The Official Hard Flaccid Recovery Thread
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imac
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^ This, and seriously chilli the fuck out. It seems your biggest problem is being a hypochondriac.
The most likely reason why your erections aren't as hard as when you first got HF is because having hypertensive pelvic muscles for all this time has weakened them lowering your EQ over time.
Carry on seeing your PT for the tension and don't worry about the EQ and then when the tension is gone you can start strengthening your pelvic floor to fix your EQ.
Or you're a troll as I suspect you maybe in which case I'm just wasting my time.
mipaul, go to hardflaccid.org. We have long since debunked this artery fusing bullshit theory. It isnt true man, relax. All of us need a while for erections to fade with hard flaccid. Your penis is fine, get away from this forum as far as hardflaccid goes
CaptainJohnson
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Exactly. Mipaul, this site is not doing any good for you emotionally. As imac said, find a PT, find a psychologist, and head over to hardflaccid.org and get some much needed help. Right now, you are emotionally spiraling, which will not solve your problems. You want to get better? You want a working cock? Sit down, calm down, get rational, and start reviewing your options.
You have hard flaccid, not a priapism. Have you been to a urologist yet? Suggest your low-flow priapism idea, and watch it get knocked down. In fact, they may even tell you your penis is perfectly normal, in which case, guess what? You will have to go see a physiotherapist and probably a psychologist anyways to see what is really going on with your equipment.
Get help, then come back and tell us where you are at and we will try to support you. If you keep spiraling down the drainpipe here, there is nothing any of us can do to help. Start by helping yourself.
I just wanted to chime in.
Mipaul first off, you might have some erectile issues, and its hard for you to see outside the box.
Let me tell you that i'm having difficulties with soft glans as well, and i know it can be overwhelming.
I'll put things in perspective for you. I had to undergo a major pelvic surgery in may to fix a postural issue (on side of pelvis vertically higher) that caused me chronic pain. Look heres a pic: http://i.imgur.com/9c6gm.jpg
My graft collapsed after 3 months because it wasnt strong enough for physical therapy. Easily could have been avoided.
As a result I have to have surgery on christmas. I'm 21 years old. I had to drop out of school because of this, move back home with parents, I lost the girl of my dreams who I got back together with and actually came to terms with my penis while I was with her, everything had been going perfect. Now i'm in chronic pain again and I don't know if they will be able to get it back to post surgery state.
On top of that I worry about ED as well as nerve damage in my leg i sustained from surgery.
Some days I've thought it would be easy to just kill myself or something. But then I won't ever get to see what this world holds for me. No children, wife, basically just giving up. With medicine advancing how it is, you can't do that. Even if your cock didn't work, life would be worth living. But it sounds like you achieve erections, and if anything have a venous or psychological issue, most likely the former which has been infused with the latter more recently..both which are treatable.
So dont go off saying your fucked because your erection isn't what you think is ideal. Life could be alot worse. Even for me, I look at people right now who are paralyzed or dead and i realize life could be much worse and I still retain lots of hope.
Going off on the deep end doesn't help.
Dont post so much; think more. Post with evidence or even pictures to help us out. Right now it seems like you are grasping at whatever answer you can get.
I think you need to chill out and stop complaining so much and get a hold of yourself or you won't be able to deal with this issue.
Mipaul first off, you might have some erectile issues, and its hard for you to see outside the box.
Let me tell you that i'm having difficulties with soft glans as well, and i know it can be overwhelming.
I'll put things in perspective for you. I had to undergo a major pelvic surgery in may to fix a postural issue (on side of pelvis vertically higher) that caused me chronic pain. Look heres a pic: http://i.imgur.com/9c6gm.jpg
My graft collapsed after 3 months because it wasnt strong enough for physical therapy. Easily could have been avoided.
As a result I have to have surgery on christmas. I'm 21 years old. I had to drop out of school because of this, move back home with parents, I lost the girl of my dreams who I got back together with and actually came to terms with my penis while I was with her, everything had been going perfect. Now i'm in chronic pain again and I don't know if they will be able to get it back to post surgery state.
On top of that I worry about ED as well as nerve damage in my leg i sustained from surgery.
Some days I've thought it would be easy to just kill myself or something. But then I won't ever get to see what this world holds for me. No children, wife, basically just giving up. With medicine advancing how it is, you can't do that. Even if your cock didn't work, life would be worth living. But it sounds like you achieve erections, and if anything have a venous or psychological issue, most likely the former which has been infused with the latter more recently..both which are treatable.
So dont go off saying your fucked because your erection isn't what you think is ideal. Life could be alot worse. Even for me, I look at people right now who are paralyzed or dead and i realize life could be much worse and I still retain lots of hope.
Going off on the deep end doesn't help.
Dont post so much; think more. Post with evidence or even pictures to help us out. Right now it seems like you are grasping at whatever answer you can get.
I think you need to chill out and stop complaining so much and get a hold of yourself or you won't be able to deal with this issue.
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I tend to agree with that, it can be a mind fuck if you *let* it become of that. Urologists aren't of any help with this actually because of how uncommon it is, they werent with me either. My advice, skip the useless doctors and instead go buy yourself a penis pump that has a gauge. Pump atleast 3 times a week for a year and stay at 5hg or lower, most if not all of this should be cleared up.
