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Actually, the more I think about this, the more I wonder about what it is to be a man. I've posted a lot of things ... but they were all random dating tips I've gotten from 'dating gurus' and didn't touch on the subject of being a man at all.
I'm going to google it right now... i'm sure someone's written a book.
 

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About being a man

About being a man

I wasn't really thinking about dating tips when I started the thread. I wanted a place to collect all the thoughts that I was taught, or that I wish I had been taught, about living elegantly as a man.

Being a man is...
Making the world a better place while still being true to yourself.
 

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About ordering the special and special ordering

About ordering the special and special ordering

When eating out, make a habit of ordering the chef's special. He, or she, is making it for a reason and because of pride in the dish. You are frequently in line to experience the best that this chef can offer.

Unless you are avoiding a food allergy, don't re-engineer the dishes on the menu when you order. A professional chef designed the meal that way for a reason. Unless you are a professional as well, you are being foolish to second guess his, or her, work product.
 
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Hand shaking. This is definately something a man is expected to know, yet so many get it wrong.

When shaking hands, look the person in the eye, smile, and give a firm straight up and down handshake, with 1 or 2 pumps and let go.

Don't pump their hand or hold on continuously - it's weird
Don't try and break the bones in their hands - it's aggressive and dangerous
Don't give a limp fish handshake - it makes you seem weak and untrustworthy

Personally, I am not fond of receiving a handshake where I'm forced to have my palm up. It says they're trying to be dominant over me and to me it's a very obvious signal. A lot of guys do this palm down style of handshake because it makes them feel good but they don't realise the implications.

Shaking hands at a straight equal level shows mutual respect.

Conversely though, if you wish the other person to feel in control or made to feel secure, you can offer you hand slightly palm up, which puts their hand in a palm down dominant position.

If someone gives you the dominant handshake and you don't like it, you can clap your other hand on top of their's in a double handed shake, and just keep it short. There's also a manouver you can do where you pull them towards you to put them off balance, and then you twist their hand and can put them in the submissive position. But if they offer their hand to me FULLY palm down and I have to rotate my hand all the way around upside down to give the handshake and risk having my fingers crushed, I'll just shake the back of their damn hand. Screw em, they're the ones stuffing up the deal. :cool:
 

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That post reminds me of one of my favorite moves when meeting a girl I fancy. You give a good, firm handshake, but as you're doing it you slowly (almost imperceptibly) rotate your hand clockwise, so that the girl's hand ends up on top of yours. Don't break the handshake, but rather let her slide her hand off of yours. If done properly, it almost always leaves a great first impression. I think it invokes the "damsel in distress" reaction in women and makes you stand out in her mind.

Also, Xite said the handshake should only last 1 or 2 pumps and you let go, but I disagree. I don't think you're making a mistake as a man if you're never the first one to break off a handshake for the rest of your life. Obviously you aren't holding the other person's hand in place so they can't remove it, but you just allow them to break it off whenever they feel like it. I think it displays a great deal of confidence. Obviously if it goes on past 8 or 9 pumps, then the other guy probably has the same idea, so I guess you can go ahead and break it off lest you both look like losers.
 

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When i go out i always tip the waitress in person rather than make her dig it out of the mess on the table. They are almost always awestruck.
 

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About standing up

About standing up

When you are at a table and a woman either joins the table or gets up to leave, stand up, until either she is seated (if she is arriving) or has turned to leave (if she is leaving.) If she is arriving and sitting next to you, pull out the chair for her and then push it in as she sits down.
If she says "Oh no, please, don't get up." Don't get up.
This is old school behavior and is meant to show respect. It will get you noticed and tends to make the other males present look like barbarians. Don't make a big deal of it and if it is for some reason making anyone female uncomfortable, desist.
If you are at a large table and you find that you are popping up and down every few minutes because of all the female comings and goings, smile and say something like "I am a gentlemen but there are limits..." the next time you start to get up and then just let it go.
Yarrr!
 

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Yes, that is part of what I mean.
 

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Lol @ clownvomit...napolean!
 

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If you have some extra change and you see a homeless person that looks like they really could need it, give to to them.