I think he might have meant before they were married. But I wholeheartedly agree with you.
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I think he might have meant before they were married. But I wholeheartedly agree with you.
As sexual as my girlfriend is, I know that sex for her is not purely physical gratification. If she were to ever stray and cheat on me. I know that I could never take her back (and vice versa). Why? It isn't just the physical trust that has been broken. It is the emotional trust that we have spent years building with one another that has been broken.
I will never (and she) be with a member of the opposite sex alone and especially have any alcohol involved (to loosen inhibitions and to use it as a scapegoat). We know what the opposite sex thinks. We are not naive as we both know why members of the opposite sex show interest in us as innocent or friendly as the person may be.
Temptation shouldn't even be a word in a trusting loving relationship. She is constantly bombarded by guys hitting on her. I know it. And she knows that I see and meet very pretty women on a daily basis. We have discussed 'temptation'. And it does not exist for either one of us. We are together because we choose to be together. To sound boastful and arrogant: We could pretty be with whomever we choose to be. We both know it. And we choose to be with one another. And that is the way it should be.
I and she are hopefully in tune enough with one another to see relationship problems before it gets to this point. And, of course if we care enough about each other in the relationship to do anything about it.
Ha, ha.. maybe it's just your ego which is too weak and can not handle that your girl is attracted not only to you.
Just because she is attracted to others doesn't make it okay for her to act on it. When I had a girl, I wanted to fuck every woman I saw that looked attractive. If I had the chance to, I wouldn't have though.
Ego is very important for men to have. Otherwise they are just a man with a vagina and likely to get walked all over by a woman.
+1 Exactly!
Hats off to Brandon too. He gets it.. This has nothing at all to do with the physical act of sex or attraction. It's about trust and being a strong enough man to pick up and leave.
Why leave if it's the same lady in front of you? The only difference is that she have seen another man. She have done that a lot of times before she met you most likely. What difference does it make that she met one again?
A relationship is all about trust. If you can't trust each other, the relationship is fucked. + it's about your self-worth. I couldn't look at her again when she fucked another guy (behind my back) while in a relationship with me.
I'd start to doubt myself, sex would suck probably because there's only one thing on your mind .. Nah. I wouldn't give her another chance. But that's just me ..
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If you are ok with allowing her to have a sexual relationship with other people then that's one thing.. Completely different when someone sneaks around doing other men behind your back. COMPLETELY DIFFERENT.
Maybe you are a Cuckold looking for a Bull to ride your wife? Whatever floats your boat.
This somehow summarizes my view a bit on the subject:
"If lovers are really in love, they will never reduce the other person to a known entity; because only things can be known -- persons never. Only things can become part of knowledge. A person is a mystery -- the greatest mystery there is.
Transcend marriage. It is not a question of legality, formality, family -- all that nonsense. Needed, because you live in a society, but transcend; don't be finished at that. And don't try to possess a person. Don't start feeling that the other is the husband -- you have reduced the beauty of the person into an ugly thing: husband. Never say that this woman is your wife -- the stranger is no longer there; you have reduced it to a very profane level, to a very ordinary level of things. Wives and husbands belong to the world. Lovers belong to the other shore.
Remember the sacredness and holiness of the other. Never impinge on it; never trespass it. A lover is always hesitant. He always gives you space to be yourself. He is grateful; he never feels that you are his possession. He is thankful that sometimes in rare moments you allow him your innermost shrine to enter and to be with you. He is always thankful.
But husbands and wives are always complaining, never thankful -- always fighting. And if you watch their fight it is ugly. The whole beauty of love disappears. Only a very ordinary reality exists: the wife, the husband, the children, and the day-to-day routine. The unknown no longer touches it. That's why you will see dust gathers around -- a wife looks dull, a husband looks dull. Life has lost meaning, vibrancy, significance. It is no longer a poetry; it has become gross."
"If lovers are really in love, they will never reduce the other person to a known entity; because only things can be known -- persons never. Only things can become part of knowledge. A person is a mystery -- the greatest mystery there is.
Transcend marriage. It is not a question of legality, formality, family -- all that nonsense. Needed, because you live in a society, but transcend; don't be finished at that. And don't try to possess a person. Don't start feeling that the other is the husband -- you have reduced the beauty of the person into an ugly thing: husband. Never say that this woman is your wife -- the stranger is no longer there; you have reduced it to a very profane level, to a very ordinary level of things. Wives and husbands belong to the world. Lovers belong to the other shore.
Remember the sacredness and holiness of the other. Never impinge on it; never trespass it. A lover is always hesitant. He always gives you space to be yourself. He is grateful; he never feels that you are his possession. He is thankful that sometimes in rare moments you allow him your innermost shrine to enter and to be with you. He is always thankful.
But husbands and wives are always complaining, never thankful -- always fighting. And if you watch their fight it is ugly. The whole beauty of love disappears. Only a very ordinary reality exists: the wife, the husband, the children, and the day-to-day routine. The unknown no longer touches it. That's why you will see dust gathers around -- a wife looks dull, a husband looks dull. Life has lost meaning, vibrancy, significance. It is no longer a poetry; it has become gross."
I would just laugh at her little games and tell her that she can be up front with me instead of doing things behind my back. The funny thing is that once you have this attitude they don't have the desire to break free from you and do those things behind your back. Why break free when they are not in jail? If you constantly seem self conscious and nervous that she maybe will fuck someone behind your back one day they might just be what she end up doing.
Then swing.. But doing it behind someone's back without permission from your life partner is end game. Really simple concept Growler.
There is nothing wrong with appreciating the beauty of other women, but even to consider acting on those attractions is wrong. If you and your other really trust each other, cheating really isn't even a consideration.
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It depends. It could also be a way of provoking for her. Perhaps she start wondering why you're not touched by it and so on and so on.. Just have priorities dude.
