Having goals is a good thing. Wanting to do good is a good thing. I don't understand why a person would pop onto the internet and say that they aren't as good the person doing them thinks they are. It's like you're trying to make me question my goals to be in favour of your own.
What I want to do will make me an attractive person. Any neediness I have will be over ruled by the fact that I'm just a fuckin' kickass guy. And, after I join the military and get martial arts&weapons training, a bonafide badass to boot.
I'm not really sure about the point of your post. What are you trying to say?
I kind of read what you wrote last night but didn't have time to respond. You shouldn't have deleted it and I'm kind of responding to that post (if I remember it correctly).
Also, I just love having these kind of discussions, it kind of lets me in the people's minds which are fascinating for me, and if I help you in the process, then that's great.
Let me introduce myself as well, I'm Vladimir: winning poker player, spiritualist, psychologist, bodybuilder, pick-up artist, programmer, biologist, evolutionist, atheist, magician, instrument player, illusionist, joga practitioner, juggler, scientist, cook, stylist... and soon to be NLP practitioner, martial-artist, people reader... Also, I'm open-minded, non-judgmental, have no fears rational or irrational, always happy, love everything, I readily admit I'm wrong, I change myself...
First, you have to realize that nothing is inherently good or bad. If planet Earth disappeared right now, it would make no difference whatsoever. Here is a quote that sums it up:
“The universe we observe has precisely the properties we should expect if there is, at bottom, no design, no purpose, no evil and no good, nothing but blind pitiless indifference.”
― Richard Dawkins
But let's say it matters and let's take an extreme case of a "good deed". Would it be a good thing to help people survive? There are too much of us as it is... as the numbers go up we are pushing other life out of their existence, we're taking animal's habitat, killing them even more for meat... we are running lower on food and water, on fossil fuels... we are polluting even more. Now, is saving some family from poverty a good thing? You might be helping them but at the same time fucking up the whole planet on a small scale. Is building a school a good thing if those schools are teaching our children wrong
If you want to look to focus on the negative sides of overpopulation, yea that'd make a lot of sense. But in the growing age, we're conducting tons of research on how to overcome all of these problems. Maybe some of those people I pull out of poverty will go and help the issues of Earth. Maybe they won't. But hey, at least I'm being proactive about them. What I'm hearing from you is, "Meh, fuck 'em." I don't do that.
Is saving a mouse from the cat a good thing or a bad thing? It's good for someone and bad for someone else.
A cat can eat many things, so there is a way to save the mouse and keep the cat nourished.
Now,
the next one is an important paragraph as you might wonder what is the point of living then, how to keep one selves motivated.
Life for me is a game. Do you remember, when you were a child, how the world seemed wondrous and how everything you saw you had to poke and smell and examine to see how and why it works? Why is it there? What does it do? The textures, colors, smells, shapes, dynamics... that's what life is about: Experiencing things, experimenting, finding out why stuff ticks...
After I got rid of my ego, fear of death and social conditioning, I feel literally drunk/high. That's what booze does anyway, you feel great because it removes those things... that's why you do those silly things that you'd otherwise feel judged about. I feel ecstatic and fascinated about everything.
This is what real love is. Sounds good. I'm heading there. When you appreciate someone for what he is and not for what he has to offer to you. What you think is love is actually a form of neediness: "Oh look, someone wants me! I better stick to her because I wouldn't bear loosing her."
That doesn't describe me even in the slightest.
Keep reading, this is
even more important then the last paragraph.
You mentioned, when you got old that you'd be looking back fondly at what great deeds you did in life. But what if you, one day, figure out what I'm talking about right now? Then you'll feel terrible, because you found out that, what you did in life were not your goals, but someone else's goals.
And what if you're wrong, and I never did? Then I'd be a terrible person for listening to you. Um... I'm still not sure what you're trying to tell me. Love myself and others? Or pickup is the new male religion? If you do what society/ego needs you to do, then
you will live an unfulfilled life and you will regret it one day. You're expected to dig wells for the society so you do it.
Who expects me to do this? What society are you living in? I don't know man, I like having my own goals and I'm the one thinking clearly here... uninhibited by my ego or weird needs. You will never become satisfied if you try to fulfill those needs, just like a millionaire can't get enough millions...
That's a major generalization that you just made there. As though anyone who makes big amounts of money are addicted to making money to fill this needy little void inside them.
Yes, having goals is a
good thing. And admittedly I got so many goals that I doubt I'll accomplish everything in my lifetime. But, those are
my goals. Whose goals do you have? Would you rather travel, even though that doesn't do any good for the world or make people respect you more? Would you rather <insert your thing here>?
This is the point of my post,
I want to help you achieve this. You don't know what
living means.
Okay, I'll listen. How do I live life more?
We might or might not discuss this but I got something else to ask you. You say that you got girls throwing themselves at you left and right (before they even talk to you as I understood). Why do you think is that so? Is it your lifestyle, looks, charisma... if you could elaborate on that, it would be of so much help. Cheers
I deleted my old post because after I wrote it and came back from work, I reread it ... and didn't really agree with it. I decided it was too much, and left an impression of me that isn't true. I came across as thinking I was better than people. I never said girls were throwing themselves at me. I said I have girls approach me. They will because of the way I talk and behave, the way I hold myself. I'm fit, I'm attractive and can be very outgoingly charismatic. I'm fairly confident.
lol especially at the bar. Often, I'll be joking or talking with some patrons and a girl will see me and walk up and say hi. Last night, I had one girl approach me and tell me her friend thought I was cute. I went up to her and played it like we were in highschool. I told her I was going to write her letters during class and skip detention to come see her. good fun
oster_oops: I'm sorry Nacho, I accidentally hit Edit your post, rather than quote and reply. :lol:
