thepowerpole PreE90 - Progress log

[thepowerpole]

And yeah, the next day I was massaging her and I wasn't focused on how hard I was and she was moaning and it was great. She was on her back and I first massaged her back and later I went down to legs and butt. I was very into it and it was great.

She had to go and we had to stop. When I touched my dick it was super hard, I didn't even notice it. I guess this was because I was into it but also gravity was helping out because I was on top of her.

 

[Future ex-limp-dick]

And yeah, the next day I was massaging her and I wasn't focused on how hard I was and she was moaning and it was great. She was on her back and I first massaged her back and later I went down to legs and butt. I was very into it and it was great.

She had to go and we had to stop. When I touched my dick it was super hard, I didn't even notice it. I guess this was because I was into it but also gravity was helping out because I was on top of her.

Man, you once said a lady broke up with you bc of your dick.
Don't you see you're just getting a pathetic orgasm instead of love? Bro, find a woman that loves you, marry her and have sex as a secondary thing.
One hardly finds love if one is having sex with a girlfriend because orgasms make our minds foggy and we mistake physical with metaphysical pleasure.

If a girlfriend stays with you although you're not copulating with her it means she really loves you and you know you really love her if you're willing to wait her 'till marriage.

Sounds beautiful, right? The Church always teaches beauty, good and truth, which are the attributes of her Founder.

 

[thepowerpole]

Man, you once said a lady broke up with you bc of your dick.

Honestly, I don't think she would broke up with me if I didn't react the way I reacted. Too traumatizing for me and I was too young too handle that thing and she was too important to me. Wanted to impress her badly in that area. It hurt my self image, I was just developing into a young man, being unsuccessful in sex field can really mess you up in the long run. So I think it wasn't my dick, it was me all along.

Don't you see you're just getting a pathetic orgasm instead of love? Bro, find a woman that loves you, marry her and have sex as a secondary thing.
One hardly finds love if one is having sex with a girlfriend because orgasms make our minds foggy and we mistake physical with metaphysical pleasure.

I love the girl that I mentioned in previous posts, just as a person and not as a romantic interest. I am too messed up to be with someone currently. Sex is sometimes just sex, sometimes you like girl for a long period of time and things are never right for you but after a night out you end up at your place. I've done this with this girl and it didn't work out sadly, we just weren't a match as we thought we would be.

And I am not currently looking for a wife, I just want to date girls that I fancy, try to figure out what I like basically and through interaction with them find out who I am exactly and to improve. I am young and want to try out things while I am young.

If a girlfriend stays with you although you're not copulating with her it means she really loves you and you know you really love her if you're willing to wait her 'till marriage.

It doesn't have to be that way though, you are looking at it from black/white perspective. Sometimes relationships start from passion and after some time people develop love for each other or not, like in my case. Sometimes you save yourself for someone till mariagge and things don't work out and sometimes they do. You don't know till you are there.

 

[Future ex-limp-dick]

And I am not currently looking for a wife, I just want to date girls that I fancy, try to figure out what I like basically and through interaction with them find out who I am exactly and to improve. I am young and want to try out things while I am young.

What if you meet the love of your life but you're too focused on copulating with others that you hit the "next" button? True love must be, as anything that is true, stable... if there's unstability because the relationship depends on physical pleasure, then true love doesn't seem to be in the equation.

It doesn't have to be that way though, you are looking at it from black/white perspective. Sometimes relationships start from passion and after some time people develop love for each other or not, like in my case. Sometimes you save yourself for someone till mariagge and things don't work out and sometimes they do. You don't know till you are there.

I mean that we are body and soul... when you're given a massage you are more calm and when you are stressed you sleep worse... things of the soul also affect the body and vice versa.

That's why dehumanizing a woman having her as an orgasm machine makes you unable to absolutely know you're with her because of true love.

Imagine a job colleague, you dislike each other. Then, one night you sleep together... then you don't want her that far... Orgasms blurr one's will.

 

[thepowerpole]

What if you meet the love of your life but you're too focused on copulating with others that you hit the "next" button? True love must be, as anything that is true, stable... if there's unstability because the relationship depends on physical pleasure, then true love doesn't seem to be in the equation.

I didn't say I would be just copulating, I would be dating them. I want my relationship to be based on love as any sane person, but I want to have a good sex with my girl so I am here trying to improve.

I mean that we are body and soul... when you're given a massage you are more calm and when you are stressed you sleep worse... things of the soul also affect the body and vice versa.

Aye, I'm with you about body and mind(soul) connection. But heart (mind) can't be fooled for too long, you know after some time that the things just aren't right and if you have enough self respect you break up in hope you will find someone that suits you, but to know that you have to try.

That's why dehumanizing a woman having her as an orgasm machine makes you unable to absolutely know you're with her because of true love.

I'm not dehumanizing the girl, don't know where you got that from. I wrote in post above that I liked a girl for a long time, we tried to be together but the things just didn't click for us sadly. Maybe the time wasn't right or we weren't right for each other but it just didn't work.

 

[thepowerpole]

Alas, I've been trying to do get into the training again. I do the yoga stretches every other day. And I've been alternating between 3-4 times per day RKx10 and 3 times a day of 2 minutes of hindi squats.

While doing RK I try not to force it and to make PF expand as close as possible to my balls, but usually it expands much lower or it doesn't expand at all. When I try to force it, usually it makes BC expand less and less. When I manage to expand it slowly and when I feel good expand the erection quality is very good. But more I stroke, the worse it gets. Probably because IK tighten the PF again. Sperm doesn't shoot out at all, just dribbles out, but I've noticed that now when PF is relaxed BC can contract more and orgasms feel better but it's far from where they were.

While doing hindi squats at the beginning with just holding them I could feel the stretch in PF but know I have to try to straighten the spine and make my butt pop out, if it isn't popped out I have the butt wink and stretch is no use. I guess this is a problem because I have bad ankle and hamstring mobility.

I got some weights and am planing to buy pull up bar and some bands for training. So I can strenghten the muscles as well as stretch them.

 

[Future ex-limp-dick]

Aye, I'm with you about body and mind(soul) connection. But heart (mind) can't be fooled for too long, you know after some time that the things just aren't right and if you have enough self respect you break up in hope you will find someone that suits you, but to know that you have to try.

There you go, perhaps the mind can't be fooled for too long but that means you gotta be a lot more with that person to ensure you love her as a potential wife. In any case, you might know you don't love her a lot but since she drives you crazy in bed you lose your time with her.

The sanest thing is to have a premarital relationship oriented towards marriage. Stay chaste. Then you know for sure in 2 years or even 1 that she is fully suitable for marriage.

 

[thepowerpole]

There you go, perhaps the mind can't be fooled for too long but that means you gotta be a lot more with that person to ensure you love her as a potential wife. In any case, you might know you don't love her a lot but since she drives you crazy in bed you lose your time with her.

Somewhat agree with you on this.

The sanest thing is to have a premarital relationship oriented towards marriage. Stay chaste. Then you know for sure in 2 years or even 1 that she is fully suitable for marriage.

Can't agree with you on this. But people are different and they have different opinions.

 

[thepowerpole]

Good news guys, had sex a few days ago. 7 times.

Met this girl, I think we really clicked. Texted some time and after a party we ended up at my place made out and we had sex. I wasn't planning on having sex but we did, I think because I didn't plan on it it made it happen more easily. It took the pressure off.

1st time I lasted about 2 minutes.
2nd, 3rd and 4th time about 10 minutes.

After 4th,5th time I started to lose erections, they started to vain. I could only achieve up to 70%, only in doggy I can get fully erect again but then I could not last for long. My guess is my PF was able to tighten or kegel in order to have an erection but that made me really close to PONR. Gravity also helps I guess.

Also after 4th,5th time, when she is up and moving her hips I lose erection to I would say 70% but when I start to pound her in the same position I gain back erection. Don't know what is that about. When she controls the movement I can last indefinetely, but when I start to pound I can't. I guess it isn't that pleasurable for me since speed is low when she is moving.

EDIT : I haven't done hindi squats in last 5 days, but I did RKs. It is really hard to do them, can't expand PF properly. I try to push the bubble of air further up, towards balls but with little result.

Lads, the dry spell is broken! Hope things work out with this girl, I really like her.

 

[thepowerpole]

Had sex again. I am on a roll

First time I lasted only 2 minutes, she was extra tight. Second time also, I guess I was too horny.

Third time I lasted about 6-7 minutes. I stood up, picked her up and pounded her in the air and then an a counter. She was mega wet and I didn't feel as much. My EQ dropped also.

4th time was in the morning and I lasted about 5 minutes. My EQ was not good, even though I should've rested.
5th time my EQ was good again but I didn't last more then 3 minutes.

