Seeking Help with My Premature Ejaculation

[kidwithPEproblems]

Hi, first of all I'd just like to say thanks to whoever started this site as it has helped me identify my problem.

I'm 18 and currently not very sexually active but learned of my problem when, on 3 separate occasions, I received a blow job but only lasted 30 seconds!
I believe the source of my problem is that I began masturbating at 14 (I remember those days when it took me a good 15min to blow) but now when I pleasure myself I used to be able to do it without an erection (which I stopped once I learned this is probably very bad), and can now only masturbate about 1 minute steady before I ejaculate.

I feel I really need to fix my problem out of the fact that I would really like to please the women I have sex with, as well as if I ever got into a very serious relationship I would not want my premature ejaculation problem to become annoying baggage.

To address my problem I have looked at many helpful guides on this site and am just seeking further recommendations from people who have overcome their problem, or are currently addressing it like myself.

For what I am currently doing, I have looked at all the stress, etc factors, and I am quite healthy, have a good diet, and run track as well as sail. My current routine is usually edging every night (as long as I'm not to tired from school and homework), and doing reverse kegels in class as an exercise. I was previously doing regular kegels, but I don't understand how they are very useful, as my kegels are strong enough so that I can stop myself from ejaculating if needed. For my edging, I usually stimulate myself through rubbing, but am now trying to get my erection very hard before stimulation. I then proceed to stimulate myself on the shaft and gland until the PONR, and then stop until I think necessary, and then repeat the proccess as many times as I can, trying not to ejaculate which is usually about 3 or 4 times. While doing this I try to reverse kegel, but when I reach an excitement level of about 9 this proves very difficult and I usually dial down the stimulation or stop.

I am very determined to fix this problem as I see it a need for my personal life! Any help or recommendations to my current understanding of my problem or exercise routine would be greatly appreciated as I have not been met with much success as of late.

 

[Pirate]

Welcome to the PEGym!
Kegels and Reverse Kegels teach control as well as build strength.
Have you read our articles?
In general, I think you are doing the right things but this will likely take time.
Also keep in mind that you are very young and your body is still a) extremely excitable and b) changing.
DO NOT TALK YOURSELF INTO HAVING PREMATURE EJACULATION. Most likely, what you have is called "being a teenager."
Fear not.

 

[kidwithPEproblems]

Okay haha but I am getting a little bit worried, as I know my friends go much longer then I do from what they have told me about their experiences (But yes everyone is different I know). I have a quick question about two things however.

First, when edging should one try to prolong the experience as long as possible while maintaining excitement (as I try to do but obviously can not stimulate for very long periods of time) or try to just go for longevity while staying hard?

Secondly, what exactly is ballooning? I've tried to search the term up on the forum and internet but am having trouble finding out what it is. ("n00b" like I know)

Also thank you for the warm welcome

 

[kidwithPEproblems]

I have further been thinking about your thought of "being a teenager" and perhaps I should just let things go and not masturbate, perhaps just wait for my next sexual encounter, which is probably about every couple months. Maybe (I hope very much) my premature ejaculation may go away on its own.
However, I have been a minute man for probably more then a year since I masturbate probably around 4 times a week, and seven times a week now since I've been trying to fix my "problem." I also believe that my premature ejaculation (assuming I have it) is due to me training my ejaculatory response to come quickly, from hiding from my parents and being busy, etc. However do you think waiting a couple months flaccid would make me forget this quick response I've worked into my brain, or is this "response" of which I speak really a response but something I've been born with. Although you make a good point saying that its just "being a teenager," I've been like this for a while now and is there a good chance this response will just leave if I let things be?
Thanks
From a kid deep in thought

 

[darksun22]

Im currently in the middle of some research, and cannot guarantee this will help you (and can almost guarantee it will not help you fast) but cut out porn completely, and cut out fantasizing as much as possible, and you have may just be one step ahead of the rest of us, and may start to see improvement over time.

Rome was not built in a day, patients.

And this is coming from a 23 year old that watched porn for 10+ years. Please stop,

 

[blulite]

hi, i once developed this problem. the way i resolved it was to masturbate untill i felt my penis start to tingle as if it were building up to ejaculate. then i would stop, leave it for a minuite then start again. i would do this for half hour to 1 hour and eventually upped the time.

after a couple of weeks i was upto maybe 50 mins to 1 hour before i felt the first tingle.

you need to train the penis to resist the action of ejaculation.

ive never had problems since, well, actually i have.

the probllem i have now is i can go for hours sometimes and still not be anywhere near cumming. sometimes i have to just stop having sex. sometimes i need to get the lube involed in mastrubating because it take so long to build and ejaculation..

 

[mechanicJT]

Don't stop masturbating that is not the solution. Take Pegasus and Blulites advice. What Blu recommends is called edging and there is lots of information about it here. Start by trying to last 20 minutes by stopping as blu described but pay attention to what you feel during the process.
By the way Blu that is some impressive time.

 

[blulite]

its good to be able to lst that long, but sometimes like today its painfull. ive not ejaculated for about 3 weeks and even though ive had hours of sex and long periods of masturbation i still havent ejaculated.

i was masturbating for 45 - 60 mins yesterday and was watching porn plus had a girl on the other end of the phone talking dirty and i still couldnt get the job done.

i have such a high lobido too i sit most of the day with an erection.. the ladys love it but i get pissed off sometimes. my cock is killing me. its rock hard and wont spill its guts when i want it to.

i would still prefer my current situation to when i suffered my prem

 

[blulite]

btw, i had no idea that tehnique was called edging, or that it even had a name. i just decided to do it one day to try and make me last longer.

