The AP90 (Anti-Porn)
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It has been a really long time since I posted here. Checking from the archives, the last time I posted here was on 23[SUP]rd[/SUP] April 2018. By then I had been 100% porn free and masturbation free for 333 days. Now being 30[SUP]th[/SUP] Dec 2018, - that is 251 days more without either porn or masturbation making the total cured days 584 .
To me this problem is permanently solved.
Details of my journey on permanently curing this problem are detailed here in this thread. Read through.
On Updates on what it is now without porn or masturbation, here is the update:
The hardest part of quitting an addiction lies in the beginning days. This is especially true for porn and masturbation. At the moment just before you decide to ditch porn and hand sex, your body vehemently rebels the move and sets out to be your number one foe. And it does this in very creative manners that chances are almost guaranteed that you will slip and fall back to the despicable habit.
The biggest obstacle one faces when quitting porn is the Almost Instant Decreased Quality of Life. You literally become worse than when you started and it takes tremendous amount of will power to push through. The negative effects that made you decide to quit porn are actually AMPLIFIED within the first few weeks to a few months. That is to say you become worse off than when you started. Now this can be a bit bearable if only your conscience didn’t scream to you unstoppably “You see, it does not work, it can’t work! Don’t bother. You are even worse off than when you started, no other way, quit.”
In practice, extremely few people do successfully get past this stage. And yes, it is a stage - a difficult one that lasts anywhere from week one to 3 months to 2 years. I have documented this entire process and the attitude needed to conquer it here in this thread - and there is no point of repeating it. But in summary, to successfully conquer porn addiction using your will power(and it will be feeble at the start), you will need extensive knowledge and information of the stages involved in the recovery and you will have to allocate enough time to the endeavor, usually a minimum of 3 months but around 2 years (yes years) is ideal. You will also need to get rid of all forms of porn on your computer, enable safe search, clear all bookmarks and even establish physical barriers to accessing porn like no laptop past 6pm AND the weekends and holidays and if you normally abuse your phone as a pornography accessory instead of the many millions of useful information you could be reading, ditch it immediately and get one without internet access.
This combo of mental and physical ammo is a mandatory arsenal alongside with sufficient time allocated to the pursuit usually three months to two years.
Now is it worth it?
Quitting smoking is hard work to the smoker but easy sail for everyone else. The same with quitting porn and masturbation - it is hard to the addict and a non-issue to everyone else. The smoker complains of breath problems and looming cancer while to everyone else everything functions normally. The porn addict suffers erectile disorders and chronic depression while to non-addicts these problems do not occur.
A smoker might say that he knows of a non-smoker who is also unhealthy and in pure idiocy use that as justification to continue with the addictive habit but we all know that that is comparing apples to oranges – and that the addict has in fact fallen prisoner of his own prison. The same porn mind might convince its addict that there are men who have erectile dysfunctions and yet don’t consume porn. But that again is unequal grounds comparison. All things equal the addict is worse off and sits in an even more precarious position because first he is entrapped and second his condition worsens with passing time.
And so the answer the question "is quitting porn and masturbation worth it?", Yes a hundred fold.
Is it hard? - No, not after a few months.
Does one miss porn and jerking off? No – it is a non issue after a few years.
To me this problem is permanently solved.
Details of my journey on permanently curing this problem are detailed here in this thread. Read through.
On Updates on what it is now without porn or masturbation, here is the update:
The hardest part of quitting an addiction lies in the beginning days. This is especially true for porn and masturbation. At the moment just before you decide to ditch porn and hand sex, your body vehemently rebels the move and sets out to be your number one foe. And it does this in very creative manners that chances are almost guaranteed that you will slip and fall back to the despicable habit.
The biggest obstacle one faces when quitting porn is the Almost Instant Decreased Quality of Life. You literally become worse than when you started and it takes tremendous amount of will power to push through. The negative effects that made you decide to quit porn are actually AMPLIFIED within the first few weeks to a few months. That is to say you become worse off than when you started. Now this can be a bit bearable if only your conscience didn’t scream to you unstoppably “You see, it does not work, it can’t work! Don’t bother. You are even worse off than when you started, no other way, quit.”
