Women don't have A spots men do. what you are hitting is her cervix which can give women orgasms and as for squirting, it involves the G spot. For the how to: Do the following (I have a video on my site for those interested)
Helping a Woman to Ejaculate Successfully from the book: Female Ejaculation and the G-spot
by Deborah Sundahl When your partner first tells you about her interest in female
ejaculation, it is wise to take a back seat, keep an open mind, and see
what transpires. Let her get used to the idea, and encourage her to
experiment and develop her abilities on her own for a while. I
recommend that women learn how to ejaculate on their own at first. Once
female ejaculation is achieved in this solo manner, a woman will have
more success ejaculating with a partner. But if she insists that you
get involved earlier in her explorations, the following are some things
you can do:
Become familiar with G-spot Anatomy and how to stimulate her G-spot.
Encourage her to tell you what she likes, especially if she doesn't usually speak up.
Have a sense of humor and don't be goal-oriented; most women like
ejaculation and want to ejaculate, but for them it's less a goal than
part of the overall experience of making love.
All of the attempts you make, even if they don't result in ejaculation,
move both of you farther along the learning curve and increase the
likelihood of eventual success. Women like to include their partners in
activities, and sexuality is no exception. But from a woman's
perspective, men can be too enthusiastic and rush into "getting the job
done." Nothing prevents ejaculation more effectively than pressure to
ejaculate! Most women need time to talk about female ejaculation, to
explore its twists and turns, before they actually attempt it.
As said throughout this book, they will have the best chances of
success if their first explorations are made solo. So, for example, if
she expresses interest in ejaculating, say something like, "Oh, have
you ever done that before?" or "Where did you hear about that?" This
may seem evasive to you, but such questions can help her figure out
exactly what she wants to do. If she complains about not being able to
ejaculate, or if she's wishing she could, say something like, "Oh, that
sounds interesting," or "Did you hear or read something about that?"
Keep asking questions for a while. When she answers, the best response
is to reflect back to her what she just said. For example, if she says,
"I've been hearing about it from a friend," respond by saying, "So
you've got some new information. What did she tell you?"
Drawing her out further is wise, even if what she's said seems plain
enough to you, because she's giving you a signal to talk, rather than a
signal to act. So take time to discuss female ejaculation before you
jump in and try to help out with something that she may not yet be
ready to attempt. This can help you to avoid a frustrating first
experience in which you both end up feeling like you've failed.
The following section sums up a lot of the information assesses her
readiness to ejaculate and how she can learn and practice ejaculating
on her own. Before you begin trying to help her ejaculate, check the
following three things:
Strength of her PC muscles.
An essential point: Your partner can't ejaculate if her vaginal (PC)
muscles are weak. Some guys think that a woman with a loose vagina has,
as one man told me, "screwed around too much," but that is not the
case. A loose vagina just indicates that her PC muscles are weak from
lack of exercise. Trying to get her to ejaculate will be a frustrating
experience until her PC muscles are tightened and strengthened. If her
vagina feels loose during intercourse, that's a sure sign that she
needs to do PC exercises. Encourage her to do them, and to practice
them on your love tool, too! Having stronger PC muscles not only feels
great for both of you, it encourages all around vaginal health. When
you both feel that her vagina is tighter when you have sex, that is a
signal that she is ready, muscle-wise at least, to attempt to ejaculate.
Don't bruise the grapes!
A woman who can firmly clamp down on your penis is nice, as you know,
but feeling the firmness of a full and bursting G-spot against your
penis is even better! Consider the G-spot a small bunch of very full
and juicy grapes. But don't bruise the grapes! Make them burst instead!
Your penis is their sunshine, and when the grapes are nourished, they
become fully ripened orbs containing juices that will burst over you!
Her attitude toward ejaculate. Letting go is the aspect of female
ejaculation that is most difficult for most women to master. If she is
afraid she is going to urinate on you and that you will be upset, she
will have a hard time ejaculating. Reassure her more than once: "It
probably won't be urine, and if it is, I don't care."
Deep-seated sexual issues.
Awakening the G-spot is an important step in a woman's sexual life, and
it can bring up all kinds of emotional issues. If a woman shuts down
abruptly once she begins learning to ejaculate, give her some time away
from ejaculating for a while. Reassure her by saying, "It's okay if you
don't ejaculate." If she continues to distance you sexually, - there
may be some deeper issues involved. Once you feel that she may be ready
to attempt ejaculation, ask her if she wants your help. If she says
yes, check again, asking in a caring tone: "Are you sure?" This is not
a put-down; it's just a confirmation for both of you. If you are
greeted with another affirmative, the next section will help you to
discover where her G-spot is and how to help her ejaculate.
Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot - Surefire Techniques
Guys are usually up for sexually pleasing their honeys, and most men
approach female ejaculation for the first time with an open mind. But
if you are called upon to actually help a woman ejaculate, you might
feel uncomfortable because you aren't sure what to do or you don't
understand how female ejaculation works. So, guys, I've tried to make
this as simple and direct as possible to help you out here. For more
lengthy information, learn about a woman's anatomy in detail.
