Just struck me

[heretohelp]

Porn, like anything else, needs to be used in moderation. If I've got what you're saying right then you're that used to seeing naked women when you turn on your monitor that you can't work for it in real life now, because real knickers are made of tougher stuff than pixel panties.

A 12 year old? Listen up, boy. Today I'm your mummy. Be afraid.

1. Boys and girls are different. This difference is more than just having inny or outy private parts. If you want a girl to like and respect you then you need to treat her like a human being. If you want the conversation to lead to more then you need to flirt. What does this mean?
2. This means you need to think sexy thoughts. Don't do it to the point that your Mr. Dickens pokes her in the leg. Just enough to feel that energy all throughout you. Think about the things that make you like her romantically or sexually. Give her compliments - not too many, just enough for her to know you're interested.
3. Flirt. Check out TPW's posts and blog, because the woman is an angel sent down to Earth to guide us unenlightened mortals. You won't regret it. Yes, it does have pictures. www.thepassionatewife.com (Ignore the sex stuff for now. That's advanced. You're a beginner).
4. Observe what other people do. Ignore the sh*t from romantic movies. Those things have more stereotypes than Disney.
5. Just have fun, damn it. You're young! It WILL happen, grasshopper. Your time will come.

 

[milfdestroyer]

Yes, but the girls are not at a 12 y/o level they are at a 25 y/o level. So their reaction to me acting as a 12 y/o will most likely be bad I assume.

 

[MrB8]

Yes, porn does that, and worse, but you have to acknowledge that life is not like porn, also not much like TV.

As the wise members kindly noted above, its in your head, so ignore whatever is holding you back, and try to have a discussion with a lady that interests you, and see where will it take you, baby steps, we walk before run, and believe me when I say, there are ladies who feel like you do, and want to be in a relationship as well, you need to find one who is interested in you as much as you are interested in her.

Are you afraid of rejection, no one likes to be rejected, but you will never know if you will get rejected or not if you don't try, everyone is different, and will find your match eventually, sooner or later, all you have to do is try, reach out for someone and you will get there.

Its more like learning to swim, you have to get yourself wet, you cant learn it while you are on the shore.

And stop thinking you're 12.

 

[arkham]

Yes, but the girls are not at a 12 y/o level they are at a 25 y/o level. So their reaction to me acting as a 12 y/o will most likely be bad I assume.

Guess what. Im exactly like you. Same age, same problem. But Im at least doing something with myself.

You have to resume your growth. You cant leap it. Catching up those lost years is not a long proces. It goes quite fast.

 

[Thick_Unit]

And this guy right here ^^^^^^ is a model with a big dick and he didn't have sex until he was 20!!!!!!!!! :becky::becky:

25 with a big dick and still have not gotten any... I all ready gave up though...

 

[arkham]

1. Boys and girls are different. This difference is more than just having inny or outy private parts. If you want a girl to like and respect you then you need to treat her like a human being. If you want the conversation to lead to more then you need to flirt. What does this mean?

Worst advice for 12yo. Its because at this age I threathed women as human made me lag behind. Other guys were in a way awful to the girls. For me it was animal, derogatory behavior. Showing no respect towards girls. Ohhh how wrong was I....


Heretohelp. This advice is good for 15-16yo.

 

[heretohelp]

Worst advice for 12yo. Its because at this age I threathed women as human made me lag behind. Other guys were in a way awful to the girls. For me it was animal, derogatory behavior. Showing no respect towards girls. Ohhh how wrong was I....


Heretohelp. This advice is good for 15-16yo.

Don't question mummy. Go to my room!

 

[arkham]

Don't question mummy. Go to my room!

Mom! You are over protective. Im not a child anymore you know?

 

[heretohelp]

Shut up and take your packed lunch. I cut the sandwiches into triangles like you like them and left your mittens by the door. Are you sure I can't drive you to school today?

 

[mcpecker]

 

[milfdestroyer]

Yes, porn does that, and worse, but you have to acknowledge that life is not like porn, also not much like TV.

As the wise members kindly noted above, its in your head, so ignore whatever is holding you back, and try to have a discussion with a lady that interests you, and see where will it take you, baby steps, we walk before run, and believe me when I say, there are ladies who feel like you do, and want to be in a relationship as well, you need to find one who is interested in you as much as you are interested in her.

Are you afraid of rejection, no one likes to be rejected, but you will never know if you will get rejected or not if you don't try, everyone is different, and will find your match eventually, sooner or later, all you have to do is try, reach out for someone and you will get there.

Its more like learning to swim, you have to get yourself wet, you cant learn it while you are on the shore.

And stop thinking you're 12.

That's kinda right. It's in my head, but it's real, physical damage to the brain. I myself thought it was bullshit at first, but it's true.

 

[MrB8]

That's kinda right. It's in my head, but it's real, physical damage to the brain. I myself thought it was bullshit at first, but it's true.

Not true, you have to stop thinking like that.

I won't/can't rephrase the wonderful advise above, but I ask you to listen and at least try to apply them.