My guess is that if I have good EQ it is connected with BC contractions and then I have fuller the erection hence more BC contractions (IK I guess) and it gets me closer to PONR faster.

I still lack flexibility and control of my PF but I guess stretching and RK did help me gain a bit of control.

EDIT: I am able to shoot out sperm again, guess I wasn't horny enough when I am alone.

I think my varicocele flare up after so much of BC clenching during sex. When I was a teenager I used to abuse my dick with porn and I remember that I had a stabbing pain in my left testicle, I guess that was begining of a varicocele. Hopefully I will be able to heal varicocele with RK.

 

[Future ex-limp-dick]

Somewhat agree with you on this.

Can't agree with you on this. But people are different and they have different opinions.

Hey man!

Try to convince me that you'r right because reality doesn't care about difference of opinions.

We are body and spiritual soul (soul of rational nature) and, thus, spiritual and physical pleasures mix up in our minds. When we are less mentally stressed we feel more physically relaxed and when we rest well we become more mentally functional.

Taking this into account, when one has a girlfriend he has to aim for knowing if she is suitable for marriage (which is basically a life-lasting union in love in the holiness of the sacrament of marriage). To accomplish this, one should avoid getting one’s will blurred by physical pleasure because love is a metaphysical thing and sex in marriage is always a secondary thing (a consequence of love and not a cause of it).

I hope to have expressed myself properly.

May Jesus bless you abundantly through His mother!

 

[Pegasus]

Um future your religous beliefs have been stated earlier no need to be repetitive .

 

[thepowerpole]

Hey man!

Try to convince me that you'r right because reality doesn't care about difference of opinions.

I wasn't trying to convince you into anything, you are the one that states that only your way of thinking is right. And you repeatedly keep coming back with same statements. These things that you say I mostly agree with but are not always 100% applicable to real life, because life is messy thing, in my opinion.

I am not looking to become religious now, so it would be nice if you could respect that. I was also trying to respect what you said and what you choose to believe in. Please refrain from futher commenting on this thread if you are going to mention your religious beliefs, because this is a thread about my fight with premature ejaculation, try to remember that. I would like this thread to keep on that subject with my progress log, people trying to help or people sharing their experience with the same problem.

If you want to talk about religion create thread on Gym subforum, tag me and I will come there to talk.

 

[thepowerpole]

I got lazy in past 2 weeks and didn't do any stretches. I somewhat did the RK and hindi squats but the stretches are key for unlocking PF, especially because I sit a lot and not move as much.

Had sex with the girlfriend again, 7 times
But I because I didn't relax the PF, it got thighter and even though my EQ is better I last very short. I can last from 1 minute up to 4. I need to pace myself because I start off too fast and then struggle to maintain control.

When she is on top I didn't struggle as much in past encounters but now since my EQ is better (confindence is coming back) she can't ride me as much as she wants. Doggy is like a sure way to end sex in 20 seconds.

Received a blowjob but it wasn't as pleasurable as some that I have received so I could last indefinitely. Same thing could be said for handjob that I received. Maybe my head is too sensitive and that's why I can't last when it's being stimulated in doggy, too many RKs.

I noticed that when I RK while erect my EQ goes up, gland of the head becomes bigger. Guess this is because with more relaxed PF I get more bloodflow into the dick. I've mentioned this a couple of times in the thread.

Wierd thing is that when I kegel I can push out more pee but in short bursts. That is almost opposite from what I've read in stickies.

 

[thepowerpole]

A quick update.

I've been doing some exercises with dumbbells for upper and lower body. Noticed that during romanian deadlifts with dumbbells when I lower dumbbells and my hamstrings activate I also feel tightness in my pelvic floor. Like activating my hamstrings is almost pulling my PF back.

Been doing lower body stretches. I feel like my back and hamstring are tight but calves are super tight. For example when I stand upright, and try to bend my upper body forward while keeping it straight the thing that is stopping me the most are calves, their thightness is keeping me from going lower. I feel tightness in upper part of calf to be precise.
Also when doing runner's strech of a hamstring, the part where I feel stretch the most is lower back and sides of lower back. I have to address that too. Trying to mobilize my back by moving it a lot, getting the bloodflow into those parts so it could heal in time, hopefully.