Stimulate The G-Spot Now that you know where the G-spot is, here is a
yellow road sign to guide you when you begin to stimulate her G-spot
Helping a Woman to Ejaculate Successfully from the book: Female Ejaculation and the G-spot
by Deborah Sundahl When your partner first tells you about her interest in female
ejaculation, it is wise to take a back seat, keep an open mind, and see
what transpires. Let her get used to the idea, and encourage her to
experiment and develop her abilities on her own for a while. I
recommend that women learn how to ejaculate on their own at first. Once
female ejaculation is achieved in this solo manner, a woman will have
more success ejaculating with a partner. But if she insists that you
get involved earlier in her explorations, the following are some things
you can do:
Become familiar with G-spot Anatomy and how to stimulate her G-spot.
Encourage her to tell you what she likes, especially if she doesn't usually speak up.
Have a sense of humor and don't be goal-oriented; most women like
ejaculation and want to ejaculate, but for them it's less a goal than
part of the overall experience of making love.
All of the attempts you make, even if they don't result in ejaculation,
move both of you farther along the learning curve and increase the
likelihood of eventual success. Women like to include their partners in
activities, and sexuality is no exception. But from a woman's
perspective, men can be too enthusiastic and rush into "getting the job
done." Nothing prevents ejaculation more effectively than pressure to
ejaculate! Most women need time to talk about female ejaculation, to
explore its twists and turns, before they actually attempt it.
As said throughout this book, they will have the best chances of
success if their first explorations are made solo. So, for example, if
she expresses interest in ejaculating, say something like, "Oh, have
you ever done that before?" or "Where did you hear about that?" This
may seem evasive to you, but such questions can help her figure out
exactly what she wants to do. If she complains about not being able to
ejaculate, or if she's wishing she could, say something like, "Oh, that
sounds interesting," or "Did you hear or read something about that?"
Keep asking questions for a while. When she answers, the best response
is to reflect back to her what she just said. For example, if she says,
"I've been hearing about it from a friend," respond by saying, "So
you've got some new information. What did she tell you?"
Drawing her out further is wise, even if what she's said seems plain
enough to you, because she's giving you a signal to talk, rather than a
signal to act. So take time to discuss female ejaculation before you
jump in and try to help out with something that she may not yet be
ready to attempt. This can help you to avoid a frustrating first
experience in which you both end up feeling like you've failed.
The following section sums up a lot of the information assesses her
readiness to ejaculate and how she can learn and practice ejaculating
on her own. Before you begin trying to help her ejaculate, check the
following three things:
Strength of her PC muscles.
An essential point: Your partner can't ejaculate if her vaginal (PC)
muscles are weak. Some guys think that a woman with a loose vagina has,
as one man told me, "screwed around too much," but that is not the
case. A loose vagina just indicates that her PC muscles are weak from
lack of exercise. Trying to get her to ejaculate will be a frustrating
experience until her PC muscles are tightened and strengthened. If her
vagina feels loose during intercourse, that's a sure sign that she
needs to do PC exercises. Encourage her to do them, and to practice
them on your love tool, too! Having stronger PC muscles not only feels
great for both of you, it encourages all around vaginal health. When
you both feel that her vagina is tighter when you have sex, that is a
signal that she is ready, muscle-wise at least, to attempt to ejaculate.
Don't bruise the grapes!
A woman who can firmly clamp down on your penis is nice, as you know,
but feeling the firmness of a full and bursting G-spot against your
penis is even better! Consider the G-spot a small bunch of very full
and juicy grapes. But don't bruise the grapes! Make them burst instead!
Your penis is their sunshine, and when the grapes are nourished, they
become fully ripened orbs containing juices that will burst over you!
Her attitude toward ejaculate. Letting go is the aspect of female
ejaculation that is most difficult for most women to master. If she is
afraid she is going to urinate on you and that you will be upset, she
will have a hard time ejaculating. Reassure her more than once: "It
probably won't be urine, and if it is, I don't care."
Deep-seated sexual issues.
Awakening the G-spot is an important step in a woman's sexual life, and
it can bring up all kinds of emotional issues. If a woman shuts down
abruptly once she begins learning to ejaculate, give her some time away
from ejaculating for a while. Reassure her by saying, "It's okay if you
don't ejaculate." If she continues to distance you sexually, - there
may be some deeper issues involved. Once you feel that she may be ready
to attempt ejaculation, ask her if she wants your help. If she says
yes, check again, asking in a caring tone: "Are you sure?" This is not
a put-down; it's just a confirmation for both of you. If you are
greeted with another affirmative, the next section will help you to
discover where her G-spot is and how to help her ejaculate.
Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot - Surefire Techniques
Guys are usually up for sexually pleasing their honeys, and most men
approach female ejaculation for the first time with an open mind. But
if you are called upon to actually help a woman ejaculate, you might
feel uncomfortable because you aren't sure what to do or you don't
understand how female ejaculation works. So, guys, I've tried to make
this as simple and direct as possible to help you out here. For more
lengthy information, learn about a woman's anatomy in detail.
Stimulate The G-Spot Now that you know where the G-spot is, here is a
yellow road sign to guide you when you begin to stimulate her G-spot
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