Hey Rodimus...
I only joined this forum last night so would like to say welcome to you since you're new as well. I am replying to your initial post about not staying up.
I can honestly say that this has happened to me on two occasions and would say why I think it happened and what I did to stop it.
In my case, I was and still am fairly young (23 now) and this happened when I was about 20-21 years old. It goes without saying on those occasions I was embarrassed as hell.
I used to smoke, drink, eat junk food, masturbate frequently and rarely exercised. I was running down my body and my member at a rapid rate.
After the second time this occurred, I didn't masturbate for at least 3 months, stopped smoking drank a lot less beer. I began eating less junk food and started back playing basketball a bit more. At around the 3 month mark I got an opportunity to have sex and was able to perform at a near optimum level. I got up and stayed up but this was at the beach in the night so I wasn't too happy yet. I kept up the same lifestyle with no masturbation and about 1 month later was able to perform the same way in the beach at home.
From then, I haven't had the problem as yet. One thing I would say is to discover what gets you off. If my girl (well ex now, not due to sex issues mind you) wanted sex and I wasn't really in the mood, I would give her head slowly until she came powerfully. In my case, hearing her cum gets me instantly erect.
I cannot give any insight on equipment or stuff like that but can talk from personal experience. I say to check your lifestyle, adjust accordingly and find out what arouses you to the max.
Hopefully it can help if even a little...blessings flow.
