inside, so I won't let loose before. What my girl has figured out (was a revelation to me) is that she can get me to finish rather quickly if she does it when we are in a situation where penetrative sex won't be possible (like out on the beach at night when there's some people nearby, not that would necessarily stop us but would rather not get fined and show up in court explaining our indecent exposure in a public forum, too many prudes around that would call the cops). I can relax and just let loose, works every time.

 

[Looking4more]

Hey Squirts, I'm just like your boyfriend. I last forever and a day when the Mrs goes down on me. And unfortunately she is like you and feels she is doing something wrong. I'll tell you the same as her, you are doing everything exactly right but some of us just can't seem to cum from oral. The Mrs is fabulous at giving head and everything else for that matter and I wish I could make her understand that it has nothing to do with her ability, attractiveness, or anything else. Just me.

 

[TPW]

Hey SheSkirts,

A common mistake that women make is to rush into giving fellatio without the proper foreplay (yes, men love foreplay too!). By the time you actually get around to putting your mouth on his penis, he should be so aroused that he will not be able to last very long. The build up is an often incredibly enjoyable but often forgotten phase that is critical. So consider a little foreplay before descending...

 

[SheSquirts]

Hey SheSkirts,

A common mistake that women make is to rush into giving fellatio without the proper foreplay (yes, men love foreplay too!). By the time you actually get around to putting your mouth on his penis, he should be so aroused that he will not be able to last very long. The build up is an often incredibly enjoyable but often forgotten phase that is critical. So consider a little foreplay before descending...

Oh believe me, PW, there's plenty of foreplay. He just takes foreverrrrrrr to get off. I'm not going to change him and I know that but I want to be #3 to get him off with head. I pride myself in doing a good job and want to be on the short list.

 

[MySword]

Hey Squirts, I'm just like your boyfriend. I last forever and a day when the Mrs goes down on me. And unfortunately she is like you and feels she is doing something wrong. I'll tell you the same as her, you are doing everything exactly right but some of us just can't seem to cum from oral. The Mrs is fabulous at giving head and everything else for that matter and I wish I could make her understand that it has nothing to do with her ability, attractiveness, or anything else. Just me.

I've always lasted a long time when getting head. There are exceptions (when very horny or its been a while) but i much prefer pussy over a womens mouth. Part of this is issues over girth which most girls struggle with (i'm not huge like alot of guys on here but once you get over about 5.5 inches girth you get complaints LOL).

My current gf has a small mouth so oral has plummeted and not only thickness but also depth. She can't deepthroat (has tried but i had to stop her, i'm not into a looking down at my gf and watching her choke...literally) either so she uses her hands and works my balls with only half the dick in her mouth.

Given i usually last 15-20 min and up to 45 min through penetration before cumming the reduced stimulation of oral means she usually gives up with sore jaw long before i cum. On those occasions when I do I enjoy it though because watching my gf swallow my load is pretty cool imo...

 

[assam]

point on

 

[SheSquirts]

Thanks for the responses guys... This weekend when we're together I'm really going to try! I'm not sure if my jaw will cooperate though! I'll need to drink a little extra to work through the pain! Honestly I just want the end result - the happy ending shake!

 

[camaro]

Hey SheSkirts,

A common mistake that women make is to rush into giving fellatio without the proper foreplay (yes, men love foreplay too!). By the time you actually get around to putting your mouth on his penis, he should be so aroused that he will not be able to last very long. The build up is an often incredibly enjoyable but often forgotten phase that is critical. So consider a little foreplay before descending...

What trickery is this PW? BJ is foreplay for us....talking about her day isn't lol....

 

[NCGUY1972]

Im sure there is a technique that will make him squirm and cum just as fast as you want him to. My wife has figured a few out that I just cant hold back on. Im 41 as well! there is no way I will ever cum with just the mouth has to be hands & mouth and synchronized just right.

 

[Jakebfs]

I had the same problem, I had DE, Delayed Ejaculation- lasting ages in bed and not ever being able to finish with oral apart from one time.
Getting him to stop porn, quit death grip masturbating, and doing kegels will help- especially with that size. Being big can mean you get to max errection sometimes but are generally around 80% because a bigger member needs more blood and its more effort etc. Some work on his part will help a bit, it won't hurt.

Mix it up with mouth and hand.

also, if he has a strong errection that points up, is there tension if your push his mister down, like if you push it down then let go it will come up and slap his tummy? If so, for me anyway doing that motion of pushing downwards and upwards keeps me rock hard, if I move like that in sex I finish in minutes while I can go on however long I want otherwise, you could try implementing that and see if it does anything.