I have to keep reminding myself not to push RK too hard, it's better to lightly push RK in place you should expect it and get no expansion in that part than to force RK, expand whole PF and then be sore next day in PF. Force should be as blowing bubbles, not too strong but gentle and persistent.

I've been doing 10x pulse kegels for warm up and then 30x pulse RK in the morning and evening. Dick feels sometimes very loose, like it hangs from my body. Maybe tight PF always kept him close.

I feel the best stretch currently for me is happy baby pose, I can really feel my PF streching and it feels nice. I do 30s, then rest 30s whenever I remember, best time to do them is when prepping for sleep and waking up since you will be lying dow

Had an orgasm yesterday, felt super good. Usually it feels okay, like I am present in my thoughts but yesterday's one was really good so much that I could only focus on the pleasure. I plan on having only 2 orgasms per week until I get my PF in order.

I think that just now I am able to be consistent and disciplined about my exercising and masturbation/porn habits. I will try to stray disciplined and hopefully great things will come my way.

 

[Johnny D]

A quick update.

I've been doing some exercises with dumbbells for upper and lower body. Noticed that during romanian deadlifts with dumbbells when I lower dumbbells and my hamstrings activate I also feel tightness in my pelvic floor. Like activating my hamstrings is almost pulling my PF back.

Been doing lower body stretches. I feel like my back and hamstring are tight but calves are super tight. For example when I stand upright, and try to bend my upper body forward while keeping it straight the thing that is stopping me the most are calves, their thightness is keeping me from going lower. I feel tightness in upper part of calf to be precise.
Also when doing runner's strech of a hamstring, the part where I feel stretch the most is lower back and sides of lower back. I have to address that too. Trying to mobilize my back by moving it a lot, getting the bloodflow into those parts so it could heal in time, hopefully.

I have to keep reminding myself not to push RK too hard, it's better to lightly push RK in place you should expect it and get no expansion in that part than to force RK, expand whole PF and then be sore next day in PF. Force should be as blowing bubbles, not too strong but gentle and persistent.

I've been doing 10x pulse kegels for warm up and then 30x pulse RK in the morning and evening. Dick feels sometimes very loose, like it hangs from my body. Maybe tight PF always kept him close.

I feel the best stretch currently for me is happy baby pose, I can really feel my PF streching and it feels nice. I do 30s, then rest 30s whenever I remember, best time to do them is when prepping for sleep and waking up since you will be lying dow

Had an orgasm yesterday, felt super good. Usually it feels okay, like I am present in my thoughts but yesterday's one was really good so much that I could only focus on the pleasure. I plan on having only 2 orgasms per week until I get my PF in order.

I think that just now I am able to be consistent and disciplined about my exercising and masturbation/porn habits. I will try to stray disciplined and hopefully great things will come my way.

Great to hear that you're keeping at it!

Yes, the hamstrings attach directly to the pelvis as do the muscles above. The PF muscles shouldn't be thought of in isolation and it's important to develop mobility/ROM around the entire pelvic region. Hamstrings, piraformis, psoas, etc

 

[thepowerpole]

Great to hear that you're keeping at it!

Yes, the hamstrings attach directly to the pelvis as do the muscles above. The PF muscles shouldn't be thought of in isolation and it's important to develop mobility/ROM around the entire pelvic region. Hamstrings, piraformis, psoas, etc

Thanks man for the support!

I just made up mind to make it part of my life and I will hopefully get there in time. Before I would take on too much things and collapse after a few weeks, now I am trying to stay consistent but add a bit more when I make something a habit.

 

[thepowerpole]

I'm still doing RKs and child pose stretches in the morning and evening.
Streching lower body in the morning.

I struggled in past days with keeping my hands from my dick. I did masturbate every second day and EQ were good. It takes me some time to get it erected but when I get there it feels very solid and looks bigger.

Masturbated last night and now I've tried to get it up again, and again with some time it got up and it was solid, but after some time I guess my PF again tighten up and I lose EQ since my IK are still present.

Noticed that during peeing my stream is stronger, it surprised me today how strong it was. I think my variccocele are disappearing, I could really feel them with fingers before now they're really faint and I get some pain in them when I masturbate, my guess is because I tighten the PF again.

 

[Pegasus]

Congrats on progress

 

[thepowerpole]

Congrats on progress

Thanks for the support!

I do have some progress, but sometimes PF is too tight to even expand. Like I am going back in PF flexibility.
I will try to press on and just make this training part of my day and hopefully results will come.