In practice, extremely few people do successfully get past this stage. And yes, it is a stage - a difficult one that lasts anywhere from week one to 3 months to 2 years. I have documented this entire process and the attitude needed to conquer it here in this thread - and there is no point of repeating it. But in summary, to successfully conquer porn addiction using your will power(and it will be feeble at the start), you will need extensive knowledge and information of the stages involved in the recovery and you will have to allocate enough time to the endeavor, usually a minimum of 3 months but around 2 years (yes years) is ideal. You will also need to get rid of all forms of porn on your computer, enable safe search, clear all bookmarks and even establish physical barriers to accessing porn like no laptop past 6pm AND the weekends and holidays and if you normally abuse your phone as a pornography accessory instead of the many millions of useful information you could be reading, ditch it immediately and get one without internet access.
This combo of mental and physical ammo is a mandatory arsenal alongside with sufficient time allocated to the pursuit usually three months to two years.
Now is it worth it?
Quitting smoking is hard work to the smoker but easy sail for everyone else. The same with quitting porn and masturbation - it is hard to the addict and a non-issue to everyone else. The smoker complains of breath problems and looming cancer while to everyone else everything functions normally. The porn addict suffers erectile disorders and chronic depression while to non-addicts these problems do not occur.
A smoker might say that he knows of a non-smoker who is also unhealthy and in pure idiocy use that as justification to continue with the addictive habit but we all know that that is comparing apples to oranges – and that the addict has in fact fallen prisoner of his own prison. The same porn mind might convince its addict that there are men who have erectile dysfunctions and yet don’t consume porn. But that again is unequal grounds comparison. All things equal the addict is worse off and sits in an even more precarious position because first he is entrapped and second his condition worsens with passing time.
And so the answer the question "is quitting porn and masturbation worth it?", Yes a hundred fold.
Is it hard? - No, not after a few months.
Does one miss porn and jerking off? No – it is a non issue after a few years.
46 days NO PORN!. Im still a dog though. Just a dog who doesn't watch porn LOL.
Ive read somewhere it takes about 90 days to get your brain closer to baseline. Is this true?
What sort of benefits can we expect long term? Thank you all and stick with it.
Ive read somewhere it takes about 90 days to get your brain closer to baseline. Is this true?
What sort of benefits can we expect long term? Thank you all and stick with it.
Day 1.
Hey everyone. I've been getting better and better (i.e. porn is weakening its grasp on my sexuality, and periods without porn are getting longer and longer. However, I want this to be permanent.
Let's do this thing.
Hey everyone. I've been getting better and better (i.e. porn is weakening its grasp on my sexuality, and periods without porn are getting longer and longer. However, I want this to be permanent.
Let's do this thing.
I find myself going back to porn every few days. Doing this makes me feel weak. I guess I couldn't expect to just quit cold turkey 
. With that said, I am getting much better at self control.
. With that said, I am getting much better at self control.
I find myself going back to porn every few days. Doing this makes me feel weak. I guess I couldn't expect to just quit cold turkey
Self control is key. Also you need to find more productive ways of channeling your energy into.
I never thought Id join a PE forum then quit porn LOL. And I seldom masturbate. Did you guys notice a dip in the urge? I was thinking I really should edge but just not motivated. Actually not a huge interest in sex either but I do twice a week. Hmm. Morning and night wood is waking me but just not feeling it. Almost like work.
I have been weak a few days and have been taking in porn in small doses and my curious mind...
I need to get back on track...
Day 1 starts today.
I need to get back on track...
Day 1 starts today.
Cavalier
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I was never a big porn watcher but I did watch it on occasion. When my wife discovered that I was she was very upset and told me that as far as she was concerned watching porn is cheating on her. I keep this in the back of my mind and now whenever I get the urge to watch some I have to stop and ask myself if I want to cheat on my wife. Maybe you should try having the mindset that every time you watch it you are cheating on your wife. It worked for me and maybe it will also work for you. Do you want to cheat on your wife?
I understand...it's hard yet with God's help...I can overcome this. I am going back to the Fortify App as well to track triggers that may cause me to stumble.
Hang in there brother Ujjayi. Im not an expert on anything but Ive been addicted to just about every substance over my 60yrs. My subconscious motto was anything worth doing is worth overdoing. Just name it... from candy as a kid to extreme sports, drugs, too much work, porn blah blah. About once every two years for two weeks Ill succumb to a round of prescription drugs do to injuries from the aforementioned extreme sports injuries. But its a far cry from the everyday use twenty years ago. What Im saying is we are human and sometimes we fall back into the past. The solution for me is to recognize my triggers and see them coming and adjust early. Get back on track whatever that is for you. Maybe a good hot yoga class. In the front row with less distractions of course lol!
Thank you for the encouragement...I wouldn't go to a yoga class...women are just too yummy for me!
