Internet Dating and Polyamorous Relationships
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@Frog not that I'm trying to lead you off the beaten track or anything, but what better time to explore and challenge all the expectations you had, and all the judgement calls from others 
... Not that I suspect you really need to anyway, you seem pretty switched on.
It's funny, the last traditional relationship I had, five years ago I guess, just faded until there was nothing left and I finally found the guts to end it. I don't know exactly what her feelings were (yeah, not talking kills a relationship huh) but for me, looking back, I saw it as the traditional...
So ending that, though it's a much longer story, I went looking to find out what I actually did want, which had to be anything but that, which has taken me to some "interesting" places. At the end of it, I'm still not entirely sure what I do want, but having tried a whole load more things than the norm will ever offer, I'm a damn sight better armed to choose.
... Not that I suspect you really need to anyway, you seem pretty switched on. It's funny, the last traditional relationship I had, five years ago I guess, just faded until there was nothing left and I finally found the guts to end it. I don't know exactly what her feelings were (yeah, not talking kills a relationship huh) but for me, looking back, I saw it as the traditional...
and I didn't want that. I never wanted that, but it felt like it was supposed to be like this. Kinda like getting a desk job just to pay the bills.
So ending that, though it's a much longer story, I went looking to find out what I actually did want, which had to be anything but that, which has taken me to some "interesting" places. At the end of it, I'm still not entirely sure what I do want, but having tried a whole load more things than the norm will ever offer, I'm a damn sight better armed to choose.
Life is an adventure...that's what makes it worth living...the good and the bad.
EDIT: Looks like you're on that path.
@Frog not that I'm trying to lead you off the beaten track or anything, but what better time to explore and challenge all the expectations you had, and all the judgement calls from others
It's funny, the last traditional relationship I had, five years ago I guess, just faded until there was nothing left and I finally found the guts to end it. I don't know exactly what her feelings were (yeah, not talking kills a relationship huh) but for me, looking back, I saw it as the traditional...
and I didn't want that. I never wanted that, but it felt like it was supposed to be like this. Kinda like getting a desk job just to pay the bills.
So ending that, though it's a much longer story, I went looking to find out what I actually did want, which had to be anything but that, which has taken me to some "interesting" places. At the end of it, I'm still not entirely sure what I do want, but having tried a whole load more things than the norm will ever offer, I'm a damn sight better armed to choose.
It took me a long time to find the guts to leave! But it was more like trying everything humanly possible to save it. The problem was, I was the only one working on it. He was happy the way things were. He had maid, cook, gardener, accountant, home repair and hot wife wanting sex all the time. Why would he change...lol
I'm keeping all of my options open.:angel: You don't know what you don't know! I'm not afraid to look outside of the box, only time will tell.
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