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I don't think it's off topic at all. Believe me, both of my last two gf's were the same way, the one was more fucked up than the other but there was this genuine sense of "don't go there". I mean, if all you've ever heard was women talking about how wonderful and awesome oral is, wouldn't you, as a woman, want to experience that for yourself? There was something there and I was never able to break through that barrier. Oh well, their loss.
As to the rushing aspect, part of the whole enjoyment of sex and such is the slowing down, taking our time and enjoying each others' bodies......as TTBB stated somewhere above (and I LOVE this statement too!!) "sex is playtime for adults"....that is SOOOO true! But how can you fully enjoy it and take your time when it seems as though half of you isn't wanting any pleasure for themselves, rather they want to rush through the oral part just to get to the physicality of sex?
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How do you prolong sex when they don't want oral...
well oral is only one element of foreplay..
foreplay is also Kissing, Fondling, Touching
So you focus on those things and you focus on other areas of her body.
she might not like the idea of your head being in between her legs ..but i bet she loves your hand being there.. or toys
i bet there are areas on her body that have never been caressed or kissed
Remember when you were a teenager and you were lucky to get past first base and then when you did manage to get the bare boobs you would spend prolonged time kissing and fondling her boobs while she grinded up on you with her clothed lower half because her pussy was not up for offer.. and then when you managed to slip your hand in her panties you would spend hours rubbing her off because a home run was not a sure thing and she would spend hours fondling your penis... that is what is missing as you get older (or when you are in relationships with someone or even one night hook ups)
Instead clothing gets taken off like its a race to get her panties removed and your penis out
a sprint that takes a couple minutes if lucky .. kissing the lips ..to the boobs.. to the hand on her pussy (your tongue if you are lucky) and then where can i put my PENIS
The focus is not so much about the sensual side of sex or connecting or having a laugh, its about getting the chemical/ physical release of cumming.
well oral is only one element of foreplay..
foreplay is also Kissing, Fondling, Touching
So you focus on those things and you focus on other areas of her body.
she might not like the idea of your head being in between her legs ..but i bet she loves your hand being there.. or toys
i bet there are areas on her body that have never been caressed or kissed
Remember when you were a teenager and you were lucky to get past first base and then when you did manage to get the bare boobs you would spend prolonged time kissing and fondling her boobs while she grinded up on you with her clothed lower half because her pussy was not up for offer.. and then when you managed to slip your hand in her panties you would spend hours rubbing her off because a home run was not a sure thing and she would spend hours fondling your penis... that is what is missing as you get older (or when you are in relationships with someone or even one night hook ups)
Instead clothing gets taken off like its a race to get her panties removed and your penis out
a sprint that takes a couple minutes if lucky .. kissing the lips ..to the boobs.. to the hand on her pussy (your tongue if you are lucky) and then where can i put my PENIS
The focus is not so much about the sensual side of sex or connecting or having a laugh, its about getting the chemical/ physical release of cumming.
Agreed. Communication is key! Say it strong. Say it loud.
Get what u want when u want it.
Setting the mood. Call ahead. I tell him hey I'm ahead of you by an hour I'm in position come n get me. He knows this is a ball slapping fest. I say I'm gonna lick and kiss every inch of ur body he knows this is a spoil senses event!
I'm playing around with aroma therapy. Soon as you smell the scent either in the room or the oils on your body it makes a memory. Very interesting. He knows by the scent what mood I'm in. He now asks for " hey I'm smelling that sugar oil right now" which tells me OH yea I know he is camping out between my .... Lol
Get what u want when u want it.
Setting the mood. Call ahead. I tell him hey I'm ahead of you by an hour I'm in position come n get me. He knows this is a ball slapping fest. I say I'm gonna lick and kiss every inch of ur body he knows this is a spoil senses event!
I'm playing around with aroma therapy. Soon as you smell the scent either in the room or the oils on your body it makes a memory. Very interesting. He knows by the scent what mood I'm in. He now asks for " hey I'm smelling that sugar oil right now" which tells me OH yea I know he is camping out between my .... Lol
I know I misinterpreted "taking the time" a bit when I was younger. I understood that the foreplay was important and hell yeah, I really liked it, sometimes even better than the thrusting part. But what I got wrong was that I kind of rushed into "off with all clothes and jump into bed". I thought it was all about touching and licking in advanced patterns, tongue on clit, one hand on the nipple and the other hand touching around. Read quite a few books on technique (my dad gave me one) so I knew the theory quite well at the age of 15 
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But it took some time before I understood that many women wanted to make out a long time before getting into sex...with clothes on or partly on, perhaps while dancing to a nice ballade. I am better on that now but still not very good. But this is an important part if you want to be considered as a good lover...which, after all, is the reason we hang out here isn't it?
.But it took some time before I understood that many women wanted to make out a long time before getting into sex...with clothes on or partly on, perhaps while dancing to a nice ballade. I am better on that now but still not very good. But this is an important part if you want to be considered as a good lover...which, after all, is the reason we hang out here isn't it?
Im 22 and the ladies ive been with like to start out slow then the gorilla pounding takes place but your all right. Every pretty lady is different.
I think it's not about the specific things you do, it's about paying attention and taking the time over her, making her feel desirable, appreciated, sexy, all of that. I find when you approach sex this way it's easier to discover the specifc techniques that work for her than it is to memorise them all from a book. Plus if you've spent an hour or two fully clothed, in an intensely erotic "we are definitely going to break the bed later" mindset, getting all hot with anticipation, you could probably cover her in pancakes and she'd think it was the most erotic thing ever.
Or alternatively just hand the girl a dildo, head off to the pub and get her to text you when she's ready!
You think I'm joking? Girls, we try ever so hard to give you what you want. This is what some of us fellas want from time to time!
You think I'm joking? Girls, we try ever so hard to give you what you want. This is what some of us fellas want from time to time!
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The longer you can sustain an erection the bigger it gets. Most of you guys have not seen your biggest yet because your all rushing!
rushing to me makes no sense why would you rush? ive never had sex but i enjoy when me and my girlfriend have super lomg "outercourse" sessions. i always explore her body and get her whole nervous system awake and firing. i also make sure to whisper passionate things in her ear while i kiss her neck. she lives when i take my time and get more agressive as the hours pass. why rush such a fun thing.
My ex-wife used to rush me through foreplay. She would get so worked up and say "just do me already!"
Tried the pancake trick and...not such a good idea
.But seriously, you are right. What makes sense in theory does not always work in practise. Seems like there are few generic routines that applies for all, and women are and want to feel special.
Ladies are orgasms really better for you if you are brought to the brink several times before you cum? I have always thought that women looked at a mans stamina by how long he could thrust without stopping before cumming, not how long he could make love reguardless of how many times he had to stop or change things up to prevent cumming. My fiance recently told me that my way of thinking was not hers, that she has had partners that could thrust longer without stopping, but that none of them could go as long as me overall, seemed kind of strange to me...
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It's extremely volatile and quite controversial ... more extensive research and studies are being conducted ...
Foreplay usually involves a board game like Monopoly or a card game like old maid. If you are in a rush, strip poker works best.
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