 

[milfdestroyer]

No, it's actually true. Porn does change brain, especially if viewed excessively as an adolescent.

 

[kirkoloft]

milf destroyer, hah? How about 24 yo virgin retard. Do you really wanna have sex, I mean do you feel the urge or are you just trying to be like everybody else? I feel like you lack motivation and that's why you keep coming up with excuses. I'm saying this because I have a 30 yo virgin friend and I've done anything in my power to help him get laid but he always comes up with excuses and fucks up every opportunity even with hookers. All the people who tried to help you here are EXPERTS. You asked for their advice and they honestly gave it to you. Did you accept it and say thanks? No, you think you're such a big shot who knows better. Do as they say and stop splitting hairs. You wanna be an expert on this before you even try anything? Not gonna happen! You don't need any advice, go do what you feel or think is right and you'll get better at it, there is no method, no big secrets either, that whole PUA sh*t is designed to take your money and give you jack. Everyone will try to help you based on what they have experienced. Your experience will be different, so go experience it.

 

[heretohelp]

If you had a virus would you sit there telling people you had a virus or take the medicine and try to get better?

 

[MrB8]

No, it's actually true. Porn does change brain, especially if viewed excessively as an adolescent.

https://www.pegym.com/forums/gym/69537-adolescent-brain-meets-highspeed-internet-porn.html

Yes, but I wasn't referring to that, and while porn does make changes they are reversable, and not directly related to what you are experiencing.

Quit porn.
Get out of porn. Kick it out of your brain, and do NOT let it control you, you control yourself.
Porn is NOT real.
Porn is NOT life.
Real ladies are out there, and they are not PORN.
Go out.
Talk to everyone.
Talk to ladies.
Don't focus on sex, let it to when the chemistry makes it happen.
Be open to possibilities, you never know when or how its gonna happen but it will, eventually.

 

[trepan]

Do you have an accessible adult male role model? Seems like all these young pups are not learning the skills to run with the big dogs. Shame....

 

[milfdestroyer]

milf destroyer, hah? How about 24 yo virgin retard. Do you really wanna have sex, I mean do you feel the urge or are you just trying to be like everybody else? I feel like you lack motivation and that's why you keep coming up with excuses. I'm saying this because I have a 30 yo virgin friend and I've done anything in my power to help him get laid but he always comes up with excuses and fucks up every opportunity even with hookers. All the people who tried to help you here are EXPERTS. You asked for their advice and they honestly gave it to you. Did you accept it and say thanks? No, you think you're such a big shot who knows better. Do as they say and stop splitting hairs. You wanna be an expert on this before you even try anything? Not gonna happen! You don't need any advice, go do what you feel or think is right and you'll get better at it, there is no method, no big secrets either, that whole PUA sh*t is designed to take your money and give you jack. Everyone will try to help you based on what they have experienced. Your experience will be different, so go experience it.

I already mentioned I have no libido. I'm just asking for the future, if it ever happens.

 

[milfdestroyer]

https://www.pegym.com/forums/gym/69537-adolescent-brain-meets-highspeed-internet-porn.html

Yes, but I wasn't referring to that, and while porn does make changes they are reversable, and not directly related to what you are experiencing.

Quit porn.
Get out of porn. Kick it out of your brain, and do NOT let it control you, you control yourself.
Porn is NOT real.
Porn is NOT life.
Real ladies are out there, and they are not PORN.
Go out.
Talk to everyone.
Talk to ladies.
Don't focus on sex, let it to when the chemistry makes it happen.
Be open to possibilities, you never know when or how its gonna happen but it will, eventually.

It is directly related. It causes depression, anxiety etc. It is reversable and it will probably take a year or so for me, maybe more, maybe less, who knows. I'm not interested in anyone at the moment, some days ago I still noticed older women, now I don't notice even those. I wonder how long will this flatline last, from what I've read it will most likely be at least a couple of months.

 

[draggin]

No-fap and no-porn is good and all, have more free time etc. But it just struck me, that I'm a 24 y/o virgin and I have no clue how to approach a woman, flirt, ask her on a date and so on. That is mind-blowing, didn't really think about it before. I don't know anyone like that, so there is no one I could ask for help, go out together etc. This even tempts me to get back to porn and fapping.

Wait a second. Ever since puberty you have been getting your sexual satisfaction from porn, and because of porn you now have no skills to meeting and dating woman. And if you realize that, which you do, than being tempted to go back to porn means you are consciously and purposely sabotaging your life and future relationships with women. No way. That would be a terrible idea. You don't really want that.

I think your temptations for porn are simply because you haven't broken the habit yet, is all. Because if you look at thinks logically, you have far more reason to NOT be tempted to look at porn ever again.

Use your new "free time" to meet woman, or join clubs, or make friends, or flirt. I don't care how you do it, but you better get started cause porn has left at a huge disadvantage and you have some serious lost ground to make up for. Besides, being strong enough to better your life is very attractive to the opposite sex. So be strong.