 

[GTO]

For me, I naturally last a long time, always have, so for me, orgasm from oral stimulation alone takes a very long time. Thankfully my gf doesn't mind as she says she really enjoys giving me long blowjobs. As others have mentioned, you have to really mix it up your techniques with hand and mouth to find what takes him over the edge. I like it really wet and she does things like rubbing my cock on her face, lots of tongue action, etc. Lots of visual stimulation to go along with the physical. Guys are visually stimulated so all of that heightens our pleasure as well.

 

[draggin]

How many of you get off not-so-easily from getting head?

My guy said he's only been sucked off twice. Damnit it to hell I am going to be number 3 if it freaking kills me.

My problem is he lasts FOREVER! While it's nice there's times he doesn't cum AT ALL. He will fuck for 1.5 hours with nothing then 15 min later we go at it again and he'll cum. We've talked about it and he says he understands my point of view. I said I love it, it's great, wonderful, etc... But then it sucks because I think what am I doing wrong. He said he's always been like that and never wants it to change. At 41 years old he's pretty damned lucky. Hell my ex had a hard time keeping a load for more than 5 minutes!


Any advice to get him off? My other thing is he's huge. I feel like I need to train for the damn oral Olympics here!

The only way I can get him all the way in (my mouth) is when we're doing 69 and he's on top.

Hi SS! First off, he isn't lucky, nor are you. If any guy has sex for 1.5 hours and doesn't cum, he is suffering from severe DE (delayed ejaculation). It is especailly bad because y'all are in a new relationship. He should be shooting off in no time flat. I know this, because I used to suffer with DE. My wife absolutely hated it. So did I. He clearly suffers from a desensitized penis - crystal clear. His dick is numb. There are only two main reasons for this: 1) Watching porn/jerkin off, and 2) being circumcised.

If he stopped jerking off and stopped watching porn, that alone would make sex feel so much better and he will be able cum easily (within 2-8 weeks). If he is "cut" he may want to consider foreskin regeneration. That is what I did - both steps, plus added PE exercises. Now, for me, my dick gets hard frequently and easily and I now can cum within mere minutes if I don't "hold back". I fucking love it. Especially how much better sex, bj's, and hj's feel. It's like night and day.

I will never forget what my wife told me ... if sex lasts longer than 20 minutes, from a female's point of view, sex turns from enjoying it to just plain enduring it. You know it's true. She said she'd rather fuck 3 times a day for 15 minutes each, than to have one long drawn out sex session of an hour long. She's right.

Good luck SS. Your man better take steps to correct his DE. Glad he is "big", but a penis that can't function sucks - at any size. He's only 41 - it will get worse with age.

 

[draggin]

Holy crap, I read all the replies to SS. I cannot believe how many of you "guys" have trouble cumming. WTF? That ain't normal! Porn, jerkin, and/or circumcision must be rampant out there. I feel sorry for a lot of your guy's women. Poor things, trying to hard to please you, and you can't even get off.

FYI, I'm 44 and suffered with ED and DE for nearly 10+ years. I know what I'm talking about. Once I corrected the cause of my problem (porn and circumcision) my dick is acting like a worked-up 18 year-old guy once again. Do you and your girl a favor - stop numbing your prick already!

 

[TPW]

What trickery is this PW? BJ is foreplay for us....talking about her day isn't lol....

LMAO...you crack me up Camaro! And if the woman you are with considers "talking about her day" as foreplay, she needs my blog and stat!!

 

[Jakebfs]

Holy crap, I read all the replies to SS. I cannot believe how many of you "guys" have trouble cumming. WTF? That ain't normal! Porn, jerkin, and/or circumcision must be rampant out there. I feel sorry for a lot of your guy's women. Poor things, trying to hard to please you, and you can't even get off.

FYI, I'm 44 and suffered with ED and DE for nearly 10+ years. I know what I'm talking about. Once I corrected the cause of my problem (porn and circumcision) my dick is acting like a worked-up 18 year-old guy once again. Do you and your girl a favor - stop numbing your prick already!

I totally agree- I find recently half of my posts are the same thing 'sounds like you have DE, quit porn and don't use the death grip', I say it to so many people around the forums, DE is definitely still on a sharp increase and some people don't know they have it. Although oral still can be a little different since some guys really like stimulation around the tip while some prefer it near the base, some prefer long strokes etc.