Turtle why are my erections never hard...how come i cant maintain them...do i have a leak? why do i have a pulsing artery now?
CaptainJohnson
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Pumping is indeed one way to deal with it, but it doesn't work for everyone. It's still worth trying. As for a urologist, I suggested it because he seems convinced the issue is priapism, which any urologist can diagnose. The thing is, with hard flaccid, almost every urologist will assume your penis has a clean bill of health regardless the symptoms you claim to have. HF is a muscular, vascular, and neurological issue, which can be helped by a very limited number of specialists. The best bet for anyone with HF is a physiotherapist.
He did.
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The pulsing artery is normal. I guarantee you it's something you always had and never noticed it before. Arterys are good, they bring more blood to the penis. Don't sweet that. Have you had diagnostic tests?
i got two questions. How come after 4 months into my hf i devloped a huge pulsing artery. Also how come for the last two years even before hf i couldnt get an erection standing
its official, i have soft glans...and after doing research. it will forever be impossible to penetrate...we're all f'd. People can have sex without girl being wet, were f'ed
mipaul12,
This will be the last time i respond to these kind of posts. I kinda have a feeling that you are a troll. In case that i'm wrong: "Soft Glans" can have many reasons. And it's usually possible to penetrate plus you told us that you can have erections. I assume that you never had sex before. Let me tell you that "everything" works a thousand times better with a girl. Penis isn't even made for masturbation if you wanna go there. Relax, find a girl that you love, have fun. If you can't stop stressing you should get help of psychotherapists. Plus make an appointment to get a statement of an urologist to rule things out.
By the way, there will always be things you can do if the erections are too weak for penetration. (i do think u could penetrate a girl by the way) Of course you would have to find out the cause to get the right treatment if needed.
here are some:
-Meds (Viagra, Cialis,.....)
-Penis Pumps
-Arterial surgery (if leaks would be cause)
in most cases the treatments above do their job. Howsoever, if they don't there is something like a "worst case" treatment:
-Penis implant (surgery that replaces the corpus to an implant that will make anyone be able to penetrate. (this would be the very last option)
I dont wanna say that you need any of that. The thing i want to let you know is that there will always be ways to get your erection hard enough. Enough said.
This will be the last time i respond to these kind of posts. I kinda have a feeling that you are a troll. In case that i'm wrong: "Soft Glans" can have many reasons. And it's usually possible to penetrate plus you told us that you can have erections. I assume that you never had sex before. Let me tell you that "everything" works a thousand times better with a girl. Penis isn't even made for masturbation if you wanna go there. Relax, find a girl that you love, have fun. If you can't stop stressing you should get help of psychotherapists. Plus make an appointment to get a statement of an urologist to rule things out.
By the way, there will always be things you can do if the erections are too weak for penetration. (i do think u could penetrate a girl by the way) Of course you would have to find out the cause to get the right treatment if needed.
here are some:
-Meds (Viagra, Cialis,.....)
-Penis Pumps
-Arterial surgery (if leaks would be cause)
in most cases the treatments above do their job. Howsoever, if they don't there is something like a "worst case" treatment:
-Penis implant (surgery that replaces the corpus to an implant that will make anyone be able to penetrate. (this would be the very last option)
I dont wanna say that you need any of that. The thing i want to let you know is that there will always be ways to get your erection hard enough. Enough said.
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okay can you do me a favor and look at my penetration tread, and the guy who says he has the same issue...if hes talking to me or not?
I am also convinced by now, that in most cases it is a mascular issue. If you massage the shaft while in HF state it makes the muscles relax and it gets soft and spongy. This happens within less then a second, it just gets spongy. What does it tell me that it is muscles being contracted, if it was about blood flow it would take much longer time for the corups to run off blood and make the corpus relax.
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Arteries dont fuse, you need to go see a doctor so you can stop saying woe is me and then making up diagnosis. You have no clue what is wrong and guessing and trying to figure it out on your own is not going to work.
CaptainJohnson
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Are you saying you can get an erection now, but before your issues you couldn't?
If so, that means your pelvic muscles were initially extremely weak, but you still managed to overwork them and create chronic tension. This tension is what has caused your hard flaccid, most likely.
two things just to settle my mind... I always thought i had a venous leak because i coudlnt get an erection standing soo do you think i have one? the other thing is i took a penile doppler test but i barley got an erection like 15% and i passed but do u think it matters that they gave me the lowest dose???
CaptainJohnson
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No, I think its fine, and I also think you should stop worrying and looking at the worst-case scenario. Your situation doesn't perfectly fit venous leakage, but it does happen to perfectly fit in with the symptoms of chronic pelvic tension and hard flaccid.
You need to both relieve pelvic tension, and strengthen the pelvic floor, a hard thing to do simultaneously, and it is rather time consuming. Also, given the amount of anxiety this situation seems to have caused you, it might be a good idea to meet a therapist and describe your current predicament to them, not just to better cope with it, but to also help televisual any possibility of sexual anxiety, which commonly plays a role in chronic tension.
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