 

[kidwithPEproblems]

okay, well I think its best if I continue with edging, but I also think its best if I cut out porn as well, knowing that this makes me ejaculate faster and heeding darksun's advice. But I have one question about your edging routine blulite, when you used to practice edging were you suffering from premature ejaculation similar to myself? Also, did you cut out porn and fantasizing with the sole goal of lasting as long as possible? I feel that if I cut these things out (porn I don't care because I'm not really into it anyways) then I might very well take a longer time to ejaculate, but will it all work out when I put a girl in the equation? I assume the logic is that the action of longer masturbation just simply trains your body to go longer and desensitizes you to a degree, and I do suppose this would work with enough practice, assuming once you actually have sex you don't get too excited.
Also thank you blulite for giving me a little hope towards a solution, this whole issue has been bugging me ever since I recognized it.
So in conclusion I guess I will routine to treat my PE will be exercises of kegels and reverse kegels along with edging, in which I get a hard dick, and then proceed to stimulate it without fantasizing or porn.

One question: when I first feel that tingle and my pc starts to contract uncontrollably, should I reverse kegel or kegel?
Thanks
A kid a little more informed

 

[Pegasus]

What you currently have, is called delayed ejaculation blu.

 

[blulite]

hi, kid, thanks for taking on board my advice,

when i suffered from permE and was working to improve it, i kept the porn. the reason for this is i wanted to learn my ejaculation as long as possible whilst being exposed to maximum stimulation.

chances are if you cut out porn, which seems to be one of your best stimulants, then your not going to reach maximum potential.

you may very well improve the situation on a personal level, but when it comes to being with a girl you may still become over stimulated and still suffer the same conciquence.

you should keep the porn and think as many dirty thoughts as possible while your practicing, to allow you to be at full stimulation.

if you can learn to controll your ejaculation time when your at maximum stimulation then there will be much less chance of you having a problem when your with a girl.

hope this helps..

oh and the answer to your question about keagleing when you feel the tingle, dont , just leave go and let it settle. you just gotta stop altogether and wait a min or 2

 

[blulite]

thanks pegasus, ill keep that in mind.. i dont mind the dely really, its just sometimes i ache from being hard all the time. i need a woman.

 

[blulite]

wow finally, after around 3 weeks i finally ejaculated....what a relief i thought i was never going to cum again.

my balls and dick have stopped aching now and i feel loads better. well i do now ive had a shower. when it blew, it blew. i was covered in the stuff i had to move my head quick before it hit me in the face lol.

anyway glad thats over.

question though? when i did ejaculate, i was actually ejaculating before the point of no return. i was kind of overflowing before the pressure took hold and almost shot me in the face. ive never experienced that before. or at least ive never seen it happen before...can someone plesae tell me why this is?

 

[kidwithPEproblems]

okay so I tried edging last night with no porn or fantasies and was able to go for about 25 min until I got too tired and had to sleep (I think its probably best if I just avoid ejaculating). During my session I used reverse kegels to try to avoid raising my arousement, and when I felt the first tingle I stopped and pulled a 10 sec regular kegel, and then continued. I also listened to reggae music which took my mid off things but I still stayed quite hard.
So I guess I should take blulites advice and add the porn back in, and kegeling during my session once I feel the tingling is definitely the wrong thing to do?
For tonight I think I will try the same routine with out the kegeling, and then move to fantasies and eventually porn. (also I don't believe porn is really that bad for me as I'm not addicted or anything but just find it stimulating)

 

[kidwithPEproblems]

Update: I also noticed that when I get really close to PONR I cum just a little bit, I guess I should obviously stop before this but is this really bad? I don't get soft or feel really wierd sensitive like I do after I ejaculate.

 

[blulite]

what your seeing is called pre cum, that is a good sign of when to stop. if you work up to that point and then stop you should progress faster.

what youre doing will work great but you really should add back in the stimulation as you need to do this at its most difficult level to learn to controll your most intense ejaculations.

 

[kidwithPEproblems]

so when I get the pre-cum, I should stop masturbating all together???
and also I looked up "ballonning" and should i be incorporating this in to my routine as well or just stick to edging for now?
Update: I tried masturbating with porn again today, letting myself get a hard erection before starting, and found I could only last about 40 seconds. I let stopped for 1 minute, tried again, and lasted about 30 seconds with precum coming out, which I then stopped all together (should I stop all together when this happens?)
I find that my arousal goes from about 6 (Hard erection but when I start I don't feel much) to 9 very quickly, where most people stay at the 7 or 8 phase for longer (hence I have premature ejaculation).
I think I will probably have to lay off the porn for a week or two until I start seeing some more improvement.
Any thoughts?
A Kid gaining some experience but not going anywhere

 

[Pegasus]

Most pre e presents at the physical level ,with pelvic floor uncontrolled(often unconcious) kegel type spasms. While a lucky few ,can just relax their pelvid floor when they know this, most have to do rehab exercises; mostly reverse kegels.
Read this https://www.pegym.com/forums/premature-ejaculation-forum/15480-implications.html
If this describes you, you need a kegel workout with a high reverse kegel %.

 

[blulite]

when you see the pre cum, stop all together.. let it go flaccid, then start again. atfer a few days you shold notice some iprovement. nothing major but there will be improvement. it took me about a month maybe more to fix my prem problem.