Just Talking

[islander]

Hey skeptic! Yea I do need that. But right now I actually may have found a keeper. I know. Unbelievable!

Self control is what I seek! I will wait and do this right and get to know him etc without sex blinding me.

Ill just man ip ulate myself daily lol

What did you get your GF for V day?

 

[Going411x7]

I read an article by a woman to women and she said three things never to do with a new relationship. Don't mother him ( be his shoulder) , don't try to fix him (offer advice you may specialize in) and don't nag him (suggest certain clothes grooming or haircuts).

So basically act like a guy? Lmao

Good advice, islander, especially the one about trying to fix him. Never worked; never WILL work.

The nagging bit is also quite true; he'll just turn her off if she starts nagging him.

 

[islander]

Hi g! How are you doing?
I'm glad you quoted that. I need reminding lol
But I'm happy to say I've met a man who gives off the confidence I seek. He doesn't need a manager! Yay!! I'm hopeful. He's a little bit expressive and I spoke to him about being patient with me. I don't want to get spooked. He was very understanding.

Fingers crossed because after over two years I've met a man that I can see myself in a real relationship with. Fascinating lol

Xo

 

[BigO]

Good for you Islander. Sounds like a good guy.

 

[CUSP82]

Hi g! How are you doing?
I'm glad you quoted that. I need reminding lol
But I'm happy to say I've met a man who gives off the confidence I seek. He doesn't need a manager! Yay!! I'm hopeful. He's a little bit expressive and I spoke to him about being patient with me. I don't want to get spooked. He was very understanding.



Fingers crossed because after over two years I've met a man that I can see myself in a real relationship with. Fascinating lol

Xo

So you finally found a guy just like me! Good guys like me are hard to find ain't they! ( just love that englsh)

 

[camaro]

Wait....i thought you were married?

 

[camaro]

I need a pill to reduce my sexual arousal. I can't think clearly when I'm activated. Ugh. Damn had a great second date.

mama need some sugar...

 

[LilNudeDude]

Congrats Islander. Hope he is everything you deserve!

 

[Jay1983]

I sure wish I had a girlfriend to talk to about sex, maybe even to have sex with! FML.

Changes are soon to come!

 

[islander]

Hey thanks y'all. Camaro no I'm not married.
Jay takes time. I've only met guys that I don't like. Guys I only want to have a fwb with. And one that just couldn't be ( we had the wrong place wrong birth dates)

But I'm very difficult so it's harder for me. Anyway just the fact I like him is exciting lol

Xo

 

[Jay1983]

Hey thanks y'all. Camaro no I'm not married.
Jay takes time. I've only met guys that I don't like. Guys I only want to have a fwb with. And one that just couldn't be ( we had the wrong place wrong birth dates)

But I'm very difficult so it's harder for me. Anyway just the fact I like him is exciting lol

Xo

Taking time is right. I've been alone for too long(years, damn near a decade). I guess I'm just picky because of my past relationships, plus well, I'm just picky! lol

I'm happy for you though! Oh eff, I'm jealous lol

 

[islander]

WOW Jay thats a long time. You are a very self controlled man! Nice! I am picky when it comes to people that will be allowed to stay in my life. I am picky on sex partners too but they know from the beginning its just that and I will never love them. Harsh but so far they have been with men I knew, cared about, were decent men etc... but I was not emotionally ready for a real relationship. Just recently I released my guilt from my divorce and after meeting two guys I meet this one and wow how lucky. The funny thing is we had the chance last year but didn't. Had I met him last year there is no doubt I would have turned him into a FWB and that would be all. Because I was not ready. So the fact we met now the timing is just great. YAY!

 

[Going411x7]

Glad to see your love life is picking up, islander. Best of luck in this new relationship. Me??
Had a great Saint Valentine's day with the Mrs.

 

[Mark 1]

Hey guys. First post on this thread. Never knew it existed!

 

[camaro]

I like your spirit G4.

 

[islander]

Hey Mark. It's like a journal with no fighting and no expected replies. The admins and staff are not supposed to come in but they do sometimes. Of late I guess to reply to me. But basically just talk away

 

[faithandhope]

I'm 20 years old. I always had a weird relationship with my step mother, who raised me. It was all good, then at a point when maybe I was 13, things just got fucked up at home. Wasn't the same, I was used a weapon between my parents and just 5 years of chaos. I moved out when I was 18. I've had no desire to seek out a relationship with my mother anymore, she just damaged me at a young age and I feel that she fucked my head up. Well, I just found out today that she has lung cancer and is going to die. I haven't spoken a word to her in 2 years. This is the woman who raised me, no matter how fucked up. Now I'm just in such a bad situation. Like, What the fuck do I do? I haven't even talked to her.. Do I just let her die, and live my entire life regretting it? Do I rekindle our "relationship", until she dies? I don't know!

If anyone has anything to really say about this, feel free. How many people here stopped talking to their parents at a young age?

Also. I don't really hold any of it against her. I've just moved on. I'm at the point in my life where I'm trying to figure out what I am going to do for the rest of it. I don't have the time or emotional brain capacity to think about it. But now this! It also doesn't help that I feel like a cunt for even considering my own feelings, when she is the one dying. Fuck man

 

[CLOSEDDennyA]

Talk to her...you will regret it if you don't. Forgiveness is freeing for you and her.

 

[ino]

It will not be a pleasant feeling seeing the severely ill woman, and you may feel awful about visiting her. faithandhope, if you do take contact with her it may not at all feel good for either of you and no real healing and closure may be experienced, and it is possible that you will regret the whole conversation or visit. But you don't know if it's going to turn to such disaster (a worst case scenario). But like DennyA said I believe that you will regret at least as much if you don't take contact with her and have a talk.

 

[faithandhope]

:\ I just fucking hate my family situation. Everyone is such a fucking bitch and won't just handle their immature fights like adults, realize we are all family, and get the fuck over it. I'm the youngest but only one who realizes this. And now its too late, the wounds run too deep between all 5 of us for any sort of fixing. Its shitty that at 20 years old I'll never even sit down with my family and eat dinner again. And now this, with no sense of unity..

What the fuck is my dad going to do? He lives with his mother since foreclosing on the house a few years ago/breaking up with my step mom who he was with for 15 years. Both his mother (My grandmother) and his fiance of 15 years have lung cancer and are realistically going to die within the next few years. Like, it just never ends. Now I'm going to worry about my dad killing himself, as thats already been a hot topic in the past. I can handle my own pain. Fine, I can put on a fake smile and get through any day of the week. But I don't want to watch everyone else just fucking die around me, physically or mentally.

And my sister!!! The one I grew up with and lived with until I was 18.. Shes has MULTIPLE incidents of almost killing herself. 5 years ago, she was in a mental hospital after eating a bottle of pills, a few months ago her friend found her OD'ed, and DEAD in her bed. They resuscitated her. She can't do it. Shes living with my mom now, I don't know how she is going to get through this. What the fuck man. What am I going to be 25 years old and have my entire immediate family be dead?