Just Talking

[JonPop]

$900.00 for gas and food? I'll bet there are other things charged, look at the statement.
Nice you provide him with a crutch Mom.
What year is he in? Did you also pay his tuition?

 

[islander]

Oh I looked at it. Gas and food. He has a large gas guzzler but still too much running around. The food. Yea every day twice a day. No his tuition was covered but I pay everything else like housing utilities cell car ins etc. one needs a full time job just to cover his expenses!

I told him this morning that if his dad or other relative doesn't agree to take over the management of him then he will have to. I have the important stuff on auto pay. The rest he has to budget himself or call someone else for the money. I'm out!!
I hope I can stay out haha

 

[islander]

You guys have maintained more so than not that men and women can't be friends. I am ready to believe you. When the two are single. I never had this problem when I was married. But since being single I have lost almost all of my male friends. The two or three I have left asked if I found them attractive or would date them. I said no not in that way. So far they are hanging in/on.

Any new male friends cant make it past six months. Recently lost another one because "I have become too attached to you, the longer this goes the worse it will be for me when you finally accept a man in your life and you have said that man will not be me" I swear I felt like I was reading a Dr Seuss book

 

[AGaySeaOtter]

Men and women are too different to be friends (well real life friends) it just doesn't last for significant amounts of time because one person, often the man but not always, gets bored so reverts to the I'm bored let's have sex mind frame that makes things awkward or it turns into a relationship. Back to the real life friends point, since Internet friends don't see each other generally it's much easier to remove gender from that person. Internet friends usually also met from a website which is a common interest that takes a significant proportion of that persons life so that becomes a fallback topic easily.

 

[islander]

Hi! Yes I can see how a male/female internet friendship could last. Oh well, I need to find more female real life friends lol I have them but they are all married with children (younger than mine still require full attention) Work in progress

 

[CompensatingForMuscleMass]

Men and women can be friends just fine. They both need to be taken, though.

I don't get it anyway. This must be a typical woman thing, but how is it that some girl can start groping me the first day I met her at a new job, but you can be friends with a girl for years and agree on everything and have a perfect connection and when she FINALLY breaks up with whatever retard she was fucking it's "Oh I like you, but not in THAT way". It makes no sense. The last thing I would want to do is fuck a stranger. This is the only reason I can't have any female friends. Their messed up brains put me under "Never fuck" when archiving and it only ends in heartache should I change my mind about them later.

By the way, I thought you were a guy. Or does your BF also use this account? Or are you a gay male? I usually have a perfect internet chick radar.

 

[islander]

All woman here muscleman

Nobody takes a hold of my account! lol

The archiving (fantastic word for this) is done immediately. It can rarely be changed. I have had guy friends that I have turned into FWB with their full knowledge and agreement for that exact purpose. If you are only available for physical why not be physical with a friend rather than a one time stand. I was not available emotionally and they knew it.

 

[CompensatingForMuscleMass]

Well I have found that it actually doesn't happen immediately. Or seem to anyway. They start off interested in sex, then after postphoning for a few months I'm suddenly a friend.

I consider friends with benefits friends that I can call to give me a ride when I end up stranded after a three night bender at the casino. The ones with a job are least likely to, they always get mad screaming about how they actually have a real job to go to on monday unlike me.

 

[islander]

If they dont have sex with you after seeing you in person many times you are friend zoned. Dont worry about it. Its all hormonal and chemistry. Plus woman tend to put up blocks/walls when there is a sense that something is not right to them. Doesn't mean you are not right. You may just scare them, be someone they could fall for, the friend connection is so easy and good they friend zone just to avoid losing you. I know I know not fair but nothing is fair. Nite

 

[CompensatingForMuscleMass]

I mean they want to have sex after meeting me, but I usually want to wait for a few months to see if I'm sure it's worth it. By that time they're no longer interested in anything but friendship. It's only 3 women so far, but it's already pretty fucking painful to lose marriage material once, let alone 3 times.

 

[islander]

I read an article by a woman to women and she said three things never to do with a new relationship. Don't mother him ( be his shoulder) , don't try to fix him (offer advice you may specialize in) and don't nag him (suggest certain clothes grooming or haircuts).

So basically act like a guy? Lmao

 

[Two]

Men and women can be friends over the internet, sure. But like some said, I also don't believe men and women can have a true friendship irl. The girl thinks it's real and the guy likes her for who she is, but in reality all guys are looking for girls to be in a relationship with. Or have sex with. It eventually gets boring and he reverts to the sex frame. That's how I see it at least. When I broke up with my ex, a ton of her "guy friends" tried getting with her, which didn't work out in their favor. I've also lost my friends because of them trying to get with my ex... Backstabbers lol

 

[islander]

Yea I've decided if I meet a guy and for whatever reason I like him as a friend but nothing else ill just say no. I don't need anymore friends my plate is full. The truth is when two are single and become BFF once they find a partner that partner will be their new BFF and lover. Leaving the BFF anyway. So I'm not going to befriend males anymore. Or at least not until I'm in my 60's lol

 

[9TeXaS0BaD3BoY]

ummm, just bored... Yea.

 

[CUSP82]

Men and women can be friends over the internet, sure. But like some said, I also don't believe men and women can have a true friendship irl. The girl thinks it's real and the guy likes her for who she is, but in reality all guys are looking for girls to be in a relationship with. Or have sex with. It eventually gets boring and he reverts to the sex frame. That's how I see it at least. When I broke up with my ex, a ton of her "guy friends" tried getting with her, which didn't work out in their favor. I've also lost my friends because of them trying to get with my ex... Backstabbers lol

Nope; friends can be made with no strings attached! ( unless of course they don't pay for lunch or the hotel bill- that's where I draw the line). No seriously not everything has to wind up in bed.

 

[islander]

I wish I could click a button and listen to the thoughts of someone I'm with. What they think compared to what they say. Probably not a good thing lol but I'm sure it would be funny to me. On a date and the man was saying some nice things about me but his body language said so much more. You know that whoosh noise you make like "damnnnn" and turn your head to the side haha. It's flattering. He has no idea how hot I really am haha. I'm doing my best to keep it on the down low. I wonder if he can read me O_O! Lol

 

[Jay1983]

It sucks being able to read minds and people. Some times I wish I couldn't. Ugh lol

 

[islander]

I need a pill to reduce my sexual arousal. I can't think clearly when I'm activated. Ugh. Damn had a great second date.

 

[LilNudeDude]

Nope; friends can be made with no strings attached! ( unless of course they don't pay for lunch or the hotel bill- that's where I draw the line). No seriously not everything has to wind up in bed.

What cusp said. Friends are friends, lovers are lovers. I am not saying, because I am a guy, that I haven't wondered what the other person looks like naked. Some people were meant to be friends and I would never due anything to risk that friendship.

Along similar lines, I have never understand why some people have a hard time separating the workplace from personal space. I have no problem with getting my butt chewed by the boss at work and then having a beer, as my friend, after. Separating personal and professional has never been an issue for me.

 

[Closed039]

I need a pill to reduce my sexual arousal. I can't think clearly when I'm activated. Ugh. Damn had a great second date.

Ohhhh boy maybe you need something besides a pill!