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[Total_Honesty]

People love making guys feel bad.

Do You Have The Six Sixes? - AskMen

That Rachel Khona chick looks like a whore. I wouldn't worry much about her opinion.

 

[amiok]

That Rachel Khona chick looks like a whore. I wouldn't worry much about her opinion.

It's just messed up. You better be smoking hot with a lot of money and a big dick.

 

[ryansambas]

but theres only four points I see? :S

anyway I reckon not even 1% of men in the world have all four of these qualities.

 

[Pegasus]

I used to get really bothered by it, like cranky and sh*t but now I just don't give a fuck anymore.

Used to be that what would happen is we'd plan a date night. It would be Tuesday and her and I would make plans for the weekend, dinner; a movie and then back to the bedroom for a little fun or some stuff like that. Then the weekend would come and the whole thing would go to sh*t, we'd go out for dinner and then she didn't feel like going to a movie and then she wouldn't feel like messing around later either.

I used to get so frustrated and admittedly a little pouty about it too. I mean it wasn't like we were constantly boning; this would be the first act of sex in like a month or some sh*t that this would happen. Yet, after plenty of arguments about my "attitude" about things not going as planned (arriving at a certain time, seeing the movie we agreed on seeing, doing things together..etc etc) I made the subconscious choice to not get my hopes up.

For instance about 4 weeks ago she said she was going to give me some head that weekend because it's been a while, normally I would have been anticipating it. But I didn't because I am so used to being let down that I just take her promises about sex with a grain of salt, because if I don't I'll just get upset again.

our arguments or discussions about sex used to be about the things I was doing wrong (her words); things that would make her feel more in the mood for sex. So I would take that advice, do the things she mentioned and more on a continuous basis in hopes that it would help solve our problems. (Brush my teeth after everything single thing I eat, not just twice a day, must take 2 showers a day, do the laundry, do the dishes, clean the house, etc etc) Then after another dry spell we'd argue again and this time it would be an entirely new list of things and once again I would "fix" the things she suggested. The worst part is none of these things were a problem before when we did have sex (albeit not excessively, but now they were a problem)

After about 3 or 4 of these arguments and me constantly trying to change myself I came to the conclusion that it just isn't me who has the problem. Since then our last argument about it I basically told her flat out I was tired of her excuses, each time it was something new that wasn't a problem before that all of a sudden is a problem now. That she can't tell me she's bothered by our sex life when I'm the only one putting effort into it and that I cant fix her self image issues or other issues she has.

The only reason I'm still in this relationship is I really love my wife, our real only problem is in the bedroom but that has now started to spill over into other aspects of our relationship as well. Now anytime I'm in a bad mood she equates it to me being upset about sex even if I just had a bad day. It's hard to say I don't have any resentment towards her about it because I do but I always try to have a good outlook on things. I'm constantly doing things to make her happy and relieve stress in her life and not just in the hopes that it will lead to sex.

The worst part is she found porn on my phone and threw a fit, I basically told her I feel like I'm single again when it comes to my sex life. I had to let her know it wasn't fair for me to be told I can't have sex with my wife and I can't jerk off to porn either. She knew from the get-go that I had a high sex drive and often makes jokes about it so it's not like my perspective on sex is anything new to her.

Have you read the sex research published by Bettina Arndt in her book the sex diaries? Your experience is actually quite common.

 

[mvergasioin]

Have you read the sex research published by Bettina Arndt in her book the sex diaries? Your experience is actually quite common.

I think many of us have experiences along the same themes, some better, some worse. I've concluded its necessary to just push on and keep up the dialogue and the hope if you love each other.

 

[Hanma]

I am begining to think that most girls actually do like games or manipulation.

So, you know what, we should be like them (no games) and reject the ones who come to us. Let's show them how it feels.

 

[Steve23]

I am begining to think that most girls actually do like games or manipulation.

So, you know what, we should be like them (no games) and reject the ones who come to us. Let's show them how it feels.

After a while, you know what ones are into mind games early on, they think they are sneaky but most are alike, and act suprised when rejected. I'm not into mind games, it's immature.

 

[Hanma]

I know, I can tell too. That's why I am not interested in a majority of the girls here. Side effect is lonely but I don't want a one nighter either.

 

[islander]

I've been sad lately. Then today my new neighbor is yelling at her 5 year old daughter. Yelling over and over SHUT UP over and over.

The little girl is a hand full but all she wants is to talk and some attention. I've known her since she was born. I lived near by now I'm next door.
I can see/feel I'll be the new baby sitter soon. Have her over to help me bake. Give her a human to talk to.

I had my days when my child was young but I never used those words. I still don't.

If I hear a hit I'm going to plow thru the fence.

She, the mom, knows me and I that I won't stand for that. Hopefully she walks away.
Always better to let the child cry for an hour than hit her.

 

[islander]

Another thing. Every night at sunset about a hundred bats come out and eat all the bugs.
They swoop around so fast. We all just sit straight. They never hit us. It lasts about 15 min.

They are not here. I miss the bats. I miss everything lol

 

[Hanma]

I get bats eating mulberries from my tree.

 

[Hanma]

Tsk tsk.

Why is this ad still on this site?

 

[amiok]

I am begining to think that most girls actually do like games or manipulation.

So, you know what, we should be like them (no games) and reject the ones who come to us. Let's show them how it feels.

yup

 

[Hanma]

Oh and if guys weren't so horny always (not our fault, it's nature dammit) we'd be rejecting girls, too.

And all those tarts who get offended when guys stare at them when they are wearing short clothes ... well, we can wear tight jeans and shove a rubber dildo in our pants. And then when you would obviously stare, we'll burn you for it.

But we won't, because, well, we're not whiny bitches.

/rant.

 

[islander]

Wow!

It pains me to hear about the women so many of you encounter.

There has to be a better place to encounter better people.
But to do that you need to be trying for women in your range. Not an upgrade or down grade.
An equal.

You will be disappointed otherwise.

If you go to church don't look in a bar for a girl.

Go to the places that show case your interests.

You like art go to an art show, class or museum. Stuff like that.

I hope I'm still on this site when you and iamok tell us about your girl friends.

 

[TTBB]

Why is this ad still on this site?

..
I know I am not meant to comment on this thread
but Hanma I have always always hated that particular ad...I hate the message it sends
and its false advertising..having a bigger dick does not make you a man or a good lover.

 

[Hanma]

@ Islander: It's not that I'm worrying about meeting women, it's the double standards that annoy me.

@Tinky: I am really worried about the new comers. It took me 3 months to get over my insecurities and it was tough. And when the new members see this ad on a website that destroys stereotypes and misinformation ... what are they supposed to think?

 

[amiok]

..
I know I am not meant to comment on this thread
but Hanma I have always always hated that particular ad...I hate the message it sends
and its false advertising..having a bigger dick does not make you a man or a good lover.

It is awful.

 

[TTBB]

Oh i understand.
and I agree..
All i can suggest is you bring up your concerns and your feelings about the advert with Remek and or the Admins.

I can say the ad does not make my job as a female any easier.

 

[Hanma]

Hang in there Tinky.