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Okay. I will try again.
Since you know yourself better than I know you, why do you think that people dislike or even fear you?
Since you know yourself better than I know you, why do you think that people dislike or even fear you?
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Can I ask... what's the worst that would happen if you go up to a woman and talk to her. Shoot the sh*t, enjoy a conversation.
Why not try this. Walk around the mall. Talk to any random woman. Don't hit on her... just compliment her on her shoes or dress or something. Leave it at that if they don't want to talk more.
It should help get you confidence up.
And why would you look intimidating? Do you walk around with weapons and an angry face on ready to just kill anyone who gets in your way? If not, I doubt looking intimidating is your issue. Ladies can smell a complete lack of self confidence from a mile away though.
I have done that, not in mall but in school. They look at me with a WTF face and ignore me. That can be at times a bit funny, but it's also pointless.
If it was the case people would get on me, but they avoid me.
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6K post right here. Damnit.... I was hoping it would be a funny one.
Anyway....
It's not pointless to do that. It can be fun. I have done it and gotten a number before.
You don't have confidence in yourself. If you did you would put yourself out there more. Try online dating, or going to a bar/pub and having fun with friends and meeting women, go do SOMETHING. Go out, have fun, enjoy yourself, talk to women.
I have talked to some WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY outta my league at bars before. Just bitching about the service together, or other dumb people. Most of the time I don't even care if it leads to anything... for instance what happened last time I was out.... (keep in mind I'm not single).
We (me and a few friends) were at Hofbrau Haus (go Pittsburgh for having one). It was PACKED for a weekday. We go in, go get a table outside so we can smoke. I watch the table as others get their drinks, then I go get mine. As I'm waiting I notice a very cute blonde (dirty blonde, but still). So I move over near her and wait for service there. We just start bullshitting. Going on about something, don't remember. Either way I got my drink and stayed there for a while and kept talking. I wanted to leave on a good note, so I winked at her and said, "Maybe I'll see you again before the nights over." and walked away. I turned back and saw her checking out my ass (which I can't blame her for, it is amazing). I didn't see her again but I felt damn good that night.
Anyway....
It's not pointless to do that. It can be fun. I have done it and gotten a number before.
You don't have confidence in yourself. If you did you would put yourself out there more. Try online dating, or going to a bar/pub and having fun with friends and meeting women, go do SOMETHING. Go out, have fun, enjoy yourself, talk to women.
I have talked to some WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY outta my league at bars before. Just bitching about the service together, or other dumb people. Most of the time I don't even care if it leads to anything... for instance what happened last time I was out.... (keep in mind I'm not single).
We (me and a few friends) were at Hofbrau Haus (go Pittsburgh for having one). It was PACKED for a weekday. We go in, go get a table outside so we can smoke. I watch the table as others get their drinks, then I go get mine. As I'm waiting I notice a very cute blonde (dirty blonde, but still). So I move over near her and wait for service there. We just start bullshitting. Going on about something, don't remember. Either way I got my drink and stayed there for a while and kept talking. I wanted to leave on a good note, so I winked at her and said, "Maybe I'll see you again before the nights over." and walked away. I turned back and saw her checking out my ass (which I can't blame her for, it is amazing). I didn't see her again but I felt damn good that night.
If I had a job and money it would be a different thing. I would fuck a different woman every week. But I don't have that and very unlikely I will find anything soon.
Ok Droopy Dog, listen up to some Total Honesty:
Yes, women tend to go more for the guy that can support them. Key word here is support. Whether it is money, strength, love, etc. they want to be taken care of. And in turn, they want to take care of you. It's the motherly instinct in them. And men want to take care of their women, hence wanting to be fit and have lots of money and be a stud to his woman. But, I guarantee you that if you had a job and money but have a negative attitude, you ain't getting sh*t. Trust me, I've seen way too much of that as is.
Now, I don't know if you are serious or are just getting off on writing negative posts, but I suggest AT LEAST trying to ask a girl out. It might just work. I went to New York on a trip and walked around acting like I normally do (opening the doors for women, saying excuse me when bumping into someone, etc. You know, typical southern gentlemen type stuff that most of us do out of habit) and the women smiled at me like they thought I was hitting on them. It shocked me that people can be so appreciative of a simple gesture, so I suggest you do the same. A little can go a long way.
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Then get a shitty job like me. I work at a freaking fast food joint. I'm in school still, but I still work 40 hours a week.
But what do I say?
"Do you want to do nothing with me?" Or what? I think a girl must like a guy first, otherwise there is no point.In my country for me it is impossible. I can't do a job where I have to talk with other people. But I applied to a newspaper delivery job, maybe I have some luck.
With guys my age no problem, not so good with older men, a lot better with women. I have only male friends.
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Well if you have no problem talking to males then you should have no problem talking to girls.. all are human... if you approach women with the same relaxed conversation you have with males then half the battle is won.
If you have male friends you should get one of them to be the buffer for you.. get them to get the conversation started with females, get them to work you into it the conversation giving you openings to converse with the girl.. it sounds like you have approach anxiety...you need a wing man... and you need not to be thinking about getting pussy or trying to get the girl..make it about interacting with the opposite sex and focus on the moment not the where its going.
If you have male friends you should get one of them to be the buffer for you.. get them to get the conversation started with females, get them to work you into it the conversation giving you openings to converse with the girl.. it sounds like you have approach anxiety...you need a wing man... and you need not to be thinking about getting pussy or trying to get the girl..make it about interacting with the opposite sex and focus on the moment not the where its going.
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